| | When Should Someone Reveal a Limp??Page 1 of 1 | | I was born with a dislocated hip defect...had major surgery at 12 to correct the dislocation...have walked with a limp since then. I have included a sentence about this in my profile, but is that necessary, or should I wait until I'm actually going to be meeting someone in a dating situation?? I feel more comfortable telling them up front, but then I kind of wonder if this is why I have gotten a "no thanks" from guys who seemed to be perfect for me and vice versa. Feedback?? | |
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| When Should Someone Reveal a Limp??
Posted: 4/29/2010 4:37:35 PM | | I would wait until an actual set up for a meet. Besides it's only a limp are people really that shallow that they won't date u because of a limp? | |
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| When Should Someone Reveal a Limp??
Posted: 4/29/2010 8:00:33 PM | I wouldn't mention it at all. Talking about it prior to meeting will only make it seem like you are hung up on it. If it doesn't prevent you from most activities then why even bother . Unless of course you are going to go sky diving or water skiing etc.
If I met up with someone that had a limp I wouldn't freak out or think there was deception. | |
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| When Should Someone Reveal a Limp??
Posted: 4/30/2010 4:10:02 AM |
Besides it's only a limp are people really that shallow that they won't date u because of a limp?
Well, I don't know...are they?? No one has ever said anything to my face, but yesterday I got a no thanks from a guy even though I "met" all of his requirements. I take horrible photographs but in person, I have a pretty face. Could it have been the "a few extra pounds?"...I don't know...he had "a few extra pounds" too...I have a full length photo of myself and you can see that I'm really not THAT big.
From my profile, I sound like a pretty terrific "catch"...but I'm not getting any interest. So I have to wonder....IS it the part about the limp??
No, I wouldn't say I'm "hung up on it"...not at all...but again I don't know where other people's heads are on the issue. | |
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| When Should Someone Reveal a Limp??
Posted: 4/30/2010 3:00:22 PM | | I would remove it from your profile. As for no contact. I find it comes and goes. When I signed up a month ago I was quite a busy little girl lol. But now you can hear a pin drop in my profile. Don't feel bad about little contact there's tons of us in the same boat. | |
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| When Should Someone Reveal a Limp??
Posted: 5/1/2010 1:10:59 PM | Well, I've had lots of views...keep tweaking my profile...no responses, no interest. So as an experiment, I removed the limp blurb from my profile. We'll see.
Incidentally, this is what say about it in my profile...maybe it just sounds too scary for some men (but, hey I have to live with it, nothing I can do about it):
"I should also mention that I was born with a "dislocated hip defect", which is hereditary, and that as a result of corrective surgery at age 12, I walk with a limp. As far as I know, it's never been an issue in the past where dating and socializing is concerned, and other than the fact that I have never been able to participate in sports, I don't let it get in the way of living a full life."
Thanks for your input, guys. It irks me that this is not a topic of interest to anyone...people love stupid questions better, I guess "Been seeing this guy for 2 weeks and whenever we're together, he sneezes. Does this mean he's thinking of his ex?" That sort of thing. I was another site and asked this question and get no responses, while the topic about pot smoking had hundreds of responses. Oh well.
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| When Should Someone Reveal a Limp??
Posted: 5/1/2010 6:28:10 PM | Look, once you get to, dare I say it..... middle age, many people have some sort of ailment, medical condition, etc. It's always a touchy issue of when to broach the subject. Too early and you risk scaring a person away, too late and they accuse you of hiding something. Can't seem to win. So the best advice is lead your own life and do what YOU feel comfortable with. As to in the profile, my thought would be no, simply not necessary.
Now here's a thought as well. Arrange to meet someone at a bar or restaurant and be sure to arrive FIRST. When your date arrives, just stand up, shake hands and you're seated again. Then let the conversation determine what you wish to reveal. If you feel comfortable, then out with it, it you're not feeling that connection, then at least you will know it's NOT the limp that was the issue.
Good luck. | |
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| When Should Someone Reveal a Limp??
Posted: 5/21/2010 1:17:12 PM | Your acknowledgment of a limp is probably not the issue for a lack of replies. If you think it's relevant, you should put it in your profile, as a positive of something you have overcome.
The fact that you are advertising for a FWB type relationship, but have blocked intimate encounters from contacting you could be a large part of the reason no one messages.
Seriously, who takes their FWB for a dinner at a nice restaurant followed by a stroll along a moonlit beach???? | |
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| When Should Someone Reveal a Limp??
Posted: 5/23/2010 9:02:48 AM | I read the following "conditions in your profile..... and think to myself, what's left?
Must not have messaged users looking for intimate encounters or sex.
Must not be looking for Hang Out
Must not be looking for Talk/E-mail
Must not be looking for Intimate Encounter
Must not be looking for Activity Partner
Frankly, and sorry to be blunt, but considering the rest of your profile and the FWB, what this seems to say is......
"Let's get together 2 or 3 times each month and F*ck!!!
Now, while there may indeed be some guys looking for that, for the majority I would think this is not. IMHO. | |
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| When Should Someone Reveal a Limp??
Posted: 5/25/2010 6:23:46 PM | I wear a brace, due to a leg injury and the ensuing surgery, but do not mention it in my profile. I have found, through some not-so-pleasant reactions, that it is better to bring that up once you and the gentleman have established a mutual desire to meet face to face.
The limp does not change the person you are inside, nor does it probably limit you as to activities you can participate in. Therefore, why should it be a deal breaker? | |
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| When Should Someone Reveal a Limp??
Posted: 8/20/2010 2:34:08 AM | | I rhink you should leave it out of your profile and if you want them to know you can put it in a message once made contact something like i see we both love music that is good but i also see you like play baseball wish i could but i have this so on and so to expalin | |
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