| | Yo! How's my profile??Page 1 of 1 | Ok, so I recently got reviewed and I had this real cool chick help me switch up my profile to make it sound real funny and witty- which she based off my personality.
I also updated my pictures about a week ago, well 2, mainly, but I thought that I would be able to attract more attention based on my new pic. Well, I'm still really not getting many responses. However, they are usually positive- mainly commenting on how funny and unique the profile is. I get approximately 3-5 responses a week. So, from a dude's point of view... what do you think it may be? Perhaps they are turned off from the fact I have a child? Or perhaps the profile isn't really reflecting me and what I'm looking for? See, I wanna be creative...which I feel the current profile is, but I also want to make sure I'm attracting cool, descent guys! Also, whenever I contact a guy, I rarely get a response back. It's mainly marked as "read" with no response. So, there must be something wrong...just try to help me figure out what it could be, please? And please don't be harshly critical... be honest, but not rude. Thanks!! | |
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Posted: 1/2/2010 10:20:08 PM | That's a really clever format, I like it. There's only one thing I can't think of to explain why you're not getting completely bombarded and that is that it might be TOO clever. Now keep in mind that I have enough confidence for three guys but even I was just a tiny bit intimidated by your wit. You come across as VERY confident and that may be putting off some of the less confident guys. I can really see some men thinking, "Wow, she'd be totally bored with me and think I'm a toad." On the other hand, I always say that if this is really you, then leave it and just wait for the right fish, knowing that it may take a while.
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Posted: 1/2/2010 10:23:10 PM | | I just read your profile, and it is funny. Part of the problem may be that it is a little too funny, and not quite serious enough. The whole time I was reading it I had a picture of the "slap chop" guy in my head, not a good association :P All of your pictures seem to be pretty good, although I might change the nose picking comment to something else, once again it's funny, but maybe a little much. The profile as a whole seems good, there is lots of good information in there about yourself, and funny is definelty a good thing, but I would scale it back to a more "she's cute" level. Anyways, I hope that I have helped you :) | |
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Posted: 1/2/2010 11:03:41 PM | Yo,
It is a very clever, creative composition indeed. Maybe it is even thoughtful enough to deter the players and d-bags, thus reducing email traffic. After reading a profile like this, one might second guess sending the typical and pathetic "Yo hottie. How you doin?"
What pic did you replace with your current pic? My favorite is "Bricks and I".
I tried coming up with a few suggestions, but they were over the top in terms of nitpicking. Your profile is solid IMO. Touche. | |
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Posted: 1/2/2010 11:49:15 PM | the 1 guy saying that it might be wise to change it up a little is the guy you would want to avoid to be honest!!
as long as that profile is 100% true then you have nothing to worry about and nothing to change, its a great profile and lets people about you and that along with being very attractive she is funny and personally to be that is one of the most important things in a gal, ie being funny.
though the only true problem is your location!! ;) | |
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Posted: 1/3/2010 12:30:47 AM | Yo, Adrienne! It's incredible. You are getting more responses than a do in a month, haha! Although considering a lot of girls on here allegedly receive 100s. To be honest, anyone who cannot appreciate what you have to offer ... it may be a difficult to attract cool, decent guys who acknowledge your glorious wit, it's not impossible. Think of your profile as an internal weeding out of idiocy/unworthy candidates.
Again, if the profile is reflective of who you are, then do not be discouraged, there are thousands out there and I too share your same 'dilemma.' Perhaps we are too witty or 'smart' for our own good, but 'dumbing down' or changing our profile to appeal to the masses would be doing a disservice to ourselves and ultimately, at least in your case because you are stunning, result in an onslaught of e-mails for fools typically only out for one thing.
I say keep it as is.
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Posted: 1/3/2010 12:44:01 AM | To consider--
I think--try a straightforward approach, if you aren't getting replies. Who are these guys? What is your type? If you have a set type, your profile and pics should try to appeal to them.
Nothing is wrong with the pics or profile, but spell out age of child--maybe they think you are hiding 5 kids. Job is unclear--is it something you love, mention it and any future goals.
Do 3 short paragraphs--you/interests--be very specific--last book read, dog lover?, last film ,etc., then your"type".
