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| | Can women REALLY get laid whenever they want? Page 1 of 30 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30) | This is something I have heard from a number of guys, usually occurs during a whining session, where one or both of us is complaining about sex and how we’re not getting any. When I try to commiserate with my sexually frustrated male pal, he will typically respond like this: “But you don’t understand. You’re a girl; you can get laid whenever you want.” This assumption, is flawed.
Not all women are considered sexually desirable. Even if a woman IS considered sexually desirable, it is problematic to assume that she can get laid any time she wants.
Women are often seen as having the power to say “yes” or “no” in sexual situations. From the male point of view, if a woman wants to have sex, all she has to do is say “yes” and sex is on. The problem here is that this line of reasoning goes on a lot of assumptions, the main one being that women are in a perpetual state of being propositioned for sex. This is simply not the case. If it were, men would have to be constantly propositioning women for sex, and I would argue that most men do not operate this way.
When it comes to being sexually frustrated, men and women have a lot more in common than one might think.
A false assumption here is that the only reason a woman wouldn’t be getting laid is because she’s too picky. If all a woman has to do to have sex is say “yes,” then her sexual frustration is her own fault. Her standards are too high – a notion that contributes to the stereotype of women as shallow creatures who will only mate with prime physical specimens. I don’t mean to sound callous, but these are the arguments of bitter men who have experienced rejection – an experience I will once again argue that women share. Women have been judged and rejected based on their appearance and sexual desirability for centuries, and it sucks.
The reality is that you aren’t going to be attracted to a portion of the people who ask you out, whether you’re a man or a woman. It’s not fair to say that if a woman wants sex she should just “stop being picky” and have sex with whomever, when men are just as likely to reject people they are not attracted to.
OP - next time, site your sources rather than make it appear as if this is an original piece by you - copyright laws prevail here as well - Read the posted rules .
Original article here
http://notadirtyword.net/2010/04/16/can-women-really-get-laid-whenever-they-want/
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| Can women REALLY get laid whenever they want?
Posted: 1/7/2011 5:11:40 PM | People who are sexually inactive (not by choice) tend to feel that way. Speaking for myself, sex is easy to come across.
As for being picky, I'm picky as well when it comes down to partners. I can't sleep with just anyone. However, I could start sleeping with a number of men if I wanted to. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2011 5:24:51 PM | | Ok I take it this is not game show questions. On cash cab they allow a guess or a phone call or a shout out. I would hope that this is a double or nothing bonus question. The answer is yes to your original line question of can women get laid whenever they want. I have to use the term want as your attempt to make this a trick question, but honestly a men cannot walk down the street unzip his pants and walk funny and get instantly laid. A man cannot sit in a bar shed one tear and get a ride home, a man cannot carry around three boys and get a woman unless he's on the Brady bunch and that' s probably because she has three girls. So yes they can get laid but can they find love? You're right, they are equal to men in finding love. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2011 5:29:44 PM | Here's the thing...as I see it...and could be wrong and not speaking for every male and certainly not for any females.
Almost everyone is physically attractive to some from their sexual counterpart. For a simpler way of putting it...."doable". Male or female. And...even if they are physically attractive to them...they still may not "fit the bill" in terms personality or any number of other factors we seek in a mate.
What...I think...sets us males apart (slightly) from females...is our willingness to engage in "recreation" with full knowledge that it couldn't possibly be anything more than just recreation. I think you would find, if you were properly funded for scientific study, that men are more likely to agree to things like fwb or fb than are women. I think you would also find that a guy's standard for a "sex only" engagement wanders farther from their standard for a relationship than those of a woman.
In other words...for a guy...if you need to be a 7 or higher physically (individual rating for purpose of elaboration only) for a relationship...you only need to be a 5 or above for sex. Whereas...with women...you still need to be a 7.
if a woman wants sex she should just “stop being picky”
In those terms as I've described...I think women are more "picky" when it come to getting laid.
