| | how to tell a girl thatPage 1 of 4 (1, 2, 3, 4) | | Can someone, preferably a woman, tell me how to go about telling a girl you have feelings for them without it making social interactions awkward if she doesn't feel the same way? A guy can answer me if he was successful with whatever he did. Preferably though I feel more confident with a woman's answer. | |
|
| how to tell a girl that
Posted: 10/28/2010 2:15:41 PM | I'm no woman, but I've found that when I've needed to do this, I just "put it out there" and roll with it. Any time you tell a girl you like her, you risk awkward social interactions. But, over time, and usually a short amount of time, the awkwardness wears off.
She'll likely be flattered and if you were nice about how you talked to her, she'll be nice to you.
Good luck, be brave | |
|
| how to tell a girl that
Posted: 10/28/2010 2:20:10 PM | | If you tell her, and she doesn't feel the same way, put on your big boy pants and move on to the next one. Don't stick around. You'll just end up getting friend zoned. | |
|
| how to tell a girl that
Posted: 10/28/2010 2:21:48 PM | You can not predict the future. I have tried. If I could I would know tonights lottery winning numbers and I would be set for life.
Sometimes you just gotta take a risk....even when feelings are involved. It won't kill yah, I promise.
Just tell her. You only have control over your own "social awkwardness". It doesn't have to be that way. If she rejects you.... then you can stop dreaming about her and find someone else.
If she reciprocates feelings than that will be good, let us hope.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Just do it and then let the chips fall where they may.
The only other choice you have is to pine away in solitude and wonder for the rest of your life....what if and only if I had said something before she married him and had 12 kids...  | |
|
| how to tell a girl that
Posted: 10/28/2010 2:37:33 PM | | Just keep your tone and words light and casual. If you sound like you're going to kill yourself if she doesn't reciprocate your interest, that's going to make things awkward. | |
|
| how to tell a girl that
Posted: 10/28/2010 2:39:46 PM | How about something like, in your own words, "Listen, I don't want to make things awkward if you're not interested, but I'm interested in you. Would you like to [insert date activity and suggested day/time of your preference]?
If she says yes, great!
If it's a no, words to the effect of - and no more than - "Okay. See you around [or, insert wherever/whenever you're likely to see her next] - have a great day!" Then leave. And do your damndest to look and sound like it really is okay. Eventually, it will be. | |
|
| how to tell a girl that
Posted: 10/28/2010 2:43:52 PM |
tell me how to go about telling a girl you have feelings for them without it making social interactions awkward if she doesn't feel the same way?
Sure, it's easy.
You get all ambiguous and vague.
Like asking them out, then treating it like a date without calling it a date, then when saying good bye you just walk off but not in a weird or too abrupt manner, just like a friend expecting to see them again. Then you call them and chat for a few hours. Then you send flowers to her at work and tell her what a great and sexy friend she is.You act aloof and uncaring one minute, and then get jealous of her brother the next. The crazier yet not quite to the psycho line the better.
Eventually if will make social interactions awkward if she comes to some sort of conclusion or gets scared in the confusion.
But the thing is you play games and are all vague and ambiguous.
So it takes a few weeks.
Whereas if you are just direct with your intentions and desires it happens immediately.
Manipulating her perceptions or the relationship buys you time, not an absolute end result, and you can get what you want out of them in that time.
A guy can answer me if he was successful with whatever he did.
If a guy was "successful" would he be on a dating site?
Unless his intent was to simply hit it and quit it...and then do you think he would answer on a public forum? | |
|
| how to tell a girl that
Posted: 10/28/2010 2:50:06 PM | Well I'm not a girl,. so I won't tell you what to do.. I WILL however, tell you what NOT to do, and that's Don't do what My friend Steve G. did.. We would go to the bar,. (usually a crowded one) And he'd start:.. he'd go up to some fine girl & say "Hey,.. wanna fukk?" and he'd get hit,.. but he'd go to the next,. and say "Hey,.. wanna fukk?" and get a drink in the face,.. well to make this story shorter (and because I'm a 1-finger typer) He'd just keep going, hit, kick, drink after drink,. untill he asked "Hey,.. wanna fukk?" and some girl said "Ok"... and they'd go to the parking lot & fukk like minks in his van..and it ALMOST never failed! I could never get my balls that big to handle all that violent rejection..so I just couldn't do it (though I did get drunk and try it on a dare from him & my guys.. I made it through 3 before quitting) But yaknow,.. when him & me went out,. I went home alone a lot more than he did,.go figure...  | |
|
| how to tell a girl that
Posted: 10/28/2010 3:04:42 PM |
tell me how to go about telling a girl you have feelings for them without it making social interactions awkward if she doesn't feel the same way?
