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Posted: 11/1/2004 7:16:35 AM | Most women 45-50 dare not stipulate that they would find a man 50+ acceptable, yet at the same time they’ll sometimes dip down into the 30's at the other end of the spectrum; other females don’t even go above their own age. This tells me a lot about how shallow some women really are, despite how they describe themselves–and it’s a big turn-off. It seems that, once women hit (God Forbid) 50, they come to terms with the aging process, become more graceful and seek men that are more demographically balanced with respect to their own age.
There are many “myths” and stereotypes when it come to this subject on behalf of both men and women. I’d like to bust a few of them right now: Men in their 50's are not all balding, inflexible, fat, boring, have no sex drive and offer nothing. In a lot of cases our age means that we’re more apt to think with our BRAINS (not the other part) and if a relationship develops, we’re less likely to meander into a fling with whoever shows any sexual interest. We are less likely to “play games.” It’s a waste of life. Many men have gone to great lengths to take care of themselves, we are adaptive to life’s seasons, and are looking toward LIVING the rest of it with as much enthusiasm as we did when we were younger. We DON’T want to spend the rest of our days playing Bingo, Shuffleboard, and signing hymns around the piano. We DON’T need a daily injection of Geratol and prune juice to keep the blood flowing. And we don’t all need Viagra to keep things “standing-up!” If we were horses, right about now, we’d be put out to “stud.” Some of us are at a point where we’re making our highest income, feel we’ve spent too much of our lives ascending in our careers achieving that income, and we just want to share our good fortune with someone special.
So ladies, if your ego’s preference is to spend the next relationship (and precious time) being a second mother and dancing to Hip Hop (and being deafened by a stereo that’s bigger than his Honda)-- until your mate finds someone his own age: go for it! And we’ll see you back at all of these web sites a lot older and a little wiser in a month or a year. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2004 8:07:47 AM | | I think this sounded like a slam toward women in middle age. I prefer older men! I can't see myself with anyone more than two or three years younger, but can easily see myself with a man in his 50's. I wish you luck. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2004 11:00:56 AM | | GeorgieLeopard, Hi ! That Caped Hero will need his X RAY VISION tested if he does not contact you and explore long term relationship possibilities after reading your post ! Are you going to try to 'pop' his cork ? | |
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Posted: 11/1/2004 2:08:28 PM | | When I think of viagra syndrome, I think of a guy walking around with a permanent hard on... How embarassing! | |
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Posted: 11/1/2004 2:37:31 PM | | I like men who are in their mid to late 40s and 50s......the ones that age that I meet are all looking for 30 year old women. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2004 4:47:01 PM | George:
My comments most likely offend middle-age, hypocritical, shallow, woman. There are a lot them, and I guess that's a reality check on these sites as a medium for singles to come together: Is this about fantacy or realy meeting people?
I read that last year more money was spent on Cialis, Viagra (and the like) and plastic surgery than on Ahlzeimer's research. To quote the author: "..that means in twenty year we'll (or generation) will be running around with perky boobs and constant erections but can't remember why."
It's good to hear from an attractive lady who has your perspective, Georgie. Maybe there's hope! | |
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Posted: 11/2/2004 12:31:14 AM | | Up until very recently, I wouldn't date anyone under 45. | |
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Posted: 11/2/2004 12:36:17 AM | | I have set my limits on dating anyone younger... its too much of a headache. Im more into being with someone who has mastered the fine, yet lost art of conversation and being able to accept themselves for who they are and who they have become. Its too hard to raise kids and your date at the same time. | |
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Posted: 11/2/2004 5:11:32 PM | | Interesting thoughts, Hero. Quite honestly, I'd LOVE to find a mature, intelligent, "older" man who didn't consider me, at 43, to be "too old" for him. What I'm finding is that many men my age or older are chasing much younger women, and the younger guys are chasing me. So what's to be done? Quite honestly, after reading your post and profile, were you geographically accessible, I'd be busily writing you an interest letter instead of posting here. Best wishes finding what you seek. | |
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Posted: 11/2/2004 5:44:20 PM | Okay gotta render my opinion here!!
I have no problem with older men at all, as long as they are fit and not looking ten or more years older than they should look !! I think and am told I hold my age very well, I try to take care of myself, stay very active and would like any mature man that I would be with to be the same. As said many times age is only a number. The older men that have contacted me are usually a lot older and sorry but most look their age or older. My personal opinion is that men over women should be in better shape than those of us who have been through childbirth and raising children. I had a great 11 year relationship with a wonderful man 10 years younger than me, Trust me I am ready for maturity !! Just not old age !! Nothing wrong with some good loud music on a good stereo system !!
Good luck in your endeavors you seem like a nice guy and no you don't look old and haggered, just not hitting on the right one yet !! | |
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Posted: 11/7/2004 5:07:56 AM | I'm Old!
I'm Old!
Hey over here!
I'm tired going to bed! | |
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Posted: 11/7/2004 5:09:47 AM | Viagra and Nitro Tabs! What a rush!
Under the tongue! Feel the headach! Is your heart still beating? | |
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Posted: 11/7/2004 5:28:05 AM | Exactly, Darlingnada!!!!!!!!
I have been wishing for years to meet somebody around my age... In real life (versus net) the guys approaching me are around 30, and men at my age are a) married or b) looking for younger ones. I would not be so strict with the age limit I have written down when the question is about older man, but when it comes to younger men, I say "no". Young ones have still their family to be made (children), something which is not my present or future but past :)
And we are now talking about serious relationship, right... | |
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Posted: 11/9/2005 8:32:35 AM | Your capedhero
where did you go, I myself would be curious to here your response to your initial post.
