| How to make a girl feel special?
Posted: 11/7/2009 12:48:40 PM | I'm single and looking to find that one special woman. I don't know if online is the right place to be looking as a lot of people (guys and girls) are looking for quantity rather than quality on here.
So I am hoping that when I meet that special girl (here or otherwise) I can make her feel that what we have is good enough for her to cancel those online accounts and stop giving other guys "the eye".
(City girls seem to be a bit more into playing the field than I'm used to)
I've been reading a blog site I saw here on an earlier thread and it's pretty funny - but recently posted a "5 rules" for keeping a girl interested:
1. Date her
2. Listen to her
3. Talk to her
4. Be a man
5. Pamper her
Now I know this is simplifying a lot of things - but is this really all it takes? It's a different world dating in a big city to a country guy like me and I'd appreciated some feedback, since this is a funny article I am not sure to take it at all seriously!
Full post is here for the details: http://metanotherfrog.com/?p=882)
Ladies - please help a country bumpkin! | |
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| How to make a girl feel special?
Posted: 11/7/2009 1:00:58 PM | | Oh! I love those country boys! You shouldn't have any problems finding a nice girl to date. Make yourself known and they'll be flocking. You are adorable. | |
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| How to make a girl feel special?
Posted: 11/7/2009 1:27:16 PM | Delve into the finer details and you might get 50 different answers from 50 different women but generally speaking, I'd say 1 -5 sounds like you got the basics covered.
One last word of advice for online dating: Keep your expectations low and you might find that you'll have less to be disappointed about. 
Happy fishing!  | |
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| How to make a girl feel special?
Posted: 11/7/2009 1:28:16 PM | It's really not hard. Treat her the same way you would like to be treated.
1. Call the day after a date and when you said you would call.
2. Open the door, pull out her chair, etc.
3. Compliment her appearance.
4. Don't take phone calls when you are with her unless it's an emergency. She deserves your full attention.
5. If you care for her, send her flowers now and then. Yes, we know they are eventually going to die anyway. IT'S THE MEANING BEHIND IT THAT IS IMPORTANT. Especially at work. All her girlfriends will be jealous and will think, "Wow, she's lucky. What a great guy she has." Guys really underestimate the number of brownie points you earn for this.
6. Get rid of all your old girlfriends picures and be DAMN careful about what you have on your computer. (I personally have never snooped on a guy's computer, but I've seen stuff "accidentally" while he was doing something on it.) If you EVER take a phone call from an old girlfriend while you are with her you are dead, and deserve it.
7. I will emphasize this again: Call when you say you are going to call, and don't wait until the last minute to ask her out. That is, don't wait until Wednesday or Thursday to aske her out for Friday or Saturday.
8. Hold her hand when you are walking or driving.
I'm sure I will think of more after I click "Post". | |
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| How to make a girl feel special?
Posted: 11/7/2009 1:31:20 PM | Open Doors
Don't keep her guessing [be upfront]
Don't be too aggressive either [be a gentleman]
Invite her to dinners
Basically have a good personality, and everything u have on your list is good | |
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| How to make a girl feel special?
Posted: 11/7/2009 1:32:57 PM | be carefull, be VERY carefull, ive done 1 to 5 EVERYTIME and its still never enough.
ive usually found that no matter how many good points there are there will allways be one little thing she wont like--i can guarantee that.
for example; she says " you are kind , caring, passionate, friendly, funny and so loving but......you aren`t tall enough so i cant really be with you...sorry ".
no matter how some women get treated there will allways be ONE thing she will not like about you. JMHO.
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| How to make a girl feel special?
Posted: 11/7/2009 1:44:25 PM | | if she's a lesbian, being a man might not be good advice. id suggest tucking it between your legs in that case. | |
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| How to make a girl feel special?
Posted: 11/7/2009 2:56:44 PM | OP - you pretty much covered it. Another poster added to call when you say you're going to call or don't say it at all - integrity.
To thebushcutter -
be carefull, be VERY carefull, ive done 1 to 5 EVERYTIME and its still never enough. What the OP listed only works if interest is both ways. If she is not interested you can do all that and more, it wouldn't make a difference, so save for someone who is interested. | |
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| How to make a girl feel special?
Posted: 11/7/2009 3:08:37 PM | | You might've heard this before, but it's really all the little things. Little insignificant actions that you might not see as majorly important do eventually add up. If you can handle all those things, you should be fine. | |
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| How to make a girl feel special?
Posted: 11/7/2009 4:14:08 PM |
no matter how some women get treated there will allways be ONE thing she will not like about you. JMHO.
