| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/15/2005 2:00:23 PM | After talking online for about a week, and spending late nights on the phone sharing stories and laughing until the wee hours of the morning, I finally met this guy. We had originally planned to meet on Saturday, but since he kept saying he "couldn't wait to see me", we changed it to last night. He has a pic up on his profile and I was very attracted.
Well, from the second I walked up to him, I wanted to cry. For one thing, he wasn't even the RACE he said he was (like I wasn't gonna notice???), nevermind the extra hundred pounds or so that he failed to mention... He totally misrepresented himself in his profile and lead me to believe something false. I feel so gypped!!
I really liked this guy, we had a lot in common (now I am even wondering about that), we really got along well and sparks flew during the many conversations we had. I realize everyone builds up an image in their head of what the other person is going to look like, but this was blatant LYING on his part. I really don't think the pic is even of him.
I tried to be nice and not hurt his feelings, and when I questioned him about the pic he said it is him but it's 3 years old and he "just looks different coz his hair is different" (ya, that's it buddy- your hair) but now I don't know what to say to him. I am definetly not attracted to him anymore, and who wants to be with someone that lies so outrageously? Also, I don't know if I can (or should) warn others about him? Obviously I don't want anything to do with him now.
I am hurt that he did this to me, and mad as hell that he thought he could get away with it.
Anyone else had the same thing or something similar happen to them? | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/15/2005 2:17:16 PM | Good God What have I gotten myself into!!!!!! the more i read on this site the more Im freaked out. People showing up and not even looking like the picture is Idiotic. This guy was either hopeing that you would be so head over heals in love with his personality that you would overlook the 100 pounds he put on " People.... Hairstyles don't make you look 100 pounds lighter!!! "
Yes You should do something about It. He totaly lied to you just because he was embarassed about his apperance and didnt want to tell you how he realy looked.
I havent posted my picture yet but when I do it will be of ME!!!!! not some one else. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/15/2005 3:05:04 PM | if you like the guy go to the gym together , maybe the guy thought you weren't as shallow as you seem to me after all your talking and emailing , you could stand to lose a hundred lbs yourself
you don't like the guys looks in person tell him don't come on here saying he lied to you you met saw him and decided he was to fat period , don't try and cover your guilt at being shallow by blaming the guy you met | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/15/2005 3:27:13 PM | | I don't think I would be amused by nor develop much trust for a man if he posted an old photo of himself which totally misrepresented him. I believe he would be the shallow person who didn't think he could "fish" any other way. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/15/2005 3:30:03 PM | so what if he is overweight....thats not what she cares about...he lied to her...for all she knows he could have been a murderer or somethin...thats one thing you should not lie about...if your gonna go on a dating website or somewhere to meet new friends...you put a picture of YOU!!!! NOT SOMEONE ELSE!!!!! i would be very mad to | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/15/2005 3:35:26 PM | | why is there confusion over this... forget the guy... block him whatever... he lied to you, period... it wouldnt matter if you thought this guy was the most amazing person you've ever talked to... if he couldnt be honest about something like that... considering you were meeting him, he's not only dishonest but is either very stupid or thinks you are... and no this isnt a looks issue... so the comments about you being shallow are pointless... its an honesty issue... | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/15/2005 3:36:08 PM | Something like that happened to me few years back. I meet a women we talked over te phone and everything seem ok. She had send me a pic. The pic must been m,aybe 10 to 15 years old. All she said that te pic was a year old and she had gained a few pounds. Any way when I meet her, she was one of those obese people with a hanging belly. As soon as she said "Hi" to me I said "Bye"
When a person lies to me in such things I just get up and leave. Is not even worth spending one minute with them.
It might sound rude, but when I present myself truthfully, I acceept other to do also. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/15/2005 3:47:29 PM | Same thing happened to my girlfriend. Might be the same person.
Here's the story.
