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How do u use the meet me app, is it something u click on a persons profile?? sounds like a daft question but i don't know!! (Hope this makes sense lol)
plus ppl have clicked they would want to meet me yet don't reply to messages which i don't understand lol xx
Thanks in advance x
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How do u use the meet me app, is it something u click on a persons profile?? sounds like a daft question but i don't know!! (Hope this makes sense lol)
Quick Facts and Known Issues (Unfortunately this is how the site wants it, regardless of all the issues or else they would have been addressed by now - possibly).
Please note that the Meet Me feature is not on a member's profile, but rather, on a separate page accessed via the Meet Me link in the POF menu bar at the top of any page in the Dating side of the site.
(Click on either link in the previous sentence to take you there directly)
- Why do people use this feature – here are some of the common answers:
- It saves time in having to actually write up an email, only to have it read/deleted, unread/deleted etc. A lot of emails are treated like such and a lot users get tired of writing email after email only to have it go nowhere. Hence by using this feature, if the recipient shows some interest in one way or another, then the sender of the Meet Me might actually write an email and know it will have some probability of a reply
- Some users are just plain lazy and are sending out hundreds of these Notification in hopes of someone taking the bait
- Some users are shy to make a solid first contact
- etc.
- By Clicking on YES or Maybe, the system will generate an automatic email to the recipient’s private email stating that you would like to meet them. It does not generate an email to their POF mail.
If you receive a Meet Me notification, you can act on it by sending them a POF email or adding them to your favourites or simply do nothing - there is no definitive "how to react" to an off-site email notification - it's up to you. The thought process here, is that the user who sent the notification may want some sort of indication as to interest by you (the recipient) before they send an email - or maybe they may expect an email from you if you're equally interested. There is no expected right way to react.
- Cicking NO does not generate any notifications to the user, it simply advances you to the next profile.
- It would be wise to click on the user’s main image on the Meet Me page first, so you can read the profile and then click back in your browser to take you back to the Meet Me page to make your decision.
- Unfortunately, the Meet Me does not take into account the contact restrictions of the person clicking YES or MAYBE to your profile, consequently it would be wise to know what your own contact restrictions are so that they can email you if you send them a Meet Me request.
- If you click Yes, it’s generally understood that you would like some communication to happen first from their end, (or else you would have simply emailed them first), so please ensure that your Mail Settings allow the user to contact you, unless you intend on contacting them first or add them to your favourites so that your mail restrictions are dropped just for that one person
It has been suggested that if you want to meet someone, mail restrictions should be automatically dropped by the system - it's only logical, in the same way as when you put someone on your favourites.
- Most users are not aware that clicking on Maybe will also generate an email, and if you email them in response to the generic email notification, they may not reply. They may have changed their mind or were simply clicking through the pictures unknowingly of the consequences that a notification is sent out.
We're not sure why it's been coded this way, but in any event there seem to be a lot of unanswered emails as a result of this and it's generating too many complaints with the rationale that the system is sending out notifications at random, yet it continues to be left as such. If you wish, you can voice your opinion on this issue in this thread or simply email csr@pof.com. Tell them that MAYBE does not mean YES in any language!
- You can't really skip a profile completely, as it will still be in the queue for you to decide on at some point. You can however, click on the Meet Me button again, in the row of links just above the large label:
Want to Meet Her? (Upgraded users show up first)
and possibly see a few new candidates. However, depending on how the list Meet Me candidates is built and sorted for you, new prospects might come ahead of the one you skipped for the time being. It's just a matter of timing before that selection shows up again (e.g. how long you wait before you use the feature again, how many new users sign up that are closer in distance to you, how many users start to show their picture publicly for the first time and pop into the list etc.).
- Opting Out of the Feature
You cannot opt out of receiving the generated email notifications to your private account even though they have supposedly been limited to 8/day.
