| | What do girls mean when they say their last relationship was all about sex?Page 1 of 11 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11) | When a girl says that her previous relationships were entirely physical and that she wants to wait to have sex with me, what does she mean about what went on in those previous relationships? I can't imagine a guy telling a new date of his, "Let's wait, because my previous relationships were entirely physical...the girl just kept wanting sex..etc."
Can someone explain this in detail? I've never had a physical relationship like her but keep running into the ones that have, and am having a frustrating time. | |
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| What do girls mean when they say their last relationship was all about sex?
Posted: 2/25/2010 8:15:53 PM | Most likely that there was no emotional connection. Some women, dare I say most, need the emotional side of their partner as well as the physical. Some men, are just the opposit, the physical is more important than sharing emotionally. The relationship becomes unbalanced.
Usually for both, but I think women react more quickly to lack of emotions, because they will still be sexual in hopes that the emotions will return. In that scenario the guys are still getting what they need so they don't get the imbalance part right away. | |
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| What do girls mean when they say their last relationship was all about sex?
Posted: 2/25/2010 8:45:10 PM | | Imagine the plight of a guy who was horny like those people who fulfilled it in their relationships but never had that type of relationship 28 years of his life, only to keep running into the girls who have, who have now developed the 'make him wait' standard because of their previous sexual relationships. Wow, what a beautiful world. | |
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| What do girls mean when they say their last relationship was all about sex?
Posted: 2/25/2010 8:50:59 PM | "Imagine the plight of a guy who was horny like those people who fulfilled it in their relationships but never had that type of relationship 28 years of his life, only to keep running into the girls who have, who have now developed the 'make him wait' standard because of their previous sexual relationships. Wow, what a beautiful world."
Googling "blue balls remedy" | |
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| What do girls mean when they say their last relationship was all about sex?
Posted: 2/25/2010 9:33:12 PM |
Can you go into detail about this lack of emotional connection?
Seriously???? You're 28, emotional connection shouldn't be complete mystery.
Here is my take on it...
First scenario...she comes home after a long day and before she can even get in the door, he is all over her...wham bam thank you m'am.
Second scenario...again, she comes home after a long day...walks in to find that dinner is being made or ready, ha asks about her day, she his, maybe he runs a bath for her or massages her sholders or her feet...in any case non-sexual physical contact. They relax, enjoy the evening and make love before going to bed.
Niether scenario is bad, each has their place in a relationship but if all she ever gets is the first one she will eventually feel that the realtionship is purely physical.
People in general are emotional beings, for the most part women are more so. We need both the physical and emotional needs to be met. You part is to figure out how to balance this. Open communication is key. Ask questions early on (not on the first date but early) find out what each others expectations are. Understand that your needs may be different as a whole or just may end up being differt at certain times. | |
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| What do girls mean when they say their last relationship was all about sex?
Posted: 2/25/2010 9:41:07 PM | Now that I read this:
"Imagine the plight of a guy who was horny like those people who fulfilled it in their relationships but never had that type of relationship 28 years of his life, only to keep running into the girls who have, who have now developed the 'make him wait' standard because of their previous sexual relationships. Wow, what a beautiful world."
You sound just like her last guy.
Look, she's been there /done that.
If you want the FwB thing, find another girl.
If you want this girl...bring more than just your lust to the table.
Cus I think she has figured out the whole buy the cow or get the milk for free thing. | |
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| What do girls mean when they say their last relationship was all about sex?
Posted: 2/25/2010 9:49:11 PM | Ahhhh... I get it.
Since I am not here for dating... lol... Whenever a relationship gets sexual (for me) - we become like bunnies. I'm just as much of a pig as a guy... it's all I can think about... it's all they can think about... it's sex, sex, sex. Then when the 'newness' wears off, you realize that you don't really know the person. Then it's kinda weird. You're in this relationship... you've been in it for a while... and you don't know what the guy's favorite colour is because you were so busy having sex that you didn't think to ask.
If you take the time to get to know the other person first and establish an actual relationship, THEN when you get to sex it's ok to kind of take a hiatus for sex. Then when the 'newness' wears off - you actually have stuff to talk about and things you both know you like to do together.
It's a good thing. It means she really likes you and is thinking longer term. | |
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| What do girls mean when they say their last relationship was all about sex?
