| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/21/2005 9:57:52 AM | Here's a few rules to the field of play. I didn't create this thread to weed out who date outside of their race for the sole purpose of conversatoin. I'd like to hear from all of you (men and women).
Here's why I bring up the topic. I used to date soley African American women but later decided to step abroad and beyond. Oh yeah it was worth it.  I discovered there really was no difference because each still had the drawbacks of just being a woman ("I want it like this and I'll do it like that" attitude.) Now, LADIES, don't yell at me yet.  I don't mean anything bad by it because I know we as guys feel controlling at times and we use the "You're mine and this is how I want it" attitude. Now, GENTLEMEN, don't you yell either  You know for yourself its our nature sometime. NOTE: I did say SOMETIME! We each (men and women) have that nature at different times.
Now, back to the subject; when I did date outside of my race, I was ridiculed and called everything but a child of God. If I date a white woman, I'm a sell out. A Latino, I'm more so welcomed. An Asian, awww hell naww.. I just committed murder. But if I stay with my own,  Yeah, I'm cool and the best guy/friend in the world. I even lost whom I thought was my friends and found even better ones who accepted me for me and what I like. As long as a woman knows how to stand by me and even behind me to give me that push that I and all of us men, sometime need to get ahead and back on track, I'm all for it.
I don't see race. Love to me is love and as long as my heart can see clear to yours, why does it matter ladies? Are we as americans or whomever afraid of what our families/friends will accept (society)? I have a beautiful daughter and son. I don't care who they date when they get of age as long as he/she as a man/woman can bring the necessary needs to the table to be a husband/father/wife/mother to my daughter/son and/or child/ren. Its about principle to me by first instilling God and allowing him to carry them.
Would you allow your children to date outside their race? Why or Why not? Would you do it or have you or would you do it? Why or Why not?
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/21/2005 10:17:11 AM | | I've only had one relationship in my life with a Hispanic woman, and that was largely because she's the only one I've gotten to know ever since I went to private school that never uttered the phrase "you act white". Perhaps my interests fall more in line with what white people would do with their free time, but I don't see how that matters. Ultimately, love should be blind, and that's the way I approach life. I've dated women of different races, religions, socioeconomic backgrounds and at the end of the day, they were all basically the same. If people find it odd that I might date someone who doesn't look like me, I only hope that someday they will get over themselves because as long as I'm happy, I'll date whoever I want. I think people who only date one race are more than entitled to do so, but they're also limiting themselves from possibly finding true happiness. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/21/2005 10:24:36 AM | | I love black men...they make me feel more protected and really kno how to treat a woman....black and white babies are the most beautiful little things God could have made...and if God didnt want us to all be together he would have said so...we are all people and should all be treated like so.... | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/21/2005 1:46:48 PM | Ok, i'm going to be honest here. Growing up i was raised to "not cross the line" be friends nothing more. My dad's best friend was a black man and my best friend all thru school was a black girl. We weren't raised to look down on anyone. I can remember saying i would never cross that line. As the saying goes, never say never.
I fell in love with a black man; he was my best friend and eventually he proposed. I was the happiest woman ever. Until; OMG, i'm going to have to tell my dad. Needless to say i was scared to death. For this reason and a couple other our relationship ended. I have regretted it ever since. He is the love of my life.
Any way, I learned a very valuable lesson. I learned that I am a grown woman and I have to live my life for me and my happiness not everyone else. Not even my father. After losing him i took about a year to find "me". I found myself and love again. Yes, with another black man. I fell head over heels for him. We spent 3 years (mostly good ones :) ) together. We brought a beautiful little girl into this world. I don't regret it a bit. Yes, i was the first person in the history of my family to have a mixed child, but they love her just as much as i do. It took my dad about 3 months after her birth to come around, but now if you were to tell him she didn't hang the moon and stars you would have to fight him. Although her father and I are no longer together we remain friends.
The point of my story is, you can't help who you fall in love with. Love has no color, but you also have to be willing to take the heat because you will find yourself on the burner. I'm not saying all women are like this because they aren't, but i've had black and white women talk awful things about me. I've heard "You don't look like the type to date a black man", "You need to stick to your own kind", "What is your hair silkier than mine", "White trash", "Nobody's going to love your baby, the blacks will not want her because she isn't black and the white people will not want her because she's not white", "Ain't nobody going to love her". These are just a few. My response to them; I didn't set out one day to fall in love with a black man, but i did, it doesn't matter who else loves my baby; I DO, and what exactly is it i'm suppose to look like.