If you are really dead set against receiving them, a work around to this issue would be to set up an email filter in your private off site email account whereby the emails can be directly sent to a folder of your choice, or even to your trash or deleted folder so that you won’t know you’re even receiving them. If you want to keep your other POF notifications, then the filter should scan on the subject line containing "wants to meet you".
How to Set Email Filters in your Off Site eMail Program.
- The only filtering of the prospects presented to you is by distance and age which can be set in your My Matches as advertsied in the official HELP (if it still exists), and even those setting, are then overridden by a system algorithm which slightly modifies them.
However, the distances of some users
are still well beyond the expected norms to travel for a date. It's not evident why the site would think that anyone would travel in excess of two hours for a first meet but that's how it's been coded. You would think that the small majority of users who entertain long distance Meets, could surely use the Advanced Search for longer distance dates rather than having the majority of users scroll through countless users that are too far away.
A workaround of sorts would be if you find that the prospects are too far away, bypass the feature for a while, as new users in your local area will sign up and then be presented first again.
The Meet Me lists cannot be reset, deleted or modified It only shows the last 50 users sorted by the time they were last online. Consequently, if you receive a lot of Meet Me requests you may not know who they all are until they sort to the top as they login to the site.
A suggestion would be to keep all the meet me requests in a separate email folder set up through the suggested email filter above.
Users on the list of people who want to meet you are presented in the order in which they indicated they wanted to meet you. Last person to want to meet you is first.
Users on your list of people you want to meet are presented by last login/activity.
It's been noted that some users reappear - this may be typically due to a lot of people deleting their account and then recreate it, consequently showing up again.
If you don't select one of the options and move off the page, they will of course re-appear at some point - anything else could be the Admin tinkering with the code causing a reappearance.
From time to time you may see the list of candidates run out - it simply means there are none that meet the pre-set criteria for your profile characteristics (whatever they may be as set out by the site) - Just check back every so often and as new users sign up, that meet the pre-set criteria for your profile, they will appear. This is a common ocurrence and nothing to worry about. You can try adjusting the age range on your My Matches page, by one year to see what the effects are as new users will come up immediately.
If you feel you have further questions not answered here or have issues with feature and its short-comings, feel free to comment here or email csr@pof.com.
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| How do u use the meet me app,
Posted: 9/12/2011 4:31:22 PM | I'm confused.
I've receive an email saying an account wants to meet me, but with no link to the that request. So how do I reply 'No thank you' ? I've clicked on 'Users that want to meet you', but the request is not there, just a link to the account that requested. Do I just ignore, that doesn't seem polite. Sending a message seems a bit much when they never sent a message, just clicked some option that they want to meet me. There seem too much weight on me to either ignore or explain myself. I'd rather they just sent me a message than cope out and use this feature! | |
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| How do u use the meet me app,
Posted: 9/12/2011 4:37:45 PM |
I'm confused.
I've receive an email saying an account wants to meet me, but with no link to the that request. So how do I reply 'No thank you' ? I've clicked on 'Users that want to meet you', but the request is not there, just a link to the account that requested. Do I just ignore, that doesn't seem polite. Sending a message seems a bit much when they never sent a message, just clicked some option that they want to meet me. There seem too much weight on me to either ignore or explain myself. I'd rather they just sent me a message than cope out and use this feature!
There is no need to email them.
This notification was based solely on someone viewing your main profile photo only and clicking either yes or maybe they might want to meet you and NOT as a result of someone viewing your profile and emailing you. Chances are high that even if you did email them, they wouldn't remember who you were.
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| How do u use the meet me app,
Posted: 9/15/2011 8:00:48 PM | I'm on an "Interface" border,
That means that I'm 10 -25 miles from a major city in another state.
"But", it takes over an hour to get there from here....
Why in God's name did you remove the "In My State" option instead of expanding it??
I am constantly getting "Meet Me" options from 60+ miles away and have even gotten them from over 250 miles away!!!
Really? There's a reason I come here less and less... | |
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| Moving to a new city
Posted: 9/16/2011 12:42:41 AM | I am moving from Denver Co. I am on site POF as Clarence Dodd.
