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So when I was 18 I got my tongue pierced. At the time it was for show, not for any sexual reason. However, I find that sexually it has become very useful.. lol so I have decided to keep it. I am a professional, and I do use a clear bar when I am at work. I would just get rid of it, but as I said, I would prefer to keep it for when I have a sexual partner.
My concern: Do guys judge girls or think of them as "slutty" if they have a tongue ring? I have a few friends who have told me that men will likely write me off as easy just because of it.
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Posted: 8/10/2011 1:01:58 AM | | Not easy per say, but they will assume that you love to give a good head job. However, I have experienced that's not necessarily the case either. Just because a person looks sexually kinky and experienced, does not mean they know what they are doing. Maybe you should wear the clear bar more often, so it is less noticeable and men won't pass judgement. JMO. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2011 1:24:23 AM | | I say take it out. It can be somewhat degrading for a women,even if she dont realize it. Having one doesnt make a person any better sexually than not having one. I'll also say there comes a point in a persons life where they're to hold to have one,and you've about reached that point. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2011 2:42:58 AM | | I would not write off a girl that has her tongue pierced, I make no judgement either way if they do for I have dated women with and without them. And yes, it can be quite pleasurable to recieve oral from a woman that has one. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2011 3:31:50 AM | I have yet to have found a woman in MY age range who had one, but I always assumed that ALL piercings are a fashion fad. I am obviously naive due to age in that respect.
I can say, that pretty much ALL examples of people doing ostentatious things as part of a fad, tend to be assumed by those around them to be into everything that goes along with the "signal" they put forward.
When I was young, any guy who let his hair grow long was ASSUMED to be left wing, anti-government, into drugs, and anti-capitalism. Any woman who wore short skirts was assumed to be a hedonist, open to commitment-free sex with anyone.
In years before that, there were times when any woman who wore make up just to go to the store, was a hooker.
There WILL be people who will make assumptions about you for anything you do. The more off-of-average you make yourself appear, the more assumptions people will make. That doesn't mean you should try to "blend in with the majority," it just means that if you DO decide to stick out, you must accept that SOME folks will misunderstand. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2011 5:22:50 AM | Don't worry about what guys think, because if they think the wrong things, they aren't for you. It is like your other post about prostate massage, that will turn some guys off, but it will really turn some guys on. There are plenty of guys out there who would love a girl like you, and you would make them very very happy. Who cares if some think the wrong things, they aren't lucky enough to get with you. The guy who is lucky enough will be very VERY happy!
I am glad that you are sexually daring, it sounds like you are a great lover. When you find the right guy he will be very pleased. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2011 6:33:59 AM | Usually, my first thought of someone with a tongue ring is, "She could probably suck the chrome off a muffler"...
But I'm always willing to give the benefit of doubt.
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Posted: 8/10/2011 6:59:32 AM |
My concern: Do guys judge girls or think of them as "slutty" if they have a tongue ring?
Sure, a lot of guys will. Some guys won't...
Most of the time though they won't say anything because they figure they can score a BJ from her...
I have a few friends who have told me that men will likely write me off as easy just because of it.
While your friends are probably right, there are many men who will not write you off as a easy... Many men want a girl who is easy... It saves them a lot of work like getting to know you and all that stuff that gets in the way of quick sex... and a BJ...
In all honesty, seeing a tongue piercing of any kind, most guys figure she got it for giving head... And most guys really don't want to think of all the other guys she gave head too either...
I am a professional, and I do use a clear bar when I am at work
In a business or profesional setting, it's hard to take anyone seriously when you can see the piercing as she talks...
If you think we can't see a clear bar flashing and reflecting the light as you speak then you really should know better. We see them... We just don't say anything or let on that we've seen... but we are thinking about it and what it's for.... LOL | |
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Posted: 8/10/2011 8:02:33 AM |
Do guys judge girls or think of them as "slutty" if they have a tongue ring?
I do.
I don't think they are slutty though.