I do think it takes a strong man and woman to be in any kind of interacial relationship. Although the world is changing slowly there is still ignorance out there. I will be happy for both of my daughters when they fall in love; no matter what race they are. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/21/2005 3:14:46 PM | | wonderfull,i really luv this man and i know that he has no ill feelings about sistas dating white men,UH OHHHHH did isay something! that the bigest trend in america now is a white man seeking out sistas everywhere! you better believe it,sistas are very hot you guys and especially when you want to give them deep oral,they do not hold back on their charms and feelings.do it. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/22/2005 8:38:11 AM | | This is in regards to terlins post. I don't think it really matters what race you are, there is a time and place for everything. How does the song go......... Lady in the street and a freak in the bed, yeah, that's it. Everyone has a little freak inside them. I think if you are comfortable with the person you are with you will try anything once. Then there is always the saying, no; i'm going to be nice and leave that one alone. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/22/2005 9:16:09 AM | | wow this is a great topic . well at one time in my life i date white men to please my family ..then i met the most beatiful blk man fell in love with him. he treated me the way a lady should be treated i choose to date him no matter how my family felt about i was with him for 2 years. my family grown to like him and then we fell apart due to distance . i feel that dating interacial is normal u should not discrimanate because of someones race or color on who they should date or fall in love with because the way they look . we all were brought in to the same world and if i were to cut a blk man anf a blk man were to cut me we both willl bleed red we are no diff because of color the world and people are the only ones who make us diff because of the way people are brought up ... i m sorry but i think a blk man and woman have the most beautiful lips and eyes and when a blk man wear a white shirt it brings out there beauty so much more my weekeness is for brothas and i would not stop dating brotha no matter what anyone says. i have been told so many racial things in my life because i live in a town where there are very few color men. but if i can walk proudly with my man and he can walk proudly beside me and brush aside the racial slurrs then that makes us strong ok im babbling now lol | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/22/2005 11:25:01 AM | | Honestly all ive ever done thus far has been interacial dating. Not to say that as a bad thing at all but I dunno white girls don't seem to like me much for whatever reason I get along with the sistas better lol. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/22/2005 12:03:52 PM | I was engaged to an black man. he was my first love, and ill never forget him. He was from down in the states and he was always worried what my family would do or say. Nothing ever happened, everyone liked him, and they were happy for us.
We had some professional pictures done of the two of us, and we started giving them out to friends and family. His dad would not take one, he wouldnt have a picture in his house of a white girl.
My ex was so mad at his dad, and i was kinda shocked and mad myself. In all of our talks of what people might say or be like towards us. not once did we think that someone in his family would have a problem with us, or me really.
anyway we only lasted 2 years, we were in contact for a short while after our break up. than we lost contact, moving around and what not. he is the one person from my past i would love to see again, its been almost about 14 years since i have seen him.
i tried tracking him down recently, and the only phone number and address i can find on the net is his dad's place, lol. well i am too afraid to call, especially since i know he didnt like me. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/22/2005 12:14:56 PM | color doesn't equal character.
i love every color and every cool kick ass person with a good head on his/her shoulders.
people rock/ colors rock | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/22/2005 12:26:16 PM | How do I feel about interacial dating?
Think I answered this once before. But, I'm fine with people dating aliens. If people truly wanted to date another 'race', aside from humans. I guess it would all just depend on if the alien sexs are compatible with ours. You can't put a mouse plug into a USB port on your PC for instance.
They may not even have a concept of male and female. They might even be a-sexual or have no sex at all!
Aliens might still make good companions though. I bet thier flying saucers will sure as hell outrun any of our hot rods. Might piss off a lot of people at the drive in though. The whirring noise and the gigantic silver ship refracting light all over the damn place.
Tenticles are ok, you can use them for various things. I'd be leery of any unknown discharge they have though, thats just disgusting. Then again, some might enjoy it.....
There are some strange people on this planet. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/22/2005 12:30:21 PM | | I myself have dated "outside my race". As for my children I don't care who they date as long as they are happy and will be treated right. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/22/2005 1:08:41 PM |
color doesn't equal character.
i love every color and every cool kick ass person with a good head on his/her shoulders.
people rock/ colors rock
My mother (who never says a bad thing about anybody) once told me, "Trash comes in all colors." And Blusey is so correct! Color definitely does NOT equal character.
There's good and bad in every person, every color, every race, every ethnicity. If I find my self attracted to someone, who cares where they're from? However, the initial attraction has to be there, just as in all cases. | |
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| How do you feel about interracial dating?
