| | Blocked by someone after no msg?Page 1 of 4 (1, 2, 3, 4) | Anyone else seen this. Send someone a message, something like 'hey, hows things fancy a chat'?
But then get a message saying that I have been blocked? Even though I have never messaged the person before? is there a bug in POF? or are people blocking profiles that they dont like the look of, even before they have chatted to the person...
Seems just plain wierd to me? | |
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| Blocked by someone after no msg?
Posted: 1/14/2010 5:49:21 AM | | I think they call it ignorance or analy retentive? Plenty more fish in the sea who’ll appreciate your emails and willingness to make the first move; don’t worry about it. | |
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Posted: 1/14/2010 5:59:44 AM | I don't send such messages, but I know that many people hate receiving them, and with good reason.
What is there to 'chat' about?
The sender hasn't bothered to open the conversation by referring to the other's profile or forum posts, and has said nothing about themselves.
Would anyone REALLY walk up to a stranger in a pub and say "wanna chat?"
Anyone who sends such a message and gets blocked has been given a valuable piece of advice, and should heed it.
HTH | |
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Posted: 1/14/2010 8:29:01 AM |
Anyone who sends such a message and gets blocked has been given a valuable piece of advice, and should heed it.
Agreed. I get messages just saying 'wanna chat?' and the only response I can send is either yes or no, there is no opening for anything else to talk about. I get fed up with the onus falling on me to start up conversation. Actually I just get fed up with the semi-illiterate text talkers who think drinking is a hobby and their sole ambition in life is to spend as much of it hammered out of their skulls .. which seem to make up the majority of the male population of my city on here... but thats another thread  | |
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Posted: 1/14/2010 8:59:10 AM | | Totally agree with post 4. Of course we want to chat with someone, that's why we're on here in the first place, engage your brain and actually ask open ended questions. | |
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Posted: 1/14/2010 9:42:51 AM | There are probably some vain people out there and some may not like the look of you. I wouldn't take it personally because at the end of the day you're being polite so it's not your problem that they aren't polite back.
Take it on the chin and keep on at it and you'll find that there are some nice ladies out there as their not all b*tches.
Goodluck with the dating process.  | |
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Posted: 1/14/2010 10:02:53 AM | I agree with message 4 or was it 5...and worse still are the messages that just say 'Hi' or 'Hello' and nothing else
I reciprocate with the same
The worse worse worserer type are like the one I got the other day...'Oooo I could give you a good tongue-tickling'...I mean what do you say to that! I'm not into my tongue being tickled anyways... | |
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Posted: 1/14/2010 10:35:50 AM | Having seen other threads like this, I'm starting to wonder if some people are just automatically blocking people who've contacted them and they're not interested in.
I think it's pretty rude to do this to someone who's only messaged you once and isn't making a nuisance of themselves.
However, I do agree with messages 4 and 5 in that you can't expect people to reply to one liner messages. | |
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Posted: 1/14/2010 10:59:25 AM | Are you sure you just arent allowed past their restrictions??
You do not get a message saying "You have been blocked" unless you try to email them again THEN you would get that message.
Chances are there is something that is stopping you getting past their filters....
Been emailing women who are looking for intimate encounters? Maybe without even realising it? LOTS of women on here have the "must not be looking for intimate encounters" filter which stops you emailing us with it if you have been emailing women looking for that as well. | |
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Posted: 1/14/2010 11:25:00 AM | It is rude but if the person you have contacted doesnt want to talk to you what difference does it make. I remember on another site adding someone as a favourite and they removed it. I was very offended! lol. That was years ago and Ive learned a lot since then. No point in getting upset or offended because someone you like doesnt like you. It would be the same if you went down the pub.
Keep trying op and maybe, just maybe you will strike lucky | |
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Posted: 1/14/2010 12:27:51 PM | Even though I have never messaged the person before?
Its impossible for someone to block you if you have never sent them a msg.
It sounds like The OP has got confused here between being blocked and mail restrictions.
It could also have something to do with that blonde wig he's wearing!! | |
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Posted: 1/14/2010 1:07:37 PM | | I've experienced that from my first day here. It wasn't very clear about the fact that you wouldn't be allowed to message certain people if you've messaged people that have intimate encounters on. I've messaged almost every type of criteria and it's just to spark off some talk and I still have a success rate of nothing. However in the process of messaging ladies I've managed to block myself from messaging those that don't want to hear from people that have messaged the ones with intimate encounter on. However I'm an individual and if they chose to block me based on whom I've messaged then it's pretty silly in my opinion as some people probably message anyone trying to be friendly. It doesn't always mean they want an intimate encounter but all it meant to me was trying to get more chat going however I'm barred from contact certain girls but I don't care. Their loss for not seeing what I'm about and judging everyone with the same brush. | |
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Posted: 1/14/2010 1:43:08 PM |
I've experienced that from my first day here. It wasn't very clear about the fact that you wouldn't be allowed to message certain people if you've messaged people that have intimate encounters on. I've messaged almost every type of criteria and it's just to spark off some talk and I still have a success rate of nothing. However in the process of messaging ladies I've managed to block myself from messaging those that don't want to hear from people that have messaged the ones with intimate encounter on. However I'm an individual and if they chose to block me based on whom I've messaged then it's pretty silly in my opinion as some people probably message anyone trying to be friendly. It doesn't always mean they want an intimate encounter but all it meant to me was trying to get more chat going however I'm barred from contact certain girls but I don't care. Their loss for not seeing what I'm about and judging everyone with the same brush.
bit on the defensive?
