| | When to kiss for the first timePage 1 of 6 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6) | I recently had two dates with a girl on here and she wouldn't kiss me. This is what we did:
First Date: Met for a walk, the walk lasted over three hours and included a few pubs on the way. Afer about 5 hours together I went to kiss her - she said you are not going to kiss me are you! We then went for dinner and she came back to mine to watch a movie (I know - strange, but hey). We were together 8 hours for our first date.
Second Date: She came round to mine for dinner (I cooked beef stew - that must have been the problem) and we went dancing (Ceroc). At the end of the date she would not kiss me again.
I politely said no to another date after that because I thought she was not passionate enough for me. She said I should have waited.
Should I have? When is it best to kiss? What experiences have you had? | |
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| When to kiss for the first time
Posted: 12/17/2010 3:17:06 AM | Kissing is an intimate act (not the peck on the cheek kind) and i would assume we all have differing gauges of when intimacy is right for us.
I am confused as to why you thought she was worth kissing but not worth waiting for especially after only a couple of dates?
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Posted: 12/17/2010 3:21:36 AM | | I felt that she wouldn't have the same level of passion and openness as I have. It was based on previous experience - I have dated someone similar before and she didn't have the same appetite as me. | |
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Posted: 12/17/2010 3:33:35 AM | Kissing - that's an application to Head Office for a job in the basement, if I remember correctly?
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Posted: 12/17/2010 3:46:06 AM |
After some of the decieving profiles in the past the only kiss i was tempted to give once met was a Glaswegian one !! | |
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Posted: 12/17/2010 3:59:34 AM | | If you really like someone then she should be worth waiting for until she is ready. I think that some girls think that a kiss may lead on to something that they are not ready for. She may have been testing you to see how genuine you were | |
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Posted: 12/17/2010 4:19:05 AM | | Maybe she thought one kiss would lead to another and before she knew she may have lost control so she was using some self discipline but you wont know that now | |
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Posted: 12/17/2010 4:59:40 AM | Maybe she considers kissing to be very intimate, OR maybe she is testing you and seeing how interested you are, and if your willing to wait, then that shows your "level" of interest.
When is the time right ? who knows, after 30 seconds, after 4 weeks I guess its a personal preference. But I think if it was leading into a few dates, like you, I would have been asking myself the same question and thinking its not going where I thought it would. | |
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Posted: 12/17/2010 5:04:25 AM |
Maybe she thought one kiss would lead to another and before she knew she may have lost control so she was using some self discipline but you wont know that now
That sounds about right, women have to restrain themselves a lot when they are with men, we find it hard to resist you all so much.
Of course, flirting techniques are very important and I am surprised the OP didn't manage, with all the opportunities he had, to create a suitable atmosphere of intimacy between himself and his date prior to attempting to kiss her, you can't just plant kisses on people's lips without first establishing through eye contact and touch that a kiss on the lips would be most welcome. | |
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Posted: 12/17/2010 5:09:11 AM | We are all human
but the original poster is never going to know as she didnt stand a chance it was all or nothing within a few dates | |
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Posted: 12/17/2010 5:12:05 AM | | Ceroc is a very flirtatious dance, lots of touching and eye contact. | |
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Posted: 12/17/2010 5:27:29 AM |
but the original poster is never going to know as she didnt stand a chance it was all or nothing within a few dates
Yeah, I suppose, shame he was lacking any patience. If I were that woman and I was interested but didn't want to appear too easy, I would have allowed him a quick peck at least so he could taste my lips and to leave him wanting more.
After a load of flirty dancing I really don't see what the harm would have been to give him a proper smooch though. | |
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| When to kiss for the first time
Posted: 12/17/2010 5:35:10 AM |
When is it best to kiss?
normally after sex, just for the first time though as she might get used to it. 
though when you said you went to dinner who payed for it? then again it seems a bit weird she would go to your place to watch a movie after? maybe you played the wrong type of movie 
then again maybe she just didnt fancy you and wanted friendship? | |
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Posted: 12/17/2010 5:51:09 AM | After those two dates if I felt a connection I would definitely like a kiss...but then I'm a very tactile lady..
Perhaps you could have asked her, she may be very passionate when she is in an established relationship.. | |
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| how old was your date ?
Posted: 12/17/2010 7:20:20 AM | | Well ... maybe she enjoyed your company, but wasn't physically attracted to you ... I've been on a few dates with chaps whose company I enjoyed, but didn't fancy .. | |
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| When to kiss for the first time
Posted: 12/17/2010 7:50:08 AM |
normally after sex, just for the first time though as she might get used to it.
Wouldn't that depend on what kind of sex you were having ???
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Posted: 12/17/2010 10:17:01 AM | | You did the right thing. You have expectations about what suits you in terms of your approach to instigating intimacy and they were different from hers. Not saying hers are better or worse, just different. It's a self aware person that recognises it and moves on. | |
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| how old was your date ?
Posted: 12/17/2010 11:38:24 AM |
Well ... maybe she enjoyed your company, but wasn't physically attracted to you ... I've been on a few dates with chaps whose company I enjoyed, but didn't fancy .
Sorry, am I missing something here? Why would you go on a date with someone you weren't physically attracted to? Unless they were blind dates then its more understandable.
If I had a date with a girl and got the feeling it was going well, by the end I might fish for a peck on the cheek. If she fancies a 2nd date I'd be thinking that would be confirmation that the physical attraction was there .
I think you did well to knock it on the head mate! If you ask me, she was just in it for the beef stew! They all are in the end! | |
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| how old was your date ?
Posted: 12/17/2010 11:41:55 AM | Depends on the type of kiss you were after? A peck on the cheek on the first date? A chaste but promising brush of the lips on the second or third? Now that's a pretty good kiss itinerary for me.
A full on full facial, open gobbed, tongue a waving, snog attack? Nope, no no no no ick yack and ew!!
So erm? No idea OP sorry | |
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| how old was your date ?
Posted: 12/17/2010 11:45:37 AM | 47 ? chances are she will have forgotten how to kiss...
If ya not happy with the situation or the outcome then the best thing to do is get rid an move on.
Pointless pondering the 'what ifs' and in all fairness she may well be a nice lass but as i say if ya not happy then bin it an get someone a little more amenable.... | |
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| how old was your date ?
Posted: 12/17/2010 12:08:55 PM |
A full on full facial, open gobbed, tongue a waving, snog attack? Nope, no no no no ick yack and ew!
How many dates before a bloke is due one of them!?? | |
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| how old was your date ?
Posted: 12/17/2010 12:28:38 PM |
47 ? chances are she will have forgotten how to kiss...
Oi! I'm 47 and I'm well up for a good snog with someone I fancy. Don't diss the more mature snoggers among us... | |
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| how old was your date ?
Posted: 12/17/2010 12:48:52 PM | The boy was thinking for the man again.
You will never know now if she was passionate enough for you will you.
A kiss isnt just pressing your lips together! | |
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