| Ever have a good date....To never hear from them again....?
Posted: 7/13/2005 4:16:17 PM | What is the deal? From my end it seems like a good meeting, and it seems like the other person likes you... and then they avoid you... what the hell is up with that? Why cant people just say "hey Im not interested" and have some balls to tell the truth.... whats up with that?
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| Ever have a good date....To never hear from them again....?
Posted: 7/13/2005 4:21:19 PM | | I agree what the hell, it has happened to me, I had a great date with a guy he couldnt wait to see me again, so we had another great date, then that was was it he started blowing me off, the worst part about it was it made me nuts to know if it was something I did or said, I like you wish he would have just had the balls enough to tell me. | |
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| Ever have a good date....To never hear from them again....?
Posted: 7/13/2005 9:43:50 PM | Ya, it can take allot to buck up and be a man, however I know loads of girls that do the same... I suppose it all comes down to the fact that they don't want to lead you on and don't know how to be brave and honest. Or maybe the just don't think it's worth it.. it was only one date. Who knows what goes through the mind. Give it one phone call and 3 days for the call back- nada.. then cary on. Then the ball is in thier court and your don't have to worry.
I had become best best friends with this guy for 5 years and finally when I was single, he was the friend who brushed the dust off my butt and made me laugh again. We started getting a little kissy-kissy.. then all of the sudden he just *poof!* dissapeared! No visit to my work, no text message, no phone call.. just *poof!*. A few months after he tried to make it up to me, but I don't want to be with someone who is just going to *poof!* on me after feeding me all this "I'm never going to let you go" buisness... Friends? yes.. Lovers? No way! | |
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| Ever have a good date....To never hear from them again....?
Posted: 7/13/2005 9:59:22 PM | I have had a few of those as well... I dont really call this a date we met at a timmys... but we wheere there for 2.5 hours... then he drove me to where i had to be , gave me a hug bye and told me he would call me ... never heard from him again .... My questions is why would you spend over 2 hours at a tim hortons talking with someone if you where not interested in them????
I actualy came across him after that and he siad the reason he didnt call was cuz he was busy... but he took my number again ...never to call me ... i just dont get why guys do that   | |
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| Ever have a good date....To never hear from them again....?
Posted: 7/13/2005 10:02:28 PM | Yes...this has happened to me a lot...even with no sex...I don't get it either because I know when someone is having a good time with me and the conversation is flowing. I usually send a friendly e-mail the next day to thank him for dinner..a nice evening or whatever..and leave it in their hands. As much as I would love to know what the reason was for no further contact I just chalk it up to a good memory and move on.....   | |
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| Ever have a good date....To never hear from them again....?
Posted: 7/14/2005 2:51:18 AM | Yeah, same thing happened to me, we went out, had a great time, laughed, flirted, etc.
I call her up for a 2nd date, and she was very short with me, and then tells me that she's busy on Saturday with a class at the local community college, and volunteered to work overtime on the weekend too (Federal Govt position, yeah right, lol) | |
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| Ever have a good date....To never hear from them again....?
Posted: 7/14/2005 5:45:01 AM | | Happened to me. We had talked for a month..met..had dinner..seen a movie..kissing was involved..date ended with her giving me a kiss that could peel paint off a car from the intense heat of it..said she couldn't wait to go out again..left a message on yahoo for me thanking me for the best time she had in years..never heard from her again..no response to me email, im's or phone calls. | |
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| Ever have a good date....To never hear from them again....?
Posted: 7/14/2005 3:24:07 PM | Aah. I've been thinking about starting that thread for about a month.
I got tallking to a friend of a friend in a pub last month. Now I can't read "signals" to save my life, but what she doing was so text-book and fool-proof that it was actually all in my book (Women for Dummies).
I gave her my number, she texted me saying she had a lovely time. then said we'd probably meet again one day or the other. Meaning it wouldn't be on purpose =>I went down faster than an unsinkable ship. 
You have to laugh though. It was so pathetic. And I don't mean her. | |
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| Ever have a good date....To never hear from them again....?
Posted: 7/14/2005 3:33:13 PM | oh yeah...
had a wonderful date onetime - laughing, nice dinner, walk on the riverfront, holding hands, tender kiss goodnight.
I called the next day - she told me 'God had convicted her for our unrestrained behavior and our relationship could not go forward'...
had never been dumped by God before that... | |
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| Ever have a good date....To never hear from them again....?
Posted: 7/14/2005 4:23:56 PM | Glad I'm not the only one.
I really can't say I'm any the wiser after reading the input from you folks. I do wish I did have an answer for this. I am a firm believer that there is always an underlying reason for a particular behavior, but for the life of me I have no idea what it is in this case.
