| | I just don't get it...Page 1 of 3 (1, 2, 3) | How could there be so many members but so many WRONG men? I'm thinking you guys like hang out here and go in for the kill or something....look for an easy target maybe?
I appreciate the friendships I've made here along the way, but not really here to make friends, I can't stay in touch with the ones I've got now!
Answer me this, why do you bother to get in touch, make an attempt to connect and not follow through, this site can be so tedious... I wish people were more polite & HONEST with each other...
Well here is to wishing people would say what they mean, mean what they say or don't bother.... | |
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Sînz
| | Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 2 | |
| I just don't get it...
Posted: 7/12/2011 8:03:11 PM | | And you came to this conclusion after only being registered here for SIX whole days. Patience is a virtue. | |
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| I just don't get it...
Posted: 7/12/2011 8:05:37 PM | LOL, touche', but I've been on here much longer.... I changed name and profile, imagine this if you will, there are several nut cases around....
It's been a couple of years on an off :)
PS thanks for the productive input though | |
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| I just don't get it...
Posted: 7/12/2011 8:05:54 PM | Maybe.....just maybe she was on POF before and closed 'er down and is just now starting back up.
It happens.
Yes...be patient. Took me two-ish years of "interesting" date experiences to find my prince charming.
Hah! And if I would have been one more minute patient, you could have stated this yourself, as you have done MizSeaside...lol | |
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| I just don't get it...
Posted: 7/12/2011 8:10:56 PM | OK silly question.....YOU FOUND PRINCE CHARMING??? WTH why are you still on here??
there are no Prince Charmings, only men on white horses :)
I don't know about you but I am much more entertained by the forums than any of the profiles I've read recently | |
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Sînz
| | Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 6 | |
| I just don't get it...
Posted: 7/12/2011 8:12:30 PM |
LOL, touche', but I've been on here much longer.... I changed name and profile, imagine this if you will, there are several nut cases around....
It's been a couple of years on an off :)
PS thanks for the productive input though
No problem, I do what I can 
I'm just a very blunt person and call things how I see them. Everyone seems to pull the victim card these days. Woe is me, why is everyone this way, it's never me. Maybe someone made contact and realized by something you said or didn't say that the two of you weren't compatible. It's easier to ignore someone than to try and explain it. | |
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| I just don't get it...
Posted: 7/12/2011 8:16:00 PM | That's exactly why I'm here. Addicted to these forums for their entertainment value and some knowledge building. Apparently I don't know everything...sheeesh! I was told this by my children for years:)
Sweetheart is contributing to these forums now too...it's a hoot texting each other to go and see what the other has written. I think he and I even addressed your WTH question in a thread called something like, "Why on earth are you still here if ya got some one?"...or something like that. Early onset alzheimers stops me from knowing the exact title. | |
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| I just don't get it...
Posted: 7/12/2011 8:18:29 PM | aaaaaaah haaaaaaaaaa ignorance is bliss card...I'll remember that (though I don't play that way) and believe anyone over 12 shouldn't. Whatever.
I am no victim that's for sure... just something I thought I'd throw around out there....
I just know so many people that have connected through this particular medium yet having such difficulty connecting with quality & sincere people, it disturbs me a bit to be quite honest with ya...
If I could only turn those "red flags" into a money maker eh? | |
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| I just don't get it...
Posted: 7/12/2011 8:30:28 PM | I think you are a victim of net fishing as opposed single line fishing. By throwing a net, you get more fishies than by casting a line. Some think that it's less time consuming and increases the chances of finding the right one.
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| I just don't get it...
Posted: 7/12/2011 8:54:21 PM | To much generalization....they think the same of us women.
I believe you should start as friends..unless you looking for that person to be a **** buddy.
I bother to communicate to someone I have an interest and want a possible friendship that could lead to something HOWEVER that doesn't he would reciprocate the same feelings. Some answer and I don't feel the "connection" to move it forward. Some I don't want to communicate with. Some do not respond. A no response is an answer just not the one I may want to get.
It would be nice to have people say what they mean..but the world is getting more cynical more each day and Im feeling the same way..so sad. | |
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| I just don't get it...
Posted: 7/12/2011 9:15:14 PM |
How could there be so many members but so many WRONG men?
....Answer me this, why do you bother to get in touch, make an attempt to connect and not follow through, this site can be so tedious... I wish people were more polite & HONEST with each other...