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts904834.aspx
P.S. Incidently, I STILL see this guy's pic on POF, so he's obviously continuing with his buddy's photo. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/15/2005 4:01:05 PM | | people see themselves differntlyy than others see them he never lied to her he put up a three year old photo of himself hell most women on here have photos way older than that a lot have glamour shots is that considered lying as well get a grip on reality | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/15/2005 4:05:21 PM | | I am a firm believer in cams!! You can sit at your computer and chat, and get a much better feeling for how a person 'is'. Pictures are great, but they are a moment in time. Sometimes the camera is very kind to you, and sometimes, not so kind. Let me guess which pic. we'd all pick to post!! Myself included. BUT, if you pick a picture that is more then 6 months old, and truly fails to represent who you've become, good or bad, then you are, in effect, lying. Not the best way to start any kind of relationship. AND consider this, even if this guy had looked exactly like his picture, there still could have been no chemistry....you just can't predict it. Don't beat yourself up over it. I don't believe it has to do with just 'being shallow' as some have suggested. Next time, have a cam to cam chat first ;) | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/15/2005 4:08:47 PM | it doesnt matter if the picture was only a week old if he had cosmetic surgery in between either... to put up a picture that doesnt look like you anymore and sayin that you do is dishonest... now if a person has basically looked the same for 3 or 4 years it wouldnt matter is it was that old... although that should be mentioned...
I've noticed a couple of profiles that have a wide range of pictures, thats fine as well if at least one of them is you or you make it clear that none are you as you are now...
If theres no picture when I'm talking to someone then I dont really see who they are in my mind, so meeting someone like that isnt too bad, assuming that anything that was said about how they looked was true (or at least close enough to not be misleading).... but once youve seen a picture someone claims is them and start talking to them it becomes a part of the whole... for them too show up looking completely different is going to be a bad thing... contrary to sitcoms that make a joke out of it.....lol | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/15/2005 4:13:33 PM | Yeah, I'm a man that it's happened to before, and will happen, AGAIN!
Ive met MANY ladies that are cute in their pic, and when you meet them,
you can tell it's them, but all of a sudden.....not so cute.
What can 'ya do! ...Meeks88...(The piano-man...) | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/15/2005 4:18:42 PM | | Myself I don't put my pic up on here on purpose.Yea yea,pics get more attention and all that stuff and that's ok.They also draw shallow "ooooooo he's hot" women.I want someone to like me for me.Looks fade on us all,and then what are you left with?The person themselves is what you're left with.I say to this woman who's cryin'.....I guess you didn't like this guy as much as you thought you did.To me pics are bullshit,and a person is made fom the inside out.Lots of pretty pics on here.I notice many of the same "beauts" are here as when I stopped using this site 8 months ago.You people just don't get it. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/15/2005 4:23:56 PM | "Get a grip on reality".
Hmmm.. rather offensive.
Don't assume that most of us post photos that are three and four years old.
Or that we go through the trouble of having "glamour" shots done. Blech.
Though of course, we do prefer to show photos where we look reasonably attractive.
That seems to be human nature.
But posting a photo that is obviously a different person? That is just wrong.
Is it shallow to criticize someone with a "hijacked" or fake photo?
No, I don't think so.
I would argue that being dishonest is the greater show of shallowness.
Someone who values others so little that they can't even show their true selves
and has to borrow someone else's image. | |
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Joined: 6/29/2005
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/15/2005 4:36:11 PM | i have to agree with the majority on this one.
if you give someone a discription of yourself or post a photo then its not much to ask to at least look like the pic! us women are always being warned about meeting someone in a safe place..making sure we know what we are doing blah blah and then you get some idiot that turns out to be someone completely different? thats a blatent lie for a start and must ruin any remote trust you feel for that person.
we all have old pics...so be honest and tell them its 3 yrs old..warn them about the shock they'll have.
however..i wouldnt name and shame him..just be carefull whom you talk to in the future.
