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 jetj
Joined: 10/10/2009
Msg: 1
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Okay so when you have good rapport with someone on the phone, does it ever work out? I've been talking to a guy for a couple of weeks & find his voice very sexy. What are the chances of chemistry in person working?
 Montreal_Guy
Joined: 3/8/2004
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Posted: 1/12/2010 10:38:01 PM
Same chances as meeting anyone, honestly.

Dating is still a "physical process" not one based on audio. You can talk with someone and have a great time, but they may not interest you in person romantically- for many reasons.

Then again, they may.

It is (potentially at least) a good start....if all else follows. Good communication is one of the mainstays of a good relationship, imho.
 PurSuAsian
Joined: 9/1/2008
Msg: 3
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Posted: 1/12/2010 10:38:29 PM

Okay so when you have good rapport with someone on the phone, does it ever work out?

NOT necessarily!
I've had numerous conversation with lots people, some had to hang up after few sentences,
few that I was able to have a decent conversation/rapport with ... but when you get a
chance to meet in person, OMG! sometimes, you just have to scream out loud "OMG."

And I have learned to keep my expectation LOW regardless how great the conversation is/was,
this way, you will be less disappointed if s/he turned out not the one that you are looking
for.

Finally, chatted with someone seemed level-headed. Met in person, and turned out ... his
pleasant demeanor is just what I am looking for!
 Aisfor_Amanda
Joined: 11/1/2009
Msg: 4
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Posted: 1/12/2010 10:40:10 PM
It might work out. Or he might just have a good phone personality. Some people are much better behind a phone/computer than they are in person. Hold off the idea of having feelings for him until you actually meet
 arecpea
Joined: 4/29/2009
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Posted: 1/12/2010 10:47:20 PM
Why are people so interested in predictions and knowing if something is going to work out. Even if everyone on here says it will doesnt mean it will.

but to answer u question


Some guys are more themselves on the ohone and some guys are more themselves in person. You cant under estimate the power of physical attraction, it, can do wonders. If you are still drawn to him, and he you when u first see him. So many factors come into play. Does he look like an ex that messed u over. Are u wearing something he finds agreeable, or maybe too agreeable.

The answer to your question, like all yes or no answers isss.............. u got a 50 percent chance. BOOM. I have spoken
 Blk_Archangel7
Joined: 12/21/2007
Msg: 6
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Posted: 1/12/2010 10:49:32 PM
I think good but that's up to you to decide that
 Ependa
Joined: 7/16/2009
Msg: 7
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Posted: 1/12/2010 10:58:19 PM
Lol, I'm discovering..you will never know til you meet =) Sexy voice is certainly a bonus tho...but not a guarantee of chemistry. Even a good rapport..great start..no guarantees for chemistry. I think it just works out when it works out ;-) Lol, how very zen.
 Warped_Humour
Joined: 10/10/2009
Msg: 8
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Posted: 1/12/2010 11:02:21 PM

Same chances as meeting anyone, honestly.


This. Only way to find out is to meet him and see what it's like for you and him. Don't get your hopes held too high. What if he decides you're not the one and you like him madly? Keep it low and even on the expectations and hope until you're actually involved with someone. I think most of us(or me for sure) can say we held our hopes too high in situations only to be let down.

I am one of those constant daydreamers that has often in the past had me married to a man before a date has even occurred. What the hell? It is something I have had to work on for sure. :)
 ChancesRMD
Joined: 4/11/2009
Msg: 9
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Posted: 1/12/2010 11:08:56 PM
It's just a peek into the overall big picture that you have to look at. I guess you could say they get points for having a nice voice and being able to hold a good conversation.
 SassySky
Joined: 9/26/2008
Msg: 10
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Posted: 1/12/2010 11:16:26 PM

Okay so when you have good rapport with someone on the phone, does it ever work out?

Work out as what a great phone chat friend sure, as a relationship there is no way to know til you spend time in person.

Get off the phone and meet him ASAP.
 michaely2k
Joined: 7/29/2008
Msg: 11
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Posted: 1/12/2010 11:17:12 PM
How about chatting on messanger with webcam before you really meet in person, that way you can see each other and can see the facial reactions as well. A friend of mine once told me that webcams are terrible thing to waste. Good luck.
 PurSuAsian
Joined: 9/1/2008
Msg: 12
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Posted: 1/12/2010 11:37:18 PM

webcam before you really meet in person

Well, the thing is how many people can avoid the stripping-cam?
Sometimes, I get FREE porn. But all I wish was the guy on the other side of the cam is a
Chippendale dancer!

Yeah, YOU, YOU & YOU! You know who I was referring...no no no, NOT you, but HIM!
 SassySky
Joined: 9/26/2008
Msg: 13
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Posted: 1/13/2010 12:08:19 AM

Well, the thing is how many people can avoid the stripping-cam?

I have never had someone try to do the stripping thing the ground rules it have been fun and actually a great experience.

I actually have it on my profile been there for over a year now before a meet and greet a webcam session is a must.
 I Cornelius
Joined: 1/4/2009
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Posted: 1/13/2010 12:16:02 AM
Yeah... it's pretty much just a step by step until the actual in person meeting. Don't get me wrong, the actual ability to converse and find each other HONESTLY interesting during a conversation is a must and generally a good sign, but it doesn't mean that you will have the same chemistry when you see the person with full surround in 3D, dig?

