| | Any bias if a person doesn't own a carPage 1 of 2 (1, 2) | I was wondering, I want to look for someone to date, but there is only one issue, I don't have a car or my license (however I am planing on getting it soon) but was wondering if this is a big turnoff, I did find someone who doesn't have a car who doesn't live too far from me, but any takers on this?
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| Any bias if a person doesn't own a car
Posted: 1/2/2011 8:40:14 AM | for a man in your age range, i think you will find this to be a problem.
speaking as someone who never learned how to drive, i think you have to be very blunt about it in your profile. | |
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| Any bias if a person doesn't own a car
Posted: 1/2/2011 9:13:16 AM | | like it or not people looking for a potential partner will do an inventory on them and some stuff does matter... a job, a home of some kind, a method of transportation, and the list would be different for each person some lists are longer! | |
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| Any bias if a person doesn't own a car
Posted: 1/2/2011 9:21:01 AM | | Yea true, I am getting full time soon, since girls do want someone who has a steady income, so I can get a mortgage. But I really don't know where to start in regards to lets say get a license or get a mortgage first. Should I just meet some girls who want to be 'just friends' ? | |
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| Any bias if a person doesn't own a car
Posted: 1/2/2011 10:14:44 AM | if getting a house is more important to you, get the driver's license and just rent a car when you need one.
because i don't drive, i was able to buy a house at the top of my price range with everything i wanted, rather than having to compromise. my house is also within walking distance of my office which was a good thing when London had a transit strike. | |
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| Any bias if a person doesn't own a car
Posted: 1/4/2011 7:19:34 AM | It all depends on what you are looking for. If you are looking for (excuse me French) materialistic sluts, then sure, you need a car... preferably with a larg backseat to "accommodate" them for "manoeuvring".
My God! I just got so furious while reading this topic. You people seriously have some issues and are missing the important things in life.
Anyone can have a car today, from the janitor to the minister, say "thank you banks for the rip off". For crying out loud, we are not living in 1920 where a car was a symbol of highest luxury available only to the rich elite. So what does it matter if you have a car or not? It doesn't say anything about your personality nor does it show if you are rich or not.
As a matter of fact, if you are looking for a more mature and serious person, then this question is completely irrelevant. The car is there only for a few years and that person might stick around for your whole life.
Final note: I'd always choose going to a date on a bicycle than in a Mercedes to work... what about you?
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| Any bias if a person doesn't own a car
Posted: 1/4/2011 5:09:26 PM | I own a car but I think I'd be just a bit apprehensive to show it to a date right away. Some people would be embarrassed to be seen in my rust-covered '92 sentra but the fact of the matter is, the car runs, maintenance and insurance are dirt cheap, and my financial priorities lie elsewhere.
It may matter to some women, but they aren't the women i'd want to spent my life with regardless. | |
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Posted: 1/4/2011 5:35:46 PM | Two of my sons don't have their license but are in the process of getting it. 22 and 23. Their girlfriends drive them around, hasn't been a problem.
I recently told a man I wouldn't meet him when finding out he didn't drive. I drive 40 minutes to work and back again 5 days a week. He lived about 30 minutes away. He was quite angry but I certainly don't want to be driving this distance on my days off.
You're still young, this won't be a deal breaker for everyone. | |
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| Any bias if a person doesn't own a car
Posted: 1/5/2011 3:36:14 AM | I would date someone without a car.....but they would have to live close to me....I also commute to get to work so I personally drive a fairly new vehicle
You could pull up for a date in a 84 K car or a brand new Benz....I wouldn't look at you any different!!! | |
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| Any bias if a person doesn't own a car
Posted: 1/8/2011 3:46:54 PM | | I would date someone without a car as long as they dont expect me to be thier taxi driver which has happened in the past. I woman really does want a man who is self sufficient. This doesnt mean she is materialistic or a gold digger, she just wants to know he can pull his own weight instead of her having to pull it for him ( no jokes plz lol). Believe it or not this is quit often the situation these days, seems there are just as many male gold diggers out there now as there are women.....Just Saying... | |
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| Any bias if a person doesn't own a car
Posted: 1/8/2011 5:30:57 PM | | I wouldn't date someone without a car. It has nothing to do with seeking a man with money. How is the guy supposed to come and meet me for a date? Take the bus? Sorry but I just wouldn't. | |
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| Any bias if a person doesn't own a car
Posted: 1/8/2011 7:10:05 PM | If it matters whether or not you have a car, then they are not the right person... That is, IF you live in the city, or have access to rapid transit. If you don't have a car, and or are not willing to rent one, then don't message/email people outside your area. Yes it's nice having a car (most of the time) but a burden at other times. I HATE being a taxi, I have to be one for clients , but at least they are paying me.
