okRob
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| | Overwhelmingly Inviting.Page 1 of 2 (1, 2) | What do you all think about the old saying... Stop looking for it and it will come to you?
Well, this morning I feel a little overwhelmed. All very quick, all the words are right, the click seems easy and natural, the attraction is mutual, the physical distance is barely anything, the whole thing is inviting.
So I am reminded of another old saying... If it's too good to be true then it probably is.
What happened the last time you threw caution to the wind? Do you do so with the expectation of it all being an illusion? Am I just being too wary or am I thinking in the right ways if I keep just a little bit of doubt?
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Posted: 12/20/2009 1:18:56 AM | Id just stick with ~ if its gonna happen its gonna happen  mainly cos im not entirely sure what you are on about!
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okRob
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Posted: 12/20/2009 1:22:30 AM | Hahaha I am sorry to have been so vague so early on a Sunday morning. Hopefully the reasons behind this thred are not thaaaat disguised. I don't want to bleat on about details whys, who's, where's and when's. Sorry :)
Stick with it, good luck go for it..... Well that's all positive so far, thanks :) | |
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Posted: 12/20/2009 1:23:53 AM | suppose it's a time thing and only taking it into rl will tell for sure eh!
I'm a massive cynic about this kind of thing but good luck!!! | |
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okRob
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Posted: 12/20/2009 1:51:35 AM | I throw caution to the wind constantly!
I can't help it even if things go wrong I still do it as I see it as you never know unless you do.
Everythings a learning curve & experience even if it doesn't work out so I say go for it, what you gotta lose? | |
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Posted: 12/20/2009 1:53:25 AM | I never analyse relationships to that extent.
I sit back and enjoy them! | |
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okRob
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Posted: 12/20/2009 1:56:53 AM | | I wouldn't say I am analysing it much. I'm enjoying it. But you know what this place is like Gary haha. I see more reliable knife wielding junk addict schizophrenics at work than some of the people I've seen on this site :) | |
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Posted: 12/20/2009 1:59:14 AM | | have to say that to overanalyse it will be the death of it. Go with it and enjoy, you have nothing to lose, do you? | |
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Posted: 12/20/2009 2:10:03 AM |
But you know what this place is like Gary haha. I see more reliable knife wielding junk addict schizophrenics at work than some of the people I've seen on this site :)
In that case, get on with enjoying what you have!
have to say that to overanalyse it will be the death of it.
I totally agree - people who do that are actively looking for things to worry about. | |
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Posted: 12/20/2009 2:16:32 AM | Don't overanalyse it. Enjoy it. Throwing caution to the wind implies you are worried about taking a risk. Provided that risk is not harmful to anyone, go for it. We all deserve to have some good fortune, although some of us are too cautious and let good opportunities slip from our fingers because we are afraid of taking the risk.
I have two mottos for coping with life and what it throws at me.
The first one is: What's the worst that can happen.
The other one is: If you don't ask, you don't get. | |
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Posted: 12/20/2009 2:19:09 AM | Stop looking for it and it will find you..
This is true with most things in life. For example I've been waiting ages for a prcel and kept looking out for the delivery van until I gave up waiting yesterday.
I walk out last night and trip over parcel left on door step. See it works... | |
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Posted: 12/20/2009 2:25:13 AM | | faint heart never won fair maiden, go for it. Could be early xmas present | |
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Posted: 12/20/2009 2:43:07 AM | Oh god life these days can be crap at the best of times..
we have the recession,
swine flu,
Michael Jackson is dead...and, AND to top it all bloody off..
The worlds gonna end in 2012!
Grab any happiness that comes your way with both hands and enjoy. | |
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Posted: 12/20/2009 2:49:42 AM | my motto in life has always been "if it feels good - do it!" Better to make a mistake than never do anything and wonder "what if" forever.
I throw caution to the wind all the time.......accepted a marriage proposal 2 weeks after meeting a guy - marriage lasted 15 yrs and had 3 daughters - so no regrets there..
Accepted a date on line one night on impulse after chatting to the guy for a few weeks - dashed out to meet him at a local pub...invited him back for coffee and he barely left the house for 6 months other than to work and pop back to his place at weekends to pick up mail :)
I think the problem is people tend to over analyse every thought and action these days instead of listening to their gut instincts
Jump in with both feet.....what's the worst that can happen !  | |
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okRob
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Posted: 12/20/2009 3:01:26 AM | Troll Post - Attention Seeking? Don't make me laugh hahaha ooops too late :)
There is a lot of stigma attached to this place and a lot of people had things go wrong. Especially when it all seems perfect. So the views of others were important. Thanks all.
Troll post.. My a***!! | |
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Posted: 12/20/2009 3:02:24 AM | | ....dont sit to firmly oKrob or the wind that you have thrown caution to may turn into a sunarmi........good luck and if all fails..it's all fair in love and war... | |
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Posted: 12/20/2009 5:11:05 AM | Obviously you've got to go for it mate!
But be prepared also for disappointment,
in my experience here, women can blow hot and cold without explanation,
that's their right, I understand that.
Just don't set yourself up for a fall.
Other than that I'm happy for you, enjoy it for what it is, however short!
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Posted: 12/20/2009 6:04:20 AM | You were thinking it must be wrong because it felt so right???
It sounds like you could miss out on a lot playing it so safe, to get the best out of life you have to be willing to take the odd risk.
I definitely think you should go for it, though it's best not to let your hopes get to o high too quickly. Having said that though, if only I found that little pearl of wisdom easier to put in to practice myself! | |
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Posted: 12/20/2009 6:22:05 AM | Quite right not to give details out on the forums about who the person is, if they used the forums and read the thread they might think you were having doubts about them and be a bit cheesed off. I believe people on here who have posted in recent times about how they found love on POF have had it bite them squarely on the arse when it's all gone tits up.
I think there's very little difference between dating on here and in real life except that in real life people aren't sitting tempted by hundreds or possibly thousands of other potential relationships at the touch of a button.
Unless they are also on here of course. I'd only be wary if it became obvious that someone was with me for some other motive, not that people are likely to be, but I can understand why when people meet someone on here, they take their profiles off so that they can get on with the relationship away from here and possibly don't want to be tempted by other people as well.
Dating is pot luck, full stop. | |
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Posted: 12/20/2009 6:34:34 AM | [quote[If it's too good to be true then it probably is.
Absolutely right, saves getting the old heart broken, yes it you may niggling doubts of what might of been and end up bitter and twisted and never able to love again but your heart will be in one piece so all is right with the world.
Go for it OP, broken hearts can be mended, niggling doubts and what might of been last a life time....... | |
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Posted: 12/20/2009 7:20:15 AM | Wow how exciting. Go for it and enjoy it - what have you got to lose apart from your heart and Im sure you'll have fun finding out if this is right for you | |
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Posted: 12/20/2009 8:08:37 AM | Just think, if I do this I may regret it one day. But if I don't do it, I certainly will regret it.
It's simple; as everyone else says, go for it! | |
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okRob
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Posted: 12/20/2009 8:18:04 AM | | Thanks again everybody, good advice. I guess this is one of those cliched one step at a time thingies :) | |
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