| | getting increasingly irritable with my gfPage 1 of 11 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11) | | Hmm sorry for bad grammer before hand typing from my cell. I have been with my girlfriend for a year and a half and we are supposed to be getting married soon. I starting to get irritable with little things like this morning I being a male had a morning wood and I wanted to start the day off great so I snuggle up and start getting lovey and then she notices I'm excited and then she pretty much throws herself to the other side of the bed and complains she didn't get enough sleep. I have told her many times I like morning sex and it rarely ever happens id say maybe six times our whole relationship. What gives? But I got pretty upset I put on my uniform gave her a kiss and said have a good day hunny she didn't say anything just turned over and faced the other way. Ill post some other stuff later my mind is kinda drawing a blank on the stupid stuff we argue about. | |
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| getting increasingly irritable with my gf
Posted: 3/19/2010 7:40:50 AM | You're getting married and you're already not having sex...................OMG you really need to think about this long and hard..........(no pun intended)........... | |
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| getting increasingly irritable with my gf
Posted: 3/19/2010 7:43:57 AM | She does not give you morning sex while you two are engaged?
Run
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she's already trying to gain control of you and it looks like she's doing a good job of it.
either accept it or take control of the situation so she knows it is unacceptable to you.
because fella- if a woman is holding on sex with you during the engagement- that's a long life of pure hell if she knows she can get away with it before you are even married.
next time she does it...
get up really early the next morning and get dressed up real nice and clean with cologne on. walk out the door and then show back up at around 10 am.
do not discuss or argue about it.
do not "pressure" her to have sex with you, because the more you do- the more she will pull away and stand her ground.
just let it be in her mind a little that you went out and got your morning sex from someone else.
even if you did not.
or just break it off with her. | |
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| getting increasingly irritable with my gf
Posted: 3/19/2010 7:44:45 AM | Well Sweetie....it's not going to get better when you're married. This is supposed to be the "best" time. Either have to accept that she will never want your morning woodie, or...
Well...if you're getting married, you'll have to accept it.
If there's more stuff driving you nuts, you may have to give your decision to marry, careful re-consideration. Better now, then after the grand nuptials. | |
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Posted: 3/19/2010 7:45:34 AM | | I get sex , just not in the morning :( I was gone for a week and a half I came back and we had sex like two times a day for almost a week and she started crying because it hurt so I gave her a two day break I just want morning sex everyonce and a whole | |
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Posted: 3/19/2010 7:53:40 AM | Are your waking times out of sync? I know I wouldn't be happy about being woken up before my time for... oh, all right, I admit I would so long as it was a bit of a quickie, I'm not at my best before 8pm. Sadly the ladies aren't so easily pleased.  | |
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| getting increasingly irritable with my gf
Posted: 3/19/2010 7:53:40 AM | OP: Is she always not in the mood in the a.m.? or just once in a while?
If you're planning to get married and something like this is getting you irritable then reconsider getting married. | |
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Posted: 3/19/2010 7:54:09 AM | | OP Seriously you need to talk to your girlfriend and if you have any doubts about anything whatsover, do not get married. I don't mean just about the sex. | |
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| getting increasingly irritable with my gf
Posted: 3/19/2010 8:03:33 AM | Some people are just not morning people. And they rarely change. You are in the mood in the mornings she is not. That does not make you right and her wrong. Different people are wired differently. You had sex with her twice a day till she was crying because she was in pain? she sounds like a pretty good sport to me...and you gave her a whole two day break? What do you want, a Purple Heart?
I'm going to tell you something different than these guys who are telling you to "run." I'm going to tell you to get over yourself and be thankful that your only complaint is that your fiance is not in the mood "in the morning."
**** I don't need you stereotyping me because I want to have sex in the morning everyonce and a while I'm a typical male? It's like I said. You wanting it in the morning and her not wanting it doesn't make YOU right, and it doesn't make HER wrong. You are both "right" to want what you want, or to not want what you don't want. She doesn't want sex in the morning, and like someone else said, since when is what YOU want more important than what SHE wants? | |
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Posted: 3/19/2010 8:03:36 AM | your not being stereotyped.............it's true....men think everything is about sex.......when a woman says no....no means no...and vice versa.....if you can't
get past this...then you definitely do not need to marry this woman. You'd be miserable. | |
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Posted: 3/19/2010 8:08:27 AM | Not everybody likes morning sex-- the lights are bright, the breath is bad and there's always the chance the other person didn't get enough sleep the night before. There's also the question of whether you regularly snuggle up to her or if you just do it when you want sex. That's annoying.
Try talking to her and work out a compromise: she agrees to occasionally have sex in the morning on demand and you occasionally have to do something you don't want to do on demand. Would you be cool with that?