The only thing that defers me from an older man is when they haven't taken care of themselves over the years and act, look and seem 10 years older than they are. | |
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Posted: 11/9/2005 8:46:06 AM | Wow, such assumptions!
My last love was 51, which makes him 7 years older than me. He was 48 when we met. He used Viagra from time to time due to the effects of blood pressure medication. 'Twas as wonderful with it as he was without it.
Yet, I have a friend that is 56 and he uses it. He speaks of the fact that it only works a bit on him and does not get him fully erect. Could I handle that? Doubt it. Sex is too important to me. I need a lot of it, and don't care to have it "scheduled or dictated" by medication, or have to deal with a man that cannot get erect. Sorry. If I loved him, it would be different. But I seriously doubt that I'd be sexually content.
I don't have anything to say about the rest of your post, OP. | |
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Posted: 11/9/2005 9:32:38 AM | And of COURSE the men of the world are all out there, looking for women that are THEIR age?!?!?!
Come on now...that's a two-way street there....D. | |
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Posted: 11/9/2005 10:54:11 AM | | Caped, if I would meet any 50+ men that you describe I would consider a relationship with them, but I have personally had the opposite experience the majority of the time. Most of the older men I have met are tying to act like they are still in their "sowing their wild oats" stage while professing to want a meaningful relationship. | |
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Posted: 11/9/2005 10:59:10 AM | | I work in the medical field, and you have no idea how many wives have come in complaining about their husbands being on Viagra.. The "constantly stimulated" syndrome... They're exhuasted and actually beg the doctor to quit giving it to the husband~~ | |
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Posted: 11/13/2007 11:14:48 PM | Well, it actually broke up my relationship with my S.O. - I'm 58.
We were together 16 years and own joint property, wills made out to each other, etc.... vowed to care for each other in sickness & in health, ...the whole nine yards. He turned 64, and his doc gave him Viagra to stimulate his regions below his equator because the diabetes, heart disease and high blood pressure had given him a limp weenie. Now, with his prescription of Viagra, he has decided he needs to sleep with other women to "help cure his E.D." and he has joined 6 or 7 online dating websites. AND he told me that he only thinks of ME, the woman who has stood by him for 16 years (!), as his "sister". I know men go through a "midlife-crisis", but he must be in an "old-age crisis". Meanwhile, I'm left wondering what happened to my life now that the past 16 years were wasted on a man who says he no longer loves me. I'm finding out that this Viagra medication has destroyed MANY marriages, with the older man dumping his longtime partner and sleeping around with young women or with hookers . Some of them very famous people too. Also, it seems that Viagra is now contributing to the high incidence of STDs and HIV being diagnosed in the elderly. | |
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Posted: 11/13/2007 11:38:50 PM | Sex!? Viagra?! I'd be happy to find someone to have an interesting conversatiion with. As for older women going for younger guys . . . I've found it is the other way around. Younger men looking for a cute cougar to play with. I, personally, am not interested in someone young enough to be my kid.
My experience with men more my age have been discouraging, though. A lot of them are worse than high school harrys -- trying like mad to get laid on a first or second date. Are they afraid they will die and don't have a few weeks to spare? I'm not enamored of that behavior. Frustrating for them, to be sure -- frustrating to any LADY as well. | |
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Posted: 11/13/2007 11:42:06 PM | The women I love are the ones in their 40's who've looked after themselves mentally & physically.
I'm not talking about miss world here, but someone who likes to get out in the fresh air & be active.
Someone also who hasn't lost the optimism of their younger days and retains minimal baggage from past relationships.
A great sexy mind loaded with life experience and good humour, wrapped up in a gorgeous womanly package just can't be beaten. | |
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Posted: 11/13/2007 11:47:12 PM | I'm confused....Whats your point?
I prefer men over 40. Guess what sterotypes THAT gets.
People of both sexes can be pretty "shallow" as you say....How do you think a woman 40+ feels when men 40-50 are chasing women my age and younger?
And considering my interest in those older has nothing to do with wanting a father or money, imagine what I put up with.
Sounds like youve had some bad luck. I doubt age has anything to do with it. | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 2:49:02 AM | MOST???? That word gets used wayyyy too much here on POF.
The problem is not the age. It the mentality and maturity of the woman you are choosing to date. If you are choosing someone in their early 30's, and you are over 50, sometimes that is an issue. It is for me for one reason...if you are older than 53, than you are closer to my father's age than mine, and that is weird. My preference, my choice, my opinion.
I actually find this to be quite the conundrum....men looking at my profile who are somewhere in the middle between my age and my father's. This goes back to that post a few weeks ago..how many years younger/older do you go. | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 3:59:43 AM | HOW or WHY are some of these just plain stupid posts allowed to live on? I swear this should have been deleted ASAP but yet it wasn't----I can NOT understand why either.
On that note it seems there are two mindsets here on POF about deleting silly crap; those who vote to delete everything and those who'll strive to keep everything alive (seemingly) to spite those trying to delete it. That's it--mini-rant finished! LOL | |
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Posted: 11/14/2007 5:00:17 AM | First of all, I'm 58 and there's no way that I would date younger men even though a lot of them have emailed me. I'm looking for a man my age or older...........
Now the problem is that the men my age or older aren't looking for women my age! Check out the over 45 forum. The expectations are not realistic ........ One guy tried to say that the men's rule is that they date women half their page plus 7 years so that means a 37 year old woman would be with a 60 year old guy! I know at 37, I wasn't looking at 60 year old guys but I do think that viagra has caused some of that. And a lot of the men over 50 seem to think that you are supposed to jump into bed with them on the first date. I think they are eager to try out their new little pills......
If a couple are committed and viagra helps, then I think that's great. Most of the men I know who have tried it haven't had it help. There have been major problems like heart attacks, diabetes, etc. that even viagra couldn't overcome. | |
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