Of course it's a step in the right direction, but don't assume it will be a slam dunk just yet.
 arecpea
Joined: 4/29/2009
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Posted: 1/13/2010 12:42:40 AM
and we wonder why we are single lol.
 ForumFilly
Joined: 5/14/2008
Msg: 16
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Posted: 1/13/2010 12:56:00 AM
Hold on... I'm shaking the Magic 8-Ball!

*shakes the Magic 8-Ball vigorously up and down*

Okay, let's see what it says...

* Signs point to yes.
* Yes.
* Reply hazy, try again.
* Without a doubt.
* My sources say no.
* As I see it, yes.
* You may rely on it.
* Concentrate and ask again.
* Outlook not so good.
* It is decidedly so.
* Better not tell you now.
* Very doubtful.
* Yes - definitely.
* It is certain.
* Cannot predict now.
* Most likely.
* Ask again later.
* My reply is no.
* Outlook good.
* Don't count on it.

Okay, pick the answer you want it to be because that's about as accurate as asking us. We don't know you and we sure don't know him so how can we determine whether or not there will be chemistry?

Now I have a question for you. Are you really 46??

*again shakes the Magic 8-Ball*

Answer: "Very doubtful"
 anonymouslyme
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 17
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Posted: 1/13/2010 1:06:04 AM
I wouldn't get too excited yet. Years ago, I worked in a real estate office and often spoke with a gentlman at another company we did business with. His voice was so deep and sexy, I'd practically melt every time we spoke, and he was intelligent, open, witty, hysterically funny... just so, so appealing. One day some paperwork needed to be dropped off at his place of business, and I jumped at the opportunity. He was nothing like the picture in my mind, and when we shook hands, it was like holding an old dead fish.... blech! To say there was no chemistry would be an extreme understatement. That's why it's so very important to meet in person as soon as you feel comfortable, saves a lot of time and hard feelings.
 Write Time
Joined: 12/29/2008
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Posted: 1/13/2010 2:11:58 AM
Well, the odds are a whole lot better than if you *don't* connect on the phone!

Nothing's a sure bet until you meet in person and see if there are any sparks to nurture. But if you've connected online and on the phone so far, then you've got to be encouraged.
 xlr8ingmargo
Joined: 7/28/2009
Msg: 19
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Posted: 1/13/2010 2:36:28 AM
I date lots off this and talk to guys all the time. You just don't know even after months of phone calls what you'll get in person. Ive driven up to six hours only to be disappointed.
Other times it's been great. It's pot luck supper.
 Arabianangel
Joined: 6/9/2007
Msg: 20
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Posted: 1/13/2010 2:54:01 AM
^^^^^^Girl you've driven 6 hours to meet a guy? wow my max is 30 minutes drive and he bloody better be worth it!
 GotAHubCapDiamondStarHalo
Joined: 10/25/2009
Msg: 21
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Posted: 1/13/2010 3:08:44 AM

Well, the thing is how many people can avoid the stripping-cam?
I tried getting naked on the computer once, but I fell off!!


find his voice very sexy. What are the chances of chemistry in person working?
Not sure, OP. But if you have not been blessed with the gifts of sight and smell, odds are in your favor!
 See N Date hahaha
Joined: 12/30/2009
Msg: 22
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Posted: 1/13/2010 4:24:19 AM
Very high... I find that when the phone conversation goes well, the meeting is great... For me a great phone conversation is a must and I won't do the date if the conversation isn't fabulous and the voice isn't one I want to listen to for the rest of my life...

While this has only happened twice, both times it has resulted in a wonderful relationship. On the converse when it hasn't gone well and I've pursued the date it has 100% been a bust and I've kicked myself for not following what I know to be true.
 afashionlady
Joined: 4/19/2008
Msg: 23
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Posted: 1/13/2010 4:37:34 AM
Odds are 50/50...if you've not exchanged pics....20%

Ask a friend of mine...we had this very same convo. Talked to a woman, she sounded sexy...then he said her picture reminded him of Fiona...take it anyway you want.

A couple of weeks? How far apart do you all live? You are beyond the point of this question...what's the holdup for meeting? And I know some woman is going to say what's the rush? To that I'll say she says he sounds sexy...wouldn't she want to know if he IS sexy (in her eyes)?
 *~*ChardyGirl*~*
Joined: 6/29/2007
Msg: 24
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Posted: 1/13/2010 4:46:13 AM
Op,please meet ASAP !

I spent four long months chatting to someone once.
I certainly would've liked to meet sooner but he had his reasons........that's a whole other saga......Meanwhile,we spoke 3-4 times a week and i really got to like him a LOT.

Then............*drumroll*...........we met.


My god........the details aren't important,but i never made this "mistake" again,
 Zuglo
Joined: 5/12/2005
Msg: 25
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Posted: 1/13/2010 5:18:51 AM
Well, I think if you two having a great conversation on the phone, is always a good sign.
Course he could froze up in a face to face talk..LOL
Or the voice doesn't match the looks..
I am lucky..I was told that I have a sexy voice, well, sexy accent, and I am ..um..well..
LOL
Guess you don't have a picture of him? And it's been a couple of weeks??..Hm..
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