| | Are there places it's not okay??Page 1 of 1 | Are there places where it's NEVER okay to hit on a girl?? I mean if I see a pretty lady I like to go up and talk to her.
Where do ladies go when they WANT to be approached? Is there a dress code for ladies who don't wanna be talked to?
I got the worst look the other day like, "oh my god why would you even talk to me right now". I would rather not experience that again... | |
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| Are there places it's not okay??
Posted: 3/7/2010 5:21:49 PM | Well, call it a long shot, but first thing that came to my mind was a funeral. Hitting on a chick at a funeral is probably a no-go.
Ditto with an STD or abortion clinic.
Court, jail, probation office, and psychiatric hospitals are also probably good places to keep the flirting on the down-low as well. | |
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| Are there places it's not okay??
Posted: 3/7/2010 5:24:01 PM | | Well Jay, hopefully the OP will not be in those places....lol OP, just about anywhere is okay I suppose. I will say at the Gym I do no like it for the most part, but anywhere else is okay as long as someone is not doing something they do not want to be interrupted doing. Time and a place, just like anything else. It would be more how you approach, more than where. | |
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Posted: 3/7/2010 5:31:53 PM | "I mean if I see a pretty lady I like to go up and talk to her."
Whoa, keep that up you could get hurt. Lots of pretty ladies have men, some have BIG men with no patience for you trying to slobber over their woman.
The best place to approach a woman who MAY be interested in talking with you is a social event for singles. Even that's not a guarantee, but there is no ideal hunting grounds for AVAILABLE pretty ladies.
Many women (at times myself included...ugh) get aggravated by some schmo bothering them while they're out and about trying to run some errands or just OUT and want to people watch or egad listen to some live music. | |
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Posted: 3/7/2010 5:42:30 PM | | And it's those times and those women I'm wanting to avoid. I'm definitely not trying to upset any of them I just like to flirt sometimes and want to know when it's a bad idea... | |
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| Are there places it's not okay??
Posted: 3/7/2010 5:47:57 PM | I say with the exception of funerals and places where being overly friendly and upbeat might put people off, if you have the right skills, talking to anyone anywhere isn't a bad thing.
"Hitting" on women in general is a bad idea. Talk to them, listen to what they say, give them space to sniff you out and have no agenda, and read and respond only to body language you know means interest if/when it presents itself. Obviously if she's with someone else you'll want to say a few pleasantries and go on your way regardless of how well it might have gone. | |
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| Are there places it's not okay??
Posted: 3/7/2010 5:53:03 PM |
Ditto with an STD or abortion clinic.
If she's not crying or carrying a little brown bag, those could quite possibly be the best places to hit on a woman.
I'll add to the list of no no's: family reunions (unless you're from Arkansas) | |
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| Are there places it's not okay??
Posted: 3/7/2010 5:53:56 PM | | Yes, I have a suggestion. If you are in a store and you see a lady with a cart full of Ibuprofen (Advil is a familiar brand name), naproxen (Aleve, Naprosyn), and ketoprofen (Orudis) , Midol or a big pack of Depends.....LEAVE HER ALONE! | |
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| Are there places it's not okay??
Posted: 3/7/2010 6:35:03 PM | If I see a guy I want to talk to - while out dancing etc- I generally ask if they are there with a date or in a relationship to avoid problems.
I agree that you should talk to anyone you really want to talk to. Some people say avoid women in groups of girls night out- I say go for it. A guy approached me in a very cute way in that situation and we became very good friends over time. Hey, they're not all going to be bfs/ gf's. | |
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| Are there places it's not okay??
Posted: 3/7/2010 6:43:30 PM |
Yes, I have a suggestion. If you are in a store and you see a lady with a cart full of Ibuprofen (Advil is a familiar brand name), naproxen (Aleve, Naprosyn), and ketoprofen (Orudis) , Midol or a big pack of Depends.....LEAVE HER ALONE!
 Haha. One of the best post I've seen in AAGirl in a while. I know for damn sure when I'm out picking up Advil, it usually means that I am not in the best of moods.
Menstrual cramps are a woman's worst nightmare. Well, mine anyway. | |
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Posted: 3/7/2010 6:53:45 PM | "I got the worst look the other day like, "oh my god why would you even talk to me right now". I would rather not experience that again..."