I just don't think they are all that smart, or have poor judgment. Prone to following fads and what other people tell them they should do. Or simply attempting to project an image of who they want other people to think they are and they really aren't.
I once attended a "swingers" party. I sat on the couch and watched what people were doing. I saw one guy walking around that had like a 4 inch sleeve thing on his penis to increase its size (it was colored to match a black man and he was white).
He adopted it and kept it on for sexual reasons.
I personally see keeping a tongue ring for sexual purposes no different than that guy.
So it's just my automatic association.
Depending on the context.
I either automatically think about the short, bald, fat creepy old guy walking around with a fake penis chasing every single female (or almost female) as soon as they walk into a place...or a teenager that hasn't grown up yet and believes someone like Snooki (or insert MTV reality show star here) is "da bawmb" and wants to be like her.
So any immediate attraction or ability to take them serious tends to fly out the window and I just pass them by or write them off. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2011 8:05:58 AM | | I've dated girls with them and without them. I've never really been that big on receiving oral so they didn't do anything in particular for me. I wouldn't judge someone just because they have a tongue ring that is ludicrous. Just one of those stereotypes that have survived through the ignorant passing on of misinformation. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2011 8:53:50 AM |
The more off-of-average you make yourself appear, the more assumptions people will make. That doesn't mean you should try to "blend in with the majority," it just means that if you DO decide to stick out, you must accept that SOME folks will misunderstand.
having a tongue ring in her age group is NOT really "off-average" or "out there"
I see hundreds of them on people around here and it's NOT a large city. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2011 10:08:13 AM | | What's strange is that you rarely see them on extremely attractive women. They seem to be used most often by women who need to advertise their willingness to go the extra mile to get a man's attention, by implying sexual promiscuity as bait. This doesn't mean that the wearer is actually promiscuous, or even particularly skilled. Just that that person wants what they think may be an "In" or a means to generate interest. Even if that interest isn't the type they really want. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2011 10:16:32 AM | | ^^ somewhat the same for tattoos, at least 'lots' of them, and/or large, visible, prominent ones; I guess the less- attractive people feel the need to use SOMETHING to get more attention? | |
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Posted: 8/10/2011 11:01:10 AM | Wow. I'm rather amazed at the amount of judgments surrounding a simple tongue piercing. It's something I've considered and may do at some point, and I'm pretty sure I'd appreciate it if it put off those people who showed that much judgment around a simply piercing. Sometimes, one narrows one's dating pool in a really positive way, and judging from these responses, this seems to be one of those cases.
I say take it out. It can be somewhat degrading for a women,even if she dont realize it. Having one doesnt make a person any better sexually than not having one. I'll also say there comes a point in a persons life where they're to hold to have one,and you've about reached that point.
Really? I consider it far more degrading for other people to assume they have the right to make decisions for me about what's considered "degrading" (seriously? How is a piercing someone enjoys "degrading"?), or telling me I'm too old for whatever adornment I may have chosen for myself. Smacks of paternalism to me. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2011 1:06:04 PM | It all depends how a person carries themselves,I dont think a person is "slutty" if they have a tongue ring. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2011 1:09:55 PM |
and I'm pretty sure I'd appreciate it if it put off those people who showed that much judgment around a simply piercing.
You, are equally as judgmental by declaring others to be judgemental too...
Why can't you simply accept them as aother people's opinions...? That would be non-judgemental wouldn't it?
It's like everything else, some people like it, some don't and some people form opinions.. Generally, those opinions are based on what we have previously encountered in our lives...
I say take it out. It can be somewhat degrading for a women,even if she dont realize it.
Really? I consider it far more degrading for other people to assume they have the right to make decisions for me about
That's partly what the quote was about "even if she don't realize it"... You may not see it that way... Maybe in your area it's not seen that way so you have no reference point... but in some areas and to some people it would be considered a bit degrading... Just because you don't think that way doesn't mean no one else does... or that your opinion or the other person's opinion is right or wrong... | |
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Posted: 8/10/2011 1:20:01 PM | I don't think a woman is slutty for having her tongue pierced. I like them and some other piercings. I don't care for facial piercings though.