Well of course. I'm sure there is at least one little thing you don't like about her too. You have to be physically attractive to each other. If you really like someone you either decide to tolerate their little quirks or you continue searching. | |
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| How to make a girl feel special?
Posted: 11/7/2009 5:14:16 PM | Just beware of the wicked city women and don't step on the cracks in the sidewalk.
Anyhoo, you pretty much have what it takes to put yourself out there as a stand-up kind of guy. You, however, will not have a special remedy over the guys in the city who have as much luck as you. It pretty much depends on the woman who responds to the great things you have to offer. No biggie. | |
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| How to make a girl feel special?
Posted: 11/7/2009 5:27:58 PM | As a country girl, I'd like to offer that you hit
the nail on the head when you suggested that
country folks have an ingrained loyalty etc when
it comes to relationships, but, first things first.
Look for someone like-minded (code for raised
with the same country values), and, more importantly ,
someone like-hearted. The rest will often work itself out if
you are both authentic and communicate openly
and well.
There is no secret as far as making someone
feel special other than just doing it thru truly knowing
them, truly hearingthem, and truly honoring
all about them- and vice versa.
I suggest being open about all that you conveyed
in your post by placing it in your profile and
in your emails to those you communicate with
in regard to dating. All the best. | |
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| How to make a girl feel special?
Posted: 11/7/2009 5:51:13 PM | | i whouldnt hold someones hand much when driving. yes it seems below people to think back to drivers training that 2 hands always on the wheel. but a split second is all it takes | |
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| How to make a girl feel special?
Posted: 11/7/2009 6:13:56 PM | What a cute country bumpkin! I've been living in the city too long. I think I'm headed to the farm.
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| How to make a girl feel special?
Posted: 11/7/2009 7:27:53 PM | I *believe* you are not really from Toronto (which is the Canadian Portland--same hair, only people from Portland are fatter)--you've got the hair but not the little glasses with the black frames.
I concur with most of the other women:
Treat a woman as if she is the only one in the world. Look into her eyes and actually listen to what she says. Treat her as your equal. Respect her opinion. If she yells, "STOP THE CAR!" stop the damn car and don't first ask why.
What little things do you like to have done for you?
Besides BJs. | |
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| How to make a girl feel special?
Posted: 11/7/2009 7:29:58 PM | If you are looking for that one special woman, I would say that 1-4 are important, but 5 depends on your interpretation of "pamper." Just my opinion here, but I think if by pamper you mean that you are at her beck and call and constantly waiting on her and doing things for her, but she is not doing the same for you, that's bad. If she pampers you, too, then that's good.
One really important thing I'd add to the list is honesty. Be honest with her and expect the same in return. Another thing is to be self-confident. Not arrogant, just confident. Be proud of being from the country and don't put yourself down or sell yourself short by calling yourself a country bumpkin (unless you're just kidding around - hard to tell in print). I think the honesty and confidence are part of #4.
You are very good looking and should have no trouble finding plenty of women to date. Good luck and happy fishing! | |
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| How to make a girl feel special?
Posted: 11/7/2009 7:36:30 PM | No, it's not all it takes. I think there are a few important things missing. How about being honest with her and not cheating? Integrity is probably the most important personal quality I'd look for - that and caring for me, of course. I'm not talking about the brutal honesty that some men on here seem to think is their most endearing quality. Whilst they might be proud to 'call a spade a spade', I don't want to meet an insensitive man.
Being interested in her as a person is also important. Men have said they are interested in me, but when we chat I realise they are not interested in anything I say or do, only in seeing pictures and meeting up (presumably so they can look some more and still not listen). Listening is important but understanding what she is saying and what is important to her matters too. Having said all that, you need to think about what matters to you too. What kind of qualities you would like in a woman. If you choose in line with what's important to you and not just based on their looks, then you've got a much better chance of finding a match. | |
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| How to make a girl feel special?
Posted: 11/7/2009 10:04:02 PM | Just beware of the wicked city women and don't step on the cracks in the sidewalk.
Another "I Love Lucy" fan? | |
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| How to make a girl feel special?
Posted: 11/7/2009 11:39:12 PM | beware of lady realtors, country boy. they see a fresh young thing like you coming, straw hat in hand and pig shit caked on your boots, and they'll be ripping out each others' highlights' and high-heel-kicking each others' solar plexi for first crack at you.
five necessities for dealing with a lady realtor:
1. wallet chain
2. antivenin
3. established escape route
4. witnesses
5. live ammo | |
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