So...share the wealth...and do a 5 once in a while. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2011 5:44:14 PM |
so u r saying people who r constantly getting it don't have to ask
Asking for sex? I would think that if the feeling is mutual between two adults, and the body language is there, "asking" would be moot.
how do you become one of those constantly getting it folks?
Just watch Dave Chappelle, he seems to be good at that "skill." | |
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Posted: 1/7/2011 5:48:14 PM | I'm sorry, but I'm going to have to agree with your friend on this one, especially since he used the wording "get laid". Getting laid does not carry any qualifying criteria, as far as meeting the standards one would require to consider an ongoing relationship with another. It simply means you're here, I'm here, neither of us has any more pressing obligations at this moment, the necessary genetalia is available on each party, and neither is opposed to doing the deed.
The line of reasoning isn't necessarily that women are in a perpetual state of being propositioned for sex, but more so that vast numbers of men are in a perpetual state of being willing to provide nsa sex, if requested. For nsa sex, the requestor doesn't even need to be particularly attractive, just not hideously repulsive. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2011 5:52:10 PM |
Not all women are considered sexually desirable. Even if a woman IS considered sexually desirable, it is problematic to assume that she can get laid any time she wants.
There are a lot of situations that can preclude a woman getting laid when she wants...
Sometimes it's looks, or she's coming across too easy... or sometimes it's a weird vibe... (turned one girl down at a party, so she boinked my buddy after I left... He thought I'd done her too... Couple of weeks later, he asked me if I got her STD too... hahaha )
A few times, I've seen women leave the bar with a guy the night before... No, not touching her... sometimes, when you're a regular, you see the girls who leave with different guys far too frequently... Likewise, not going there either...
One girl, told me as we sat in a bar, (she was 19, and I was about 22... ) that she'd already been with almost 150 guys... Nope, lost interest there too...
I had an attractive friend who fell for me... She asked me to stay the night, even took her top off to entice me... But she was a friend's Ex wife... It was a difficult choice, but I still don't regret saying "No"...
Another girl I was dating and to whom retaining her virginity for marriage was a big thing... got drunk and wanted to have sex. But I knew I wasn't going to stay with her... So I didn't... We broke up shortly after... No regrets... It was too important for her to be a virgin on her wedding day... (Of course, no idea if she lasted that long... always wondered... LOL )
A few other girls, they were too drunk for me to take advantage... Not my style...
At one time, I kind of got bored of the whole bar thing... Once I knew they'd sleep with me, I kind of lost interest... so I'd sometimes simply not bother... No challenge so it was no fun anymore...
There were a few times when I was too drunk...
Then there was the lovely girl I met one night... she wanted to sleep with me that night... However I met another girl in the same bar... and left with her...
Then there were the few girls who's IQ's were apparently in the single digits... perhaps fractions... No, If I have to explain to you what a blonde joke is, and you still don't get it... I'm moving on... "Bye, Blondie...."
My cousin had a classic... He met a girl at a party... He was drunk... Went outside to get more beer from his car... He was in a complex of almost identical apartment buildings... Did I mention he was drunk... ? He couldn't find the party again...Always wondered what she thought...
So there are reasons... and sometimes they may not be all that obvious... or make a lot of sense.... Oh well...
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Posted: 1/7/2011 5:59:40 PM | I think people of both sexes can get laid whenever they want - it's just a matter of what they'll do to get it.
Some may have to pay for it, or sleep with someone they aren't attracted to, or put themselves out there and step off the wall, but ultimately the result is the same if getting laid itself is the main goal. Usually that's never the whole story.
Perhaps what these people mean to say is "you have more to choose from than I do" or "you don't have to work for it" or "people want you for who you are and you don't have to bargain with what you have".... | |
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Posted: 1/7/2011 6:05:10 PM |
There are a lot of situations that can preclude a woman getting laid when she wants...
Sometimes it's looks, or she's coming across too easy... or sometimes it's a weird vibe... (turned one girl down at a party, so she boinked my buddy after I left... He thought I'd done her too... Couple of weeks later, he asked me if I got her STD too... hahaha )
A few times, I've seen women leave the bar with a guy the night before... No, not touching her... sometimes, when you're a regular, you see the girls who leave with different guys far too frequently... Likewise, not going there either...