if someone can lie about looks then what else are they capable of? | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/15/2005 4:44:33 PM | | .....I know what you mean.....I only wish the guy I met was not like his picture....this one must've been part nudist...cause half hour after he got here he was naked....not as a mutual thing ...just him....I talked to him on his phone all the way here...telling him I do not do anything sexual on the first meeting.....I GUESS he thought he could change my mind.....WRONG...I told him either he could dress himself and leave or the Police woould help him...GEEZ......how could he be so bold...OR is that the way of the guys now......???????....but I want to warn the ladies about him also but is it right to tell his name or wait for them to get the same treatment.... | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/15/2005 4:48:04 PM | Yes kitty,
i've had this happen many times to me. Women put up their pictures from 10, 20 even 30 years ago. When confronted they will say "Well a girl has to put her best foot forward." A man thinks she looks young for age (many women do) and find out she's gained 120 pounds, needs help out of her chair and eats twice as much as I do. (50 or more pounds over weight is obese, girls, not just a "few extra pounds).They often lie about interests ( they really can't hike anymore), size, disablities, number of children and more. I wish such peop0le could get kicked off the sites such as this. some even lie about the continent they are on!
I do wonder though, if he is
I hope you have better luck,
Jim | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/15/2005 4:49:23 PM | | I guess my way of looking at things is prehistoric or maybe I just expect too much?I agree you need to be honest,but with me that's just a given.My point here is-this woman liked the pic,not the man.Or maybe I'm just a moron????????????????? | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/15/2005 4:52:19 PM | @nembatha: why don't you try reading the whole thing next time before you jump in with your judgements. I also said he was a different race. It had nothing to do with the weight, I could have accepted him if he had been honest with me upfront. He has a picture of a WHITE guy on his profile, and he was clearly INDIAN.
So how am I shallow? If someone contacted you and said they were a certain ethnicity, and you met and they were CLEARLY not, how would you react? And no it doesn't matter what race he is, but the fact that he lied to me and I had the image of a white guy.
As for saying I can stand to lose a hundred pounds myself, that is not physically possible without ending up in the hospital on an IV for malnutrition, you halfwit. I am 5'8" about 180lbs. You do the math. There is no need for your remarks, grow up. You sound like the type who would do what this guy did, maybe that's why you're defending him?
Everyone else, thanks for your support. It means a lot to me that there are kind people out there who take the time to share their thoughts.
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/15/2005 4:59:49 PM | | I agree with you Jeffery! Talk about shallow. I think she is just using the fact that he "lied" to her as an excuse. If you really care about someone on the inside. then looks honestly shouldn't matter! | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/15/2005 5:00:13 PM | | Hey sorry that this happened to you! That really does suck. I'm sure you are angry/upset now but maybe in a couple days you should write him and tell him that he should change his picture...hell tell me who it was and I'll clue him in! I've had that happen once before and I'll I know is that I felt stuck for the rest of the date...I wish I hadn't bitten my tongue so much. Take care and good luck finding an honest guy!!!! | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/15/2005 5:02:24 PM | I have several pics in my profile and everyone tells me I don't look like the same guy from pic to pic. Ive been told I look much better than my pics and I've also had the happy experience of meeting some fine ladies whose pics just don't do them justice. I've never had cosmetic surgery but I do change my hair styles and colour and even gain and lose weight. Just like a woman does. I put them there to show we all change a little from month to month, sometimes on purpose. BUT they are all me and current to at least a couple of years.
Using anothers pic is just blantant lying, and anyone of any gender would be totaly in the right to just get up and leave. Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me! | |
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Joined: 6/29/2005
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/15/2005 5:03:25 PM | Jeffey32: {I guess my way of looking at things is prehistoric or maybe I just expect too much?I agree you need to be honest,but with me that's just a given.My point here is-this woman liked the pic,not the man.Or maybe I'm just a moron????????????????? }
but his lies were to the extreem jeffey..the fact that he lied about his race is in my opinion a HUGE concern. and his race aside..how can she like the man when she hasnt had a clue who she's been speaking to all this time?? lets face it..we can all charm the pants off someone. | |
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| So, I met this guy and he looked NOTHING like his pic!!
Posted: 7/15/2005 5:09:25 PM | | Don't you mean an honest guy with a "nice pic"?Don't feel sorry ya cause you're clueless.Any "Indian" I've ever spoken to has an accent that sounds nothing like a "white" guy.Sorry,but you were just as dishonest as he was.Hey,you two deserve each other!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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