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Posted: 11/7/2009 4:57:46 PM | | put this profile up emailed lots of people don t get responses i am separated and i know the devil him self would look better than puting that down so i removed it and put single which i am .I m level headed successful ,fit and not bad looking .My ex wife is a 9.5 and never had and trouble before with the ladies been out of this dating thing too long, is my height a major problem .It seems the girls now are looking for a gay guy thats over6 'tall with all the female emotional attributes and the rugged quailties of a rodeo cowboy .Any ideas to improve my profile | |
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Posted: 11/7/2009 5:17:12 PM | | Yeah, first take your head out of your ass and stop feeling sorry for yourself. Who cares what your ex looked like? Get over yourself and fix your grammar and spelling. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2009 5:18:51 PM | Hey
You are wrong in regards to the separated part. Yes, people generally do not look to date others who are separated. However writing "single" is working against you in two ways. First of all it is not the truth!!! Your second problem is that you are 43 years old. If you write "single" somebody might think you are the 43 year old virgin living in your mom's basement, and they won't continue reading. My advice is this: Write "divorced". If you have been separated for quite some time and have truly moved on, you are just missing the official papers but are mentally divorced. Of course you need to write exactly that in your profile, that it's not official yet, but that it's in the works.
Delete picture #3. It does nothing for you.
What do you mean "My ex wife is a 9.5"? Are we rating her? That is very subjective, but that's not even the point. Your height might or might not be a problem. According to wikipedia the average height among Canadian women is 5' 3.4", so you are still above that. Are you looking for taller women? That might be an issue as most females I know prefer a taller guy. Then again, if you have a rockin' profile maybe that's one of the things she can concede to.
Your text: I think it's a bit too short. Write a bit more about yourself, maybe about your job, maybe about what you do with your dog. You have children. It helps to know how many and what ages. It makes a big difference dating somebody who has a 15 year old teen versus three kids under the ages of five. You like to play sports. What kinds?
Lastly you need to run your text through a spell and grammar checker. I got a headache reading the forum posting, and while your profile is a touch better it still needs a lot of help. Remember this is a "first impression" you are making. Put your best foot forward!
Good luck to you and happy fishing! | |
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Posted: 11/7/2009 5:35:29 PM | Don't assume what all the girls are looking for here. You'll be wrong.
2 things you need to do.
Get a full body shot of you outdoors without any tall people around. Show off your physique.
Change the status back to Separated and add a line explaining it in the profile. My favourite was "Separated with no chance of reconciliation, just ask my soon-to-be-ex and her new girlfriend...." You can use whatever description you like, but I'd rather know up front if the guy I was looking at was Separated and ready to move on, or Single and lying. Easy choice on who gets the 2nd date.
By the way.. Emilio Estevez is 5'4", Dustin Hoffman 5'5", Jack Black 5'6", Michael J. Fox 5'5". It's all in the attitude. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2009 5:41:04 PM | | mmmhhhhhh.... Emilio..... somebody fetch the smelling salts, quick! | |
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Posted: 11/7/2009 5:50:32 PM | | Hey here's the good news, your profile doesn't have any negative emotional baggage. The bad: it's vague and unfocused, like the writer is lost and in need of some direction in his personal life. Listen to melangell above, the advice is spot on, choosing "single" and much of the vague text does infer the guy is a virgin living in his mom's basement. Here's my two cents on your forum posting, if you are so bothered by your ex or soon to be ex, do all of the women a favor and exorcise that demon and really heal yourself before you can move on to have another meaningful relationship. Nobody wants to be the rebound. Find and solve the "you" in the "us" equation before you can find Ms. Right. As for height, only you can make it into a problem as it's one of those superficial things that can't be changed. Good luck and good fishing! | |
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Posted: 11/7/2009 5:56:51 PM | Your profile is extremely hard to read. Words, sentences, phrases just run together.
Try to group similar information in short 2-4 sentence paragraphs and put a blank line in between each paragraph. For example, the first paragraph could focus on the type of person you are. The next paragraph could talk about what you like to do, hobbies, etc.
The next paragraph could describe what you are looking for in a woman.
Make it easy on the eyes and well presented and I think that will help getting you some responses.
Good luck | |
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