| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 7/19/2005 9:53:31 PM | Ok she has custody and doesnt let you see them
There may be reasons like violence toward her & the children...or you having an affair....
since I started this thread I'll just say that ive done none of the above and she was the one who had the affair.......I am over that.
lets not talk about the reasons....thyre endless
I LIKE TO KNOW HOW YOU COPE...LETS FOCUS THERE
Lets have some rules : no flaming your Ex or women in general please.
Thanks to all who reply. | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 7/19/2005 11:38:57 PM | woman who wont let a child see ther father should be shot
plain and simple.
I rarely saw my dad as a child.
had I been my dad I probably wouldve slit the ****es throat for the games she played | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 7/19/2005 11:44:32 PM | wasnt trying to flame. but I mean really someone has to have ice in there veins to a keep a child from aparent
pure ice | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 7/19/2005 11:58:25 PM | How can you not miss your children? They are forever a part of me. Fatherhood is the most important job on the planet (next to motherhood of course)
I chat with them online almost everyday, bought them a webcam for christmas and visit them whenever I can. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2005 12:02:20 AM | Glad you still get to see them pavara...I agree you can divorce your wife but never your children....thats why I started thid thread to get dads input......
she accepted a prsent last april for my little one but for some reason didnt let me see him.........pic of boys in my profile... | |
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Posted: 7/20/2005 6:25:44 AM | well I am not div . I am a widow. i had a child he was 7 and he died about 2 yrs ago. He had a rare brain cancer. My son was a active kid love baseball and camping and more. my wife died 2 yrs before my son.
I miss him every day. and i miss my wife too but life goes on. The reason i am writting this is you must keep intouch with your kids. Lifes to short. so try to do as much as you can to see your kids and do stuff with them. i would give anything to do it again. | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 7/20/2005 6:55:07 AM | | Guess I'm lucky. I get to see my daughter as often as I'd like. Though I live 3.5 hours away, I still make it to see her at least once a month and get her for at least 1 month in the summer. Though she got primary residense (due to her 2 daughters from a previous marriage and courts don't like to split up siblings) I fought like hell to keep joint custody. My lawyer tried to talk me out of it since he said it didn't mean much leagally, but it was worth it to me for the principal. There is absolutely nothing in this world that could keep me from my little girl. | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 7/20/2005 7:05:30 AM |
woman who wont let a child see ther father should be shot
plain and simple.
If the dad is a good person I agree with you, but in my case I felt strongly enough about my kid's dad not seeing them, I took it to court and got his visits stoped. To keep it from lasting any longer than the year it did, I gladly gave up child support. If most knew my reasons, they would agree, but I do not feel I have the right to go into detail about it here, as the reasons were directly related to what this thing wanted to do to the children.
If he had been a good dad, but we just didn't get along, I would have never dreamed of stopping his visits. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2005 7:17:33 AM | My father never really seemed to miss me. He was allowed to visit, allowed to call, and even allowed to come pick me up, but didn't.
Then again, maybe he had his own reasons. I just don't know. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2005 8:20:38 AM | It hurts, and the kids are the ones who suffer. Parents, who use the kids as weapons to hurt the other should be slapped up and slapped up hard!
My ex is using mine to hit me, to hurt me, to pound me, and they are under the age of 10.
My mom tried that crap with me, tried to turn me against my dad, and I fought her every step of the way, I was 7 when it started, and I fought her with all I had, and I took some bad beatings in the process, but I never gave up, I loved him no matter what, he was a good man and I knew it, and I grew up hating her, but the bond with my dad grew and grew, to a point where it could never be broken.
When I was old enough to decide, he took me with him, and he changed my life, he made me stronger, he made me who I am today, and yet when he was dying, he still said, take care of your mother. A good man and I take care of my mother because he told me to and it is the right thing to do!
Kids know, maybe not today, but they will always love you no matter what, hang in there, it hurts now, but one day, they will know.
Just be there, be the best parent you can, let them know you love them, and do not lower yourself to that level! | |
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Posted: 7/20/2005 9:05:06 AM | | I agree with some of the advice that's been giving. I believe if the father is a good man, then yes by all means he can see his child. In my case uts different, at 2 1/2 yrs my I finally found him, through child support. He's now in jail, But i don't know for how long. In the 2 1/2 yrs he could not pick up a phone or even write a letter , all that time nothing. I found out that he married the girl that he ran off with and had 2 sons with her. They both lost custody of their 1st son, and he apparently has custody of his 2nd. Which I don't know how me managed that. The Point Im trying to make is that he choose to go the other way. He chose not to see his own son. So it will continue this way. I will fill papers for sole custody. I know in my heart that he misses his sons. So to answer the question on behalf of my ex, Yes he miss is children.. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2005 9:27:36 AM | I agree as well, the other parent is a good person, okay, however if that other parent, is a piece of shyt, then the custodial parent has a duty, and obligation to protect the child at all costs, but that does not mean that the kid needs to hear a blow by blow description every time somthing happens with the other parent! What is the point!
