| Guys i need your help.... let us girls in on your huy stuff
Posted: 7/12/2005 12:56:29 PM | Ok, let me give ya a scinario
A girl goes to the club with her friends, she looks great, carries herself with class, in no way acts slutty. Sometime throughout the night she hooks up with a guy she would like to get to know, they chat dance, she in no way leads him to believe that she is going to sleep with him, but makes it obviouse she is interested. The end of the night comes and he asks her if she wants to come over for a bit to watch a movie, she accepts. They get to his place and the paws start goin...... she sais no, they just met, ( not because she doesnt want to , but because she likes him and wants to get to know him) After a while she feels guilty because the guy has worked himself into a horny frienzy........
What should she do?
Sex on the first night? Does this ruin a possible relationship?
If you were the guy in this situation, what should she do? What would turn u on the most?
And if she does give in ....... why does he not call??????
I have always wondered about these things, the F^%K N Chuck syndrome
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| Guys i need your help.... let us girls in on your huy stuff
Posted: 7/12/2005 1:07:12 PM | | Dump the fukers who always want, want, want immediate satisfaction. They don't give a damned about you. You don't mess with em, and dump em immediatly as soon as they show their hand. Why expect much of men? Most think with their peckers. Forget em for about the first 40-50 years. Forget em then at those ages cause they aint worth a shyt anyway. Men and women should go their own ways to their own calling. Sex is overrated, and always ends up secondary in interest in the long run. Stay single, and kick men out the 4th story window if you have one of the pawing creeps. If I were the guy, what would I do? Well if I'm a pawing **stard, I deserve to be told to get the hell out. Personally, I won't ever be in that situation, so it's a mute point. | |
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| Guys i need your help.... let us girls in on your huy stuff
Posted: 7/12/2005 1:22:50 PM | tough call.
the thing is that most guys see clubs as places to get laid-- not start relationships-- so if you meet one there and go home with him chances are he is going to take it as a given that the two of you are going to have sex.
personally i wouldn't go to a club if i was looking for someone to have a serious relationship with. the whole atmosphere of a club-- from the alcohol being served to the types of music that get played-- is geared towards sex; it's not the type of place one is easily able to show off, or notice, the characteristics that make a good long term (as in anything over a 1 nighter) partner. | |
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| Guys i need your help.... let us girls in on your huy stuff
Posted: 7/12/2005 1:24:08 PM | Going to someone's house right after the bar and not expecting to have sex is silly.
If she really didn't want to screw him then she should have asked for a rain check and maybe he would have asked her out on a proper date another day.
I don't think the guy was interested in anything more than sex...otherwise he would have asked for her number with plans to get to know her another day instead of inviting her back to his place.
I had a great relationship that started off with sex on the first date. Lasted 2.5 years. Mind you, we did talk a lot earlier on in the evening.
However, sex on the first date unfortunately does get you a lot of booty calls. | |
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| Guys i need your help.... let us girls in on your huy stuff
Posted: 7/12/2005 1:28:59 PM | | I honestly would not choose to progress in a relationship with someone who put out on the first date. I want a woman with more respect for herself then that. If she will put out on the first date with you, then that means she is probably putting out on her other first dates. Not someone I would want a long-term relationship with. | |
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| Guys i need your help.... let us girls in on your huy stuff
Posted: 7/12/2005 1:37:08 PM | ^^Yeah that would help your cause, lol.
It's a little dangerous to be meeting a guy from a bar for the first time and getting together privately that same night, no?
Personally I wouldn't put myself in that position, and yeah, it's nothing BUT sex. I wouldn't expect a return phonecall. | |
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| Guys i need your help.... let us girls in on your huy stuff
Posted: 7/12/2005 1:37:42 PM | First of all, you've been choosing the wrong venue to meet dudes. (yeah, I'm from california) Coffeehouses, street fairs, sports events, even department stores are good places. If the guy's buying something, he may just have a job. Unless he's buying condoms or a lot of beer. Guys you meet during the day are less likely to perform the ol' slam n jam. Plus, anticipate a little- get his phone number, and call him! Keep the ball in your court.