Good luck with that...odds are that person will post a thread here asking why they are seldom approached and asked out Some people have issues so I wouldnt take it personally... | |
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Posted: 3/7/2010 7:30:19 PM |
Hit on? Lots of places, times, etc. aren't okay. Try just being friendly. Try, Hi, I'm _____. Then, it's okay just about anywhere, even a funeral home, etc etc etc
Attitude and approach are key.
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Posted: 3/7/2010 8:16:47 PM |
Are there places where it's NEVER okay to hit on a girl?? I mean if I see a pretty lady I like to go up and talk to her. I suppose there's nothing to stop you in any situation but there are situations where you would be extremely likely to get a bad reaction or none at all. Some I can think of are:
- when she's dealing with children with behavioural problems like having a tantrum or running off
- lonely or isolated places where she might be frightened by your approach
- taking advantage of a situation where she has to do something for/with you at work to get her alone, e.g. cornering her in a back room or somewhere
- if she's giving a clear indication she doesn't want you to, like avoiding eye contact or only speaking to you briefly when necessary
- when she's sick or injured and you are supposed to be helping her
Where do ladies go when they WANT to be approached? Is there a dress code for ladies who don't wanna be talked to? Nowhere in particular, but it's considered the norm at dances, clubs, maybe parties, pubs (if she seems open to meeting new people). I don't think there's a dress code unless I've missed it all these years! I would think if she's wearing a nun's habit it might not be a good idea. Do not assume if she's shapely or has cleavage that she is deliberately inviting attention. She was just born that shape!
I got the worst look the other day like, "oh my god why would you even talk to me right now". I would rather not experience that again... Sorry that happened. Any individual can be stressed at any point and it's not always obvious to an outsider. Also, because a woman is out in the open air or in a public place, it does not mean she is inviting attention; she is just being. | |
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Posted: 3/8/2010 6:21:23 AM | If you are unattractive to women then, NEVER hit on them ANYWHERE! lol
Beyond that, I say it's all good!
I like fooling around at work BEST! 
After all, something has to make those long hours of imprisonment bearable! | |
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Posted: 3/8/2010 7:29:40 AM | Where do ladies go when they WANT to be approached?
this is simple.
women want to be approached by hot dudes.
duh.
don't complicate it bro.
I got the worst look the other day like, "oh my god why would you even talk to me right now". I would rather not experience that again...
dude, that usually means she likes you even more and she just doesn't know it. greatest love of my life gave me that same exact look and lip...
often times the ones that are most 'against' you in the beginning are the ones that are most 'in love' with you when she breaks...
i say go for it with her...be persistent until she tells you "get foking lost"
just don't let her see you sweat when she acts like that. she likes strong men and if you wilt when she barks, you haven't got a chance in hell. | |
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Posted: 3/8/2010 10:43:11 AM | ^^^Funny, that's true (sometimes).
I read a story about a woman bad mouthing some guy from accross the room, then twenty minutes later was kissing him, and left with him shortly afterwards!
And us guys are supposed to understand this behavior logically? No waaay! lol
If you don't start looking at women in terms of their millions of years old attraction mechanisms, I say GOOD LUCK! | |
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| Are there places it's not okay??
Posted: 3/8/2010 10:58:33 AM | Its not so much about where...but in whether she is giving off signs of being approachable, it is just a talk right?
Dont approach people when they are clearly saying 'dont bug me' with thier attitudes...people in a in a rush dont want to stop for idel chit chat.
If she is listening to a head set, or reading, leave her alone unless she looks up and you two make eye contact.
Jut look for signs of being open to chat. | |
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Posted: 3/8/2010 12:18:16 PM | Well yes, any woman with an escort is not a good choice.
Your dental hygienist as she's cleaning your teeth and/or wiping your plaque off her visor - not okay.
The girl serving popcorn at the movies, and there's a huge line behind you? Probably not okay. Same with the bank teller, waittress, or receptionist. They can actually get in trouble if a customer is chatting them up while they're working.
The best you can do in those situations is offer her a card with your phone number on it and ask her to call you sometime, which she may or may not do because you're a total stranger. | |
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