Parents make choices, shyt happens, all that matters is that the kids are okay!
That is all that matters, and they do not need to hear about the rest of it!
They will find out soon enough, they will grow up and lose their innocence soon enough, why expose them to things that little kids are not equipped to handle, remember they are kids, let them be kids, it only happens one time, and soon they grow up, and life happens! | |
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Posted: 7/20/2005 10:17:18 AM | | Well, this is my first time in a forum...I am a single mother. My little one is only a month old. I guess my situation is a tad different. Her father is Married, and I was just looking for a mans point of view. (or whoever has an opinion) Her father wants nothing to do with her, which is really for the best, but I lay there at night and watch her sleep, and I can't imagine how a person can just live their life simply ignoring the fact they have a child out there. I know it happens everyday, everywhere, but what goes through their mind. If you are in a similar situation please respond...I'm curious. Even if you're the bad guy in the situation, I won't judge. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2005 12:41:46 PM | | All the time. My daughter just turned three this past June and while her mother and I do get along very well I dont get to see her nearly as much as Id like to. She lives in Florida I live in Virginia.I only get to see her twice a year if im lucky. Im currently in school getting an education so I can give her the life i never had It hurts but sacraficeing what you want for you kids is part of being a parent. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2005 12:54:33 PM | | Okay my daughter's father does not see her. He wants to and I will not let him. The simple reason is because he calls every once and awhile and wants her to stay the weekend with him, she is only 19 months old, she doesn't know him. He hasn't been in her life since she was born and he left me as soon as he found out I was pregnant. He calls to see her when he "feels" like it. I don't get a penny of child support. He is not the best person in the world, and neither is his family. He doesn't really love her, if I thought he did I would let him have her on the weekends at the drop of a dime. I had my father growing up so I don't know what it is like to not have a father and I don't know what I am going to tell her. I do not feel bad in the least about my decision. It takes 2 to make a baby, and anyone can be a father to a child but it takes a real man to be a daddy. It takes time, comitment, and giving up a huge part of your life, and he is not willing to do that. She is not there for him to see when he "feels" like it, and I won't put up with that bullshit. I won't let her be hurt by him. For are you real dad's I have a lot of respect for you. | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 7/20/2005 3:21:45 PM | King...
I know this post was directed towards fathers to respond,but I would like to respond,if you'll permit me....
I the past weeks ,I have come to know you to some degree through postings and chatting..
I view you as an intelligent,open and caring person..
And it break my heart to hear of someone's ex using their children as "pawns " so to speak,by not allowing the privelege of knowing and being with BOTH parents.
My wish for you is ,that your ex will soon see the error in judgement she is making.
A father who wants and needs to be with his children DESERVES that right.
She is denying them a crucial part of their lives by doing this ,and denying you a crucial part of your life as well.
Luv
Leaf.
P.S....you're children are BEAUTIFUL!!! | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 7/20/2005 8:27:37 PM | @leafs...many persons tried to advice her...family, friends including her own brother..
but to no avail...she has also kept them away from uncles ,nieces,grandparents...
I guess she was embarassed that they all knew about the affair she was having and could not face them...... she could have been more discreet...........sometimes I feel like everybody in town was looking at me funny. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2005 8:42:08 PM | King,
You should never feel that way.
What she is doing is morally and ethically wrong.
I wish it were possible for someone to talk some sense into her.
They are YOUR children as well, after all!
And to deny you or any member of your family the chance to be with your children is denying them their life and heritage.
No matter how angry or hurt I was when my marriage ended ,I could never deny my children the right to have their father's love, or that of his family. | |
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| Dads..do you miss your children ?
Posted: 7/20/2005 8:55:05 PM | My father never really seemed to miss me. He was allowed to visit, allowed to call, and even allowed to come pick me up, but didn't.
omg!! this makes me cry...
i don't want my kid's thinking this but it is sooo true just like u wrote
my boy's dad want's nothing to do with them because his g.f said so
i tried every thing i could to keep him around and hisg.f got way involved and caused to many problems and now his right's HE is siging away yes i was happy now iam pissed off how can any parent do that | |
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Posted: 7/20/2005 9:07:45 PM | Lil Sweet Heart,
I feel for you,and understand what you're going through..
My own brother did the same thing..He remarried and had what he called his"new family".
Because if his stupidity,he missed out on watching his daughter grow up to be a beautiful woman...He missed out on her birthdays,graduation and her marriage.
For this,I will never have any respect for him.
My niece is special to me and I'm glad she and her mother did not allow his foolish action stop me from being part of her life.
It was ,and will always be ,his loss. | |
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