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 PrettyPooter
Joined: 7/20/2011
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Why is it that it seems like no good looking guy ever likes bigger girls. It's such a hassle to find guys that appreciate all types of figures and sometimes it's just so tiresome of hearing, "you're too big for me" or "eww" or "i'm not into big women". Ugh, why is this big guys can get hot girls, but not the other way around?

 m_church
Joined: 11/8/2007
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Posted: 7/25/2011 6:55:21 PM

Why is it that it seems like no good looking guy ever likes bigger girls.


There are a lot of reasons and they're not all superficial... (some are I admit...)

1... Good looking guys can get good looking girls, so why would they want a girl who is 'bigger'?
2... A lot of the reasons those guys are good looking is excercise... lots of it... and a lot more than I do, yet even I consider a 5km walk with the dogs to be a stroll... A woman needs to be able to keep up if she is going to spend time with the guy...
That might mean: Jogging, walking, running, hiking, canoeing, skiing, sports, rock climbing etc...
3... Health reasons... Sorry, but I choose a partner with an eye to them not eventually dying of heart failure, stroke etc... Likewise, weight can affect knees, hips, feet etc down the road...
4... Appearances: Stretch marks, rolls of skin etc are not attractive to many men... and we're not going to have sex in the dark just because she's 'body shy'... We're visual creatures...

My question though is why you think you should be wanting a 'good looking guy'? Isn't that just as superficial?
 forumfishie
Joined: 9/17/2009
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Posted: 7/25/2011 6:56:03 PM
If you want to date good looking guys

You could:
Lose weight
or
you could inherit a fortune

that also answers your question
"why is this big guys can get hot girls, but not the other way around?"
because they have a trust fund
or one of their parents just died and left money behind

or
You could start dating guys
your same size

How about that?
 Detectorman1976
Joined: 4/11/2011
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Posted: 7/25/2011 6:59:35 PM
Most of us want a woman who matches or comes close to us physically.

Honestly....would you like to be with a guy whos is skinnier than you?

I really doubt.

Most people in general want their physical match.
Do good looking guys ever like big girls?
Posted: 7/25/2011 7:00:27 PM
This thread has been done a lot, but I will give you credit for coming out and actually saying that you want a "good looking guy"....

I think both sexes are superficial, but guys tend to get away with "more" if they have money/status....
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
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Posted: 7/25/2011 7:03:25 PM

Why is it that it seems like no good looking guy ever likes bigger girls


What's a good looking guy look like??????

And what's a "bigger girl" look like???????

If ya can define both of those lables a 100% of the time, I'll come back with the answer. Till then, you can only attract what you attract. After that, you will have to change. Are ya willing(and able, and capable,and,etc,etc)???????
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
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Posted: 7/25/2011 7:06:18 PM
Why is it that it seems like no good looking guy ever likes bigger girls.

Why don't you like bigger guys? I think you fail to see the irony in your question.

It's such a hassle to find guys that appreciate all types of figures and sometimes it's just so tiresome of hearing, "you're too big for me" or "eww" or "i'm not into big women".

Well, you can do something about that by changing your figure. That's a lot easier than changing the minds of guys.
 unclezeus
Joined: 5/12/2011
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Posted: 7/25/2011 7:14:17 PM
Do good looking guys ever like big girls?


Not so much. But you're only 19. The real problem happens in your late 20s, 30s, and up.
You have plenty of time, and energy, to work on your weight issue today, if that is important to you.


Why is it that it seems like no good looking guy ever likes bigger girls.


Because they can attract the smaller girls. And it so happens the boys are more attracted to variations of hour glass shaped women.


It's such a hassle to find guys that appreciate all types of figures


Oh indeed. But they are out there, they will usually be the shy male who can't talk to women.
Later in life when your older they won't be "Good looking" nor "Wealthy" ....so be careful.
The older guys who can not attract the "More in shape" women, migrate to the larger women , and take advantage of her loneliness.


and sometimes it's just so tiresome of hearing, "you're too big for me" or "eww" or "i'm not into big women".


Yup, its not fair, but thats life.
Women say to financially poor males, "You don't make enough for me" or "eww" or "I'm not into shy males"......so he finds his way to the big woman, and they balance each other out, but whether or not they are really happy , is another matter.


Ugh, why is this big guys can get hot girls, but not the other way around?


Because it is a double standard. The big boys your age get hot girls because of his attitude. And he shows potential for making lots of money.
Men are not interested in, nor attracted to, the womans ability to make an income. His primary concern is, "Am I sexually attracted to her to see her naked".

Later in life, the big man gets the hot woman, because he has a hot income.
 Terramay
Joined: 2/16/2011
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Posted: 7/25/2011 9:31:12 PM
Physical fitness is a good quality men look for. Its hardwired in our brains to look for a partner that will be healthy enough to have children with.


If it bothers you so much then lose the weight. When I have a bad day I go all out making myself better. I do my nails, hair, make new outfits. Anything to keep myself looking good.
 oldsoul_new1911
Joined: 7/18/2011
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Posted: 7/25/2011 9:39:49 PM

Do good looking guys ever like big girls?

