| | I don't know what to doPage 1 of 1 | I live in a small city, i've lived here for 3 1/2 years...it's a boom town/ oil town...things are slow now and there's alot less people here; mainly alot less hot women. Im attracted to women, but it's been a while since i've met any single women who were attractive...im not shy either i can talk to people out in public and make small talk...if i do see someone i like there's usually a boy friend or a wedding ring, lol what to do when the girl next door weighs 200ibs or more and stants 5'5.  | |
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Posted: 5/16/2010 2:00:55 AM | Is your city has a population of less than 500? Then go to the next city, problem solved!!! 
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Posted: 5/16/2010 5:18:10 AM | Dude,you're just an average looking guy yourself and you're bangin' on about hotttt women............get real.
You also talk about alcohol..........as though its the home base of your life.
Get yaself out of the booze cesspool,get real and start with just your normal,average girl-next-door........if your ego will allow it.................
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Posted: 5/16/2010 5:20:06 AM | Move.
Try Hollywood, then you can pick up hotties, if they'll have you. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2010 5:57:30 AM | good grief,
you are an average looking young man. you will not be catching that smoking hot babe, so do as another poster suggested you do....find a regular girl, cut back on the drink.
oh, and see profile review...you need it in a bad way | |
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Posted: 5/16/2010 6:14:34 AM | If you were all that and a bag of chips you would be dating? no
even the heavy ones dont want you , what does that say about you?
guess who will be sticking to the palm brothers? | |
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Posted: 5/16/2010 6:51:03 AM | | I've heard this argument before, from a close friend. It's called "throwing up barriers", meaning, there are opportunities and women around, but you place too high a standard on what you think you want, so you can avoid dealing with the reality that you don't want to date. Either you fear rejection, or you don't want to be accountable, or you simply want a woman to fall in your lap without effort, or you are the type that thinks the grass is always greener, or you feel uncomfortable with intimacy, or you work better alone, or you don't want to change your behavior patterns...Idk. What I do know is that if you really did wish to find a woman to be with, you wouldn't make this kind of excuse, and you'd find single women attractive, not married ones. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2010 7:19:46 AM | | So you're interested in dating your neighbour and you stated her size because you're not sure how to bring up going to aerobics class together? | |
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Posted: 5/16/2010 7:22:27 AM | a lot of people on online sites have this exact problem.
there isnt anyone (or very few and very far away) to date in the real world...so Online dating is the solution.
i guess these people plan to use online sites very SERIOUSLY to meet someone and hopefully start a REAL LIFE thing.
so you have company with this problem.
anyway it always a good idea to take an objective honest look at yourself and reevaluate yourself often to be sure that YOU are the hottie that you think you are. its amazing how some people thingk they are so great....they really BELIEVE it...but holy crap yowza....they are really losers in so so so many ways. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2010 8:15:53 AM | | Try your luck in other cities with wider demographics. Living in the Inland Empire in SoCal, clearly a lot of the men living out here aren't my type. I prefer to look else where. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2010 8:50:56 AM | Lemons has a great point. Examine that carefully.
Past that, you claim that there are absolutely no attractive women where you live at all, who are not already attached. Are you considering trying to start an affair, on the grounds that there's only knot holes as an alternate? Forget that.
From a dry, logical point of view, your (obvious) options are
1. Move elsewhere.
2. Open a weight-loss spa, and BUILD a mate.
3. Enjoy YOURSELF.
4. Check into religious cults in your area.
5. Try for a mail-order bride. Russia seems to have plenty. I'd avoid Nigeria.
6.Complain on internet dating sites about your challenging life, until everyone gets tired of it, then start a new internet dating site so no one recognizes it's you again.
You already used the little yellow drinking guys to indicate you are giving due consideration to alcoholism and/or fishing as a pass-time. You mentioned oil, but not water, so I think you would HAVE to be plastered to think you can catch fish from an oil well.