Insufficient information to contribute effectively. Like when does it go wrong for you? do you achieve the first meet? What is a typical scenario? Or do you know and are just impatient and whining? :O:)
You know that the interests are searchable if you use them right? I am hooked up w/a SO from POF (I used interest searches and I do first contact, just delete any first contacts from men because they tend to come from incompatible men, just not worth the work). I think POF has great potential particularly the forums and the searchable interests, a great organization that other (including non dating) sites lack. My SO knows I am on here, and he is too but we trust ea other.....
Good luck fishing...... | |
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| I just don't get it...
Posted: 7/12/2011 9:33:21 PM | SeasideSunnyGal,
CarpeOmnia is absolutely right on why she is still on POF. It’s all for the forums now. New to the forums myself, I am finding the different threads very interesting and entertaining too.
I believe that there are good people on this site too…… there are also some not so good ones too. It was almost 2 ½ years after my ex left before I thought about dating again. If you would have asked me a few years ago if I would have been on a dating site I would have laughed and would have said never.
However, when the time came I thought…. How does a 47 year old guy meet someone while working full time, trying to still raise two teenage daughters and who does not do the bar scene or involved in any group with a lot of single women in them. As you can see it did not take my analytical brain long to figure out a dating site might not be a bad idea.
Fortunately, I do not have any bad encounters from the dating sites (MSN and POF). I met only two others for a coffee encounters before I meet the gal who called me Prince Charming in the above posting. She is an awesome lady and if it was not for this site I would never have met her; even though we live only an hour away from each other. I do not think our paths would have ever crossed out in the real world.
So, if I understand your question. I would have to tell you that you might have to meet and greet a lot of guys before meeting the man that you will call your Prince Charming. It unfortunately it is a numbers game when it comes to meeting Mr. Right. I know CarpeOmnia had to go through more than her fair share before her and I met. I am just so thankful she never gave up. | |
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_roxy_
| | Joined: 3/29/2011
Msg: 13 | |
| I just don't get it...
Posted: 7/12/2011 9:39:23 PM | How could there be so many members but so many WRONG men?
hows that saying go? the odds are good, but the goods are odd. Your pof experience? lol | |
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| I just don't get it...
Posted: 7/12/2011 9:59:47 PM | We are all wrong. Am I wrong? I think I am.
What is then right? Right for you? Life is. Your wrong is somebody else right.
And that is life. | |
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| I just don't get it...
Posted: 7/12/2011 10:12:22 PM | | Yeah...lol I agree... it could easily be renamed plenty of shyt!!! lol lol | |
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| I just don't get it...
Posted: 7/12/2011 10:19:59 PM | | You are looking at it like it's the guys who are wrong, and so far the guys who have had contact with you, look at you like you are wrong for them. When someone has been talking to you, and they stop, it means they found they have no interest in you, it happens to everyone, why bother so much with those not interested in you? Nothing to analyze really, they just are not interested. | |
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| I just don't get it...
Posted: 7/12/2011 11:17:14 PM | I understand op's frustration ...
When a person goes through the time and trouble of posting a well thought out profile with some decent pics. and people don't bother to read it and just send a "hi babe" message, it's terrible!
The same goes for when one sends a thoughtful message to someone and they don't bother to reply, not even to say thanks-but-no-thanks?!
As much as I agree that it is rude, I've changed my attitude about it. I've detached and no longer put my hopes up. If I get ignored I am grateful to find out now the kind of guy he is and not later after I've invested more time and energy.
But ya.... there seems to be a lot of them  | |
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meka11
| | Joined: 7/18/2010
Msg: 18 | |
| I just don't get it...
Posted: 7/12/2011 11:19:12 PM | | funny you say that about the men here cos i have thought the same way about the girls here too..but i'm tired of this..i am just gonna go out and find someone rather than through a website..goodluck to you. | |
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| I just don't get it...
Posted: 7/13/2011 3:42:01 AM | I totally agree with what you're saying, I've also heard men complain about the same things. There are good decent people in here, unfortunately the liars and players exhaust people.
Most who have been in here awhile learn not to expect anything until meeting at least once. | |
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| I just don't get it...
Posted: 7/13/2011 4:56:06 AM |
I just know so many people that have connected through this particular medium yet having such difficulty connecting with quality & sincere people, it disturbs me a bit to be quite honest with ya...
