| | Homeboy doesn't have a phone!!Page 1 of 2 (1, 2) | I want opinions from either guys or girls on this one - like how can anyone survive these days without a phone??
This guy lives very close by to me. He lost his job recently, but even while still working, he had canceled his home phone. So because of this 'situation', he's invited me to just come by and ring his bell. But I'm not really comfortable with this anymore, and have told him, because he's leaving it up to me (so I'll see you before this weekend?) I mean he can't call me from a payphone sometimes? | |
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| Homeboy doesn't have a phone!!
Posted: 12/10/2009 9:40:57 AM | | He's got bigger bills to pay than his phone. Expect to pay for any dates the two of you go on. If things get serious, he may want to jump on your cell phone plan for a discount. | |
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| Homeboy doesn't have a phone!!
Posted: 12/10/2009 9:42:05 AM | This sounds too weird. I'm not sure what this "homeboy's" financial situation is, but some may not be able to afford the payment of a phone.
You state that you aren't "comfortable with this anymore." Did you go to his place already?
Furthermore, I don't know too many that are going to stand (unless he goes indoors some where, but still........) in the freezing weather (I'm in NY too), and chit chat with another. lol Again, this is just too weird for me.
Dunno.......... | |
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| Homeboy doesn't have a phone!!
Posted: 12/10/2009 9:43:53 AM | We haven't gone out on any dates - just hang out at his house.
Should I have offered him use of my phone? | |
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| Homeboy doesn't have a phone!!
Posted: 12/10/2009 9:45:28 AM |
...like how can anyone survive these days without a phone??
Skype?
I don't know, seems like he needs to have an easy way for prospective employers to contact him. I know one person who couldn't afford to keep a home phone and refused my family's offer of a cell with some money on it to start with so he could book gigs (he's a musician and a very, very good one, we've hired him). We actually brought the phone - a used one of mine, very basic but with good sound - and the phone card to him and he still wouldn't accept. He didn't want charity... He's homeless now, the stubborn [bleep]. That phone might've made all the difference and he could've paid us back the trifling amount of money if it were such a big deal to him.
So I wonder if you're dealing with someone similarly self-sabotagingly stubborn. And yeah you'd think he could call you from a pay phone sometimes. They're not thick on the ground anymore but they do still exist.
I don't like it. I'd pass on this one. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2009 9:46:26 AM | We haven't gone out on any dates - just hang out at his house.
Oh, so you have hung out at his home. Ok, so why can't he call you via a pay phone, and invite you over/to go out on a date then?
Should I have offered him use of my phone?
What for?
Helen: I don't like it. I'd pass on this one.
Ditto! | |
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Posted: 12/10/2009 9:52:05 AM | While I haven't dated women like this, I have guy friends like this one.
He will appear the most appreciative guy in the world if you help him out, but he's going to take it for granted. Trust me on this. You're going to get sick of this guy REAL FAST as he starts invading other parts of your life for his convenience. | |
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| Homeboy doesn't have a phone!!
Posted: 12/10/2009 10:06:27 AM |
like how can anyone survive these days without a phone??
I survived without a phone for the longest. As a matter of fact, I just recently purchased a cell phone just barely a short month ago.
With me jumping into the dating scene and what not, I knew I would have to get a cell phone at some point and time. But if you truly feel this way, then why not just cut things off? Unless of course you really like this guy, and is trying to find a way to better the situation. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2009 10:20:35 AM | "Homeboy" "Like how"? Oy vey..just checked your age OP imagine my surprise.
This guy is trying to be responsible and not run up a debt he cannot afford. | |
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| Homeboy doesn't have a phone!!
Posted: 12/10/2009 10:21:52 AM |
This guy lives very close by to me. He lost his job recently, but even while still working, he had canceled his home phone. So because of this 'situation', he's invited me to just come by and ring his bell. But I'm not really comfortable with this anymore, and have told him, because he's leaving it up to me (so I'll see you before this weekend?) I mean he can't call me from a payphone sometimes?
you sound pissed because he doesn't have any money to spend on you????????????? | |
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| Homeboy doesn't have a phone!!
Posted: 12/10/2009 10:27:48 AM | He has no job or phone and his idea of a "date" is for you to just come by and ring his bell? LOL How does he plan to get a job without a phone??
Anyway, he can get a prepaid cell phone for $10.
Don't do what you're really not comfortable with. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2009 11:02:23 AM | Is still amazes me how our society these day really don't have any concept of what poverty really is.......Homeboy has no job. Just maybe homeboy LIKES TO EAT more than buying that pre-paid phone....Gezzz.....
How did mankind ever survive without the phone or internet?.........oh brother! | |
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| Homeboy doesn't have a phone!!
Posted: 12/10/2009 11:06:20 AM |
Is still amazes me how our society these day really don't have any concept of what poverty really is.......Homeboy has no job.
And no home phone either. How's he going to get an interview? A prepaid cell would allow prospective employers to contact him while costing a fraction of what is required to reinstate a landline.
I think a bunch of posters are missing the "no home phone" part of the original post. The man has no telephone access of any kind. Forget the dating problems, I don't see how he's going to land a new job while he's unreachable. They'll just call someone who does have a phone. | |
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| Homeboy doesn't have a phone!!
Posted: 12/10/2009 11:32:22 AM |
Is still amazes me how our society these day really don't have any concept of what poverty really is.......Homeboy has no job. Just maybe homeboy LIKES TO EAT more than buying that pre-paid phone....Gezzz.....