FYI, I walk or take the TTC as much as possible, including on dates! | |
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| Any bias if a person doesn't own a car
Posted: 1/8/2011 7:24:23 PM | I dated a woman, with no driver's license, for five months. It didn't bother me because she only lived 10 minutes away. I enjoyed picking her up and helping her out with things when needed. But, at the same time, I did ocassionally get frustrated that I was always doing ALL the driving. It's nice being a passenger on occassion.
One nice thing about her not driving was that she was always thankful and gracious about being driven around. She gave me gift cards for petro stations and drive thru oil change services.
It can work as long as the person without the vehicle expresses some sort of grattitude and graciousness for the transportation. | |
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| Any bias if a person doesn't own a car
Posted: 1/8/2011 8:23:03 PM | It depends on the reasons... If he is irresponsible with money or lost his licence due to DUI, I might not consider him... but if he lives downtown and just has better things to do with his $, I would date him.
I prefer to drive and like the freedom to come and go as I please. | |
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| Any bias if a person doesn't own a car
Posted: 1/10/2011 4:13:19 PM |
If it matters whether or not you have a car, then they are not the right person...
Yeah, and having a car can be a sign of misplaced priorities too if the person has a car they can barely afford...
I find little need for one at the moment... Most places I go are within walking distance... If I go to a bar, have a few drinks or whatever..... not driving anyway... a car for me is somewhat redundant... a nice luxury, but something I could live without... | |
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| Any bias if a person doesn't own a car
Posted: 1/11/2011 4:25:00 PM | | I wouldn't be biased against a woman who didn't have a car. It's convenient but people who don't own cars are used to getting around without cars...it's not that big a deal. Definitely wouldn't want to pass up a chance at a meaningful relationship over something so trivial. | |
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| Any bias if a person doesn't own a car
Posted: 1/11/2011 6:16:58 PM | I dont own a car but i do have ways of getting around using public transit and all and it wouldn't matter if they had a car or not. I wouldnt use them as a taxi service. I would chip in for gas money if I was offered a ride. Road trips are always fun so having a car does help lol unless we can take a trip together by train, bus. etc!
So its not a deal breaker for me! | |
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| Any bias if a person doesn't own a car
Posted: 1/11/2011 6:30:31 PM | | I still can't believe I forgot about this message, it really shows how busy I am with my job, but none the less I really don't know where to start, I am taking the practise tests online for driving, but won't work towards the G until the snow melts. | |
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| Any bias if a person doesn't own a car
Posted: 1/23/2011 2:42:54 PM | | yes.. you need a car... well atleast if you want to come over and see me... i live in the country...the closest bus stop is about 8k away.. so thats my 3 cents... | |
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| Any bias if a person doesn't own a car
Posted: 1/24/2011 1:19:52 AM | | I've met and dated a few women who don't have wheels - it's not an issue to me, but a man not having a vehicle is a HUGE issue for women (another double standard), it's important since you'll be doing all the driving, picking up, dropping off - you need to get a vehicle....or you could pretend it's a lifestyle choice and rant about how it's bad for the environment? | |
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| Any bias if a person doesn't own a car
Posted: 1/29/2011 6:39:29 PM | | Where's your sense of adventure? I don't drive, and can't drive, and sometimes it still feels like I'm in hgih school. If anyone is going to hudge me because I can't legally drive, that's their loss. I'm fine with not having a car, I've been walking and taking the bus pretty much all my life...and my heart's in great shape to prove it. | |
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| Any bias if a person doesn't own a car
Posted: 1/29/2011 9:15:51 PM | | from a guys point of view.... if i dont have a car and show up to date a lady with a pair of bus tickets then be honest.... most ladys at least older than a teenager are going to say something like " ya gotta be kidding". Youngsters can get away with it but try that on a mature woman. It wont be a good way to impress her taking your bus route map out to plot the best way to the restaurant and making sure she gets a transfer coupon when the bus arrives. | |
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