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 humbergirl25
Joined: 7/26/2011
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I was having a debate with my guy friends yesterday, and I was hoping to get some more feedback (these guys were so stubborn) lol

So, my friend told me he was dating a girl, and when they slept together her blowjobs were "too good," meaning she must be a slut and have lots of practice.

I said, "how do you know she didn't learn all her tricks from her past long term relationships?" There, she would have obviously gotten experience too, no?

I ask you: If a girl gives really good bj's, do you assume she's had "too much practice"?

 bilby886
Joined: 7/19/2007
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Posted: 8/11/2011 6:25:08 AM
what I suggest to do......

go to Thailand get a few massages with a happy ending [they do women too]

then wait a few days and ask your BF or hubby to give you a happy ending and compare.
 MisterEO
Joined: 7/26/2011
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Posted: 8/11/2011 6:31:55 AM
I think a girl can definately get better by practicing on one guy. and watching porn
 BigSpoon80
Joined: 7/1/2011
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Posted: 8/11/2011 6:32:22 AM
A girl's past is just that her past. Maybe she was a "slut" maybe she wasn't. If your friend is going to focus on the past relationships of all his future lovers he is going to be in for a lifetime of worry unless he finds and marries a virgin. I don't see why people focus on reading into stuff like that. Sure it could point out a pattern in the person's life that could cause issue later on in the relationship but if you're going to start out not trusting the person you're with or judging their life before you the relationship probably wont work out anyways.
 jollybull
Joined: 8/6/2009
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Posted: 8/11/2011 6:35:56 AM
The worst I ever had was great . Conclusion there are no bad bj's some are better than others
 HotkittySeeker
Joined: 7/22/2011
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Posted: 8/11/2011 6:37:02 AM
Now this is a great subject. Being mature I want to hear from the ladies the truth about blow jobs. When i was young the ladies did not proclaim their prowess in giving head. I did run across a few gals that told me they liked giving me head. I thought it was because I never went off in their mouth(It takes me a long time to get off). now I am hearing that about 7 out of 10 women enjoy giving head. In fact I hear some wives give it to other guys so their hubbies don't think they are sluts. So ladies what is the true story of the woman's oral desire?
 Lint Spotter
Joined: 8/27/2009
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Posted: 8/11/2011 6:53:16 AM

So ladies what is the true story of the woman's oral desire?
With a man that I love and wish to please, it's a very heady feeling to be in such control and to bring him pleasure...

In a new or casual relationship... nope... I actually find it distasteful in those situations.
 sfre34
Joined: 9/12/2009
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Posted: 8/11/2011 6:55:06 AM
If a woman gives good head....I dont really care how or when she learned to polish a knob.....as long as she is polishing mine.
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 8/11/2011 6:57:32 AM


I ask you: If a girl gives really good bj's, do you assume she's had "too much practice"?


No, absolutely not. Assumptions usually do nothing but get you in trouble. The best I ever had was from a woman who had previously been with only one man, her late husband.
 facepainter
Joined: 2/22/2008
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Posted: 8/11/2011 7:01:24 AM
As is the case with most everything else, it all comes down to the effort put into it. If a woman truly enjoys the act itself, perhaps even gets off on it, then its going to be great. If they simply do it as a form of foreplay and somewhat just to pacify thier man...then its not going to be so good. You can have "sluts" that give terrible head and likewise women with little expierence give great head. Again its all about the effort.
 *Cowboy*
Joined: 4/28/2006
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Posted: 8/11/2011 7:08:52 AM
Good grief I could explain to any woman how to give great blow jobs in 3 minutes. If they followed directions they could learn how to be great in one evening. had tons of BJ's. Three women were like giant leaps ahead of the others and the reason was simple and consistant.

Not all women will want to do it this way but the ones that do will be worshiped forever by men all their life as gods of BJ's. And it didn't take tons of practice on different men. ONE evening and listening and being willing to follow directions and they are done with training.

Out of those three BJ "gods" I asked all three how they learned and one was friggin barely nineteen and she looked surprised and just said that was how she always had done it and assumed everyone did it that way. (we men could only WISH that was true) All the others said one man had taught them by giving specific instructions on the key part and they just enhanced it over the years with partners special requests to enhance their repertoire. But no giving a bunch of guys blowjobs does not make you great at blowjobs. She might of given a 1000 average blowjobs. But a gal could spend ONE night with the right guy and be an expert. Experience with multiple partners is not the key.

Cowboy
 Revilors
Joined: 10/9/2008
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Posted: 8/11/2011 7:11:27 AM

So, my friend told me he was dating a girl, and when they slept together her blowjobs were "too good," meaning she must be a slut and have lots of practice.


Yeah...and if she gives a good sexy lap dance...she is a whore. All the while thinking "this is really awesome". This is for your friend...because I know you are going to have him read this thread.

DUDE...YOU ARE A HYPOCRITE!

Do you want a virgin that is really good in bed too?

My longest relationship was 24 years. We both learned very much over that time about each other. Because we were both interesting in learning. About giving pleasure and what brings it to each other. Along with the plethora of information you can research on your own. If she gives good BJ's...it's because she wants to and learned how to. From practice, research and/or through communication with her partner(s).

It was also posted here...what difference does it make how she learned, how much practice or how many guys she practiced with. The only magic answer is ONE. The question being...how many guys is she doing it with now?
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
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Posted: 8/11/2011 7:47:35 AM
I ask you: If a girl gives really good bj's, do you assume she's had "too much practice"?