By the way, I would have thought that an oil town would want to AVOID things that go "boom." | |
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Posted: 5/16/2010 1:29:08 PM | Well...either date the local big girls...
or move to a big town with skinnier girls.
But maybe the local big girls are the easier option.
Cus as the ladies above posted...
skinnier city girls are waaaaayyy pickier.
Good Luck. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2010 1:56:17 PM | "i've got my eye's set on a fifth of scotch, lol. Yajjer"
Problem #1
Your are a smoker
Problem #2
You AREN"T hot
Problem#3
"the girl next door weighs 200ibs or more and stants 5'5"
She is your target audience, you have the looks to match this demographic, you are just in a huge denial.
You say in your profile , "what makes you think I would want to live with an unemployed woman"?
Is either her, if she kindly takes you in, or your bottle of beer and scotch, happy for ever after. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2010 1:59:40 PM | | First off, try and stay away from the Grande Prairie Inn, The Trumpeter, Sharks, Crown & Anchor or any other bar in town...you drink too much and your profile says so. You live in a city with a population of over 30 thousand for crying out loud, you're not in Dog Patch. Life is what you make of it, you're young and will grow up (hopefully). Join a baseball team or hockey or something - get out of the bar. I lived in your city, there is nothing wrong with your city - change your attitude. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2010 2:34:09 PM | | Relocate then. Besides all you are looking for is hang out. Don't hang out next door. Go join a gym, better yourself and meet people there. Or in College or something. You really need to be hot to catch something hot anyway. And well.....yeah, join the gym. Good start. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2010 5:15:20 AM | | Just read your profile, Eewwww. Rewriting it will help, start by making sense. As already suggested use the profile review. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2010 6:24:21 AM |
if i do see someone i like there's usually a boy friend or a wedding ring Sounds like the good looking girls have picked out the good looking guys!  | |
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Posted: 5/18/2010 9:11:53 PM | | i work in the oil business, i can't leave the city im in...work won't let me leave with a job and i like my job,,,it's my life | |
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Posted: 5/18/2010 9:13:06 PM | | ouch... about the profile review. I know im average..........i like average girls...but i don't think you can really see where im coming from. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2010 8:09:05 AM | You need to change your routine. Stop going to the same places. Check an alternative newspaper for an exibit, concert or a free art show that is going on, borrow a friends dog and walk him through a big park. Take an adult Ed class, Volunteer!!!!
When you mix it up you will meet a new crowd of people. But sitting in the old neighborhood bar is no way to meet new people. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2010 8:40:57 AM | | I hate to tell you this. But there are beautiful women EVERYWHERE. If you hang out a men's bar or at the local Fry food place, all you are going to find is what you have found. But if you look for alternative places, alternative activities you will find a completely different set of women. And they are everywhere. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2010 4:41:49 PM | | thanks man, i appreciate that post....it's good advice, i tend to frequent the same places to much. I work away from home about 25 days a month....so when i get home i go where i know and where i feel comfortable. I do ask out women here and there but with my schedule - it's very hard to find women who are understanding that if im at home i have to be resting for work to call me out or that i can't spend every last cent i have because i will have to eat on the road between paychecks. Any how i won't gibber gabber... have a good one | |
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Posted: 5/19/2010 6:24:03 PM | As far as POF goes. Get a profile revue. Get rid of the BEER!
As far as women in general go. Learn about women, and particularly about attraction, otherwise you will always be behind the eight ball, in matters of romance. Contrary to common belief, women can be understood. Maybe, not every one, but most! Enough to get what you want, avoid costly mistakes and serious unhappiness!
And as far as attraction goes. When a guy has it, or developes it, circumstances don't matter as much anymore! Women that are attracted to a guy, will move mountains or just move to be with him! Like I always say, when a woman is attracted to a man, you can't seem to get rid of them, even if you want to! That's how powerful the attraction thing is! | |
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