Posted: 2/25/2010 9:50:10 PM |
It means she's willing to use sex to manipulate you.
That was my impression as well.
OP, if she says that her last relationship(s) were all about sex, then it tells me one of three things...
1. She was in a FWB and try as she might to change that to a "real" relationship it just never happened
2. She was just going through the motions, and hoping that sex was going to change him in some way (similar to the above) to be more her "ideal" than he was, and try as she might it just never happened
3. The sex was just that good that she kept in it HOPING that there would be "more" in some way sooner or later, and try as she might that just never happened
In any event, it smacks of her wanting to use her sex and/or sexuality as a weapon sooner than later. Don't say you weren't warned.
JMO | |
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| What do girls mean when they say their last relationship was all about sex?
Posted: 2/25/2010 9:55:51 PM | You are 28, if you cannot figure out what someone means by the boyfriends or whatever not wanting more than sex, I don't think anyone can help you. It could be that they were FBs on the part of the guy and she wanted more, or maybe she had a relationship with someone that was a total asshat and hellooo, they connected in the bedroom and outside of bed didn't have enough between them to have a conversation.
You could actually ask her to explain what she meant since we have no clue.
Well, given your idiotic post about her developing the make them wait standard I expect she dated people just like you. She isn't making you wait, she is waiting because she chooses to develop a relationship with you before she has sex with you, which is what many, many mature people do because they don't want to shag someone they barely know.
And here's a clue, like anybody else on the planet she has a right to choose what she wishes to do with her body, when she wishes to do it and with whom she wishes to do it. | |
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| What do girls mean when they say their last relationship was all about sex?
Posted: 2/25/2010 10:01:05 PM | It could simply mean that She views it the same way many men do.. that being; the others were simply not relationship material so the relationship were kept purely physical.. (as she said to Op)
Perhaps she feels that Op is a good potential mate who, she's found she has lot in common with.
.. Or .. It could mean that she's not willing to let sex manipulate her emotions, as she may have in the past.
Op didn't even know what she meant.. so, perhaps she realizes his naivete and wants them to get to know each other more intimately and allow a bond to form from emotional connection rather than from sex. | |
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| What do girls mean when they say their last relationship was all about sex?
Posted: 2/25/2010 10:06:33 PM | Why is it always about the women using her sex or sexuality??? I'm not saying there aren't women out there that will keep you in a perpetual holding pattern, but not every women who wants to wait is using that part of her as a weapon.
As I said above, it goes both ways...
This is why communication is key. My last two LTR's played out completely differently.
First one...met once and then first date sex and the relationship lasted eight months. When it ended, it was for let's say logical reasons. That was 3 years ago and we remain friends (no benefits).
Next one...we waited, his choice which I was fine with. Fifth date or so...first time was great...every time after that not so much. Relationship ended after a month.
I'm not a fan of waiting indefinitely but I do want to know if he is playing the field or is really into me alone.
At this point, as far the OP is concerned, we have no idea how long he has been made to wait. If it has only been a couple of dates, then she is not using her sexuality. Now if it has been weeks or even months then sure, she could be using her sexuality as a weapon. In the latter, he made the choice to hang on so there must be something more there.
Bottom line...know each others expectations. If they don't match move on. | |
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| What do girls mean when they say their last relationship was all about sex?
Posted: 2/25/2010 10:07:15 PM | | Typically, when a girl says that her last relationship was all about sex, it means that she did not feel love from her partner. You need to talk to her and build a relationship first i.e. find common interest, spend time with her and listen to her. Based on experience, if you do that every day (at least 2-3 hours a day) it would take about 2 weeks to have a sex with her. Good luck!! | |
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| What do girls mean when they say their last relationship was all about sex?
Posted: 2/25/2010 10:13:33 PM | | How long have you been dating? How long does she want to wait? Does waiting to have intercourse mean that your interrelating dynamic will have NO natural development and nurturing of any type of sexual intimacy, (e.g., hand holding, smooching, caressing, etc.), that would ultimately lead to coitus? | |
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| What do girls mean when they say their last relationship was all about sex?
Posted: 2/25/2010 10:30:45 PM | It could mean that she wants you to find out what she wants from a relationship while she finds out what you want from a relationship and realizes that sex could get in the way of that process.
As for what went on in the last relationship the only way to find out is to ask her what her experience of it was. What ever it was she didnt stay in it. | |
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