Oh, and if she's in pain after just two times a day, perhaps you should get some lube. | |
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Posted: 3/19/2010 8:09:41 AM | So, the amount of sex is not an issue...just that she is not a morning person. This is who she is...if you dont like it, leave. You cannot change people.
Do you really want sex with someone who hates having it in the morning anyways? Dont you want both of you to be fully into it?
You have two choices, either accept her as she is, or try and find someone more compatible to you. | |
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| getting increasingly irritable with my gf
Posted: 3/19/2010 8:14:30 AM |
this morning I being a male had a morning wood and I wanted to start the day off great
Move your bed to the other side of the room, get a dyslexic rooster, change your clock...and take a nap just before sunset.
You're not likely to get much more from me than a grunt when I first wake up. Sure...on occasion I'm feeling it...but not much of a morning person for anything.
On it's own weight...I think it's weak in terms of a deal breaker. Maybe you can sleep in on Sunday mornings and she'll be more into it.
I suspect there is way more to this than your am tent problem. If you're thinkin' she's not the one...don't waste your time building a case....it's life...not a court of law. | |
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| getting increasingly irritable with my gf
Posted: 3/19/2010 8:15:41 AM | Is it possible to discuss this with her in a rational way. Relationships are about compromise, if you tell her about how you feel about having sex in the morning with her ( once in a while) maybe the two of you can cum( wink) to an understanding.
Bring her flowers for no reason and open the door for a discussion..... I personally don't think this is a reason to leave her..... | |
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| getting increasingly irritable with my gf
Posted: 3/19/2010 8:18:02 AM | | So you have sex two times a day to the point of her getting sore and yet you get on a pout because she wants to continue sleeping when she's in a sound sleep. I'm thinking most guys would tell you to count yourself lucky, especially those who find themselves lucky enough to get it twice per week/month. Stop your whining - it's not very becoming. | |
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Posted: 3/19/2010 8:22:51 AM | OP your 23....and you've been with a girl a year and a half and considering marriage?
You're already experiencing slight sexual incompatibility...this could be a trainwreck. What's the rush? Take your time, build some more find out if she is the right one...because obviously you're reaching a certain level of frustration this early on into a relationship that isn't a good sign.
I'm not saying to leave...just keep exploring her...see what happens.
Best of luck OP. | |
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Posted: 3/19/2010 8:24:33 AM | | I do all the nice stuff I bring her flowers etc etc. I know she doesn't like it I comprimise everymorning I'm a healthy guy so more times then not I wake up ready. I rarely ask for it in the morning. So I do comprimise. And you are sterep typing men "men think sex is the most important thing" keyword men I think communication is the most important just fyi. Was just wondering if I had a reason to be annoyed really because I said I love you have a good day and she just ignored that too. | |
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| getting increasingly irritable with my gf
Posted: 3/19/2010 8:28:19 AM |
, I'm thinking most guys would tell you to count yourself lucky, especially those who find themselves lucky enough to get it twice per week/month.
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Twice per week is something a guy who's 20 years married MIGHT be satisfied with....not a 23 year old male. Twice per month is bording on lunacy. If the amount you masterbate exceeds the amount you have sex in a relationship...there's a problem.
Just saying. | |
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Posted: 3/19/2010 8:29:25 AM |
Was just wondering if I had a reason to be annoyed really because I said I love you have a good day and she just ignored that too.
Maybe she was pissed at you for insisting on morning sex, when you know she does not like it!
Most men wake up with a chubby, but not every woman enjoys the morning groove. It sucks being you!  | |
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Posted: 3/19/2010 8:33:27 AM | Hahahaha! Loved this thread, real good laughs for a Friday morning!
"Why is what you want more important that what she wants?"
Who's saying it is? The OP isn't, YOU ARE. Funny how when someone doesn't want things a certain way, it's ALWAYS the other person's fault for wanting it that way.
If he wants sex in the morning and she doesn't, there should be a discussion, and some agreement should be reached, ESPECIALLY if they are to marry. No he doesn't get it every morning, but certainly 6 times in how long, is not enough.
Frankly OP, I question the whole thing, the example of you being away for a week and a half, then having sex twice a day for almost a week, shows there MAY be a problem, of different sex drives.
While nothing is cast in stone, and your drive may diminish with time, in the beginning of a marriage, when sex should be important and a high priority for both. For you to want sex 2 times a day and her not to, maybe a bigger problem than you think. After the "I Do's" are exchanged, you may find yourself on "sex rationing"! Better to have a no Bullsh1t discussion NOW, about what will be and is, about sex, BEFORE the nuptials than after. | |
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| getting increasingly irritable with my gf
Posted: 3/19/2010 8:33:58 AM | Personally I feel your making a mountain out of a molehill but Im not the one with the issue am I.
If you think communication is the most important then why are you asking us in the forum, instead of sitting her down and asking HER??
Hmmmm just a thought. | |
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