Recap: You in attractive attire + dark club + alcohol + guy who didn't come to club to find a steady girlfriend in the first place + more alcohol + you agreeing to go back to his place that night = a great story for him to tell his buddies the next day, and lonely you.
Look elsewhere for a good time! Good luck.
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| Guys i need your help.... let us girls in on your huy stuff
Posted: 7/12/2005 1:40:58 PM | if ya sleep with someone who thinks with their pecker darlin .........yer gonna wake up next to a d.ick head
sex should allus be a mutual thing...an if hes gotta pressure you into it.......then yer rapin yerself by givin in.............say no to tha ho and start fishin fer a real man! | |
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Posted: 7/12/2005 1:41:57 PM | Baby...
Just being honest here...
When I was younger, I was criticized for being a "slowpoke" and not putting moves on her the first date. Many assume the guy's not interested unless he does this.
I learned my lesson well.  | |
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| Guys i need your help.... let us girls in on your huy stuff
Posted: 7/12/2005 1:42:44 PM |
Dump the fukers who always want, want, want immediate satisfaction. They don't give a damned about you.
Dont listen to this toad headed fool. Senility seems to be setting in.
You don't mess with em, and dump em immediatly as soon as they show their hand. It does take two to tango.
I didnt see the words "forced" anywhere in her post.
Why expect much of men? Most think with their peckers.
SOME of us have hearts and brains as well.
Dont speak for us "hetrosexual" males OK ?
so it's a mute point.
Its spelled MOOT  rhymes with "boot" which you need upside *Insert Random Body Part*
I'm going to take the story as not being hypothetical.
Look, the guy probably feels the same as you,CONFUSED.
Hormones & alcohol can make for strange bedfellows (pun NOT intended)
Do yourself a favor,call him.
It shows that your NOT easy...
Guys are just the same as women in the whole "wondering" on the ifs and maybes.
He might be feeling hurt that you havent call him.
Its two street, ya know ? | |
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Posted: 7/12/2005 1:42:56 PM | i'm with Anamenotused2002 on this one.
I think it becomes a matter of perception. The girl that sleeps with you on the first night doesn't come across like a "keeper" if you will.
Yes, it's a double-standard. No, it's not fair. What can I say? Society sucks!
Maybe the better question here is- is a guy who would paw you on the first night you met him worth worrying about?
Great post by the way. | |
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| Guys i need your help.... let us girls in on your huy stuff
Posted: 7/12/2005 1:44:42 PM | ^^
JackJohnson
That is male peer pressure. Certainly some women do want that, and it's fine to make a move. However, it isn't appreciated by many - some yes, but not many. I've never appreciated the fast talkers, but I'd sort of expect that if I was going home with him after just exchanging names and a few drinks.
In my opinion, if you go home with someone you just met, it would be a safe bet to assume they're looking for a quick lay and not interested in making wedding plans. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2005 1:45:43 PM | Ok , all great advice...... but what i want to get to , is ..........................................
WHAT GOES ON IN THE MIND OF A MAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! lol
What in that given situation......
What could the girl do to make him want to spend time, besides sex that one night? | |
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| Guys i need your help.... let us girls in on your huy stuff
Posted: 7/12/2005 1:47:11 PM | I don't think there should be such a hard rule as to NOT have sex, or to NOT go somewhere.
Everyone is different and every situation is different, so the rules are silly and impossible to defend either way.
If you are an adult, and mature...you know what you are doing and what your expectations are. Be clear, and firm in your choices and live with the consequences. You'll be a much happier person without the rule book.
If it feels like the right thing to do right then to NOT have sex...then don't...if the partner cannot deal with that...they weren't for you anyway.
On the other hand if it feels right, emotionally...then go ahead. But be prepared for all the possible scenario's the day after..... | |
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| Guys i need your help.... let us girls in on your huy stuff
Posted: 7/12/2005 1:49:37 PM | I am with LadyDI on this ... if you go to the guys house after a bar...then you are setting yourself up for trouble...or whatever ...
best bet is that the ladies ( and guys ) who pick or take someone home from a bar to watch tv, see my rock garden or whatever...they expect sex .. | |
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