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| | No more contact after you tell them what you do for a livingPage 1 of 5 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5) | Ok is it just me but do people get the ignored treatment after you tell them your occupation!!
I have spoken to a few people on here and after i tell them what i do BLAMMO there gone..
I am a cab driver i have been doing it for 5 years , but im currently looking for a new position. I did it because it could work around my childrens custody time, i have 50%. I did it so i could have some quality time with them but i think people look down on me because of it.
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Posted: 5/15/2010 8:59:14 PM | perhaps its a let down to the imagination from Professional Driver...to cabbie...lol
either that or they are "just not that into you"
This woman goes into a lawyers office and says; "I've gotta divorce my husband."
The lawyer says; "What grounds have you?"
The woman answers; "About a quarter acre."
The lawyer is getting a little angry. "Does he have a grudge?"
"No, I think he's got a carport." The woman says.
"Look." The lawyer says. "Does he beat you up?"
The woman snaps back with, "No I get up before he does."
"Why do you want a divorce?" The lawyer asks.
"I just can't communicate with the guy." She says.
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Posted: 5/15/2010 10:06:48 PM |
perhaps its a let down to the imagination from Professional Driver...to cabbie...lol
Some women will look down on you for being a cab driver and also be put off your profile misled them. Perhaps you should clearly state your career and then the women you contact will know right away if they would be interested in talking with you.
Not all women are all about money. I'd rather have a sweet, caring man with little money than a rich ass. Luckily I have a wonderful man who well certainly not rich is able to spoil me a little.
I know what his job is but I have never even asked him what his wages are and we have been together for over a year. | |
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Posted: 5/15/2010 10:25:26 PM | Try telling them your a mortician
I was on a "date" once..when it was discusssed in detail what I did for a living..my "date" told me aprox 10 minutes into the conversation that I was sick ,perverse and obviously a little strange to do my chosen profession ... to quote him " to be doing that to dead people !!!"
Mmm what you want to see a friend or relative all messed up after they have perished in a motor vehicle accident do you ? or do you want me to put my skills to the best possible use and let you able to view (if you wish ) the deceased, and be given the opportunity to say goodbye ??
And the creep stiffed me with the coffee bill after he got up and left..
Present partner is proud of what I do...thinks Im doing a a necessary service - he doesn't want to know the details and I don't give them...but he does find it incredible that even I (at times) do have hard and difficult days at work !!!
Yep..we are more than our occupation..its what we do to pay the bills not necessarily who we are !!! - you have my empathy OP
If a person judges purely on what you do and the money that you earn...let them go...shallow and not worthy of your good and kind soul... | |
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Posted: 5/16/2010 1:46:12 AM | I'm a medical scientist, but when I’m out on the town I make up all types of crap. I find being a landscaper works pretty well ha ha.
Some friends and I have a game (a perfectly ethical one). We agree on a girl, approach her, introduce each other. But we can’t introduce each other using real names. Instead we make up a random name, and random occupation (for the other person). We then have to continue the conversation causing the “victim” to believe that all the false information is true. Later we meet other girls, and repeat the process using DIFFERENT details. But if later we end up talking to a girl we’ve already spoken to, we all have to remember all the lies we told her so that we wont give away the secret. Anyway, here are the rules: If you fail to come up with a name, use one of your friends real names, do anything to give away the secret, or use the same name twice – you’re buying the next round of drinks.
Anyway, it’s absolutely NOT true that girls generally don’t care about a guys occupation. Most do. In fact most do even for a one night stand, which I find curious, given that they won’t be getting their hands on any money. The real question is who wants those particular girls anyway??? | |
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Posted: 5/16/2010 5:27:08 AM |
Is it a money thing ?..Are women worried about money more than the person
I think it is more security. I would choose a man who is secure in his job, loves what he does, and has the capability to take care of me. I've taken care of enough men. So you see, it is not always money. Then there is always the issue of league, however that is another thread. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2010 5:36:17 PM |
The real question is who wants those particular girls anyway???
Answer: A guy with sex on the brain, very little sense and money to burn and is a control freak....LOL.Come on how many stories have we heard. Of a old man marrying some young hot babe.
