| | What do guys really expect/want?Page 1 of 3 (1, 2, 3) | I have an age old question for you, well its really three questions.
What does the average guy really expect on the first and second dates?
What does a guy think of a girl who puts out on the first date?
When does a guy expect sex? (How far in) | |
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Posted: 7/18/2005 3:14:50 PM | First date = a hug, maybe a kiss.
Second date = definately a kiss, maybe a longer date
Third date = cuddling, maybe a nice makeout session
Fourth date = maybe more... :)
I expect sex when it comes. First date? That's a no-no. It might be fun, but it's not what I want. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2005 3:16:54 PM | OK,
reality check.
1. date one, SEX
2. date two, SEX
3. date two, SEX
repeat 1 and 2 only if the sex was good, otherwise leave before the fourth date. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2005 3:27:09 PM | well as for everything else we do in life we want SEX.Reality of the matter is thats not always gonna happen but when it does but im always horny so my opinion is a little biased | |
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Posted: 7/18/2005 3:27:11 PM | Expect
1) Some level of affection, even if that's just a brief touching of the arm or something to let me know there's some level of interest. I really dislike the women out there who believe a first date should be treated like a business lunch that ends with a firm handshake. On a second date, I would expect to get a kiss. If there's nothing there after two dates, I don't want a third, but that's just me.
2) I personally wouldn't ever date a girl who gave it up on the first date. I would assume I'm not the first guy she's done that with, and that's not someone I want to be involved with. I might sleep with her again, but she wouldn't ever become my girlfriend.
3) If we haven't had sex after six weeks or five dates/get togethers (whichever comes first), I'd probably assume she's not physically attracted to me, and would likely end things because there's no point in continuing a relationship with someone who doesn't think I'm attractive.
Want
1) That's easy, all guys would want to have sex after every date. They may say otherwise, but that's just to save face.
2) If a girl has sex on the first date, I think she's easy to have sex with. Could be good or bad depending on the guy. As I stated earlier, I would think it's bad.
3) I think a guy would want to have sex at the first available opportunity, whatever that may be. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2005 3:28:31 PM | I think I'd go with a five date rule...
Three successful dates to establish that you're "dating"
Fifth date if all is going well, can probably be considered a couple.
As for expectations... I recommend losing them. If she's got the hots for you so bad that you get some action on the first date, congrats. Nothing wrong with it really. For some people it works and others it does not.  | |
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Posted: 7/18/2005 3:54:03 PM | damn this is kinda scary what ever happened to chemestry if it feels good go for it. nothing as beautiful as a woman nothing more of a waste than a horny and hot woman all alone.Or at least without me being there  | |
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Posted: 7/18/2005 3:58:05 PM | | now I dont know where you live but out here where im from you dont run across many virgins so to believe that a woman isnt worth being with if she gives it up on the first date is funny to me.ive known some women who havn't been with many men but the things that they have done with those few would put many more traveled women to shame."just cause you gotta put it on lay away dosn't mean it's worth more than the sale item." | |
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Posted: 7/18/2005 4:00:57 PM | 1st/2nd dates...no expectation
What does a guy think of a girl who puts out on the first date? Not a good thing
When does a guy expect sex? (How far in) maybe after a few months of dating depends how things go | |
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Posted: 7/18/2005 4:04:13 PM | | Well, I don't believe that just because a girl has been around she should give it up quickly for any guys. I just have been out of the game for so long I was wondering what guys expect. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2005 4:09:43 PM | 1st date: if your not really attracted to eachother
it probaly wouldn`t be a very good date
on the other hand if you are attracted to each other
then what mg said
2nd date: you were really attracted to each other and the sex
was good
what mg said
3rd date: why even ask you already know the answer | |
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Posted: 7/18/2005 4:36:07 PM | 1. DEPENDS ON HOW IT GOES.IF IT GOES WELL ALL WAY. BUT DONT DO THAT. IT'S JUST THE BEGINING OF THE END OF A RELATIONSHIP. I SAY A HUG AND A KISS IS FINE. IT'S BETTER TO TAKE YOUR TIME AND LEAVE HIM WANTING MORE THEN TO GIVE EVERYTHING AWAY.
2. SHE'S A SLUT. EASIER THEN EXPECTED. I'LL BE WITH HER UNTIL I FIND SOME THING BETTER.
3. IT SHOULD JUST FEEL RIGHT, WHEN BOTH PPL ARE COMFORTABLE WITH EACH OTHER. BUT IF YOU WANT TO PUT A TIME LIMIT 1-3 MONTHS. MOST GIRLS THINK 1 OR 2 WEEKS IS FINE.
[Use of All-Caps for entire posts is against forum rules, and can/will lead to post deletions /xander] | |
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Posted: 7/18/2005 6:35:05 PM | @Sweetangel
What does the average guy really expect on the first and second dates?
