| | Getting out of a difficult and public situation...Page 1 of 6 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6) | He’s driving me nuts, not just a normal kind of nuts; I’m talking eye-crossing, clock-tower nuts. The kind of insanity that you read about in the newspapers and there are quotes from neighbours interviewed saying things like, “She was such a nice girl, I’m amazed they found 26 bodies in her backyard.” or, “Oh, she had the loveliest rose bushes, always blooming so lustrously!”. That kind of nuts.
Last year I noticed a picture of me missing from the photo album, didn’t think too much of it at the time and now I’m wishing like hell that I’d found out what he was up to before it all happened – the billboard.
Worst thing, it wasn’t me that saw it first, it was a client. I was in a meeting when he asked when the big day was… of course I hadn’t seen the billboard so I was more than a little confused at his question. I could feel myself turning red in embarrassment as the full impact of the billboard was explained to me…
He proposed – on that huge billboard! How does one gently extract oneself from this situation? Is there a way to say not right now and still keep up with the relationship?
Ugh, and so publicly too… | |
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Posted: 1/15/2011 1:32:35 PM | Awwwwwww! He outdid himself this time! 
My guess is that he was afraid that if he asked you directly in the traditional way (you know... down on his knee, ring box open in hand and pleading puppy eyes) you would say " Not right now! " , so he decided to put the pressure on!
Well, congratulations either way! I take it as good news : )
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Posted: 1/15/2011 1:34:11 PM | Worst thing, it wasn’t me that saw it first, it was a client. I was in a meeting when he asked when the big day was
Yes, Forumites have long memories-
If this story is true, you could ask him to take it down, and tell people it doesn't matter anyway since the world is scheduled to end in July next year-
You could respond with a maybe, tell him you will think it over and reply August 2012 if the world is still here-- | |
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Posted: 1/15/2011 1:53:35 PM | Here's a few (lame) suggestions:
Hire a signwriter to paint a giant red NO over the billboard;
Hire a plane and sky-write HELL NO over his house;
Hire a mafiosa and get him to deliver a horse's head, with the message in its mouth saying SEE YOU IN HELL BEFORE I MARRY YOU;
Deliver a 1000 kleenex boxes to him, each carrying a tiny groom with a dagger in his heart;
Hire the Harlem Gospel Choir to go to his work, singing I Would Walk 500 Miles (Not To Marry You);
Post your refusal on youtube while having sex with someone else;
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Posted: 1/15/2011 2:00:00 PM | First, I'd at all costs avoid travelling along the road where the billboard is placed, OP....that way you can always plead ignorance. And refuse to get in his car for a drive either for now.
Then, I'd go graffitti the hell outta that sign, so that your face is no longer recognizable...you know, paint a little Hercule Poirot mustache on it, some sideburns, really "man" it up. So that when he DOES take you by it, you can again plead ignorance, since you don't know who "that guy" is since it's clearly not recognizable as you.  | |
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Posted: 1/15/2011 2:17:48 PM | Is this for real???????
just when I think I've heard and read everything...............
If this guy is driving you as you put it..............
........eye-crossing, clock-tower nuts.........
the you need to run like hell to the nearest airport.
Problem solved. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2011 2:27:13 PM |
Is this for real???????
just when I think I've heard and read everything...............
If this guy is driving you as you put it..............
........eye-crossing, clock-tower nuts.........
the you need to run like hell to the nearest airport.
Problem solved.
If the guy drives you nuts why do you wish to continue any relationship with him? The way you describe him I don't think you will ever accept a proposal from him. Let the guy go so he can find some one who isn't making fun of him all the time and appreciates him. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2011 2:27:13 PM | Well, I give him points for originality and doing things in a big way.
However, if he is driving you cross-eyed, clocktower, bodies-buried-in-the-backyard nuts, perhaps you would be better served to extricate yourself from the situation and the relationship in whatever way is the quickest and most effective, short of murdering HIM, of course.
Be sure though, that you aren't tossing out a rather gauche but good-hearted guy,but this is something only you can know for sure.
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Posted: 1/15/2011 2:50:06 PM |
Is this the same guy who would give you the gifts of little Kleenex boxes decorated as villages etc? One in the same...
Yes, Forumites have long memories- Really? I find that out of sight, out of mind is the general flavour of the forums and forumites. I am however curious as to the underlying meaning of that comment... sharing is caring... 
Hire a signwriter to paint a giant red NO over the billboard;
Then, I'd go graffitti the hell outta that sign, so that your face is no longer recognizable...you know, paint a little Hercule Poirot mustache on it, some sideburns, really "man" it up. Both of these suggestions bear further consideration. I wonder if the yellow pages has a listing of artists that would render their work on short notice... 
The way you describe him I don't think you will ever accept a proposal from him. Let the guy go so he can find some one who isn't making fun of him all the time and appreciates him. Of course if you'd like, I could send him your way since you seem to have a soft spot for guys with harebrained schemes and déclassé tastes in décor...
I also believe y'all are missing the point of this... I'm not done with him yet, I'm looking for a way to not say yes to this particular proposal and maintain the status quo...
I would have sworn I was clear in my OP... apparently not clear enough... | |
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Posted: 1/15/2011 3:01:51 PM | You were clear.
Geez, don`t know how the heck you go about that - say not right now but I still want you around.....that is a tough one.
