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 sweetpotato17
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I just want to forewarn everyone that this is probably going to be explicit...

So my boyfriend and I want to have sex. I am a virgin, but I have seen his penis and it came up in conversation once that he is 8 and a half inches in length. I really am not experienced, but he really seems to know what he's doing. For instance, when we were fooling around (he was fingering me) he knew exactly where it would hurt me when I asked him. I felt it. He's so sweet, and I know he doesn't want to hurt me, and he says that his goal is to give his partner pleasure.

I was talking to some friends of mine and they were going on about how it would always hurt more than likely. Obviously I'm expecting pain the first time, maybe even the first few times. That's not a big deal to me. However, my friends were saying that scientifically, most women can't handle a penis that big, ever. That it will probably always hurt. I just wanted to know if this is true. I really like this guy and now I'm afraid because of this and I just wanted more opinions on this. Thanks in advance.
 sweetpotato17
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Posted: 12/22/2009 10:27:49 AM
Oh and, he's also of the opinion that most guys are not gentle enough with girls for their first time. He told me that he would (in the future) go very slowly and just kind of sit inside of me until my body adjusts. He says he doesn't want to hurt me and I believe him.
 coveredinpaint
Joined: 7/13/2009
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Posted: 12/22/2009 10:29:43 AM
Yeah, it's going to hurt for a while until he gets ya stretched out. That's a tough one. You are a virgin and looking to get your cherry popped and you end up with John Holmes as the person to do the dirty deed. This may be the one time in your life when you want to find a man with a small penis.
 sweetpotato17
Joined: 11/11/2009
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Posted: 12/22/2009 10:32:55 AM
Well... I know that it's going to hurt at first. I'm expecting that and I always have. I know he's going to go slowly and will stop if it's too much, so I'm okay with that.

What I am concerned about is whether or not it's ALWAYS going to hurt. Some friends of mine were saying that most vaginas can't handle that... but then I've always heard that girls like big****, so I'm just confused.
 WinstonDoubtfire
Joined: 7/29/2009
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Posted: 12/22/2009 10:36:53 AM
uhhh, if a vagina can handle popping out a baby, it can handle a large penis just fine...unless the guy's hung like a rhino.
 goodone4ya
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Posted: 12/22/2009 10:37:55 AM
Looks like ur boyfriend and i have the same stats-give or take i havent measured in a while. The first time is gonna hurt to a degree depending on how u deal with pain. The first couple of times is gonna hurt a lil but u will come to enjoy the pain-in due time. Hes a tad bigger than average so dont think in numbers think of how u lust and love him and everything will be alright. I know females that wont take anything shorter then what ur man and I are packing so trust dont worry. It was made to push babies outta there 19 to 24 inches long 7 to 10lbs in time trust me u will enjoy it
 MrP.
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Posted: 12/22/2009 10:41:58 AM
To help clarify, most women will consider a penis more than 6" in length to be "big". However, as you state correctly, most vaginas can't handle more than an 8.5"-9" penis without experiencing pain. They want to be "filled up" but not too much. A 7"-8" penis seems to be the ideal size for most. Does this make more sense to you now?

MrP
 coveredinpaint
Joined: 7/13/2009
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Posted: 12/22/2009 10:59:57 AM
I've only had one experience with a virgin. I think she was extra small though, which is true for some women. But even after numerous times having sex, it was painful for both of us, and I'm not gigantic by any means. Even other girls have had issues with my size, and they were well broken in. This is not bragging on my part as I admit I'm not huge. The point being that if the dude IS huge, then you probably have a lot of painful sex ahead of you, unfortunately.
 anunu
Joined: 10/21/2009
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Posted: 12/22/2009 11:05:18 AM
When I was a virgin I did not experience pain like this. I have had 8" and beyond with no pain and I have no tolerance for pain at all.

Even if you do have pain at first, it is not going to hurt all the time. Just take your time with it and enjoy. Start slow and work your way into it. You will definitely appreciate one that size if he knows how to handle you just right!

If we can push out a 7 lb 11 oz baby, we can handle a 8" penis
 feline*
Joined: 8/21/2009
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Posted: 12/22/2009 11:08:14 AM
The first time you will, undoubtedly, experience some pain, but your b/f sounds as though he knows what he is doing. The slower and more gentle he is the better it will be. Remember how much you love / lust after him, relax, and make sure there is PLENTY of foreplay before even attempting penetration.

The first few times after that may be a bit uncomfortable but just keep it slow and gentle until YOU are ready to change the rhythm.

You will both find out how far he can penetrate you and remain comfortable, it may well be all the way, it may not. Everyone is different.