Username--GroovyOregonGirl is cuter to me than Foxx, because I've always been charmed by the idea of Oregon. And Foxx, might seem narcissistic--I know you were being impertinent, but the fellas might not get it and most male California natives want to be the narcissistic ones. I know California, got along better with outsiders/transplants, foreigners.
Interests--below--I cut out astrologyesque stuff--it's fine but there is a negative spin for a lot of men. I added other things from text in there, added ++for specifics needed or nice to have, if you have.
Pics--try a few looking at camera, smiling head/shoulders shot, more dressy, conservative too--variety s nice.
Astronomy Science---++
England UK
Animals--++ Liberal causes, British humor, cheeky blokes,
Family Guy The Office travel, movies--++, conversation, reading--++ Stonehenge, Hawaii
There are a lot of liberal/hippie types in California, a lot are in IT.
1st date--try a mellow, less ambitious, local plan.
If you get 5 replies a week, of good quality, it's better than a ton of junky replies.
But you could rotate profiles as an experiment.
Good luck. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2010 3:34:50 AM | One of the best profiles i've seen...period. The "Use caution around cheesecake" part had me literally laughing out loud and i disagree wholeheartedly with people that say it's "too funny" and "not serious enough. When 99% of the profiles you read are the same old, cliche, nonsense, it's SO refreshing (and memorable) to see something so unique in it's delivery. Yes, the kid is definitely going to keep some people away but i'm still shocked you aren't getting 3-5 emails a day, let alone a week.
My big concern for you is that if your friend was responsible for creating most of the wit/humor, you are going to be in big trouble when you meet someone in-person and can't deliver. | |
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MrP.
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Posted: 1/3/2010 7:32:39 AM | Groovyfoxx, I absolutely loved reading your profile! One of the best profiles I've ever read, excellent job! 
I wouldn't worry about the number of messages and responses you are receiving. It's a matter of QUALITY over quantity. Think of your profile as a way of weeding out guys who can't come up with anything better to say to you than "hi", "how r u?", or "u r hot!". It's certainly a possibility that some men you're contacting may be turned off by the fact that you have a child, especially if they're your age or younger. Don't fret, because there are also a lot of men out there that ARE willing to date single moms.
My advice...don't change a thing. Imo the worst thing you can do is dumb-down your profile for the sake of attracting more guys who in the end aren't going to interest you for very long anyway.
Best of luck to you!
MrP | |
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Posted: 1/3/2010 7:45:53 AM | | How many review threads do you need? It now seems that you are trolling!! | |
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Posted: 1/3/2010 6:09:02 PM | I loved it..
You come across as confident, funny, friendly AND can slice and dice.
It was one of the most imaginative I've seen.
Go figure.
But, suggestions , play with it then. Cut it in half. write some personal notes about yourself. Favorite music, interest. I dont know. | |
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sosdd
| | Joined: 12/14/2009
Msg: 13 | |
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Posted: 8/15/2010 10:18:40 PM | You are only allowed one profile thread.
I just read your profile and I think it is pretty good.
Honestly, you seem intelligent, pretty, but yeah, too forward from the sounds of things. Relax and back off a bit. Yes, let them chase you. Don't kiss on the first date, give them something to look forward to. Not a game, just a matter of holding yourself back to make sure he really digs you as much as you dig him.
Hun, really, I read your other threads. Last week it was a guy that got online after the date. This week it was a guy that didn't call back...
I am old enough to be your mom. Take this as motherly advice. I've dated guys your age to 12 years older than me. Having fun on your dates is great, but if you really like the guy, you do need to let him know you are a good fun girl, not a just a fun girl. K? And if I haven't offended you, don't be afraid to email me. A couple people have accepted my Dear SOSDD advice and are dating one special someone. Yup, been here done that. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2010 1:29:10 PM | The only female profile that I've read in a while that's less insipid than Old School U.K. cuisine.
Not bad.
I'd give it a thumbs-up for the 'FDA Warning-- Not indended for one night stands' line alone: it's pretty much the ONLY example of that kind of comment I've ever seen that came off as nearly funny rather than just frosty.
