| Planning a date
Posted: 11/7/2009 5:55:28 PM | Guys I'm wondering what you all do to plan a date? Do you make all the arrangements, pick her up etc. or do you ask what she wants to do and let her help with the plans?
Girls feel free to put in your perspective as well regarding what you like....
I went on a date with a guy who had picked the restaurant (after having asked what I like to eat) he then picked me up and was a perfect gentleman. I have to say I really liked not having to do the back-n-forth thing; "I dunno what do YOU want to do. Do you wanna meet there, you wanna pick a place, you decide I'm fine with anything..."
I rather liked the man taking the lead with it. It made me feel like he was a confident, take charge, gentleman. Is that just old fashioned or do more ppl feel that way?
So, men how do you usually do it and ladies what do you prefer? | |
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| Planning a date
Posted: 11/7/2009 6:03:28 PM | dates or first meets? Thats two totaly different critters.
When we get past the meet and do the date I will know enough about her and what she likes to confidently suggest the activities and make the plans. Pick her up etc..
For a first meet. Thats not a date. You should not even let them know where you live or get in the car with them. You meet in a public place and you take your own vehicle ALWAYS.
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| Planning a date
Posted: 11/7/2009 6:31:31 PM | To plan a date, I like to choose a restaurant that she has most likely has never tried such as Haitian, Indian cuisine etc...
I would make all the arrangements amd let her know what they are and if she is okay with them. The only thing I would not 100% plan for is what we were to do afterward. Perhaps we would like to get desert someplace or maybe she would go home, we would just have to wait and see. | |
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| Planning a date
Posted: 11/7/2009 6:44:49 PM | I prefer it when they make the plans. I hate that wishy-washiness, like you sid, "I dunno what do you want to do? thing. I want to be with someone who has an imagination and shows that he is thoughtful. I want them to take the lead. | |
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| Planning a date
Posted: 11/7/2009 6:49:34 PM | A "first date" or a "first meet" are the same thing to me. Men seem really chicken about calling it a date. Maybe if they call it a "meet" they feel they don't have to buy the coffee.
I don't mind men making all the arrangements, as long as I know where we are going and what we are doing. Nothing worse than being taken out to a seafood place when you can't stand seafood. | |
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| Planning a date
Posted: 11/7/2009 7:05:42 PM |
Guys I'm wondering what you all do to plan a date? Do you make all the arrangements
If it's local, I will generally plan everything. If I am traveling for the date, she is going to have to help out a bit :)
I love to pick up my date but a lot of women aren't comfortable with that for the first date. | |
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| Planning a date
Posted: 11/7/2009 7:08:09 PM | | First date or meeting, same difference, I wing it, ask a few questions to get a feel and then ask if they’re interested in doing this or that, if I get the “I don’t care, what ever you want to do” answer, I know it’s probably not going to be a good date. I tend to be spontaneous and I won’t prance around like a pretty-boy looking for your approval. I have also had first dates where they suggest something and I have found that interesting too! I seek equal interest, after that, some times they are planned. | |
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| Planning a date
Posted: 11/7/2009 7:09:14 PM |
I want to be with someone who has an imagination and shows that he is thoughtful.
And what do you bring to the table? | |
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| Planning a date
Posted: 11/7/2009 7:38:16 PM |
So, men how do you usually do it
OP - I'll say this slowly so you're not in any doubt.
MEN. ARE. NOT. ALL. THE. SAME.
Get it? Personally I like a women who's not a lazy-ass and expects me to do all the work. It's got nothing to do with confidence - I've got plenty of cojones - it's to do with respect and acting like an adult. But hey, that's just me. | |
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| Planning a date
Posted: 11/7/2009 8:06:56 PM |
I want to be with someone who has an imagination and shows that he is thoughtful.
And what do you bring to the table?
Excuse me? I bring my company. And if you don't want it, that's certainly not a problem for me. If your not capable of thinking of something to do, why are you asking her out? | |
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| Planning a date
Posted: 11/7/2009 8:13:03 PM | I am one of the Guy's I guess since I do NOT look at a meet and greet as a 1st date. I look at the first date as something the guy and I plan together after the meet and greet.
I for one think it is tack y to expect the guy to plan the entire thing unless it is for a special occasion. The same I would do for him, other than that dating to me should be fun a mutual exchange of ideas of things to do.
I personally don't want to agonize of over any date. I have used dating ideas as far ranged as hiking the Pacific Crest trail, to going to the Opera. Just depends on the situation, guy, and out mutual interest.