I think it is more security. I would choose a man who is secure in his job, loves what he does, and has the capability to take care of me. I've taken care of enough men. So you see, it is not always money. Then there is always the issue of league, however that is another thread.
I agree and disagree with this statement.Security in the fact that the guy is stable and not some lazy a$$ bum. The fact that he has the ablity to support himself, not me, is what i'm looking at.Hence why some guys look for the mothering type of women. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2010 6:27:41 PM | I agree Bella. In defence of those guys however: If a guy has the money and only wants sex, then taking full advantage of the stupid girls who will f*ck any rich guy is a great idea lol. They’re only one-night-stand-material anyway. Of course not all girls are like this – the less shallow girls should be treated with much more respect, because they’re relationship material.
I think it is more security.
I think it isn’t. If it was security, a taxi driver would be quite appealing. Pretty sure taxi’s aren’t going anywhere, even if there is an economic down turn. Pretty sure they can work in any part of the world, even tiny towns where I wouldn’t be able to work. Not only that, but pretty sure they’ll be able to do it into a fairly old age if they want to also.
It isn’t security. It isn’t anything logical at all. It’s shallowness, selfishness, and greed. It’s also that “league” thing someone mentioned – the idea that someone who does a “less prestigious” profession is inferior, and vice versa. Maybe some people incorrectly think that a persons profession says something about their intelligence?? I don’t know. There may also be a few less sinister reasons, like the fact that it's sometimes easier to socialise with people who have a similar background to you, but still many of the reasons are sinister. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2010 1:22:42 AM |
I think it is more security.
Security for me means more then monetary, that has absolute nothing to do with being shallow. Secure in knowledge that person can look after themselves and support themselves. NO matter what the job is. Security in the fact they can care for more then one thing and know what is important.
I think I also said once before on a thread, that money , intelligence and respect and kindness. DO not necessarily go together. I believe to be secure in ones self, you can show you have the ability to look after and show you care for others as well.
I can point out people with animals there ability to love and care for someone and something other then themselves. For some women and men it is about money. Since some have never had that kind of security.
Which again, has nothing to with being shallow. Some women and men marry someone in this country in order to get a visa. In order to have a better life then what they had in their own. Also to provide for the family that is still there.
Those that do marry for money and money only, i have respect for. In this day an age if you live here. There are so many opportunities available here to stand on your own two feet. Then I go with the comment “would you NOT marry someone, just because they have none or very little money?”. Again that goes back classing prejudice.
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Posted: 5/17/2010 2:53:46 AM | when you think about it, some of out brightest and best have driven taxis at some stage of their careers...
a mate of mine in the 80's owned and drove taxis and shared a mates house....that was handy. he'd come home for a break mid evening and take us back into town Fridays ,weekends,when he went back to his beat in the city.... drop us at a pub and get his first fare leaving,,,sweeet...
we could book him by his number... before mobile phone days... or he'd spot us at ranks late at night and give us the nod as he cruised by and we'd meet him around the corner.. or he'd come straight back and pick us up if he had a fare in the cab...
he had the only Valiant Regal Taxi in Brissy at the time.... easy to see coming...
woo hoo ,,we're saved!.... cooool..... ... and we don't need to tell the driver where we live,,,
don't worry OP.. I get ignored before I get to tell them anything.... ..
an enquiring message or a witty anecdote about something catchy in their profile is usually enough.... | |
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Posted: 5/17/2010 3:45:31 AM | It's all about bragging rights. Today's women (yes gross generalisation here en mass, sorry girls), care more about what other women think, than what most men think about them.
Girls keeping an eye out for "the prize", still want to nab the guy with the coolest job, or the hardest 6 pack. He could have the sexiest smile or the tightest buns, but if he's the head egg collector at the local chook farm, he's probably reserved a spot further down the list. But he'll do if she misses out on the Careflight chopper pilot, who has the same good looks and chiseled features as one of the actual Thunderbirds (poor example but you get the idea. Lets hope he doesn't walk like one of the Thunderbirds), has the beach house, the cool car, the big boat and you get the picture. Now won't the other girls just be GREEN with envy when they find out about the latest exploit? Sounds very "Sex In the City", though very true none the less. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2010 6:14:23 PM | Well i should add if someone doesnt like what i do stuff them thats all i can say , i didnt do it for fun i had my kids interests in mind.. But im in transit of changing to somthing else.
