FJB01
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| | I am thinking she may not be interested and I'm not looking for penpals.Page 1 of 1 | | Within a week talking to her, I said we should meet up. She said that was a possibility (not too soon...she wanted to be precautious for her safety). So a couple of weeks later (a month of talking), I sent my number instead of asking for hers in a message. I stated that it was a month of ago when we first messaged. She responds to the message (about time flying by fast) and doesn't say anything about me sending my number. I respond back in agreement. I am thinking she may not be interested and I'm not looking for penpals. What are your thoughts on this? | |
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Posted: 3/17/2010 7:43:30 PM | | You asked, she didn't say "yes". What else do you need to know? | |
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Posted: 3/17/2010 7:45:27 PM | | NEXT............ | |
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Posted: 3/17/2010 8:19:03 PM | She sees you as a pen pal. Not interested in more or she would have had more interest by now.
Not interested by ommision. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2010 8:29:21 PM | | I would agree. Perhaps she is still being precautious and wants to keep taking it slow and if she is, you will just have to give her the time she needs; how much time will be up to. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2010 8:40:09 PM | | probably too nice to tell you youre not her type, doesnt look good imo. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2010 8:59:46 PM | | Yep what you can do is tell her you're not looking for a penpal in those exact words and if she decided sometime down the road that she is lookign to take the next step in Pof dating to hit you up. Meanwhile you move on with your other Pof pursuits and forget her. If you're taken down the road, then her loss. | |
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| I am thinking she may not be interested and I'm not looking for penpals.
Posted: 3/18/2010 1:07:24 AM | | I really don't get how the same question keeps being asked over and over and over. Online dating is all about speed. Message a person, talk for a little bit online and meet SOON. Otherwise, the potential arises where you talked to this person for months, only to finally meet and realize you have absolutely no chemistry at all and wasted all that time. Message someone that interests you. Talk for a bit online, I'd say about 2 weeks MAX, and even that's pushing it. Meet in PERSON. If the person is unable or unwilling to meet after the 2 week timeframe, then move onto someone who is. Keep the option open if you want, but someone who's not willing to meet me after a rapport is established online usually isn't worth my time anyway. | |
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| I am thinking she may not be interested and I'm not looking for penpals.
Posted: 3/18/2010 8:22:28 AM | The above assessments are the most likely things.
However - I did once completely miss a phone number included in an e-mail. Went right past the entire paragraph containing it. Happened upon it days later quite by accident in using that e-mail to reply from, which could easily never have happened.
So I say give it one last shot and ask if she's comfortable calling you before giving up entirely. It's probably going to be a "no," in which case, the heck with this, but what've you got to lose, right? | |
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| I am thinking she may not be interested and I'm not looking for penpals.
Posted: 3/18/2010 9:29:15 AM | I understand she wants to be cautious when it comes to meeting someone off the internet but a month?
You can talk to someone til the cows come home and when finally meet you find out their a creep or something like that. A month or so of talking online won't change that possibility.
When comes to online dating, should talk a few days to maybe 3 weeks at most before meeting. Whether your young or older, no one wants to invest too much time with someone just to find out the other person is not interested.
It's been a month, she still doesn't want to meet and she totally ignored the part where you sent your phone number, shouldn't that tell you something right there?
Keep her as a penpal if you like but do move on if your wanting a relationship. | |
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Posted: 3/18/2010 9:46:43 AM | She already is your penpal.
Either she is willing to meet or not. It's a yes or no question, if you don't get a yes, everything else is a no.
I am all for being safe and making sure someone else feels comfortable. Let her pick the place and time and if she doesn't just stop bothering. | |
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| I am thinking she may not be interested and I'm not looking for penpals.
Posted: 3/18/2010 4:00:21 PM | if you love something, set it free, if it comes back blah blah blah hot sex.
Just stop messaging her, if she sends one to you in a couple weeks reply telling her candidly that you are not interested in a pen pal, and re-send your number. if she calls you good on ya if not you gave it a shot. | |
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