You say you have a zero success rate ... that may well be because you obviously aren't reading the profiles before you message, including peoples restrictions. Must not have contacted someone looking for IE is a pretty common one to spot on profiles along with Must not be married. If you aren't reading their profiles then presumably you are sending a generic message (or mass mailing) which the majority of us females can spot a mile off. | |
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Posted: 1/14/2010 1:47:53 PM | | What I find weird is guys send you a message,and when you look at their profile it has age restrictions on it,so if I had seen them and wanted to send a message I wouldn't of been able to,why do they do searches with age ranges in that they don't want to hear from? | |
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Posted: 1/14/2010 2:05:57 PM |
bit on the defensive?
You say you have a zero success rate ... that may well be because you obviously aren't reading the profiles before you message, including peoples restrictions. Must not have contacted someone looking for IE is a pretty common one to spot on profiles along with Must not be married. If you aren't reading their profiles then presumably you are sending a generic message (or mass mailing) which the majority of us females can spot a mile off.
From being open and explaining why I message ladies? Ok if you say so 
Fair points about the not paying attention and the reason for that is I've tried the whole reading profiles and writing essay messages and that got no response so now I just keep them short and sweet. Obviously not the best way but that goes to show that I'm not going at this 100% anymore as it's not for me but hope you're having a good time. | |
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Posted: 1/14/2010 2:14:24 PM | | Yes agree with messages 4 & 5, I will not reply to Hi Hun , what is there to reply to? and I hate text speak on emails. I have altered my message setting to minimum of 50 characters so now I get Hi Hun.....followed by dots, slashes etc you cant win | |
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Posted: 1/14/2010 2:38:27 PM | My interpretation of this topic is that he’s trying to be civil and sending out messages which are probably open ended (one would hope). So in theory what’s been said about other messages aren’t really relevant to him?
Would there be a reasonable explanation if he wrote out a thought out mail to someone but they blocked him without any reason as to why? Only thing that strikes me is that they probably don’t like the look of him. As it can’t be because he hasn’t tried to put effort into his messages?
Or have I got the wrong idea about this topic? | |
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Posted: 1/14/2010 2:41:43 PM | I've just realised about him saying 'fancy a chat?'
Ok I can now see the point why they probably don't reply. Ignore my above post as I'm mistaken and thought he put effort into his messages.
Here's a tip for you....
Put some effort into your messages and imagine you're approaching someone in real life..... What would you expect them to hear? If someone said fancy a chat to me? I'd think they weren't very confident. Best thing to do is ask them how they are? Least that way you're asking them something relevant. Chances are you may still not get a response but least it's better than hey fancy a chat? | |
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Posted: 1/14/2010 3:25:54 PM | I share most of the ladies opinion about one liners but I have to say I don't mind being asked if I fancy a chat. It's not offensive. If I'm interested (they look nice and they have a decent profile) I might say yes. How long for depends on what they've had to say... I have a low boredom threashold. My pet hate is the "Hi sexy wanna chat" messages so sometimes I ignore those or reply no thanks.
But to block someone after such a message is a tad severe IMHO.  | |
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Posted: 1/14/2010 3:57:51 PM | ""Anyone else seen this. Send someone a message, something like 'hey, hows things fancy a chat'?
But then get a message saying that I have been blocked? Even though I have never messaged the person before? is there a bug in POF? or are people blocking profiles that they dont like the look of, even before they have chatted to the person...""
maybe ^^^isn't all that clear but am I right in thinking it says your message isn't actually sending and you are being told you are blocked rather than you have sent one then not been able to send another?
if it's the former thats a message setting thing,unless you have forgotten you have messaged her previously | |
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Posted: 1/14/2010 4:47:12 PM |
Fair points about the not paying attention and the reason for that is I've tried the whole reading profiles and writing essay messages and that got no response so now I just keep them short and sweet.
Profiles are there to be read.
Any smoker who tries to send an email to a person who has 'must not smoke' in their restrictions DESERVES to be told that they cannot email that person.
I do get your point about the 'must not have messaged for IE' restriction, but people have a perfect right to have that restriction.
Or have I got the wrong idea about this topic?
Yes.
People like more than an invitation to 'chat' with a stranger. | |
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Posted: 1/14/2010 7:43:06 PM | It is rude but if the person you have contacted doesnt want to talk to you what difference does it make.
I agree, Lynx, but I think it's the blocking that's upsetting these guys. To have a message ignored is one thing, but to find themselves blocked into the bargain could be hurtful - particularly after they've managed to stump up the courage to contact someone.
I think we've all probably received silly one liner messages, or messages from way inappropriate age groups, which we tend to ignore, but blocking seems a bit harsh to me, unless they persist... | |
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Posted: 1/15/2010 2:20:32 AM | | I think a lot of guys don't really know how to start a chat... I'm probably one of them. 'Hey, how are you...?' might be generic and dull, but what is a good opener? What do you ladies like to read in a message? Educate us. | |
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