On the positive side its got to show im no dole bludger , i will always work and pay my way.
Technically you could look at it i was running my own buisness as i was leasing a cab and had people working for me so really its not as bad as it seems i just want to go to a job with less stress and i dont have to put up with abusive pain in the ass people at 2 am in the morning. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2010 7:15:00 PM |
If a guy has the money and only wants sex, then taking full advantage of the stupid girls who will f*ck any rich guy is a great idea lol. They’re only one-night-stand-material anyway.
Who is being used or taken advantage of in those situations though? The "stupid girls" you refer to may actually be taking advantage of the stupid guy with money. He might imagine he has personal appeal, or various good qualities, but the girls in question only see him as "one-night-stand-material" because he's nothing more than a wallet on legs. Is it also a "great idea" for them to take "full advantage", which presumably means to extract everything they can get from him in the way of money or time while actually having no regard for him personally, other than what he can give them?
Of course not all girls are like this – the less shallow girls should be treated with much more respect, because they’re relationship material.
Speaking of shallow...
Some friends and I have a game (a perfectly ethical one). We agree on a girl, approach her, introduce each other. But we can’t introduce each other using real names. Instead we make up a random name, and random occupation (for the other person). We then have to continue the conversation causing the “victim” to believe that all the false information is true. Later we meet other girls, and repeat the process using DIFFERENT details. But if later we end up talking to a girl we’ve already spoken to, we all have to remember all the lies we told her so that we wont give away the secret. Anyway, here are the rules: If you fail to come up with a name, use one of your friends real names, do anything to give away the secret, or use the same name twice – you’re buying the next round of drinks.
That sounds like fun! It's kind of reminiscent of the game those male sailors were playing on that ship where they had a bounty on unwitting female crew members. They had rules and kept score and stuff too, plus I think there were penalties for mucking up the game, like if you actually fell in love or something.
When the higher command found out about the game they were so impressed with the perfectly ethical nature of it they gave everyone a medal.
You've mentioned in the past Ahron that you're not single, so I was wondering, does your girlfriend also get to play "The Game" on her nights out?
No doubt she does hey? Everyone being equal n'all. But I'm thinking it would be pointless for her and her mates to "agree" to target a deadbeat "victim", so they'd probably go for the guys who seem to have money so they can at least get some free drinks for their trouble, though of course, just to get this straight, the laughs later on when they all compare notes are the real point of the game? Is that right?
Nahhhh, that can't be right! Because you said it was a "perfectly ethical" game.
But wait a minute! Wouldn't that mean your girlfriend, who you presumably think is "relationship material", or any girl who's playing that game of targeting guys for hidden reasons, is really one of the "stupid girls" that guys should take full advantage of because they're only "one-night-stand-material anyway"? | |
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Posted: 5/17/2010 7:41:04 PM | im sorry but you say "can take care of me." and you say its not about money
That just shows right there that you are more worried about his income .
Why does someone have look after the other partner finacially why cant it be a equal thing? | |
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Posted: 5/17/2010 11:18:09 PM |
If a guy has the money and only wants sex, then taking full advantage of the stupid girls who will f*ck any rich guy is a great idea lol. They’re only one-night-stand-material anyway. Who is being used or taken advantage of in those situations though? The "stupid girls" you refer to may actually be taking advantage of the stupid guy with money. He might imagine he has personal appeal, or various good qualities, but the girls in question only see him as "one-night-stand-material" because he's nothing more than a wallet on legs. Is it also a "great idea" for them to take "full advantage", which presumably means to extract everything they can get from him in the way of money or time while actually having no regard for him personally, other than what he can give them?
Maybe ha ha. Only i'm not sure how often it works out for them. More often than not they’ll get the sex but not the money lol.
They had rules and kept score and stuff too, plus I think there were penalties for mucking up the game, like if you actually fell in love or something.