@ Riderboxer I didn't know tongue piercings had an old age limit on them. If 25 is too old I guess I am way late on getting rid of mine. I better go take mine out.  | |
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Posted: 8/10/2011 3:42:09 PM | It depends on how you conduct yourself. How quickly you jump in the sack, ect. You will have to date with extra caution and dignity.
However, be forewarned there are a ton of books for men on dating they tell them, that if they want an easy girl, pick a risk taker. Risk takers are girls with tattoos, who smoke, who get drunk, who have piercings, who dress provocatively etc.
Not saying it is how it should be, but that is reality. These books wouldn't suggest it if it didn't work out. And I personally know men who use these factors to pick women to take home easily, and they do so successfully.
And as I have said multiple times, if men think you are easy, they will not want you as a long term partner. They will fear you cheating on them. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2011 3:50:43 PM | ^^^
Chris Rock's parody rap "No Sex in the Champagne Room" had the memorable lines:
"if a girl has a pierced tongue , she'll probably suck your d1ck...(oh yeah!) "
"if a guy has a pierced tongue , he'll probably suck your d1ck... (don't want that, no...)"
although it was recorded in the late 90's I think so times may have changed by now.. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2011 8:39:23 PM | I wouldn't be interested in a woman with a tongue ring for many reasons...all of them valid to ME! | |
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Posted: 8/11/2011 12:15:33 AM | | I dont think any piercings are slutty. In the work place I believe clear retainers are more appropriate. Im pushing 47 and I have a piercing although not in my tongue. I dont see any age limit on such things. | |
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Posted: 8/11/2011 5:37:44 AM | M-church, this does NOT work, from a logic standpoint:
and I'm pretty sure I'd appreciate it if it put off those people who showed that much judgment around a simply piercing.
You, are equally as judgmental by declaring others to be judgemental too...
Why can't you simply accept them as aother people's opinions...? That would be non-judgemental wouldn't it?
You can NOT use "it's being judgmental to say someone is judgmental" as a valid argument. Some peoples opinions ARE judgmental, some are not. Someone who says "I don't like piercings" is expressing their views, but someone who says "women with piercings are all sluts" is being judgmental. Pointing out that they ARE being judgmental is an OBSERVATION OF AN INDEPENDENTLY VERIFIABLE FACT. | |
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Posted: 8/11/2011 10:40:39 AM | | when i see a girl that has a tongue ring I already know what she likes to do. it doesn't leave any room for imagination. not to say she's slutty, that all depends on how she carries herself. if she is sitting there playing with all the time then yes maybe i would think that, whether it's right or wrong. | |
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Posted: 8/11/2011 11:02:46 AM | I find it amusing that people put so much stock in silly things like this... making judgements on people based on things like piercings will really just hurt yourself at the end of the day. So many relationship issues come from projecting out thoughts on someone else based on past experiences or just outdated stereotypes, put that jr high stuff away and get to know people for who they are.
I used to have my tongue pierced in college and was also just for the look at the time, it can be fun for guys to use on woman as well. Anyways I got a job out of college while wearing it in the interview and kept it for a few months but eventually gave it up for a more clean cut professional image. In the corporate world I am willing to accept that people are extremely judgmental and take image way to far, but in the dating world I got no time for that.
To that end it might not be a bad thing as anyone who judges you negatively based on the piercing you might not want to be with anyways... good luck | |
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Posted: 8/11/2011 11:36:21 AM | I have a tounge ring,had it done in 96 for show perposes like yourself,but i dont want to get rid of it as it feels part of my mouth,then discoverd other uses like sexual ones.
what i find slutty is when,they half show it(tougue slightly stuck out.
keep it to yourself,but mention it soon, i love them, but not when people think they are the first to have it done and cant keep tougue in mouth or sliding it along lips. Its youe personal choice. **** em ! if they dont like it. you got it. cool. xxxx | |
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