Good luck.
 MsMicki
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Posted: 12/22/2009 11:25:05 AM
Your hymen breaking is what will give you a quick sharp pain.
(If your hymen is still intact)
but that will subside rather quickly.

As for his size.........depends on how you are built.
Some women love 'em big........some prefer average.
A girl's age nor body size can determine which you will prefer in time.

He sounds like a patient lover......and that's a plus for you.

and please.........use a condom....
 e*Musing
Joined: 10/23/2008
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Posted: 12/22/2009 11:27:55 AM
8.5" isn't huge, but it is longer than normal. However, even a 5" penis will cause the same pain as it ruptures the hymen.

That said, the thing to concern yourself with is the girth. When I'm fully erect, mine's about the size of a Red Bull can (definitely thicker than most dildos I've seen), whereas most guys I've talked to are slimmer than the dildos. And from what I understand, it's the thickness that most women seem to enjoy...as long as it's at least pushing 6".

But even at 6-7", I've "bottomed out" and had the tip of my penis hitting cervix on one girl...and she reported that it was the same type of pain as when she lost her virginity...but on each thrust that contact the cervix. From what I understand, guys with extremely long c0cks...while good for porn movies...are rarely satisfied because they can't ever really let go and just start mutually slamming hips together to reach climax. They must always be vigilant and stop thrusting if she feels pain.
 sweetpotato17
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Posted: 12/22/2009 11:38:17 AM
Thanks for all the advice. This:

"From what I understand, guys with extremely long c0cks...while good for porn movies...are rarely satisfied because they can't ever really let go and just start mutually slamming hips together to reach climax. They must always be vigilant and stop thrusting if she feels pain."

is exactly what I'm afraid of. This is what my friends were telling me about. I know that he would never hurt me, but this is just horrible. I wouldn't want him to have to hold back and I do know that his favorite position is doggy style. How and why would he want to stay with me if he can't actually enjoy himself? I don't think I could live with that... I think things should be mutual in relationships. I know that he really likes me, but I can also see this being a big problem.
 Elgalawaat
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Posted: 12/22/2009 11:39:07 AM
Don't worry if he loves yu and he is a gentleman he will never push hard to hurt you. I am 9n inches and had sex with two virgin girls. They never felt any bad pain but pleasure. When the man is driving on small one lane Road I never go to 70 Miles per hour. In my case the trials and playing was out of this world. I married one of these girls and after the birth of our first child I penetrated her all the way without any problem.
 sweetpotato17
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Posted: 12/22/2009 11:41:33 AM
But before she had your child, could you actually ever enjoy yourself? Or were you just with her because you loved her? I don't want to be with someone who can never enjoy himself with me, it's just not fair.
 e*Musing
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Posted: 12/22/2009 12:07:23 PM
You need to understand that the physiology of the vagina is very rubbery...it will stretch a bit to accommodate larger sizes. My guessing is that in the beginning, the two of you will work through many positions to see what feels best. My other guess is you're going to find one where is length is an asset not painful. For example:

Typical missionary (knees near shoulders): Probably painful as your legs are pulled back and basically there's nothing that stops him from pushing deep and hard.

Soft missionary (your knees never get above his azz): Probably better as you can squeeze your thighs a bit to keep him from penetrating too deep, but he still feels like he's slamming in...the difference is, he's now slamming into a cushion (your thighs) instead of bottoming out on your pelvic bone.

Doggy Style: Probably painful as I've the greatest compliments about penetration in this and Reverse Cowgirl position. And Doggy Style I know is one where, when the guy decides to push, there are few ways to stop him from going to far.

Girl on Top: Good, you get to control till everything feels good and comfortable...plus, IME, you sliding back and forth (head to toe) is going to get him off quicker than you bouncing like a frog on a lilly pad.

Spooning (your back to him, both of you on your side, legs intertwined): Is probably the best for both. He can thrust and pound, and between your ass and legs, you've added just an extra inch or two that he can't penetrate but will feel like he can. Lots of couples can't do this one as either the guy's c0ck is too short or the girls azz is too big.

There's 5-6 options...check out the Kama Sutra to see which things make the most sense for you.



O & BTW...the biggest sex organ on a guy is his brain. As long as he's convinced that you are totally into it...pretty much any position is going to be good for him.
 LongAfterDark
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Posted: 12/22/2009 12:28:58 PM
Why don't you have sex with a small****d guy at first just to get broken in.
 krookie
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Posted: 12/22/2009 1:19:54 PM
From the amazingly uninformed to the blatent self-promoters! Every time this type of question comes out! At least there were a few people out there who gave very good info.