What does a guy think of a girl who puts out on the first date?
When does a guy expect sex? (How far in)
1) Consciously a guy wants sex as soon as possible...
2) Subconsciously NOT, a man (in general) with his
paranoia will not respect or trust an easy lay. By
showing high perceived morality and waiting until
you get to know them first, the man thinks your
something a catch and perceives that other men
(friends) will think they have got a catch worht
keeping.
BUT AS I SAID THIS IS A HUGE GENERALIZATION
Some people sleep togethe the first nught and stay
together for a long time... | |
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Posted: 7/18/2005 6:41:34 PM | Ok as a previous poster stated, you're going to get all kinds of opinions on this one.
My first advice is ignore the one who stated "all guys expect/want". Those words ought to be a felony. lol
Men are as diverse as women, and *nothing* about them is universal. Anyone who makes broad statements about all men are lumping us all into their way of thinking because it gives them comfort to have company in their opinions. Sort of like the robots in "I, Robot" who huddle together when the lights are out. ;)
Now, my personal take on your questions:
1: I expect nothing more on a first date but a sign of whether or not there is chemistry. I'll know by the end of the date if there's going to be another. On the second date I expect that the attraction will come into the conversation at some point. And yes, some affection is good.
2: Either the chemistry is very strong, in which case I'm feeling it too and probably wouldn't think anything of it, or (more likely) she has low self esteem and feels "giving it up" is the only way to keep a man's interest. If I suspect that to be the case chances are I go home.
3: There is no set time for the first time. Depends on the attraction and experience of the couple. I've waited 4 months... or 4 hours.
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Posted: 7/18/2005 7:25:15 PM | What does the average guy really expect on the first and second dates?
to get to know her, if something leads from then on then so be it.
What does a guy think of a girl who puts out on the first date?
the same thing she thinks of me for putting out
When does a guy expect sex? (How far in)
when she'll let me. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2005 7:29:33 PM | Personally?
Any women offering me sex on the first date is not going to end up my girlfriend. Period.
Call me old fashioned.. call me a prude..
First date sex = fling/fun/booty call
I tend to wait about a month. Sex talk. Explicit discussions. Kissing. Hugging. The occasional ass grab.. all fair game.... but keep a little mystery. I can be a little much to some women... heck... I'm usually the one at the bar with a crowd of women around me talking about how often they masturbate! I'm good at being quite open and frank and women that are likewise tend to impress me. Yet still, I wouldn't expect any of them to have sex/try to have sex with me on the first date.
I will not even attempt to 'cop a feel' until at least date 4-6. :) | |
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Posted: 7/18/2005 7:37:09 PM | Date 1: Soft kiss on the cheek: If she turns tho to meet my kiss with her sexy lips, thats an invitation to deepen a kiss. I see what she is offering. No pushing.
Date 2: Know she's interested, explore more....
Date 3: Lock n load!!!! LOL | |
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Posted: 7/18/2005 9:04:02 PM | | if a girl puts out on the first date she,s pretty well usless for anything but that. cant be trusted keep away | |
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Posted: 7/18/2005 10:23:27 PM | [I personally wouldn't ever date a girl who gave it up on the first date. I would assume I'm not the first guy she's done that with, and that's not someone I want to be involved with. I might sleep with her again, but she wouldn't ever become my girlfriend] Someone please tell me how to copy this correctly so that it shows up in blocked quote format...
What if you were the first guy ever that she slept with on a first date? Maybe you blew her away, chemistry took over whatever? That happened to me once... We spent several hours talking, etc...and like noone else has ever done , he nailed me to the core... intellectually, emotionally, etc... We began kissing and wham, the next thing I knew we were having sex.
I still don't regret it to this day. It felt right at the time...but guess what...he thought the same way and regardless of how strong a connection we felt, he is not in my life.. I feel kind of sad about that actually. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2005 10:23:34 PM | [I personally wouldn't ever date a girl who gave it up on the first date. I would assume I'm not the first guy she's done that with, and that's not someone I want to be involved with. I might sleep with her again, but she wouldn't ever become my girlfriend] Someone please tell me how to copy this correctly so that it shows up in blocked quote format...
What if you were the first guy ever that she slept with on a first date? Maybe you blew her away, chemistry took over whatever? That happened to me once... We spent several hours talking, etc...and like noone else has ever done , he nailed me to the core... intellectually, emotionally, etc... We began kissing and wham, the next thing I knew we were having sex.
I still don't regret it to this day. It felt right at the time...but guess what...he thought the same way and regardless of how strong a connection we felt, he is not in my life.. I feel kind of sad about that actually. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2005 10:26:20 PM | EVERY man I have ever dated expected
1. date one, SEX
2. date two, SEX
3. date two, SEX
repeat 1 and 2 only if the sex was good, otherwise leave before the fourth date.
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