| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 10/30/2004 8:42:27 PM | tonight i was reading through the forums, and took time to rate some pictures, and it got me to wondering... what's with all the young'uns?
i mean profile after profile, and forum post after forum post seems to be written, more and more, by kids in the 18 to 22 range. most, if not all, seem attractive and interesting. and i'm wondering, why are they here? i mean i know why i'm here... i'm 45 and have been out of the dating scene for more than a decade. i got a lot of catching up to do, and i have very few, if any, places to meet people. but why would an active college-aged student need an on-line dating site??? aren't there like hundreds of places for an active youth to meet people in "the real world?" | |
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| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 10/30/2004 8:49:34 PM | LOL.
I am a young, active, college-aged student.
The thing is, I am sooo scared to ask some one out that I like, and be rejected cause they are going out with someone else, or they just dont like me...
It is really hard to know if someone is single without just coming out and asking if they are single, they I just dont, ah, I guess feel like I could do that.
Oh, well, I should quit with my babbling. | |
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| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 10/30/2004 9:26:17 PM | | I think it has a lot to do with the fact that the "young'uns" are children of the internet era, whereas many people in their 40's and upwards are not very internet savvy. | |
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| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 10/30/2004 10:31:33 PM | I'm 23 but I don't LIKE what I meet in the bars.
I'm hoping to meet something different here, however from what I've found the guys just use it as a lazy way to find free booty. | |
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| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 10/30/2004 11:06:24 PM | Not me. I really mean I what I said in my message.
Its just, so hard to actually date someone by just meeting them in Safeway / at School. You dont know if they are single, or even looking, or whether they even like you, lol. | |
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| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 10/30/2004 11:12:02 PM | Other people have said it before but it's worth mentioning here: when you're in these forums you get a pretty good chance to find out what a person's personality is like before you start dating. Intelligence and personality are soooo important to me, but you don't get a good gauge on that when music is blaring in the background. Fun, but not meaningful.
Lazy? Maybe. Free booty? HAHAHA hardly! | |
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aliona
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Joined: 10/31/2004
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| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 10/31/2004 10:13:08 AM | Well I go to an art college, I spent all last year in a long distance relationship and that went capput, after the wounds healed I was ready to hit the scene againt his year. The thing is, I havent met any women here that dont smoke, and arent completely crazy. Art kids I tell ya. Not all crazy, but I have had no luck finding a level headed girl that isnt crazy/deeply depressed and doesnt smoke 2 packs a day. Im trying to break my patterns from previous relationships, and a few nights ago I came back from a party where I was the only sober guy(had a great time with friends though) sat at my computer, googled a singles site, randomly chose this one, made a profile, and today I thought Id check the message boards.
That is my story of why I am here, quite a coincidence really. For the most part this seems to be a friendly message board:) | |
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| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 10/31/2004 12:49:34 PM | femmeinin: I love the "what" rather than "who" you meet in the bars...
grandmaster: I hear you on the hard to figure out if they're single thing. Single people should have to wear pink armbands at all times.
Single girls everywhere: are you giving out signs that we're totally missing? For example, when I'm at the gym there are plenty of girls that I see regularly (so we have at least one thing in common!). Does it piss you off or creep you out if guys say "hello" to you? What's a good approach? I'm scared to become known as the facility's stalker, thus I keep to myself.
And not to ignore gator's original post, the internet is definitely a daily part of young people's lives. Hopefully they aren't using online dating as the ONLY source of contact to people. I do notice a distinct lacking of 23 - 27 year olds that I'm searching for... | |
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| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 10/31/2004 1:12:52 PM | sure, point taken - it makes sense that this is the internet generation, but still...
i read some of the posts by these same 18-21 year-olds and they sound a lot like someone my age; older, fed up, and through the ringer on romance! how is that possible? it seems like an internet dating site would sort of be the "last resort." don't college-aged adults have a whole lot more "real-world" opportunities? | |
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| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 10/31/2004 1:22:36 PM | I go to school, I'm 24 and I get ZERO indications that anyone finds me the least bit interesting in a boyfriend/whatever way.
While I have friends(friends of friends really) that are complete jackholes and yet they always have girlfriends?(notice the plural)
So what does that mean to me?
A big slap in the face is what it means to me!
Am I bitter or have I given up? Hell no!
I haven’t even started yet!
For all I know I am doing something wrong.
Maybe I should be so afraid to ask.
