| why do men say they will call and then don't?
Posted: 7/12/2005 11:00:47 PM | someone please explain this to me, I just don't understand. Right now there is this guy on here that I really like, we have chatted a few times, and he said he was going to message me later to exchange numbers and maybe we can get together later, then he doesn't show up online til 1:30 in the morning, and doesn't "seem" to see me. (this is tonight)
What to do, what to do.... This is a problem with a lot of men, with regards to calling or messaging when they say they will. If he is not interested why not just say so, why go through all the flirting and long IM convo's just to leave me hanging???
I don't want to keep messaging someone and feel like I am chasing them down, but I think maybe he is the type that only talks if you message first?
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| why do men say they will call and then don't?
Posted: 7/13/2005 12:02:44 AM | | If you want to talk to him, send him a message. If you're both sitting there waiting for the other person to speak first it'll end up ...... well...... in a thread in the forums. | |
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| why do men say they will call and then don't?
Posted: 7/13/2005 12:26:59 AM | citykitty,look for someone else,head games is all i see with him!
I get that too on here,and that's the way it is,some people think they can get away
with it 'cause it's the internet or something!!
Fear not citykitty,a lot of us men and women are real,you will find someone else who
will not be afraid of meaning what they say and stick with it!!
Internet is tricky,but there's a lot of good people here on pof,it's just a matter of time
before you really click with someone is all!!!
I won't give up,so keep your head high and know the signs of head games!!!
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| why do men say they will call and then don't?
Posted: 7/13/2005 12:57:48 AM | From one kitty to another: when a guy wants you he will get in touch with you even if you are not available he will keep trying at least until he gets you. Guys who only respond to you messaging in order to talk to you = waste of your valuable time. Move on kittycat and find a guy who WANTS to talk, be with, date you without you having to prod him into doing so.
Sound cut and dry? It is cut and dry if you are into me purrrfect, if not buhhh-bye! ;-)
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| why do men say they will call and then don't?
Posted: 7/13/2005 12:58:06 AM | The way I see it. We're all on here and whatever other websites every night looking for someone to compliment our lives and vice versa. The problem is that whenever someone does show interest and it scares the you-know-what out of us. You have no idea who is really on the other end of the messaging, if they're plum crazy or even worse.....they might be THE ONE!!!!!!!! Yikes!!!!!!!!! Just kidding though. Maybe we're all just a little too comfortable looking for someone special to actually commit to a viable prospect.
Personally, when I say that I'm going to call someone, I stick to it. It may or may not go anywhere, but at least I've kept my word and gave it an honest effort.
I met someone online about 2 weeks ago and after talking for a little while, we exchanged phone numbers. She was pretty cool at first and I thought that we'd hit it off pretty well. Then she started calling my cel and home phones about 10 times a day to tell me she missed me. I was thinking "How can you miss me? You haven't even met me yet.". Then she started telling me she LOVES me and got upset when I didn't say it back. Yikes!!!! I had enough when she called at 2:30 in the morning and got pissed off when I wanted to go back to sleep. I called the whole thing off and she proceeded to call about 20-30 times a day for the next 4-5 days. All of this and I hadn't even met her yet.....................something to think about before inviting someone to your house right before you even know them.
I would suggest letting this person know that you really are genuinely interested in him and you'd like to get to know him better. At least you have made the initial overture. If he still doesn't get the hint, that's his loss.
You can't have a successful online induced relationship unless SOMEONE says something to the lines of "Hey! I like you! I'm taking a chance and hoping you like me too. Let's do something about it"  | |
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| why do men say they will call and then don't?
Posted: 7/13/2005 5:19:16 AM | | Sounds like he's married. Also, if he is online and not responding to you, he's probably in another IM session with someone else. Don't chase him, or anybody. If he doesn't contact you, forget him. | |
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| why do men say they will call and then don't?
Posted: 7/13/2005 5:30:09 AM | Possible reasons why he doesn't call when he says he will.
1. He was just being polite taking your number
2. He got held up and couldn't make it
3. He's married or has a girlfriend.
4. He's nervous about taking it to the next step (off computer land) | |
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| why do men say they will call and then don't?