There is always some consolation in knowing that others are going through the very same thing as you are. Having gone through the profiles of everyone who has posted into this thread (both guys and gals), I would say that none of you should have had any of this sort of trouble at all.
I think I'll just have to keep shaking my head and resign myself to the fact that I am still more than just a smidge confused about not only the behavior of the female of the species but my own as well. Is "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus" really that far off the mark?
Thanks a million for your input and insight, folks. As always, I've gained a great deal of strength and insight in reading your findings on this wonderful fishing expedition. | |
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| Ever have a good date....To never hear from them again....?
Posted: 7/14/2005 5:08:47 PM | | tunes Nice headline. Don't shake your head too hard it can hurt (from one who knows)...haha I wouldn't fret a bit it happens to everyone, those who posted here just admit it, as I do,too. I don't ponder too hard on behavior that seems irrational, I just consider it's irrational behavior, and thank goodness they're at least not bugging me any more. | |
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| Ever have a good date....To never hear from them again....?
Posted: 7/14/2005 5:26:02 PM | Yeah, that's happened to me 2 times already. It's either because they are workaholics (just care about working too much and too long) or they just are too damn shy or something... The first time was because he was always busy, but promised to take me out (7 months later!!) again and he never did... I dropped his a**!! Oh, you know who you are, Cagem!!!
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| Ever have a good date....To never hear from them again....?
Posted: 7/14/2005 5:38:14 PM | Well maybe some people are just too shy to actually say the word right to the face and dont want to make the person feel bad. I once went on a date with somebody after about 30 min conversation I knew she wasnt for me but I wasnt gonna break it apart right then, I thought i went all the way to meet her why not at least make the best of it while we at it?
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| Ever have a good date....To never hear from them again....?
Posted: 7/14/2005 7:04:28 PM | Well, I'd say the obvious reason was (drumroll please)... they didn't think it was such a good date (ta da!).
Been on both sides of this fence. Best advice I can give from either side is, drink a Bombay Sapphire martini, sigh, shrug shoulders, move on. If this doesn't work, repeat until it does. If you're one of the AA gang, go smoke a pack of unfiltered camels instead and go **** about your problems to a roomfull of people who are focusing all of their time and energy on rescuing their livers from cirrhosis by ensuring they die of lung cancer first.
Case closed. Next topic!
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| Ever have a good date....To never hear from them again....?
Posted: 7/14/2005 9:54:28 PM | Bucsgirl:
Don't think I've ever had the pleasure of talking to you before.
Thank you for the thumbs-up on my headline. There definitely aren't two of us here who thought of the same thing. That just might be getting "retro" enough that I'm "dating" myself, though. Who knows?
As usual, you have hit things right on the head. Something else that just occurred to me about shaking the head too hard was the possibility of some of the brains falling out. That could get just a smidge messy. Considering the apparent absence of it on at least selected parts of the planet sometimes, we really need to hold onto as much of that cerebral matter as we can, I think. Mind you, shaking the head is just a touch less painful than banging it against a brick wall, a temptation I often find myself almost succumbing to in light of work, trying to survive financially in these difficult times and the dating thing. Yikes!!! Baldness could start at the back of the head - soon!
The thing that surprises me the most isn't that so many of us are running into this type of behavior, but rather how frequently we all encounter it. This isn't exactly an insignificant minority we are talking about.
I have long valued and admired your input on the forums here on POF. You have always shown yourself to be someone supremely gifted with good old-fashioned common sense. You are in a bit of an elite club there. I also deeply admire your great wit. You hold your own quite nicely with anyone you come up against on here.
I'd like to thank you ever so much for all the sage wisdom you have shared and for your continuing contribution towards making POF the most special community it is. Not to mention the great entertainment as well. | |
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| Ever have a good date....To never hear from them again....?
Posted: 7/14/2005 10:04:51 PM | Leana:
Anybody who would choose work over someone like you is a most definite candidate for the white coat brigade. Be thankful things didn't go anywhere; you were spared having to watch that happen.
I just don't know about some of the members of my species. Men!!! What do you do with them? | |
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| Ever have a good date....To never hear from them again....?
Posted: 7/14/2005 10:15:42 PM | Diverse:
What you did is the gentlemanly (and non cowardly) thing to do. I would handle things exactly the same way. I think many of the people behaving as outlined in many of the posts in this thread are being just a little cowardly.
The thing that puzzles me about all this is the people who go on for days or even longer and then suddenly stop all communication, never to resume. What is with that?
Am I missing something here or should this actually be very cut and dried? Either you are "into" somebody or you are not, would we not agree? There isn't an "in-between", is there, or at least one that merits continuing something for an extended period of time? Any thoughts, anyone? Or am I getting too fatigued with the ensuing lateness of the hour? | |
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