I'd watch the bit about the use of poor social performances in future comedy routines, though. For most guys, that prospect would be about as appealing as a date with the exhumed body of Hervé Villechaize. That's like badgering a guy to dance with you, then when he does, you look at him, look disgusted and go "not like thaaat."
The guys may also be a touch intimidated. Next to your material, most of the guys profiles on here pretty weak stuff.
They may also think you're a bit weird to be around on a consistent basis. Most of the physically attractive women I've known were about as funny as testicular cancer, probably because being an attractive woman is like being Kim Jong-Il-- all the guys around you laugh at your jokes, funny or not. It's the fat girls who have to develop personalities, generally speaking.
As for the kid, the only thing more shameless than putting the kid up for adoption to improve your dating prospects, would be having it in the first place JUST to do the intro to your standup routine. So you are not going to be able to do much about that situation, right? | |
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Posted: 8/18/2010 7:31:57 AM |
They may also think you're a bit weird to be around on a consistent basis. Most of the physically attractive women I've known were about as funny as testicular cancer, probably because being an attractive woman is like being Kim Jong-Il-- all the guys around you laugh at your jokes, funny or not. It's the fat girls who have to develop personalities, generally speaking.
Coffee spewed out of my nose on that one. 
To Groovy: I thought your profile was one of the best I've seen. As Sly said, most female profiles on here are quite lacking (i.e. they suck). Happy hunting! | |
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Posted: 8/18/2010 4:34:35 PM | "I get approximately 3-5 responses a week."
Good idea to ask guys who are 2 responses shy of your lower limit - lifetime. I'd call that a pretty good turnout.
Anyway, yes, your profile is fresh (as in new, not obnoxious) and funny. Your third and your last picture show your face in an odd state - on my iPhone it looks like a grimace, and not a flattering one. Your main pic is good.
If you wanted approval for your humor or raise awareness for your upcoming show, you'd be on target. But you are here for dating although not too serious. So why are you nowhere near the 100-mails-a-day mark?
I believe that your joking covers up insecurity. The best defense is a good offense. You may benefit from some serious lines after the funny part. Sorry to be the party pooper, but those are the 2 cents you are asking about... | |
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Posted: 8/20/2010 6:48:34 AM | I think it's crap. You nearly made me throw up and I was only got a third of the way through it.
When you say you don't get many responses - are you telling me that you actually need to message guys. As a rule, women who are fat, ugly and stupid still get loads of messages from guys, let alone slim and ?goodlooking? and intellignt ones. I wondering why you even need to message guys. Actually, no I'm not - I do know.
The reason is that you look fake. You look like one of those wax characters from the Maddamme Tousouds Museums. How about reducing the make-up and fake tan and all the other fake crap.
Also, a touch of humour or sarcasm doesn't go astray in a profile. But to go over the top like you do reeks of a plastic desperado who nobody wants to be with.
I think you would have a better response if you wrote the following four sentances.
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Posted: 8/21/2010 2:45:54 AM |
Well, I'm still really not getting many responses. However, they are usually positive- mainly commenting on how funny and unique the profile is.
Quite possibly this is a) the most obvious thing about it and b) the only thing they can think of to say about it.. It's very unusual, funny, clever and hence rather intimidating - I could see guys thinking that havent got the confidence, funnies or smarts to write you something that will get a response
Perhaps they are turned off from the fact I have a child?
Perhaps, but everything about a profile that IS YOU is a filter for those you don't want in your life. There are guys who won't date a woman with kids, and there's no way you can word a profile to not turn those types off, nor do you WANT to because they arent going to accept this aspect of your life
Or perhaps the profile isn't really reflecting me and what I'm looking for? See, I wanna be creative...which I feel the current profile is
Only you can say if your profile is you; yes it's creative but if we had a conversation in real life, in a bar somewhere, about some random thing would I come away thinking the same of you as the impression your profile gives.. ?
I also want to make sure I'm attracting cool, descent guys!
So these 3-5 new contacts a week - are they those quality guys? Would you rather have 100 new "hey u fit, got msn?" a week or 3 funny, decent, genuine messages? | |
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