OP so just have fun with it. | |
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| Planning a date
Posted: 11/7/2009 8:14:46 PM | | If a girl doesn't offer any suggestions and just want to sick back and be taken care of, I'd probably pull a "no call/no show on her." Shows a sense of entitlement, which is very unattractive. | |
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| Planning a date
Posted: 11/7/2009 8:24:25 PM | | depends on the girl, sometimes, i plan a date, or I semi plan it, meaning I have certain activities in my mind and kind of work my way towards it, sometimes it can be totally impromptu, like we kind of just went from one place to another, so it really depends on what kind of girl I'm dealing with. | |
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| Planning a date
Posted: 11/7/2009 9:01:48 PM |
OP - I'll say this slowly so you're not in any doubt.
MEN. ARE. NOT. ALL. THE. SAME.[
Geez, back off. The OP didn't ask, "how do MEN usually do it?"
The original sentence may, perhaps, be a bit ambiguous, but it definitely does not say, "What do all guys like?" It's more along the lines of looking for input from different men about what each of them, individually, prefers.
And, as is often the case, there is no consensus. Does that mean (gasp) that "men. are. not. all. the. same.?" | |
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| Planning a date
Posted: 11/7/2009 9:30:23 PM | | Well for me I try to find out a bit about her, not whats on her profile. call it a meet, date, rondevou and what not. I ask personaly first dont go by what they type in profiles. most women here who like to walk barefoot at the beach probably live closer to a desert. the ones who like horse back riding have probably only seen a horse on tv. not to mention the ones who like nature and hiking and the biggest hike they ever took was going from the couch to the fridge. so my guess is ask and find out what she likes. | |
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| Planning a date
Posted: 11/7/2009 9:37:20 PM | | On the first meet, and there is chemistry I find out about thier intrests and tastes in cuisine and share mine. This will help guide me when I choose the best place to eat and things to do when planing the date. I also like to do things that might be new to both of us after a few dates, to keep it alive and intresting. | |
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| Planning a date
Posted: 11/8/2009 3:03:10 AM | Depends.
Some women like to just be surprised and let their date make all the arrangements. Others are a little nervous about the meeting & want to retain that measure of control.
Most important to me: What makes the woman feel comfortable and secure? Usually that means meeting at the place of their choice and -- on first dates, at least -- arriving there independently. I mean, how soon do you want a guy knowing exactly where you live?
So, bottom line for me is: What makes you most comfortable? And then we move from there. | |
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| Planning a date
Posted: 11/8/2009 5:09:32 AM |
Get it? Personally I like a women who's not a lazy-ass and expects me to do all the work. It's got nothing to do with confidence - I've got plenty of cojones - it's to do with respect and acting like an adult. But hey, that's just me.
If a girl doesn't offer any suggestions and just want to sick back and be taken care of, I'd probably pull a "no call/no show on her." Shows a sense of entitlement, which is very unattractive.
BS on both of those. Sorry but you both need to take into account the woman you are taking out on a date before you think they are a lazy ass or entitled.
I am a senior manager with 30 employees. I make decisions all day long. Something breaks, I get to decide how to fix it. Something goes wrong, I decide how to fix it. Something needs to be implemented, I decide who is going to work on it. I decide, decide, decide all day long. Then when I get off work I come home to 3 kids. Then I decide on the aspects of their lives and as a bonus, get to decide what to make for dinner every night.
It has nothing to do with entitlement, it's the fact that I'm tired of making decisions all day long and here is a chance to open myself up to something new and unexpected.
Sorry but if a guy I want to date can't make a simple decision on where to have dinner then no, he doesn't have cajones big enough to date me. | |
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| Planning a date
Posted: 11/8/2009 6:55:48 AM | | On a first date I'd like the guy to pretty much make all the plans....with the idea that he's smart enough to plan something that's likely to please! Like don't suggest sushi unless she says she likes it! So he's showing his intelligence by picking a place with a good variety of food, drink choices or whatever...then being flexible enough with the rest of the plans to maybe say - would like you like to "go ____for dessert or would you rather take a walk through the park?" | |
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| Planning a date
Posted: 11/8/2009 7:31:47 AM | I have my people get in touch with her people, and they hammer something out which is mutually agreeable. 
I consider it a necessary exercise and good preparation for the eventual divorce. One can't start on doing these things right too many years in advance.  | |
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