Posted: 7/13/2005 5:31:28 AM | | Oh and one other thing..if he doesn't call at the time he said he would..DON'T WAIT ON HIM..go out and do your thing, you'll catch up with him when it's at YOUR convenience. Don't put your life on hold for a call that might not come. | |
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| why do men say they will call and then don't?
Posted: 7/13/2005 5:36:18 AM | Two e-mails, one phone call and then you meet. Anything more then this is a waste of time!
Sitting online chatting is a waste of time, the chances of meeting are nil.
Too soon for the phone? Bye, bye.
Not ready to meet in person? Bye, bye!
I don't waste my time with the ones that are fishing and I meet a lot of woman in person! | |
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| why do men say they will call and then don't?
Posted: 7/13/2005 5:53:12 AM | | Playing hard to get.....doesnt wanna seem to keen because if you let the girl take control at the beggining - thats it for the rest oif your life - hahahah. | |
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| why do men say they will call and then don't?
Posted: 7/13/2005 6:07:55 AM | Only talks if you message first? What is he, a baby?
Why even waste your time with guys like this? Who cares what their "issue" is...do you really want that kind of a tag along?
If a guy is putting you through this type of garbage now, how much more will you put up with later....
Move on...the guy is a bozzo. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2005 6:14:25 AM | citykitty;
I know you said you like a guy on here ...
but beyond that ... you lost me.
It might help to be more specific ... in particular, as to all methods of communication with him thus far.
Maybe it's just me, but I can't answer ... forces to many assumptions.
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Posted: 7/13/2005 6:29:29 AM | @biziedizie
Totally on the same page with you. I don't chat unless I have run out of every possible thing in the world to do with my time. Women are luckier I guess since most of the guys I've connected with are eager to talk on the phone within a day or so. I prefer that. Even the long distance ones are eager to meet, as am I. The way I figure, we are all grown ups so why are we wasting time? You can always meet in public places without giving out too much personal info (just in case you want to flee, lol.) Why waste time sitting in front of a computer screen. I do that enough at work!
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| why do men say they will call and then don't?
Posted: 7/13/2005 9:20:46 AM | citykitty,
Sounds like your a bit needy based on this post. Don't take that too harshly, Its just my opinion. I'm getting a mental picture of you pacing around the computer waiting for his responses. Don't put so much emphasis on a guy who doesn't know a good thing when he sees it. Just move on. Don't make excuses for him, try and figure out why this or why that, just move on. The faster you start running again the faster you get your pace going. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2005 9:35:26 AM | citykitty if you were 18 I could understand why you posted a thread like this but 26!? come on, you know better and you know exactly what you gotta do as everybody else said it on here.
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| why do men say they will call and then don't?
Posted: 7/13/2005 11:44:25 AM | Hi everyone and thanks for the input. Just wanted to say that some people either didn't read the whole post or didn't understand what I was saying.
To be clear- I never said we had changed numbers yet, I said "he said he was going to message me later to change numbers and then call". Anyway, it doesn't matter- I took initiative after I put the first posting up and messaged him myself. He gave me HIS number and we ended up talking for about 5 hours!! Everything was really great, and we are going to meet this weekend.
So to those of you who said to forget him, oops. To those who said try to message him and see what happens, thank you.
It's nice to see how many people here are quick to jump on you and judge you based on one posting. That's ok, I am my own woman and ultimately make my own decisions. I guess that's what this forum thing is all about, exchanging words of wisdom and applying it how you see fit.
off topic- I saw some really great profiles from the people who responded, nice!
I will keep you updated as to how thngs go, and we'll see if it was worth it or not.... so far it's looking pretty good though, lol.
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Posted: 7/13/2005 12:17:18 PM | I'm glad it worked out for you citykitty.
Sometimes a little persistence is better than giving up
on something before realizing it's potential.
Good luck to you.
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| why do men say they will call and then don't?
Posted: 7/13/2005 12:20:58 PM | Soo .. there's a book called 'he's just not that into you'. It's VERY informative .. and I think a lot of women would benefit from reading it. Just my two cents.  | |
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