What is everyone elses general view on this?

He may not want to be caught, taken, and settled down. He may enjoy being single. Then he looks because he would like to find someone, but until he finds her, a relationship would be all wrong. Looking back at 30, and currently speaking with young men and women about their relationship woe, it is obvious to me from my old and creaky vantage point that the chief culprit in the relationships of young people is their youth. The combination of sexual potency and boundless ignorance is worse than drinking and driving is. People crash in both cases but at least on the roadways physics plays a predictable role. In the bedroom and on the cell phone, the two main arenas of a young relationship, there is no basic underlying rational structure on which to depend. There is only what it called a mood, that changes rapidly and randomly in response to what he said and what she said, what he did that he should have known not to do, and especially from watching movies where things turned out in ways impossible in real life for their being no leading sound track. Without the musical score of a modern relationship movie emotions are wild and rebellious, cues are missed, and nobody quite knows when the magic is about to happen or when it does, or that it just did. By 30, actually it's 31, a prime number, people have internalized enough of Hollywood's dogma to be able to operate successfully on their own. The 31 year old man who has so far been wisely reluctant to pretend at a relationship just because sex is held hostage by women that way, is perfectly ready and unscathed, so he would make a great partner. The bad news is, by 33 if he has not found her, then the opportunity is lost. His brief state of readiness will thereafter degrade into a confirmed suspicion about women that despite the many kinds of noises they make espousing traditional relationships, when push comes to shove, and she is called upon to fulfill her womanly destiny as his helpmate and love slave, it turns out she would rather spend the evening talking to one of her girlfriends on the phone about him, than to be with him.