One girl, told me as we sat in a bar, (she was 19, and I was about 22... ) that she'd already been with almost 150 guys... Nope, lost interest there too...
These are all amusing anecdotes...Church...and certainly explains why YOU didn't sleep with them
But...It sounds like these women wanted to get laid and pretty much did......almost whenever (if not with whomever) they wanted. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2011 6:09:56 PM |
I can't believe someone over the age of 14 has to ask a question like this...
.. shit, here's the formula:
- find guy, say, "Hi"
- add alcohol
- get boinked
... smiple, really.
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Posted: 1/7/2011 6:11:09 PM | Except for the truly fugly and/or obese and/or socially inept, ANYONE can get laid ...
... as long as ...
... they are merely willing to accept what is offered to them.
But, you see, most everyone (man or woman) wants someone better looking -- on a 0 to 10 scale -- than they are. A 3 wants a 5, who wants a 7, who wants a 9, who wants a 10 ... and precious few 10's exist. *IF* a 5 would take a 3, s/he'd get laid. But, noooooooo .....
When a 5 guy tells a 7 woman that "she can get laid anytime she wants" he means HE would lay her anytime she wants. When a 7 guy tells a 3 women "she can get laid anytime she wants", he MEANS some 5 (but not him) guy SHOULD be available to her BECAUSE no 7+ woman wants a 5 or less guy.
Except for the truly rock bottom extreme cases, everyone has someone who is less good looking then they are who would be GLAD to lay them.
People want the fruit on the tree which is higher than they themselves are on the tree. If people are willing to pick the fruit at waist to knee level, they get a grateful piece of fruit. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2011 6:13:57 PM |
I think people of both sexes can get laid whenever they want - it's just a matter of what they'll do to get it.
Exactly. Although, I suppose I would also add that even considering it to be a matter of "what they'll do to get it", that overall, it's probably easier for women to get laid than men.
By that I mean...well, the male pal you referred to, OP, have him set himself up a POF account if he doesn't already have one. And then if both you and he were to list yourselves as seeking an "intimate encounter" on POF, and you both showed a couple of pictures of yourself, and you both added provocative wording to your profile body (although, hell, for the case of this example, your male buddy could add Hallmark-type 'looking for my soulmate' stuff instead)...
I guarantee if you both ran those profiles actively for a week, that you'd have many more opportunities to get laid from the men responding than he would from the women who replied to him.
Would that make it a "quality" experience, getting laid just for the sake of getting laid? I wouldn't think so but, perhaps for some it would be.
But yeah, I agree with your male friend that you referred to in the O-Post...it's easier for women overall. If getting laid for the sake of getting laid is the ultimate goal in this. JMO. | |
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| Can women REALLY get laid whenever they want?
Posted: 1/7/2011 6:16:28 PM |
People want the fruit on the tree which is higher than they themselves are on the tree. If people are willing to pick the fruit at waist to knee level, they get a grateful piece of fruit.
Except grapefruit. I fvcken' hate grapefruit!
I don't care how high up on the tree it is. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2011 6:18:16 PM | I'm in belief that both genders can, and would if the want was there, get laid anytime they want...now I do agree that men are more likely to have one night stands or fwb & fb than women...Some men just don't care as long as they are getting laid.
Another question of this OP is that are a woman's standards "too high" when it comes to sex much less a relationship. The bitterness of being single wants to say yes, but my common sense tells me no...Women have standards no higher/lower than most men. Would I want someone to lower her standards for ME? Heck no, I want someone that wants me for me not just to have, to make a girl friend or parent happy.
Plus one of most males double standards is the a guy can have sex with 10 women and be a hero but if a woman sleeps with 10 men she is a slut. That is common knowledge by most men and women. Sad but true. So keeping that double standard in mind that could be another reason women don't "sleep around" because when they are ready for a s/o they don't want that "skeleton in the closet" Just a thought | |
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Posted: 1/7/2011 6:26:31 PM | I agree that both sexes have this option.