Have ya walked outside the front door and met what out's there?????? Same difference,as far as I am concerned. I know two women in the last 3 weeks that have come to me and complained and whined about the men they have been seeing who ended up cheating on them??????
I shrugged my shoulders and told them that I didn't decide to hang out with these guys, they did. Both of them I had asked out at one time or another,but I was told I was "too nice of a guy"  I feel for them, but really, I had very little to do with the people that they chose to be friends with.
You must put things into perspective here. With the amount of people here,you will find a wide range of people and personalities. You will also find that there are reasons some of us are single too!!!!!! | |
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| I just don't get it...
Posted: 7/13/2011 5:21:08 AM |
when one sends a thoughtful message to someone and they don't bother to reply, not even to say thanks-but-no-thanks?!
As much as I agree that it is rude, I've changed my attitude about it. I've detached and no longer put my hopes up. If I get ignored I am grateful to find out now the kind of guy he is and not later after I've invested more time and energy.
Raza...This is just my opinion, but I think it's better for both genders, to just not respond, if they are not interested in someone who messages them. If anyone hates hurting somenes feelings, it's me. However, when I first got on here, if I wasn't interested in someone who messaged me..I would take a minute to say something polite...like you said, "thanks but no thanks" or something along that line. Or I would be specific about WHY I wasn't interested, and be nice about it...only to get a nasty message back from them, insulting me, for my reasons of not being interested. Most of the time, they wont just let it be. So now I don't respond at all, if I'm not interested. Unless it's someone right here in the forums, and I want to try to remain freinds with them. I have been ignored too, it happens. It's different if you have met the person and dated, even once. To ignore someone after meeting them without even a word, is rude and cold. But that's different. | |
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| I just don't get it...
Posted: 7/13/2011 5:22:14 AM | | lol I have ran into women on here who will mislead you all the way,lots of wrong women on here also.It isn't just the men. | |
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| I just don't get it...
Posted: 7/13/2011 5:32:56 AM | Are you having better luck outside of using the online service? You shouldn't be only using this site to meet people if you can help it. If you are having better luck IRL then you should be using that instead.
Perhaps its time you take a step back and devote more time to yourself, take a break. Join a gym or take a class and take stock then come back to it after a while. You can't keep doing this 24/7 forever it's just too much stress. | |
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| I just don't get it...
Posted: 7/13/2011 6:10:51 AM | When a person goes through the time and trouble of posting a well thought out profile with some decent pics. and people don't bother to read it and just send a "hi babe" message, it's terrible!
yeah. i mean why doesn't every n00b on the internet realize how much time & effort i've put into my profile, and WHY ARE THESE INTERNET STRANGERS NOT LIVING UP TO MY PERSONAL EXPECTATIONS??
SCREAMING ------> what hath god wrought?!?!?!?!?!?
The same goes for when one sends a thoughtful message to someone and they don't bother to reply, not even to say thanks-but-no-thanks?!
yeah, i get a lot of thoughtful junk mail out there in the box, too. every freakin day, man. it's all very thoughtful stuff, too.... i mean think of all those full-color offset presses and copy writers and editors and graphic artists that put this crap together. and yet.... and yet... I REFUSE TO OPEN IT! and then... and then.... I THROW IT IN THE TRASH! hey! that's the same as unread/deleted. gawd i'm such a heartless bitch. be that as it may, not once did they ever follow up with a plaintive cry or start a thread to ask why i refuse to respond, why i won't be their friend, or especially to explain why they keep saying they want to be *my* friend or make me look more beautiful when what they really want is my money. the bastards.
meanwhile, back at the ranch. i can tell that you'd STILL be unhappy even if every unanswered email you sent were to be magically transformed into the pleasant "thanks but no thanks" that you're wishing for. BECAUSE YOU'RE A WHINER. "waaaah, all i hear is thanks but no thanks!!" echo... echo.... | |
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| I just don't get it...
Posted: 7/13/2011 6:18:35 AM |
I just know so many people that have connected through this particular medium yet having such difficulty connecting with quality & sincere people, it disturbs me a bit to be quite honest with ya...
So, you know it works, it's just not working for you. Online dating isn't for everyone. Some people have an ability to read between the lines, some people jump on the very first, and every interest shown, and then **** about how there's nothing but losers out there.
If you can't refine your parameters of what you're looking for, if you really are picking a bunch of losers... then the problem is you. This medium might not be the best one for you.
Another little tidbit... whining is sooooo unattractive. | |
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