When the higher command found out about the game they were so impressed with the perfectly ethical nature of it they gave everyone a medal.
Ha ha. Love it.
You've mentioned in the past Ahron that you're not single, so I was wondering, does your girlfriend also get to play "The Game" on her nights out? No doubt she does hey? Everyone being equal n'all.
Of course she can.
But wait a minute! Wouldn't that mean your girlfriend, who you presumably think is "relationship material", or any girl who's playing that game of targeting guys for hidden reasons, is really one of the "stupid girls" that guys should take full advantage of because they're only "one-night-stand-material anyway"?
Ha ha. Funny. Well for a start, the assumption you made in order to draw this conclusion is incorrect: she doesn’t think of people as “dead beats” just because they don’t have money, and the verse is also true; she doesn’t think people are better human beings just because they have money.
im sorry but you say "can take care of me." and you say its not about money
That just shows right there that you are more worried about his income .
Why does someone have look after the other partner financially why cant it be a equal thing?
It isn’t about money for all girls, although I agree, it does seem to be for ‘u make it entertaining’. Some girls think that choosing a partner is really more “choosing a lifestyle”. But for some people, it really is about genuine feelings. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2010 7:04:29 AM | Female animals are often attracted to males who are good providers, because they are programmed towards finding a mate that will give their offspring the best chance of survival, and most reproductive activity involves the female becoming somewhat vulnerable and dependent for a period of time...which equates to needing a partner who can be relied on to provide. In other species this might relate to the ability to hunt or find food, and in humans it partially relates to earning income. Personally, I like how it feels to support myself, and I've dated guys who haven't had a brass razoo to their name without being in the least bit bothered by that...but if I were to have a baby... the latter stages of pregnancy and demands of motherhood during the first year after the birth would seriously impede on my own ability to earn income at the level I do now. It would put me in a vulnerable position and, personally, I wouldn't want to depend on government assistance to raise a kid. So, mercenary as it may sound, I can actually understand why a woman who particularly wanted having babies to be part of her relationship might look at a potential partner's ability to earn income as one relevant factor.
And even if she doesn't consciously want kids, she is still at the mercy of inbuilt biological influences that direct her towards seeking a good prospect for breeding. In that respect, a woman could probably no more be criticised for factoring in a man's job/income in her dating decisions than a man is for factoring in his inbuilt preference for a nice set of tits and youthful looks, which are positive indicators of female reproductive capacity and therefore ding some bells with his (latent or patent) desire to perpetuate his genes.
Gosh, hormones are just so sinister. Lucky all forum posters are completely immune to their evil effects.
It's all about bragging rights...Girls keeping an eye out for "the prize", still want to nab the guy with the coolest job, or the hardest 6 pack. ...Now won't the other girls just be GREEN with envy
I hear ya. Women are just so shallow. Why can't they be more like men, who, for example, gain no buzz whatsoever from having their mates go phwoooaaarrr when they walk in with a hot (but classy, of course) chicka on their arm. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2010 1:10:33 PM |
^^^
Point taken.
But there is also so much more than money which makes a man the best possible choice for a women’s children (which is effectively my first point). And just to put that in the context of the actual thread, I think it’s fair to say that taxi drivers can easily have nearly all of those qualities (versatile hours being a big one, and most of the others being non-work related personal attributes). | |
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Posted: 5/18/2010 4:45:18 PM | Would it be fair to say that in oreder to know the real reason why they stop talking to you we should ask them?
This would be the same as me saying that after I tell most guys on here what I do for a living ..they all want to be my best friend... that is not the case and I've been ignored for a lot less than telling someone what I do for a living...
People will ignore you for all sorts of reasons on this system and unfortunatelly there is no way of knowing exactly why nor.. should one really be bothered by it as, if it's happened your better off anyway :-)
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Posted: 5/18/2010 7:37:01 PM | But there is also so much more than money which makes a man the best possible choice for a women’s children
Indeed. Which is why I made reference to it being understandable that it might be 'factored in' and used wording like... 'might look at a potential partner's ability to earn income as one relevant factor'. Because I wasn't the one who was trying to portray that this one aspect of choice is the only ultimate deciding factor that causes women to decide whether or not to date a particular man (that would be the OP). Nor was I the one using that fallacious assumption to leapfrog to accusatory conclusions about the women in question being greedy, selfish, shallow, stupid and up to something sinister (that would be you).