Yes. If the girl is good looking too. Or the guy has a fetish or esteem issues.


Why is it that it seems like no good looking guy ever likes bigger girls.

Because people are used to immediate gratification.
And when people complain about the behavior of others it usually means "I am not getting what I want when I want it...what's wrong with them for not giving me what I want when I want it? I want it."


Ugh, why is this big guys can get hot girls, but not the other way around?

It's easier to look around and rationalize that people have what you don't.
That's another thing like people used to immediate gratification.
The victim mentality.
The whole idea that life is supposed to be fair.
"Big sis got one! Why not me? That's not fair! I am less without it! I want it!"
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
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Posted: 7/25/2011 9:43:03 PM
Good looking guys are notoriously picky.
Email the not so good looking guys who are less so.
 psytle
Joined: 3/7/2011
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Posted: 7/25/2011 10:49:26 PM
Good looking guys can be attracted to big girls, if the big girls offer something more than entitlement issues. Good looking guys bust their humps to get the way they are, so why should they set their expectations lower?
 bshap
Joined: 7/22/2011
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Posted: 7/25/2011 10:52:47 PM
I wouldn't consider myself a stud of a guy, but I don't think I'm a bad looking guy. I have fallen in love with two well built women, one larger than the other but both on the heavier side. One didn't work out because she didn't want a relationship, the other I was in a relationship with for 2 years.

I think that a woman who is sure of herself and doesn't hide behind makeup and fancy clothes is beautiful, even is she is heavier than the stereotypical woman, in fact I'd like a girlfriend who has a little meat on her bones so to speak. As has been mentioned though I'd like a girl who is willing to be active with me. If you're ok with and able to go for walks and bike rides with me, or go camping and hiking then awesome, but if you are overweight and don't want to be active/use your weight as an excuse, then that would prevent the relationship from working for me.
 littleinsomniac
Joined: 11/26/2010
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Posted: 7/25/2011 11:02:08 PM
I don't think you want a Guy who likes BIG girls.... I suspect you just want someone who accepts you.

And if you do accept yourself, then don't complain when your 'type' of guy doesn't find you attractive lol. IMO it wouldn't hurt to have a healthier lifestyle and a fitter body in order to convince some 'hot' guys to go out with you....

Guys who keep fit, want their girls to keep fit too.
 Basiate
Joined: 11/2/2010
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Posted: 7/25/2011 11:49:41 PM
Pfft!!!!!

I am a bigger girl and I have never dated an obese man. I prefer men who are average to needing to lose a few pounds, but have dated thin and athletic too. I have no problem finding dates and men who are attracted to me. Just because you are heavy does not mean you are unattractive and smaller built men will not want to date you!

Now, yes, you can lose weight and yes you will feel better if you do it. Again, I know this from a fact and I have and currently am losing weight, but I am doing it for myself, not for a man. In no way should a woman change who she is in order to please a man. You need to do it for yourself and only yourself.

If you can carry yourself well, and feel beautiful and confident, men will see that and be attracted to it. Not every man out there wants a unrealistic porn queen, so do not fall in the trap that some of these guys are telling you. This is how eating disorders begin.
 coffey13
Joined: 6/2/2010
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Posted: 7/25/2011 11:59:18 PM
well i dont know if im a good guy but i prefair a bigger girl
i like all types but i dont like stick thin girls but then im thin enought meself
is that hipocritacal ?
 johnnyj218
Joined: 4/16/2010
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Posted: 7/26/2011 12:23:10 AM

Why is it that it seems like no good looking guy ever likes bigger girls.


Same reason slim women don't like short guys, they don't have to settle and can get better.
 jblack187
Joined: 8/28/2010
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Posted: 7/26/2011 1:18:17 AM
Pssh, I'm fine to death and I have no problem with big women. Well, it depends on HOW big. I'm over 200 lbs, so I definitely don't want to be with a woman that weighs more than me. I know that's not the case for all guys though. My best friend is married to woman twice his size and couldn't be happier.
 solidfish
Joined: 4/22/2011
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Posted: 7/26/2011 3:45:50 AM
If the women are huugee fatties then yea they should be with huuugee fat men. Fatty lady with skinny or fit dude just looks real odd. But hey I'm just saying.
At the end of the day love is blind so its all good.
 LukeT77
Joined: 1/12/2009
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Posted: 7/26/2011 4:56:43 AM
I'm naturally attracted more to larger women than slimmer ones, and many of my friends have settled down and started a family with larger women. It's largely a matter of personal taste, regardless of how attractive a guy is.

I suppose there is still a bit of a stigma against larger women in society and some good looking guys will see them as less desirable because society tells them that bikini models represent the 'ideal' woman that they should aspire to, but many of those guys are probably looking more for a 'trophy girlfriend' to parade to their mates anyway.
 RichenLosAngeles
Joined: 11/14/2010
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Posted: 7/26/2011 7:27:02 AM
Pooter - I like big women, I mean why not?
But, for the purposes of online dating, you have to help us out with some clear photos of your body. Hiding behind a tree branch tells us that you are NOT comfortable with your body, so why would we assume you would be attractive to us?
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