How did mankind ever survive without the phone or internet?.........oh brother!
In society, communication is critical. In those days, society was completely different. You also didn't drive 20 minutes at 65 MPH to get to your job - you could walk to it in 10. The first woman you dated was quite possibly going to be the woman you married, and stayed married to until death. Society was different than it is today.
Today, having a telephone with some form of recording device is a very basic expectation in our society. If he can't meet such a simple expecation, he's got issues that he needs to resolve prior to engaging in someone else's issues, which is unavoidable when finding a partner in today's society. | |
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| Homeboy doesn't have a phone!!
Posted: 12/10/2009 11:38:33 AM |
Is still amazes me how our society these day really don't have any concept of what poverty really is.......Homeboy has no job. Just maybe homeboy LIKES TO EAT more than buying that pre-paid phone....Gezzz.....
How did mankind ever survive without the phone or internet?.........oh brother!
agreed every one is so "PLUGGED IN" now a days. | |
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| Homeboy doesn't have a phone!!
Posted: 12/10/2009 11:41:27 AM |
you sound pissed because he doesn't have any money to spend on you?????????????
Correct me if I'm wrong, but I thought the OP concern was the fact that the guy she is currently seeing doesn't have a phone? What does spending money on her have to do with her issue with him being without a phone? | |
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Posted: 12/10/2009 11:47:56 AM | agreed every one is so "PLUGGED IN" now a days.
By some answers here. They have come so dependent on their "devices", most prolly wouldn't survive if the phones or internet ever got sabatoged. Totally lost. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2009 11:58:50 AM | ^^^
They have come so dependent on their "devices", most prolly wouldn't survive if the phones or internet ever got sabatoged. Totally lost.
Nah; then we'd learn how to use smoke signals! | |
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Posted: 12/10/2009 12:07:29 PM | Cellphones do everything now man; it's nuts. Cellphones that play music, browse the internet, record music, record video, play video, take pictures, print reports, download porn, instant message, remote control vehicles, transform into robots, make pancakes, eat pancakes, have a starbucks plug-in that makes you coffee in the morning and walks your dog for you.
As to the OP. Depends on how well you know this guy, do you know him very well or not much? have you known each other a while or not for a very long time? | |
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| Homeboy doesn't have a phone!!
Posted: 12/10/2009 12:09:01 PM | Sabrosura 
Good luck with that fire in Brooklyn with the wind swirlling around those tall buildings.......  We all know we are TOO dependent and spoiled.....
Op, just try to be patient and give him some time to find a new job before you totally write him off. Maybe just a minor set back. | |
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| Homeboy doesn't have a phone!!
Posted: 12/10/2009 12:13:07 PM |
Correct me if I'm wrong, but I thought the OP concern was the fact that the guy she is currently seeing doesn't have a phone? What does spending money on her have to do with her issue with him being without a phone?
sure I'll bite.
usually when a woman starts a thread about a man not having a job it's usually a hidden agenda to harp about him not having any money. Maybe she should stop focusing on his negative points?
you stand corrected. | |
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| Homeboy doesn't have a phone!!
Posted: 12/10/2009 2:22:42 PM | | He is a wise man who has found a great way to avoid not only wasting time on the phone, but being texted, an even worse insult. He's a sly dog. You should kick him to the curb, then leave a note on his door telling him that's where he was kicked to, since you can't leave him a voice message. He will be happy phoneless, like the billions of other people on Earth who are also without phones, and the millions who lived before phones were invented. | |
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| Homeboy doesn't have a phone!!
Posted: 12/10/2009 2:30:59 PM | This is worth repeating:
I think a bunch of posters are missing the "no home phone" part of the original post. The man has no telephone access of any kind. Forget the dating problems, I don't see how he's going to land a new job while he's unreachable. They'll just call someone who does have a phone.
Not having a phone - ANY phone - land line, cell, pre-paid, whatever is a problem. Forget about dating... what about finding a job? No one has been able to answer this yet. HOW is he going to find a job?
How is this even defensible? Yeah, ok... no technology, blah, blah, fine! But you need, AT MINIMUM, a phone! | |
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| Homeboy doesn't have a phone!!
Posted: 12/10/2009 2:44:22 PM | I don't have a phone and payphones can be quite practical when a phone call needs to be made. I am up here in N.B Canada and I have gone to a pay phone in freezing weather just to have a chit chat with my sister that I hadn't talked to in a while. It is therefore difficult for me to understand why a man wouldn't be ready to do the same for a woman he as interests in.
I can buy a 5$ calling card that would last me for 3/4 months and my sister was a long distance call. I bought a 10$ calling card like 3 months ago now and, since I don't make long distance calls anymore, it's not even 1/4 of the way down.
I have one of those pay as you go cellphone as well but I can't always afford to put money on it and tend to only do so when I need it or something. Like when I am job hunting; it's almost a necessity to have a phone number where you can be reached when job hunting. Mind you, a nearby sibling's phone number may do as well I guess. A sibling nearby is something I never had while job hunting so hard to tell what I would do in such a situation.
Now, all that being said, I don't quite understand why you are being uncomfortable to just go knocking on his door. I can see that a mix of him inviting you over once in a while and you just showing up when you are in the neighborhood could be a decent mix kind of thing. It could get quite annoying for you to keep showing up at his place and him not being there I guess but the invite he gave you kind of means that you are welcomed there anytime. Which seems like a good thing. | |
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