depends. have you been playing the friend card? sniffing around and pretending to be her bud in hopes of getting in her pants? if so, that's a sh|t strategy and you should stop doing it regardless of other circumstances.
so you might as well tell her directly and get it out in the open. she might say yes, and the thing you fear will never materialize. but odds are she'll make some excuse that means 'NO!' and then you go away and focus on some other chick. the friend card is a dishonest strategy and everyone involved ends up getting deceived and/or used.
if it's someone you haven't been 'friending,' just ask her out on a date. if the date materializes, congratulations - she likes you, or at least is willing to check you out. if the date never materializes, you've been brushed off, and you don't have to worry about awkward social situation because there won't be any social situations at all, unless you stalk her or try to play the friend card (see above), in which case you deserve all the awkwardness you get. | |
|
| how to tell a girl that
Posted: 10/28/2010 3:04:51 PM | | An awesome lady once told me not to boost her ego with compliments. See how that works for you - my train has left the station... | |
|
| how to tell a girl that
Posted: 10/28/2010 3:05:32 PM | Demon what you do expect from bars??????????? to find June Cleaver?????
OP, you can't know what a girl will do or not do unless you put the info out there.
All she will do is say yes or no be polite and DON'T be like demon's friend.......if she says no, like someone said, put on your big boy pants and move on to the next one......good luck and happy  | |
|
| how to tell a girl that
Posted: 10/28/2010 4:42:21 PM | It will only be awkward if you can't deal with the response - but at the same time, it won't be in your best interest to continue a friendship with her anyway if you want more - since it's not a genuine friendship.
If you're cool with it either way, you'll both pretty much just roll past it without a problem and it won't have any foundation for awkwardness. | |
|
| how to tell a girl that
Posted: 10/28/2010 4:56:56 PM | A guy can answer me if he was successful with whatever he did.
Buddy.. there is NO success telling a girl you have feelings for her. It gives her all of the control. If she's shown some interest, be cool, be fun, joke around with her, but telling her you like her is stupid if you don't already have some sort of connection.
Preferably though I feel more confident with a woman's answer.
Secondly, NEVER take dating advice from women, only take dating advice from guys you know who are successful with attracting women...
... or, if you DO listen to what the women say, do the opposite.....
 | |
|
| how to tell a girl that
Posted: 10/28/2010 5:05:35 PM | Can someone, preferably a woman, tell me how to go about telling a girl you have feelings for them without it making social interactions awkward if she doesn't feel the same way? A guy can answer me if he was successful with whatever he did.
Believe it or not, just talking to her in person and saying, ``Hey, would you like to go out to dinner on _________(Pick a definte time)'' works just fine. If she she's interested in you, she'll either say yes or she'll offer an alternative day and time if she's busy. If she isn't interested in you, she'll just give you an excuse. As long as you just accept the excuse as if you've left things up in the air, nothing will be awkward. You haven't poured your heart out and made and idiot of yourself and you've given her an out that lets her tell you she isn't interested without actually forcing her to say it. If you just carry on as before, you'll be surprised at how smoothly it goes. | |
|
| how to tell a girl that
Posted: 10/28/2010 5:08:51 PM | ptttfff
a newbie.
I generally wait for em to tell me that.
:-)
But if you want to rush things.
how long have yall been dating?
If not dating yet?
never mention it.
Say something like "I think you're pretty cool and I'd like
to know you better".
(or take you out)
(or compose a sonnet to you)
or whatever is your style.