Posted: 7/22/2005 1:32:22 PM | I have been with many different races of woman in my youth and they all seemed the same except one Jamaican girl seemed overly bossy but I think that was temperament not race related. If you see no color and look at the person I believe you'll see we are all alike two eyes, two arms well you get the picture.
One thing that I have noticed in groups of our own race brethren we tend to act differently then we would without that influence, whats up with that? Or the cultural differences that happen like what we believe or eat which is good especially the eating part. Other than that I challenge anyone to show me a real difference between people no matter the race.
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/22/2005 2:57:39 PM | | I appreciate women of all credes and colors. All women are unique in their own ways, no matter their race. Open the gates - interracial dating so just be referred to as dating. Black, white, tan, brown, etc is all good. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/22/2005 3:17:47 PM | | Race should never be an issue... If you attractive to me, respect me and treat me right I will have no problem dating you. If other peoples or family memers don't like it... Oh well they'll be aight. But you best belive I'ma be talk'n to then the whole time at the family cookout just piss them off LOL | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/22/2005 8:34:02 PM | | i feel it doesnt matter, people r good or bad everywere, jerks or not, no matter what race, color religion, i dated all men of all races n there were nice ones n jerky ones no difference just plain jerks, color doesnt matter only the heart & being nice. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/22/2005 9:00:20 PM | Hi this is firey spirit 66,
I think its great to do interracial dating, i highly recommend it. I prefer native american men with long hair and thats how i am. I have dated hispanic men, and i have some close friends that are black, ive never dated italian men or others but it wouldnt bother me to do so. My family has never agreed with me about dating outside of my race. I have cherokee and scottish in me but that doesnt mean it makes who i am. People that look down on interracial dating to me have narrow minds as much as with other issues. This is my opinion only.
My family forgets that i once had a black aunt who died back in the 70s of sickle cell anemia, i loved her just as much and was sad when she died. I couldnt understand her passing at the time and i seen what it did to my cousins who were half black half white and my cousins have always paid the price so to speak because of their heritage. Two of the girls were not my uncles only one but still he loved them as much as his daughters and is still very close to them. My other aunt is mexican and i only met her and my three cousins once in my life, the reason why i never met them until that time is because of my dad who does not believe in such things. Him and my uncle did not get along. I could say that my dad is racist. I hate to say that but its true. But just because he is that way does not mean im that way. I love my aunts and cousins just as much as if they were the same as me.
My dad always thinks i should get with some rich white guy and im sorry ok but thats just not my cup of tea. I have dated white guys before and it just never appealed to me. Its just the thing i have in my inner soul and i cant help but to be different.
I follow my native side more than anything, its who i am and i cant get away from it because ive tried. it calls to me when i close my eyes at night no matter where i go its there like a hunger that cannot be fed. So i say to anyone if you fall in love with someone then go for it regardless of who they are. If they are your soulmate and you recognize it for that then dont let anything stand in your way of who you are and what you want to be. Many of us out here feel displaced and what i mean by that is we feel we should have been born different then maybe we would not feel so lost. Or that we should have been born in a different body and time. I know i feel that way all the time. I certainly dont feel white, to me thats like saying ok im just vanilla but thats not true. My family comes from a mixture of races so how can that define if im truly one just white person? i think not.
A lot of interracial couples get beat down and put out by stereo types. I know there was one cousin in my family who was white and she lived with a black guy and she lost custody of her son because of it. The judge really had no reason to take her son away but my cousin lost everything because of it and her and the black guy stop seeing each other because she got so much static from her family about it. I told her that i didnt care who she got with and i told her that one day her ex will get whats coming to him because what goes around comes around.
I stand to lose what i have should i choose to get with a native guy but if i found my soulmate i would give anything to be with him. i realize the choices i make might affect everything else but when you are in love you cant let anything stop you from being happy. If you find that you are having a hard time with your relationship i recommend living somewhere its more acceptable instead of trying to always worry about getting hurt or put down by some members of society.
I know here in the state of georgia they frown down on such relationships here in our hometown, well you may as well be a highly visible marker saying look we are different from you because thats how the people are here in my hometown. i know i lost one native guy because of it. Narrow minds small hometowns. He moved away because he kept getting harrassed by the cops and it saddened me he left me but i couldnt go with him at the time. It made me mad and im always glad for the day when i can leave from here. I dont like it here. So whatever choices you make them for yourself and make yourself happy. Dont worry about the others they are going to have their opinions anyway...fireyspirit66 | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/22/2005 9:08:15 PM | | No problem with it whatsoever.It's extremely common where I am.People are people,like cars with different paint jobs,some are good for the long journey and some are just lemons,whatever colour they might be. | |
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