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longte
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Joined: 10/18/2004
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| Friendships some time can be more complicated then relationships
Posted: 7/31/2005 5:53:12 AM | | I don't have a clue as to why you think it, but I don't do complicated. Things getting complicated and I get gone. There is no reason to make any relationship complicated. Every aspect of life is really very simple. It is human kind, even more so mankind that works hard to make it complicated. | |
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| Friendships some time can be more complicated then relationships
Posted: 7/31/2005 5:58:30 AM | | It is this kind of goofy 'thinking' that causes it all. Just Friends, 'Relationships' Friend with Benefits, Significant Other....damn...WHY would a Man be 'friends' with a Woman he isn't can't, or wont SLEEP with? No Reason I can think of at ALL! NONE!! , | |
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| Friendships some time can be more complicated then relationships
Posted: 7/31/2005 6:24:41 AM |
It is this kind of goofy 'thinking' that causes it all. Just Friends, 'Relationships' Friend with Benefits, Significant Other....damn...WHY would a Man be 'friends' with a Woman he isn't can't, or wont SLEEP with? No Reason I can think of at ALL! NONE!! ,
I just don't understand that as I have several close male friends that I would not consider sleeping with. The friendship I have with them is not any different than that I would have with another woman. If you feel that way, why would you be friends with other men? It really isn't all about sex!!! | |
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| Friendships some time can be more complicated then relationships
Posted: 7/31/2005 6:38:13 AM |
I don't have a clue as to why you think it, but I don't do complicated. Things getting complicated and I get gone.
Was it simple to have a man sponge off of you for a year? Or does it take longer than that for you to "get gone" if things are complicated?
OT:All relationships are complicated. | |
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| Friendships some time can be more complicated then relationships
Posted: 7/31/2005 6:44:40 AM |
Was it simple to have a man sponge off of you for a year? Or does it take longer than that for you to "get gone" if things are complicated?
Very simple. Again nothing is that complicated. There is always a very simple logical explanation for everything. In the case you mention, me. I was stupid and he was lazy. Now he is still lazy and has found yet another stupid woman. When that ends he will still be lazy and looking for yet another stupid woman. So there is nothing complicated here. | |
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| Friendships some time can be more complicated then relationships
Posted: 8/9/2005 9:22:28 AM | So , let me wrap my feeble female brain around this one now....One moment please.................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................
So what you're all saying here is that ANY relationship where you don't get physical gratification or else you MAY have to potentially deal with the inherent differences between PEOPLE and the conflict that may arise....are "too complicated" and not worth the time or effort to pursue....
No WONDER we are such an emotionally and spiritually impoverished society!!!!
Whatever happened to the simple act of celebrating another person's humanity and understanding that even the most superficial relationship requires SOME degree of effort be expended, and why is that a BAD thing?!?!!?
Of course if you are happy in your own little bubble and have no desire to expand your ideas or perspectives...then I guess it's perfectly okay to just dissmiss an entire half of the human race, (excluding all of the MEN that aren't worthy of effort either for different reasons!), as worth "relating to", simply because you can't f*ck them!!!!
Lord love a duck....sometimes, I feel truly sad for us as human beings...*sigh* Dee | |
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| Friendships some time can be more complicated then relationships
Posted: 8/13/2005 11:10:33 AM |
Whatever happened to the simple act of celebrating another person's humanity and understanding that even the most superficial relationship requires SOME degree of effort
Right on! Relating to *any* life form requires effort... even plants or pets.
I think that friendships, like anything organic, need effort and time to develop... but there’s nothing really complicated in there. Spend a bit of time with your friend, care about him or her sincerely, and the friendship will grow nicely.
If I find friendship more complicated than other relationships, it’s because I’m not being open or honest with my friend. It’s that, or my friend isn’t being open or honest with me... and if you think about it, the responsibility still rests with me. If I’m in touch with my core... honestly accepting my instincts about this person... I’ll pick up the lack of sincerity and the friendship won’t develop in the first place.
If you’re both in the friendship with honesty and a sincere appreciation for each other, it will never be complicated. What complicates relationships is the stuff we attach to them... our ‘needs’, and desires, vulnerabilities, feelings that we are going to lose something of value by doing something ‘his’ way. Those kinds of pressures are rare in friendships... and frankly, if they do exist, I would seriously question the authenticity of the ‘friendship’.
Friendship, by its transient nature, is one of the least complicated of all human interactions.
I describe it as transient, because it’s really at the root of every other relationship... so that as our feelings grow for a person, the relationship naturally develops into what can no longer be defined as a simple friendship.
Anyway, the bottom line is that if a 'friendship' is complicated, there’s something weird going on... the relationship may be a lot of things, but it’s not a friendship. | |
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| Friendships some time can be more complicated then relationships
Posted: 7/12/2008 8:44:48 AM | COMPLICATED RELATIONSHIP/FRIENDSHIP
A FRIENDSHIP THAT TURNED INTO SOMETHING MORE THAN JUST A FRIENDSHIP RELATIONSHIP!!!!!!!!!!!!!
OK Well im in A HUGE DILEMMA I have this neighbor who has been my friend since for like forever it seems (4-5yrs)(he is older which i like older guy always have) but he and i became more than friends until i put my foot down on this dilemma (his ex wife) was having or should i say had(just recently) "his Baby" (he doesnt know if its even his yet) So I broke it off til he find out if this kid is his and if they are gonna work shit out (even though she is CRAZY ,She drives by or blows his phone up if she thinks someone is there ) The Thing is she never like me coming around (dont know why but i was coming around and saying hi when i was younger and we were and are friends) (he and i never messed around til they were divorced/legally seperated and til i was 18 1/2yrs old, but she would always accuse him and I of messing around(when they were working things out) so we finally did if she could mess around why cant he) but I broke off the messing around, til he knows if this baby is his or not.( he doubts the baby is his hes getting a paternity test!!!) but how should I feel Cuz I CARED/ LOVED/LIKED HIM SINCE 4E and I especially love spending time with his son and him. So how should i go about this ???? I told him if he works it out fine but i dont wanna get hurt) SO even though i ACTED HAPPY IM ACTUALLY PARTIALLY CRUSHED,(not saying i cant get a guy or any guy if i wanted to but it HURTS I STILL CARE FOR HIM I always have and I couldnt make a move til I was 18yrs old but he found his now Ex-Wife, Should I Let Him know I how i feel then move on Just Move on to the next LUCKY **stard THAT GETS ME and wait til he possibly comes around.........PLEASE SOMEONE HELP ME HOW I SHOULD FEEL BOUT THIS WHOLE ISSUE and IF I DID THE RIGHT THING.BY BREAKING IT OFF FOR NOW????
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