But when you see guys talking to girls for 3 minutes and then immediately sucking face and you can't even tell if a girl is interested, what the hell are you suppose to think?
Now that I am done ranting, I think I'll watch a rerun of DS9 ..... Hey it's the one where the rogue mercenaries take over the station, CHOICE!
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| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 10/31/2004 1:28:19 PM |
don't college-aged adults have a whole lot more "real-world" opportunities?
I dunno. Depends.
Myself, I juggle work, school, and studio work everyday. So I don't get a real good chance to go out and do all the things that I would like to be able to do, not like I used to anyway. I've got way too many responsibilities these days. | |
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| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 10/31/2004 1:33:36 PM | | i aint a youngin by your definition but i'm just here because its another option... cant afford and dont want to be out playing every night and this is kind of like searching on my own schedule. why not use every tool available to catch the perfect partner? | |
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| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 10/31/2004 6:42:25 PM | | I am to young for this sh*t. I would perfer going to clubs. But as someone stated its hard to get to know someone with music blaring in you ear. Pubs I find are to boring and mostly freuqented by an older crowd. House parties are cool but I rarely go to good ones anymore (and I get to drunk). Then I am scared sh*tless to ask out a girl I meet on the bus, in class or what have you. Then theres the cost, this is free (Usaully I spend the mandatory $20+ when I go out). Its really just another option. Not a great one mind you but its there. Atleast here you can make the assumption that most parties included are also looking for someone. Alos we are the internet/computer generation (I hate to re-use that point but I believe it is the biggest factor). Plus the forums are just, as tony the tiger would put it, Great. | |
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| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 5/17/2005 6:33:33 PM | I am 22 years old, and I was sad to see a person ask why "An active college-aged student need an online dating site? Aren't there like hundreds of places for an active youth to meet people in the real world"?
First, I'm not sure if you meant to, but you made it sound like you look down on young people who would come to a place like this. Not all people in the 18-22 age range feel like that is the point in life they are at (college). So why do you generalize? (Or seem to?)
As for your question, aren't there better places for someone 'my age' to meet someone? I'm sure there are 'better' places at pretty much any age. But in my case, I am terrified of many of those types of places.
Why? I have a disorder called Asperger's Syndrome. It's a social disorder. It is a chemical imbalance in my mind, basically. So these places that you speak of, they sound wonderful to me, but it is rare I feel comfortable in any of them. I come here to find simple friendship because here, I can get to know the personality of the person I'm talking with BEFORE I'm confronted with speaking to them 1 on 1, and they have the opportunity to get to know my personality just the same. This makes me feel much better and far less on edge when I do meet a person to hang out with.
For me, it's the best way to go. I've met several friends off here that I never would have approached had it not been for the internet. | |
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| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 5/17/2005 6:40:03 PM | | Most of the older folks here keep themselves sedated in the 30+ area, in their 40+ and 50+ threads. Once in a while the mods look in on them to make sure the mail isn't piling up, which could be a bad sign. | |
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| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 5/17/2005 7:03:34 PM | The young uns grew up with the internet and are used to using it for everything.
Guess what, they dont know anything about courtship
Or how to amuse themselves without porn | |
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| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 5/17/2005 7:11:07 PM | 19 year old Marine, new to California, and most girls here are impossible to approach- either stuck up or wary of Marines that have beriddled their towns all their lives | |
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| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 5/17/2005 7:12:55 PM | | well, im in college but i find that it's really hard to meet people. i don't know if it's just me or maybe it's the town i live in, but since im not from around here, i came here not knowing anyone, and ive been having a really hard time meeting people. i have met a few people off the net and i guess it's easier that way for me. | |
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| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 5/17/2005 8:07:17 PM | gotta love us prostitots and eleventeen year olds!
Lets see...I don't NEED an internet dating site, but it allows you to meet people you otherwise never would have the chance to!
I work with girls...go to school with girls...when I go to the bar I'm not looking to pick up, just have fun with my friends.
There are plenty of places to meet people...but like many people, if I'm interested in someone I can get shy and don't want to approach them. Here you can be quirky, shy, outgoing or a smart ass and maybe someone may find you interesting enough to talk to! | |
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| what's with all the young'uns?!
Posted: 5/17/2005 8:07:26 PM | Man, the only thing that irks me, is so far, everyone my age is voting me 1... yes 1.
Everyone 30+ I'm 5+ or so. Maybe I should invest my time in hitting on older women.  | |
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