| | spending the holidays alone...Page 1 of 1 | | well i'm missing my actual friends, families and bf in toronto... i'm overseas visiting my relatives in philippines during the holidays... what to do to overcome homesickness and loneliness during holidays... especially for single people... how do you cope? | |
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Posted: 12/18/2009 6:23:39 AM | I have spent the holidays alone every year for 8 years now. The first few years were torture and heartbreaking, but then eventually you develope a new wall and you get hardened.
This year, I am not bothering with anything Christmassy....no tree, lights, gifts, turkey...nadda and I find I am ok with it this year! | |
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Posted: 12/18/2009 7:51:03 AM | Being born jewish, I wouldn't normally celebrate Christmas. I used to get invites for dinner from some of my friends. The last few years, I have spent Christmas day at home alone watching movies and relaxing and swapping emails with friends around the world. This year I am going to get a few movies on DVD from the library and sit back and eat myself into a new diet :)
Maybe we should get together and meet for coffee and chat the day away. There are lots of coffee shops open around the GTA. | |
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Posted: 12/18/2009 8:50:50 AM | One year it was stack of movies and munchies
Another year I made my own event with prepping and cooking my special meal (had turkey for almost all of January) 
Another year I worked ... made a  of money and upgraded my computer | |
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Posted: 12/18/2009 2:10:40 PM | You can sit and mope about like a sorry sac wishing you were somewhere else or you can have an adventure that you could tell your friends and b/f when you see them again.
remember what holiday means...it is a derivative of Holy Day.
I give thanks for what i have and try to share with those around me.
i reflect on the many who do not even have a roof over their head who are cold and hungry. Those who will lose their life and their only sin was to be born in a country filled with instability.
As sad as i have ever been or lonely or homesick it compares naught to what others suffer on regular days let alone during holidays.
Your situation is temporary where some are very permanent.
safe travels home and
Merry Christmas(i know it's early but tis the season) | |
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Posted: 12/18/2009 3:13:20 PM | I have no relatives to spend holidays with - neither does my husband - his are all home in Nigeria. I hosted a couple of Christmas Eve Open houses at my home - but this year and last I work Xmas eve until 4pm - no time to plan or prepare anything. I really wish we had an invitation to visit somewhere! 
Christmas is a lonely time without family or friends to spend it with! | |
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Posted: 12/18/2009 5:33:50 PM | Well I'm Canadian, live here in Toronto and Christmas will be alone, but I won't be lonely.
I didn't spend a cent on presents, nor will I receive any, but that doesn't matter.
I plan to get up early, grab a coffee and hit the telephone and phone friends in several different countries scattered about the world. Friends I've made in my travels and who have enriched my life. If I blow a hundred bucks on long-distance charges.... who cares. I'll laugh and chat with people I'm proud to call my friends.
Alone at Christmas.... yes
Lonely at Christmas.... not at all.
S. | |
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Posted: 12/18/2009 6:01:17 PM | Christmas alone yes,but I tend to think about other things...like how nice it will be to get out for my first ride of 2010
I stopped being lonely at christmas years ago,I have friends all over the place that I call or text also. | |
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Posted: 12/19/2009 9:52:48 PM | | well this year i have my family. next year i'll be alone in my own fortress of solitude. I plan to decorate my charlie brown christmas tree though with one bulb and see if it falls over. | |
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Posted: 12/20/2009 7:18:12 AM | I only have my mother as family so will spend the day with her.
I know others who have been alone and they have gotten through the day by volunteering at homeless shelters or places that give out Christmas dinners for the needy. That is so rewarding for all involved.
Yes, you can sit and wallow in self pity if you like, but life and that day is what you make it. It can be very lonely and sad for some, but it can be a day of hope and great faith for others.
Make it a defining moment in your life, and loose the "bad humbug" attitude. I suggest if you wish to be alone, watch It's A Wonderful Life and realize whose lives you have made a difference in, and that it is not all that dismal. Each life you touch has meant something and cliched as it sounds, it is not that bad a life when you get right down to it.
Happy holidays one and all! | |
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Posted: 12/20/2009 9:49:14 AM |
and loose the "bad humbug" attitude.
That gets my goat  Just because I do not want to partake in an other episode of Family Feud does not make someone a "bah humbug" | |
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Posted: 12/20/2009 3:07:42 PM | A bad attitude to the hypocrisy of families and Christmas should not sour you to the season.
Sure families are miserable at Christmas and fight, but then again if they are like this at Christmas chances are they are this the other 364 days as well.
Maybe it is a time to make peace, call that ceasefire for one day. I had a grandfather who hated Christmas and never bought any gifts for anyone. (I lived with him and grandmother and mother). He was particularly miserable Christmas Day, but it did not ruin the day for everyone else.
This is the day to be petty differences aside and show the true meaning of the season. And even if you are alone, you can be content in your solitude, and make the best of the situation. | |
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Posted: 12/21/2009 11:17:28 AM | I'll be spending Christmas Day with my dog ...He can tear into his gifts of pepperoni sticks and Milkbones .... then order a pizza later on and watch all the Holiday classics via the internet movie sites ..........woooohoooo ! Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year all !   | |
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Posted: 12/21/2009 8:26:20 PM | I was alone last year for the first time in my life............
It was quiet, reflective, and joyous.
My son will be here this year........we're having a moose roast larded with bacon. It's his favourite. Later we will visit my youngest daughter and family.....that will not be quiet but it will be HAPPYHAZARDOUS!!!
Merry Christmas & Happy New Year All
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Posted: 12/22/2009 4:21:36 PM | 2009 - 2010
Merry Christmas, Happy Chanukah, and Happy Kwanza or even just plain Happy Holidays to all !!!!!
Always keep in mind that there will always be a whole lot of wonderful people who are single and it's okay to have a preference or even several of them, but you might also want to know that what think you really want is not what you need to become much more happier for the long run.
I was going to post this up as a separate thread, but for some unsaid reason... I don't have permission to do so, meanwhile the feedback I read from everybody were very insightful. Anyhow... it seems like some people thought of me as a show-off which was far from that, then again I love to be harmlessly creative... so why shun us artists for sharing their talent? <-- Rhetorical | |
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Posted: 12/25/2009 1:32:41 PM | | I spent chritmas eve with one of my brothers, his wife, their kids and grandkids and it was nice. Christmas day I almos always spend alone since the rest of my brothers and sisters are off visiting their in-laws. Even though I've been alone for most of the hollidays (past and present), I find it difficult to get used to it. | |
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