First, it's ALWAYS good to ask questions. But please make sure you talk to someone educated on the subject. Your friends may be wonderful friends, but your doctor is probably more knowledgeable. The initial pain will be the breaking of the hymen.

Second, in the same way that there are all types of men's sizes, there are all types of women's sizes. Even the direction of the vaginal canal can be different for different women...meaning one position for one will feel different for one than it will for another. You won't know your makeup completely until you actually do the deed. And even then, it will probably be a little time after that.

He sounds like he has some knowledge and is willing to take things slow. That's a GOOD thing.

As for you being able to accept his size, again, you won't know until you do. However, there are plenty of things you both can do to accomodate each other. There have been some good examples already. Read up on it. Go visit a "toy" store. Don't be afraid to ask questions. "Most" women can accomodate "most" men. Communicate what feels good and what doesn't.

As for those that continually use the example of a woman giving birth when these questions come up....PLEASE educate yourself! Giving birth to a 7 lb, 19 inch baby has VERY LITTLE to do with whether on not a womam can accomodate a larger penis or not! My goodness!
 OutMind
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Posted: 12/22/2009 1:50:26 PM
You are going to experience some pain regardless of the size. However, if you are petite and he is big, the big problem can be if he keeps hitting your cervix. Some women find this very painful, some women absolutely love it. Some women experience discomfort for a whole week. So ask him to to start by thrusting shallow, which can give you and orgasm from the labia. And if he goes deep, tell him to go show.

And happy cherry popping.
 indefatigabilis
Joined: 11/10/2009
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Posted: 12/22/2009 1:52:28 PM
The length doesn't matter at all because he can adjust how much he jams in. I mean, how far he enters. It's the width or girth that can be a problem. How thick is that monster? That is what might cause some pain. Even so, aside from that fact of your womanly duty to take it and like it no matter what, if you go slow and relax and use copious amounts of drugs and lubricant and turn the TV up loud so the neighbors don't call the cops when you yell out with pleasure, you have at least a 50-50 chance that when you awake after passing out, he will have a smile on his face.
 Remember2Never4get
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Posted: 12/22/2009 2:23:36 PM

This is the truth. Thankyou Outmind...
Also, 8.5" is normal to me. In fact, that is average in my books.
Anyone telling you that it is big has had some teeny tiny willies to play with.
After the first time is done, jump back on that horse and enjoy...enjoy...enjoy...


That is normal to you, you're the fortunate one. But statistically, it is uncommon for a man to have this size. The women (her friends( may have been dealing with average size penises. Just to clear things up

And I'm one of those self-promoters
 sweetpotato17
Joined: 11/11/2009
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Posted: 12/22/2009 2:32:50 PM
There have been some really helpful tips here. Thank you everybody.

Also, to the people who keep talking about how I'm "looking to get my cherry popped" or "why don't you find someone with a small d**k," that's just pathetic. This guy is my boyfriend and I'm looking to have sex with HIM not just sex in general. When we met, the first thing I said to him was not "look, I'm a virgin and if we're going to make this work, you've got to be small." I mean, are you really serious?
 sweetpotato17
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Posted: 12/22/2009 2:37:11 PM
Just to be clear, what I'm worried about is the cervix thing. A well-informed friend was telling me about this, actually a male friend. This came from both his own experience and from what he knows as fact. He told me that the average woman can handle about 6-7 inches, but can sometimes also expand. He also said that the baby idea was ridiculous, and I do see him as a reliable source, which is why I went to him.

I am a virgin, but I'm not worried about the initial sex. I'm not worried about the hymen and I realize that it's normal to experience that pain for awhile and I'm prepared for that. However, I'm worried about the sex being painful all the time and in him not being able to actually like having sex with me if I can't handle it. Guess I'll just have to wait and find out.
 coveredinpaint
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Posted: 12/22/2009 2:37:33 PM
Normally you hear guys saying that 8 or 9 inches is normal to them---as in, THEY have that size of penis. Rarely do you get a grandma to come on here and say it is normal. I don't know many women who would seriously say that 8 inches is average. And even if that was THEIR experience, a woman that old would certainly know that your average guy has much less than that.

Me thinks a bitter poffer is just trying to make men feel belittled...literally.
 kthyg
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Posted: 12/22/2009 2:45:08 PM
I have been with men of that size and while they may have to be a little gentler and not go hilt deep, they have always been able to enjoy themselves and I have enjoyed myself. I would guess your man is already used to the limitations that his size can cause and sounds like a patient lover that you should just relax and let him take the lead. It really will be ok. I have rarely had any pain from sex even with a very large lover beyond the initial pain of losing my virginity but I have been lucky that my lovers have been knowledgable about pleasing a woman.
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