| | Full time Dads when to tell Page 1 of 2 (1, 2) | hello all, would like some help here please, in the past i have be rather open and very up front in my profile, but dont want to be dishonest either though not my style.
my profile is very blend now, seems i was attracting ladies filling sorry for me(well that's what it felt like anyway). so here's the question when do you tell a lady/girl that i am a full time dad, when you meet or in your profile, Ive been out of a relationship for a while now and feel i need to be more than just a Dad. any ideas Please. | |
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Posted: 3/27/2010 10:24:52 AM | | Personally... say it in your profile. Why hide it... you're a full-time father and proud of it, right? | |
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Posted: 3/27/2010 5:20:03 PM | | I'd put it in your profile. Also you say you don't want children. Guess that means relationships with women can only have yours in it? What if you met a single mother? There may be some women who don't have children yet but would like have one. You might be limiting yourself too much. | |
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Posted: 3/27/2010 9:21:02 PM | You should be upfront about it....being a full time parent is a significant part of what your lifestyle is like and is important information for any woman to have about you. Some will run for the hills, some will not.
One thing I have never come across is anyone feeling sorry for me because I was a full-time parent. I suppose if I acted like it was such a big sacrifice, some might.... | |
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Posted: 3/28/2010 6:18:44 AM | Honesty is always the best policy and you seem to know whats right cause your profile says you have kids. Step one already solved, step2 finding the right person that fits with you and your kids. Good luck with that. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2010 8:28:46 PM |
Also you say you don't want children.
Most take this to mean, coming from another parent, that they do not wish to have any more biological children, not that they would not welcome a partner's children. | |
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Posted: 3/30/2010 7:49:49 AM | Absolutely put it in your profile. One sentence works fine. Like "I'm a full time Dad".....
I'd imagine alot of women in your age range have kids too. In fact, it'd be a sort of common ground.
I personally take "doesn't want children" to mean - they're done with making babies.
Important question. | |
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Posted: 3/30/2010 10:31:54 AM | Meh don't tell them...chicks dig men who keep secrets!
In your profile is the best. | |
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Posted: 3/31/2010 7:47:03 AM | | Be up front. Be proud of it. In the end the one woman that is going to dig you, will have to understand, that you will be a package deal. Also, let me tell you, there are a lot of women that dig a guy with children. They will be the ones talking to you, starting conversations and all that. Women are attracted to men that come across as good dads. So, don't tread the fathering thing as a chore but as an awesome gift and women will be all over you. But the key here, is attitude. | |
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Posted: 4/21/2010 8:14:46 AM | Oh EXILRD... try not to be so negative today.
Be honest. Treat your search like you are growing a garden.
Weed out what you don't want and cultivate what you do. In the end you will have a bounty of goodness that is unique unto you.
One thing is... You should NOT introduce her to your children until you are sure she is a keeper. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2010 2:17:15 AM | in your profile. The point of the profile is to determine if that person would be compatible for whatever purposes each person is here (whether you are seeking sexual intimacy, a friend, activity partner or long-term relationship). That, to me, means you need to put the important, relevant facts for people to decide. Children are an extremely important issue to most people: whether they want them or not, what kind of commitment they want to make to them, whether your parenting styles are compatible, etc.
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Posted: 5/6/2010 9:01:06 AM | | Definitely in your profile, you would like to know if you were going after a full time mum right? Fairs fair. x | |
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Posted: 5/7/2010 10:58:06 PM | | That fact is kind of a big deal. It shapes who you are. To hide it would be deceptive and untruthful, no better than an old picture or misleading information. Some women may not want that, so why waste their time with hiding it. It is hard enough to find someone in this venue as it is let alone when things are hidden. Tell the truth always, as it will come out eventually. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2010 3:43:06 AM | | Definately put it in your profile. It is who you are, and if a woman cannot accept that, then thats their loss. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2010 8:05:22 AM |
Definately put it in your profile. It is who you are, and if a woman cannot accept that, then thats their loss.
Got to love the ones who do not sell themselves short. It is not their loss.....just like it would not be my loss if I was to avoid a single mother due to her children..or the age of her children. My choice just as it is her choice if she so chooses not to get to know me based on my being a custodial parent. i do not have it in my profile as I choose to allow individuals information after I know something...but i do very quickly drop the fact that I need to be home every night....children...i do allot of chauffeuring for athletic requirements...and I find more than a few gracefully back out when they realize the ages of my children.
...And if they tell me they have 4--5--6 children and they are struggling to manage the payments.....Sorry but never going there again either!
After all when a few woman I have been in contact with were at a younger age raising children I was enjoying myself and living life...so now they want perhaps to have that freedom.
But anyone who sits there and says...they do not want me because of my custody of children and it is their loss....get off your high horse...plenty of fishes in the sea and i might suggest..you probably are not that great a catch...with the added consideration of children. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2010 9:15:07 AM | | People have preferences when it comes to dating someone who has children...some are ok with it, some would prefer to date unattached adults. It is their right to know this information upfront. Not telling something that could alter someone else's personal choices is lying in my books. If you lie to me, I don't care how wonderful you may be in all other aspects, it is a deal breaker. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2010 4:28:28 PM | | Immediately. Having my kids 24/7 is who I am, so anyone looking for a gal who can travel or be available at the drop of a hat probably would not want to date me. I understand it, having kids is a big deal and no one else's life should be compromised by mine. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2010 10:01:41 PM | Hey Robertcmoore
In your question of letting the ladies know that your a full time dad, you might want to do it up front. But in the same breath there are a lot of wemon out there who will run. It saves you a lot of pain. With you being a full time dad you have begain to notice that the ladies are a little stand offish. When they hear of the kids. Dont worrie the right on will come along. In the mean time have fun with your kids... | |
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Posted: 5/25/2010 12:29:45 AM | In the profile. If she's delightful and thinks you're the bomb, she's gonna find out soon. Plus women who wouldn't like it won't even be wasting your time and hers.
You're raising them alone, yes? Be sure that's clear. | |
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