If dating abit and she likes you...she'll act like it.
so look for that and you'll know.
But never...NEVER have feelings for a girl...
until she does for you first.
things just go easier.
trust me on that. | |
|
| how to tell a girl that
Posted: 10/28/2010 5:15:47 PM | In my VAST experience it is the kiss of death to have a talk like that with a woman initially. Just ask her out for coffee. No big deal. No sonnets, no roses, no brass bands. If she says "NO" there is minimal awkwardness, just talk a bit longer and make a polite exit.
If she says "yes" see how it goes, don't push it. Let things unfold on their own time table. | |
|
| how to tell a girl that
Posted: 10/28/2010 5:20:51 PM | "I really am glad I know you"
"I like you"
Gracious op..How well do you know her?
Have you had a date?
Have you ever talked to a woman?
I agree men are more qualified to answer this..If you creep us out ..Like is ok.
But careful...
And no...........
"I haven't had an orthodox career in love, and I've wanted more than anything to have your respect. The first time I didn't feel it, but this time I feel it, and I can't deny the fact that I like you, right now, and you like me don't you?"
| |
|
| how to tell a girl that
Posted: 10/28/2010 5:39:02 PM | Blaugh:^^^hate to blow your theory,,,but men and women agree on many issues ;)
<div class="quote"> I'm no woman, but I've found that when I've needed to do this, I just "put it out there" and roll with it. Any time you tell a girl you like her, you risk awkward social interactions. But, over time, and usually a short amount of time, the awkwardness wears off.
She'll likely be flattered and if you were nice about how you talked to her, she'll be nice to you.
Good luck, be brave
Agreed. | |
|
| how to tell a girl that
Posted: 10/28/2010 5:39:56 PM |
Can someone, preferably a woman, tell me how to go about telling a girl you have feelings for them without it making social interactions awkward if she doesn't feel the same way? A guy can answer me if he was successful with whatever he did. Preferably though I feel more confident with a woman's answer.
Your approach would depend. Have you had a date with her? Have you been interacting with one another as friends? Does she know you exist? lol
There will ONLY be awkwardness if you don't like how she responds to your declaration OR she sees you as merely a friend. | |
|
| how to tell a girl that
Posted: 10/28/2010 5:53:43 PM |
But never...NEVER have feelings for a girl...
until she does for you first.
things just go easier.
trust me on that.
*whew* I thought i was the only one who thought this way.
good call. And makes a whole lot of sense.........................................
| |
|
| how to tell a girl that
Posted: 10/28/2010 5:55:42 PM | Blaugh:^^^hate to blow your theory,,,but men and women agree on many issues ;)
Well, yeah-ahhhhh.....
.... and, so...?
While I agree that men and women agree on many issues, women give terrible dating advice to men. Women give advice according to how they'd like to be approached/dated by their fantasy man. NO man will EVER live up to ANY woman's fantasy man.
.. smiple, really....
----
vvvvv... lying? Really? How many women have you dated? ...
... you may think that you and the sistas have all the answers, but when it comes to dating women, if I ever wanted advice on how to attract women, I'm gonna emulate the people who are good at it....
... you'd take advice from someone who has no expertise in something? ... who have abosolutely ZERO experience doing a specific thing successfully? Really?
| |
|
| |
| how to tell a girl that
Posted: 10/28/2010 6:06:19 PM | but men and women agree on many issues ;)
That is true but some of the men here have been in this dating business since the fifth grade and know their stuff. Most women know squat about asking anyone out. | |
|
| how to tell a girl that
Posted: 10/28/2010 6:16:27 PM |
But never...NEVER have feelings for a girl...
until she does for you first.
things just go easier.
trust me on that.
*whew* I thought i was the only one who thought this way.
good call. And makes a whole lot of sense.........................................
Ok , Stray_Cat and misterdynomite, can you please explain this reasoning to me? | |
|
| how to tell a girl that
Posted: 10/28/2010 6:34:25 PM | | Puke on her. Stan on South Park pukes on the girl he likes whenever she talk to him. She like it. On one episode she even gets jealous when he pukes on someone else. Should work. | |
|
Home
login 