No matter how unattractive and ugly a person is,
there is someone even more unattractive, uglier...
and very willing.
The problem for us guys though,
is whereas you girls can just close your eyes to the ugly
and sortof lay there comatose if need be.
We have to see what we're doing and
a very bad ugly can cause us to shrink in horror.
So not exactly the same.
:-P | |
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Posted: 1/7/2011 6:31:41 PM |
We have to see what we're doing and
a very bad ugly can cause us to shrink in horror.
What, guys can't close their eyes while doing it? Weird :)
Anybody and everybody has the opportunity to get laid whenever they chose to. All they have to do is have no standards and find someone who feels the same.
Be like throwing rocks at a forest and hitting a tree. Unless your aim's way way way way way bad. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2011 6:49:19 PM | I believe this is true, at least 99% true. I can't think of a skeezy bar anywhere, that a woman would have trouble getting some action. Maybe if there were more women than men....they might not get a guy; but every bar I've ever been too has been a sausage fest. I really believe a woman can get it when ever and where ever she wants. Just gotta advertise. Like giving away free money, someone will come snatch it up.
OP, it sounds like I could've been the guy that made that statement. I don't think women do understand what it is like. Women can do the 'not looking thing' and then turn it off and be in a relationship the very next day. If that one doesn't work out, then the next day. Guys, not so much. A guy is subject to the female veto power. It may be a few days or a few years (or more than a few in my case) before the next actual opportunity arises. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2011 6:57:21 PM | MrF- true that women can exercise veto power, but a guy has to offer first ( in regard to a relationship);)
And a woman doesn't have to advertise. It's offered, even thrown at us, constantly.
I agree. Women can have sex whenever they want it. Sex is one thing that's always in demand. Supply and demand- basic economics. :P | |
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Posted: 1/7/2011 7:03:57 PM | It also depends a lot on where you live. I could have sex if I wanted some cougar bait young enough to be my grandchildren - they've assured me they know how to be discreet and would be willing to park down the block so my neighbors wouldn't know... Since I own the whole block, and the whole neighborhood is full of dogs that bark at anyone walking, there's no way to be discreet. I'm also not interested in whatever diseases they probably have. **shrug**
But yes, in a city/urban area, it would be a lot easier. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2011 7:06:55 PM | I have heard men say the same.
I agree with other who said it is a problem getting laid, but finding someone who is deemed layable.
Even at my great age, sex is not hard to come by. I can't speak for all women. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2011 7:16:52 PM | You also must ask,,,do you actually want the lay to be "good".  Or is it really "getting laid" that we want,,,,cause I'm betting it isn't. I know I have had some awful eventful nights which never included the thought of intercourse, and we all slept happily ever.
"Getting laid" is boring. Both sexes can find boring. It's all around us. It also helps if you know how to put a blindfold on yourself. And yep,then, no prob for either sex. It ain't rocket science. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2011 8:08:42 PM |
This is something I have heard from a number of guys, usually occurs during a whining session, where one or both of us is complaining about sex and how we’re not getting any. When I try to commiserate with my sexually frustrated male pal, he will typically respond like this: “But you don’t understand. You’re a girl; you can get laid whenever you want.” This assumption, is flawed.
Try this OP... when the guy is there with "one or both of us" complaining about how you're not getting any... mention you might be open to sex with him. See what his response is. Now if he asked you... what would your answer be?
You might find your answer that way. | |
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| Can women REALLY get laid whenever they want?
Posted: 1/7/2011 8:11:56 PM | Compare what women have to do compared to what men have to do.
Women: exist.....good enough. I've talked to a few I've met from online, and they tell me about how not all women get inboxes overflowing with messages. They do clarify what they consider a message---and exclude all the ones from the hole-patrol. I would say even if a woman didn't want to leave the house and go to a bar, she could post a profile on here...no pic, 99 years old, etc and she'd have messages for sex.
Men: Have to convince women they are worthy. Careers, gym, captain of the high school football team, rescues kittens from trees on weekends, etc.
Ladies, do you know how powerful you really are? | |
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