No. How good a woman is in bed has little to do with experience. It's all in how innately sensual she is and that can't be learned.

I said, "how do you know she didn't learn all her tricks from her past long term relationships?"

Because there are no such ``tricks.''
 ratso123
Joined: 7/29/2011
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Posted: 8/11/2011 7:57:58 AM
ok chaps, dont 4get to give him a good wash,
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
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Posted: 8/11/2011 8:03:01 AM
I very much dislike the gender labelling of woman+many partners=slut while man+many partners=stud. That sh*t has got to stop.

So no. I don't believe that a woman that gives a good blowjob has had too much practice. She's just honed her skill.

Cowboy.. my only issue with what you said was you should have used GODDESSES instead of gods.

I personally think it's an instant turn off for someone to brag about their prowess in the sense of "I give great head" because usually it's not true. I'm confident in my abilities, have only had one man who didn't enjoy the technique I usually use.. he prefered a much softer touch. I tell my partner all the time "I'm cute and I give good head" and we laugh about it because it's true, while said in a joking manner. It's not my leading sales pitch with someone new.

Turning this around slightly, I've had a number of men tell me they are great at giving oral and have told me they made their partners orgasm so many times and yet when they've had the chance to perform on me it's been less than stellar and they are left confused so to why, making me feel defective in the process.

Gentlemen, let me fill you in on a little secret here.. I am not your previous partner and what worked on her may not work on me. I'm not defective. I'm different.

Same applies to women giving head. Find out what works for THAT man, and do it. Also.. good head includes enthusiasm and a willingness to tweak things until it clicks for both of you.
 ForRumOnly
Joined: 3/16/2009
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Posted: 8/11/2011 8:38:55 AM
You simply can't know without asking. Some women are innately good because they pay close attention to the response they're getting, as not everyone likes the same things. Some have read a good book or web site about technique and apply it. However, without enthusiasm and a desire to please, they aren't likely to be good.
 avalon_moon
Joined: 4/2/2011
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Posted: 8/11/2011 9:32:06 AM
No 1 bby.....couldn't have said it better myself.
 Janet_Always
Joined: 12/7/2010
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Posted: 8/11/2011 10:04:26 AM
Every couple is going to have a unique experience because of their combined personalities.

You don't do everything exactly the same as you did the relationship(s) before... different people inspire you in different ways -- it's not the same, ever.
 totalazzhole
Joined: 3/27/2011
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Posted: 8/11/2011 10:05:50 AM

So, my friend told me he was dating a girl, and when they slept together her blowjobs were "too good," meaning she must be a slut and have lots of practice.


hmm, the MYTHICAL "girl who gives great head"..?

has your friend also seen a unicorn in the wild?

a jackalope?

holds the REAL authentic deed to the Brooklyn Bridge?

or?
 Blu_Angie
Joined: 11/7/2010
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Posted: 8/11/2011 11:23:32 AM
I don't think it means she has been a slutty and has had lots of partners.

She could really get into it and want to please the guy.
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
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Posted: 8/11/2011 11:56:01 AM

hmm, the MYTHICAL "girl who gives great head"..?
has your friend also seen a unicorn in the wild?


Well, not actually in the 'Wild", but in my bedroom (and LR and kitchen, lol). lol And she was kinda wild.*


She could really get into it and want to please the guy.


And THAT makes all the difference! Some might quibble about whether she's into her partner, or the act, but while it's happenin', only a damned few of us can discern the difference.








*In some communities, a "unicorn" is a human, not a horse, but she does have a horn of sorts.
 ffffisherman
Joined: 12/10/2010
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Posted: 8/11/2011 12:40:34 PM
Now then, who cares , she gives goiod head , right if she is clean disease free , he should be grateful , some blokes don't even get a bj ! Never mind a good one , in 12 years if marriage my wife never once gave me a blowjob , so do I really need to say more :)
 Natgoat
Joined: 3/24/2011
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Posted: 8/11/2011 1:24:53 PM
I assume very little....other than she's good at it...
And being good at it usually means that she _Enjoys_ it..!!
Which will certainly be repaid in kind..!!
 m_church
Joined: 11/8/2007
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Posted: 8/11/2011 1:48:07 PM

I ask you: If a girl gives really good bj's, do you assume she's had "too much practice"?

First, you have to define "good"
For some guys slow and sensual could be good, for other guys, machine fast could be
what they think is good...
If the technique being used doesn't suit the guy, it's not going to be good... no matter how many other guys she's done it with or how many times...
I've been with women who have been with lot's of guys who were not all that great in bed (at least to me)
I've been with women with little or no experience who were great in bed...
It's all down to preferences and a lot too, her enthusiasm...
Basically it all comes down to that if what she's doing doesn't work for the guy, the sex is going to be lousy unless he shows her what he wants and she is able to do that...
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 8/11/2011 1:49:27 PM
Quantity does not equate to quality........

and quality does not equate to quantity.

Giving good oral sex is not gender specific......nor does it have anything to do with past partners.....
but it does have everything to do with paying attention to what your partner likes and dislikes....and honing in on those things he/she does like.

Every man and woman is different in what triggers their switch........
some men like it soft......some like it hard and aggressive.....some like teeth.....some don't......some like their balls played with.......some don't.......hell, one guy like to be bit.....doesn't mean the next guy does!
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