| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/16/2005 6:18:52 PM | I can understand a message that goes unread. If I see it's been deleted then I can resend it. Those are great site features. It's when I put time into reading through all the profiles to find someone I'm sincerely interested in, spend time studying the profile, and carefully crafting a response to try and break the ice, and get ABSOLUTELY NOTHING IN RETURN that really hurts. 
Compared to being ignored for all my heartfelt work, I'd rather be told to "**** off." At least it dignifies me with a response, AND it lets me know where I stand.
So, ladies, reply. A simple "I'm not interested" will suffice, although I can see the merits of "**** off"--it does have fewer letters. | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/16/2005 7:15:27 PM | I don't get it. If I don't like someone, I send the following:
Thank you for the compliment but I'm not interested. | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/16/2005 7:24:57 PM | | My feelings exactly. If someone puts effort into actually writing a well-constructed email, the LEAST the recipient could do is reply, whether interested or not. It's just COMMON COURTESY! | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/16/2005 7:30:19 PM | | What do you expect? No abs showing, no sneers, no pictures of your car, using complete sentences.... | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/16/2005 8:35:38 PM | If you're typing 2+ page icebreakers, you're doing something wrong.
Just write shorter icebreakers. You have other things to do in your life. :P | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/16/2005 8:47:38 PM | I hear you. Most of my mail has been opened and even responded to but it is frustrating to go to your mail and wonder what someone had to say back after you thought about how to break the ice with them and they don't even have the decency to look at the letter. Oh well I feel their loss in possibly making a new friend or maybe more one day. There are plenty of fish in the sea so keep on fishing and have fun people.
Carmella | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/16/2005 9:09:31 PM | The majority, I'm thinking, whom respond here will say something along the lines of "If s/he doesn't write back, it means they're not interested - get a life and move on!"
Which holds truth, but it's not very comforting...
Women get a ton of msg's on this site from what I've read, and if they respond polietly with "no thanks," some guys become nasty and verbally attack - so in this I can understand the better-safe-than-pissed-off action taken by women.
Well, that's the insight I've gained from absorbing what's been written.
It sucks, and it can stab - taking the time to read a profile and writing to break the ice, make an introduction, all in the attempt to just try and know the other...only to have it read and deleted without a word from them.
Most of us here who've been online-rejects (myself included) will probably view it as disdain on the other's side, disregarding our words knowing many others will write.
There's alot of frustration from the guys on this site from what I've read ... and a few women.
We're all simply trying to know the other - and yea there are idiotic/moronic/assoholic guys and girls here, yet I'll wager the majority are not like that.
Ah well ... so it goes.
Like many will say in response to this thread ... move on and keep fishing. | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/17/2005 5:52:04 AM | I believe an e-mail should get some response...even a simple "no thanks". Unless of course, it is a vulgar one....them I simply delete....all other get a response. | |
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| Your Eggs Are All in One Basket
Posted: 7/17/2005 6:06:26 AM | The fact that you are so upset that this one woman didn't respond to your email I think shows that you had all your hopes riding on here. Keep your options open. I'm not saying to write an email to everyone woman on this site - but write to more than one.
I'd love to see the email that you wrote her, that might shine some light on the subject. | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/17/2005 6:12:13 AM | OK, here ya go: "**** off." !!!
Well, you asked for it.
Nobody is obligated to reply just because you sent them an email. That's like saying they should answer the phone just because you call. Nope! It is entirely up to the person whether they wish to reply. It is incorrect to expect otherwise. There is no basis for such an expectation. It presumes to induce an obligation. In other words, it is presumptuous and therefore rude. At best an email is an invitation which should be made graciously and without any expectation of response. At worst it is your groping hand trying to claw its way through a partially open door.
Make the adjustment to your expectation and you won't get put out when they don't reply. This is all supposed to be FUN. Remember Funyuns? Man, those were nasty. | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/17/2005 6:29:52 AM | yea those funyuns...nothing nastier than synthetic onion flavor, unless... strawberry quick...
oh, were we trying to address this poor blokes dilema? right. Well, did she respond to previous mail from you? or not at all? Is this a pattern you've encountered? check youself out.. get a few opinions from the guy who is overloaded with responses...what do I know, I can't keep up with my own mail! | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/17/2005 7:15:14 AM | @Armorous
Exactly! You are one smart slayer of dragons! I for one don't reply if I'm not interested. Sorry if you all think it's rude...it's just the way it is. If I don't get a reply back from an email, I figure he's not interested. Simple. | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/17/2005 8:02:46 AM | Math,
Why indeed would you resend something that was deleted darlin?
