| | My First Experience On plenty of fish!Page 1 of 1 | This is the forum where you may share your first in person meeting date here on plentyoffish! What did you guy's do? A tradional Dinner date? Movie date? Get drunk and woke up the next morning asking yourself who is this person next to me? What happened I would like to know!
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| My First Experience On plenty of fish!
Posted: 1/11/2010 5:22:15 PM | Being the forum Creator I thought I would get the Ball Rolling a bit..
Being respectful I will not publicise the name of this person or his whereabouts...
When I first went to his profile honestly i wasnt impressed i didnt waste my time didnt send a message nothing.. The next day this person sends me a message and says very interested so i thought i would be nice and give him a shot. We spoke for a few days and met down the street from my place since he was already living very close too me. We went to the bar had some drinks and dinner (I paid) He wanted to watch a movie but complained he didnt have a dvd player so i bought one we watched movies all night had a party and I stayed the night.. Basically we dated for a month met his family and friends bought him christmas presents and I just ended things a couple of days ago because he turned out to be a player, I dont date multiple people at a time and i think i deserve the same respect when getting to know eachother and getting into a relationship. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2010 11:23:45 AM | | Dating multiple people doesn't make you a player. Did you ask him to only date you? Did you discuss with him your dating preference? If not, you really don't have a leg to stand on. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2010 11:26:17 PM | | Dating multiple people at the same time is pretty standard. Unless there is a conversation about exclusiveness/monogamy you have no basis to assume it. Were adults not 14yr olds. | |
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Posted: 1/24/2010 11:07:50 PM | | I'm really a coffee first person. Then again I don't drink at all. I've been dissapointed a few times because men just don't look as good in person when I've gotten to the coffee shop. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2011 2:13:56 PM | | My first date was a dinner date with a man I met here online, for about a month, things were going real good, we went out several times to dinner, played pool, etc. and texted sometimes. I really liked this guy! He was so into his work-he owns his own business-(would like to give his profile name) so, I was patient with him as he explained that he would be busy for about 3 weeks working a lot! Ok, so during that time, I experienced jealousy, frustration and a lot of impatience, he never knew of this-thought patience would pay off in the end. After that, we had a concert date-(made earlier), he was so very nervous, I knew this was it-He acted very different towards me-I was being dumped! He said the typical line"I'll call you tomorrow"! never heard from him again! He just wanted sex! So disrespectful, he is a chicken and a coward! Would like to get back at him, but who does that help? Losers and players on here, tired of this, we are adults--just keep it simple and be respectful! | |
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Posted: 7/13/2011 12:47:57 PM | | First date off of POF I went to meet a guy at his house for a movie. Introduced ourselves and sat down on the couch, he popped in a movie that he owned and said he had watched several times but since I had not seen it he wanted me to watch it. The movie starts and I try to make some conversation because the point of it was to meet him not see the movie, every time I tried talking he would interupt and say "shhhh watch this part." Which was awkward. When trying to put a drink on the table he dropped a coster and I went to pick it up off of the floor (this is after being at his house maybe 5 minutes) as soon as I bent down to pick it up he reached his hand up the back of my shirt and un-did my bra. While fixing my bra I made a lame excuse to bail as I walked to the door and tried to open it he slammed it shut and grabbed my hand and spun me around to hug me, which I returned with a back pat. Then he reached his head down to kiss me which I squirmed my way out of and ran out his door and speed off. lol Most interesting first date ever | |
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Posted: 7/20/2011 12:00:56 AM | It seems like it's these kinds of bad interactions with men that make this online dating thing very difficult. Being a women on a dating site is... (correct me if I'm wrong) much different... i mean inbox full of messages from men you don't know and a majority of them have a predatory attitude or intention. So you take a chance on one and bam! Really a shame... some men have no clue.
What helps me understand this better. Is imagining I'm in a prison with a ton of big guys and a lot of them want to rape or screw me. For some women or most... (please correct me if this is a bit of an exaggeration...) feel this way everyday.
I can imagine it's very hard to find a person who has a mutual intention towards meeting one another in any situation. No one is trust worthy unless they prove otherwise.
How does a guy really provide a sense of security? I imagine its very difficult because it's like we got this drive. Then after we've tasted flesh we have second thoughts. Sometimes it's genuine, sometimes not... But non the less it happens. So you more or less have to hold back on the whole idea of intimacy, and learn to really love a person first. You become intimate with them not because your horny or needing to have sex, but because you love the person, and thusly want to please them. Not the other way around... Like for instance... you have sex, your pleased, so you love them... lol...