A friend of mine once went with her boyfriend to visit his family across the country for Christmas. They had been dating about a year and a bit and she really liked him but was not ready to do the engaged/marriage/start a family thing (he was 8 years older than her). Sure as shyte he did the down on one knee thing in front of his entire family which totally caught her off guard and totally by surprise. She said yes, but felt pressured to say yes. They just had their 16th anniversary, two kids and very happy. It just wasn`t her timeline. I still tease her about it all. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2011 3:03:01 PM | | That is awesome. Just tell him in private. Let him know how you feel, and say your not ready for that step. It should be alright. On the other hand, being engaged, don't mean you have to set a date right away. An you have a fine piece of finger candy to look at. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2011 3:04:57 PM |
Of course if you'd like, I could send him your way since you seem to have a soft spot for guys with harebrained schemes and déclassé tastes in décor...
I also believe y'all are missing the point of this... I'm not done with him yet, I'm looking for a way to not say yes to this particular proposal and maintain the status quo...
I would have sworn I was clear in my OP... apparently not clear enough...
Hmmm, don't get your humor LOL but no thank you I have a wonderful man in my life who although is not perfect as no one is I am more than happy with. It seems as though you are settling and want to continue a relationship with a man who drives you nuts. Would you ever say YES to a proposal by this man?
"I'm not done with him yet", ahhh sure sounds like true love to me. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2011 3:08:54 PM |
I'm not done with him yet, I'm looking for a way to not say yes to this particular proposal and maintain the status quo...
I would have sworn I was clear in my OP... apparently not clear enough...
Does anyone else on here have the suspicsion this could be yet another troll post?????????? | |
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Posted: 1/15/2011 3:13:15 PM |
Does anyone else on here have the suspicsion this could be yet another troll post?????????? Why... because I dismissed your lame advice out of hand and didn't bother responding to it?
If you're looking for attention, you might want to try somewhere else... | |
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Posted: 1/15/2011 3:18:12 PM | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
You are the one who had the original rant on here tell all of us how your boyfriend drives you "clock tower nuts" complaining about a marriage proposal on a billboard.......we all gave you some pointed advice........then you go into a rant justifying yourself, telling all of us that took the time to respond "you aren't done" with this idiot yet........
So basically, you are pissed off because none of us responded with what you WANTED TO HEAR!
Apparently, you don't know what RED FLAGS are, or you just choose to ignore them.............
So yeah, I stick to my second post wondering if this is a troll/attention seeking thread...........
If you already KNOW the answer to your question, then why bother asking it???
Another question I have for you is if you are SO happy with Mr Wonderful, then why in the world are you on here??????????? Duh!
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Posted: 1/15/2011 3:24:22 PM | With my late fiance I accpeted his ring and wore it~
saying yes but not right now for six years.
Doesnt sound to me like he would want a straight no for an answer after investing so much time in being together. Sometimes you cant have your cake and eat it too. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2011 3:51:18 PM | Am I missing something here?
You are the one who had the original rant on here tell all of us how your boyfriend drives you "clock tower nuts" complaining about a marriage proposal on a billboard....
The OP was venting (you know, sharing?) because she found out via a third party that her boyfriend had proposed in such a manner. Personally, I too would be mortified at such a public display.
...we all gave you some pointed advice.....
Yes, you told her to dump him, no questions asked. Which wasn't what she was asking about in her O-Post, she was asking for ways to delay the proposal or her response.
...then you go into a rant justifying yourself, telling all of us that took the time to respond "you aren't done" with this idiot yet........
I don't see anywhere where the OP called her boyfriend an "idiot", so those are your words. For why she said she "wasn't done" with him yet...see above. Or, better yet, re-read her original question.
So basically, you are pissed off because none of us responded with what you WANTED TO HEAR!
I think what she probably wanted to hear was, you actually answering the bloody original question?
Apparently, you don't know what RED FLAGS are, or you just choose to ignore them..........
Why would it be a "red flag" for one's boyfriend to propose via billboard? It might be gauche as the OP views it, it might be mortifying as I would view it...but why would it be a red flag?
You do realize, you're on a rant against your own post here, don't you?
Saturday nights on the forums, I tells ya.
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Posted: 1/15/2011 4:11:25 PM |
He proposed – on that huge billboard! How does one gently extract oneself from this situation? Is there a way to say not right now and still keep up with the relationship?
How about sending him a singing telegram, you know, someone going into his work place singing your message of "not right now but let's keep doing what we're doing" in a humorous way, of course?!
I give your guy kudos for his unconventional way of keeping your attention!
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Posted: 1/15/2011 4:14:30 PM | awwwwwwwww, Lint.....he sounds like a keeper....seriously.
graffitti the hell outta that sign, so that your face is no longer recognizable
Don't do this. His heart was in the right place.
Was that idea given to him by the same friend who suggested he gift you with kleenex villages? If so, I'd bury the FRIEND under the rose bushes...NOT him.
Have your response attached to the same billboard.....
him: "will you marry me?"........
you: "Maybe, baby!"
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Posted: 1/15/2011 4:16:10 PM | I think plurstys' idea is an excellent one-provided that you are sure you want to continue the relationship, I would HATE to hear about you up on a clock tower hurling decorated kleenex boxes down on the blameless and hapless passers-by below.
Cindy O | |
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