As an aside to Ahron...I also wonder why you only play your stupid false-names game with women. Why don't you play it with men. If it's only a game it shouldn't matter which gender you are playing with and yet you specifically said you do it to girls...choose a girl...all approach her...etc. Perhaps the reasons are sinister. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2010 7:44:15 PM |
Female animals are often attracted to males who are good providers, because they are programmed towards finding a mate that will give their offspring the best chance of survival,
For once I totally agree, with this statement. Its ok for men to like someone based on how sexy they are….lol. . For myself its about self confidence and the ability to communicate. Not just say “hay sey, wanna get laid” . Someone who enjoys many things in life.
It's all about bragging rights...Girls keeping an eye out for "the prize", still want to nab the guy with the coolest job, or the hardest 6 pack. ...Now won't the other girls just be GREEN with envy
Wow that’s statement screams resentment and very little about women’s abilities and thought process. That we are totally, driven by what’s between our legs. Kind of scary, how some men think so little of how women go about choosing a mate.
How they ignore what women have on their profile. Looking for, kind sensitive, trust worthy, honest male. Is what I have noticed most women look for. In both sexs, there has to be some physical attraction. Otherwise how do we keep producing?, because not all of us are both stunning great looking or beautiful. Yet we still manage to find partners…!!?
I agree with message 20, why not ask sometime, always helps to get constructive criticism. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2010 3:52:52 AM |
Nor was I the one using that fallacious assumption to leapfrog to accusatory conclusions about the women in question being greedy, selfish, shallow, stupid and up to something sinister (that would be you).
Yeah that would be me. Just not as sure that I agree about the “fallacious” bit. I watch these pathetic girls mannerisms change in response to what occupation they think I do. There is no children that they’re looking out for either – they’re one night stand material and they’re deliberately acting as such. It’s about sex to them. Still they’d rather it with a person who is of course a better person, by virtue of having a “better” job.
You don’t have to consider whatever motivates their behaviour to be pathetic, or sinister for that matter, but it is.
Is this a generalisation? Not really! It’s a statement, and it only applies to the girls that it applies to. I’m not claiming that it applies to all girls.
As an aside to Ahron...I also wonder why you only play your stupid false-names game with women. Why don't you play it with men. If it's only a game it shouldn't matter which gender you are playing with and yet you specifically said you do it to girls...choose a girl...all approach her...etc. Perhaps the reasons are sinister.
For a start, my stupid false name game would be better described as a “whole identity game”.
Secondly, yes the reasons are sinister – but you can rest assured that only shallow girls will ever fall victim; decent girls are immune :) . Or, as LC pointed out, my game may even benefit girls who are not necessarily shallow, but who are on the prowl for exactly what’s on offer – which case, everyone’s a winner. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2010 4:22:29 AM |
Wow that’s statement screams resentment and very little about women’s abilities and thought process.
Are you insinuating that I made even a passing comment about women's abilities, or that you have a thought process? | |
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Posted: 5/19/2010 5:09:18 AM |
People will ignore you for all sorts of reasons on this system and unfortunatelly there is no way of knowing exactly why....
I agree. There are so many variables, occupation being just one of them, it seems a little hasty to blame just that one.
It could be that that tendency is actually what people, not just women, find unappealing? A lack of introspection that leads one to leap to wrong, or simple conclusions and then become fixated on them without considering alternatives.
There was a thread not too long ago where some guy was carping about being a single parent because as soon as women found out he had children at home... Surprise! They bolted.
Then before that there was that thread from that guy who liked wearing nappies under his Thomas the Tank Engine romper suit, which was all very well and hardly worth mentioning, but when he told prospective dates he sometimes took a dump in his 'FluffySofts", apparently they just plain baulked at the idea of spanking him for being so naughty.
Women are sooooo shallow. | |
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