Seems a bit old fashioned to current way of thinking... people are too quick to jump into bed and they whine when they get disappointed or let down or dumped. Because the essential elements aren't there. Women bark about "Honesty" or "A Real Man!" which is fine... but we are all "real men" and personally I'd say I have no issue with being completely honest with women. "Honestly, I'm a Man and I want to have sex with you because your really attractive, even though I don't know you at all personally." Is generally the attitude we have. Honestly... We are thinking this all through-out dinner and the nice walk in the park. Then if given the opportunity we are very tempted to touch and eventually put thought into action. Then if we fulfill our fantasy we are left thinking. "Great! I'm proud of myself! Now do I really want to be a part of this persons life?" It's only after did we even consider the implications of our actions. Now this is a sub-conscious case. In the worst case this person thought about all the implications and decided to act upon his fantasies anyway.
You can imagine how easy it is for a man to make the decision to get some and ask questions later... Now that I'm done with my rant...
My experience with POF is that I get little to no interest from women. I figure well maybe I should send out messages and then I'll find some who are interested. I don't know whether it's that my profile sucks or maybe I'm just not that great looking. But I get the feeling a big part of it is the attitude toward this whole idea of online dating in the minds of men and women.
There isn't a genuine enough profile in the world to make up for the huge area of uncertainty.
Maybe I'm incorrect on some of this but hey... no one is all knowing. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2011 8:13:03 AM | I think what you said is pretty much dead on on what men and women think. That is what makes this whole online dating thing more difficult.
If you are worried about your profile I would do a profile review | |
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Posted: 7/21/2011 1:15:25 AM | I'm not so certain I am "dead on" But I believe I've brought up some important points. Some times it's just the question of "Is this really someone I care enough about?" Sometimes the answer is yes, sometimes the answer is painfully no... we have to look at the reasons why we choose to be with people. Not that sex isn't a good reason to want to be with someone, but it's clear that isn't the only goal for most people seeking real companionship. Men and Women respectively. We are all human beings here.
I believe I put too much thought into this stuff sometimes. I sometimes feel people are living in fantasy land. When it comes to online dating. They are dreaming of someone wildly and want there "Prince" or there "Hot Gal" or whatever it is they gleam. When the truth is they are seeking an idea of a person, not an actual real person with real problems and real circumstances. Judging by what I've seen... this is what people are looking at. Pictures and profiles, a self created image. We do our best to base this information on real facts. But we are also painting a picture for people to look at. It's really easy to paint a great picture of yourself and your life. (easy to paint a bad one too...) Until you get to the point of actually meeting in real physics. There is no "real" connection to the other person besides the sharing of thoughts and concepts. I say this because people rarely are in a position to honestly share enough about themselves to paint a real picture of who they are to make any real decision besides "lets talk and then sit and visit with eachother". That's the only goal here I presume that is attainable, that can promise any real positive result. So that people can make a real connection with this other person.
As far as my own profile goes... I seem to have an issue writing one in general. Either I make it too short, or I make it very long and its a bit much... I haven't been able to write one that sticks. I'll try taking your advice about the review at some point.
I tend to write too much, I've got a lot on my mind. Ideas and theories mostly. A Rant. Call it what you will. | |
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Posted: 7/21/2011 12:56:41 PM | | Ya if you do a profile review people will tell you if it is too short, too long, not specific enough, they will pretty much tell you what to do to make your profile more appealing. | |
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Posted: 3/21/2012 9:29:45 PM | Ok so, I had been talking to a guy that I met on here for 4 weeks... I felt like we became friends, if nothing else.. I mean we talked about everything... like he would call me 3 to 4 times a day and so we finely meet and we hang out and have a great time... I thought... I guess he didnt because he stopped calling me, he stopped texting me and he stopped taking my calls... what the heck? I dont get it... to me it seams like alot to go through just to get laid...  I feel like I lost a friend and its crap... | |
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Posted: 3/22/2012 9:44:33 PM | Well overall..people are online because they arent exactly stellar and yet there are exceptions. Neither men OR women look as they do in photos..and a few look better!
Now you I think, wow, not above average but WAY above average..If only you were ten yrs older..Ahh..
And this woman, she was being taken for a ride by a user. No excuses for him doing it or her for letting him!
Move on, wise up! | |
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Posted: 3/22/2012 9:52:46 PM | Fire bug, women do it too..Not just men.
They like you and then poof, another option and theyre gone..As If..This is the human species unless you take a security deposit and require full accoutning for behavior if they want it back. First sometimes a honeymoon or rave reviews about how youre so great and then suddenly nothing.
I truly find that the more they rave about you the less real they likely are in fact.
So if you give something..be sure you really want to give it like a book or gift or yourself, because it may not ever be returned.
Youll find in the end its really all about who you are, nobody else, as close as youre trying to become to somebody its still really just you..in the most intimate of settings.. | |
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Posted: 4/1/2012 8:46:38 AM | I know that it's not just men.. I am really not one that judges a person on their gender, I've been working behind a bar and seen way too much crap for that.. and still I let some jerk do that what the hell lol... javascript:smilie(' ') | |
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