Believe it or not, there are men on these sites that don't take a polite "no thank you". They see it as a foot in the door to keep talking to you, then you're stuck trying to be polite as to WHY you're not interested. It can turn into opening a big can of worms, and who's here for that??
She could have had a million reasons for not answering you back, maybe you're too old, too young, live farther away then she's willing to travel or she's not looking for 'short term' as you are. Whatever the case, HER LACK of RESPONSE, IS A RESPONSE. Just not the one you were looking for...or any of us for that matter, but it's part of life. Keep looking...whatever you're looking for is out there, you just haven't stumbled on to her yet, or she....you. (by the way, most women will never send a '**** o**' email to an introduction note...not gonna happen.) Best of luck. | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/17/2005 8:09:43 AM | | ^^ Exactly. AND, maybe you didn't read her profile, the part where she says she's only here for the forums. | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/17/2005 8:37:21 AM | this happens to everyone here at some point but to the men... you've got to get over it! women are not obligated to open your mail, let alone respond to your mail. this topic has been done over and over and over and the outcome is always the same... JUST GET OVER IT ALREADY!
mathemagician... ladies that don't respond to your emails have probably sent rejection emails before only to be completely and utterly insulted by the person who initiated contact. so don't blame the lack of response on the women... men don't take rejection well and women here don't like being spoken to the way most men here do when they do get rejected so i'd suggest you start toughening up and stop worrying about it... besides, most women here get too much mail to deal with, let alone respond to the way you're expecting. and if a lady deletes your email... leave her alone. there's no need to re-send that email... that's just annoying. | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/17/2005 9:58:36 AM | | This is so weird...here I was writing about this guys problem. Bam I check my mail and, no it can't be HIM!!! can it??? Well it was one just like him... now buddy, there is absolutely nooooo compassion..Stop the d---m email, no, no, thats it, you are blocked! | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/17/2005 2:53:31 PM | | i noticed you had short term in your profile. that might not be helping you at all. i mean, maybe these women figure you're not serious so why should they take you seriously. just a thought. | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/17/2005 3:12:43 PM |
Women get a ton of msg's on this site from what I've read, and if they respond polietly with "no thanks," some guys become nasty and verbally attack - so in this I can understand the better-safe-than-pissed-off action taken by women.
Well, that's the insight I've gained from absorbing what's been written.
Lets not get gender specific here guys! I have about 20 posts in my "Sent Messages" that show read (not read deleted) where I never got the courtesy of any reply. One even added me to his favourites.
That is why I finally just pulled my profile, and decided to stick to the forums. | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/17/2005 3:28:53 PM | men don't take rejection well
Please don't lump us all into the same basket. Not "all" men get so upset over being rejected. ('specially since it's their loss ) I've known "some" women that got absolutley pissed over being rejected.
OT: Stop whining. | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/17/2005 5:55:35 PM | | Woah, i didn't even know there was that feature where you can tell if someone read it and/or deleted and what not. Shows how smart I AM!!!! | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/17/2005 6:03:02 PM | Thread after thread of this same story "she wont reply"
MOVE ON!
Does it help to complain about it?? Women get way more emails than men. Some women reply to all of them and others do not bother to do that. OH WELL!!
Remember the name of the site and move on "PLENTY OF FISH IN THE SEA" | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/17/2005 6:20:08 PM | This broken record somehow continues to magically spin....so i will try to smash it again by saying as others already have.."They are not interested. Accept. Move on..."
..having said that, I am intrigued about the comment of having ..a "no thanks" reply at the least??...how absurd is that?...What are you asking these woman to do for you in your first email? | |
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| She won't write back!
Posted: 7/17/2005 6:23:15 PM |
^^ Exactly. AND, maybe you didn't read her profile, the part where she says she's only here for the forums.
Baloney...if you're expected to be taken seriously, then simply state youre here for the forums only and lose the bikini pics.. | |
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