What do I do to leave and be able to activate In Say Vancouver British Columbia.
How do I do this correctly so I can reset when I arrive New Home.
Steven at xxxxxxxxxxxxx | |
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| Moving to a new city
Posted: 9/16/2011 12:23:08 PM | No one will send you an email, you'll get your answer right here.
Change country: Click on "Edit Profile", scroll all the way to the bottom, update country, click "Update Registration".
Click on "Edit Profile", change postal code/city/province, click "Update Profile".
Easy peasy.
If you don't know the postal code, use the one for the post office closest to your area. | |
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| FAQ: How do you use the MEET ME feature
Posted: 9/20/2011 11:21:02 PM | | I really don't get this. I sent someone a message that picked me for this feature and than she blocks me? Doesn't make any sense. | |
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| FAQ: How do you use the MEET ME feature
Posted: 9/21/2011 6:44:25 AM | Hi All.
I'm very new to this site. I received an email saying a user wants to meet me. I went to her profie, which I liked!, and hit send message.
The following alert came up:
"You are not allowed to message 'username'. Return to your inbox"
How do I work around this? I seem to meet the caveat conditions listed below her profile and it is strange she would ask to meet me if I didn't measure up somehow.
Thanks, for your help! Cheers | |
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| FAQ: How do you use the MEET ME feature
Posted: 9/21/2011 8:20:56 AM | Please read message #2 of this discussion.
Of interest would be
5. Most users are not aware that clicking on Maybe will also generate an email, and if you email them in response to the generic email notification, they may not reply. They may have changed their mind or were simply clicking through the pictures unknowingly of the consequences that a notification is sent out.
Keep in mind, what she did was click on your photo saying maybe or yes that she she'd like to meet you. It is not the same thing as asking to meet you and in fact a lot of users don't even realize the consequences of selecting this when viewing photos.
That being said there is no quick way around this.
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| FAQ: How do you use the MEET ME feature
Posted: 9/21/2011 9:36:16 AM | Thank you miss allison.
I don't appear to have the Yes No Maybe options showing on the page listing the people who want to meet me. Is this becuase I havea free account and need to upgrade?
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| FAQ: How do you use the MEET ME feature
Posted: 9/21/2011 9:43:29 AM | P.S. She asked to meet me, so I doubt point 5. applies here ...
Furthermore:
When I look at a profile, I am not seeing the option of asking the user to meet me.
Let us all know please if this feature works properly when we pay for the service.
Thank you. | |
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| FAQ: How do you use the MEET ME feature
Posted: 9/21/2011 10:19:42 AM | Just to be clear, this is option to click yes/no/maybe to wanting to meet someone is NOT located profiles. It is located here and everyone can vote on pics (free or paid members):
www.pof.com/meetme.aspx
Just to be clear, a lot people that click yes/no/maybe do so solely based on looking at your photo NOT looking at your profile.
Also she did not ASK to meet you, she clicked on a button above your profile that said:
Want to Meet Him?
Yes/No/Maybe
Please read the entire #2 again.
That being said, I think the best thing you can do is go to this link and see for yourself what actions she really took.
www.pof.com/meetme.aspx
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| FAQ: How do you use the MEET ME feature
Posted: 9/21/2011 5:21:41 PM | Thanks, I underestand.
This is the message I received by email:
"username wants to meet you! Click below to view profile of username"
I construe this to mean the person asked to meet me. Allison, you seem to be telling me that POF could be misreprenting users intentions!?
You may wish to consider making this more clear. For instance the email message could include a statement like,
"username saw your primary photo on the Meet me feature (insert link to the meet me feature). Username clicked (insert Yes or Maybe) and as a result this email was generated. Please note that username may not yet have viewed your profile.
Cheers, | |
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| FAQ: How do you use the MEET ME feature
Posted: 9/21/2011 8:15:02 PM | First I'm merely a forum moderator. I'm not an admin that creates anything on this site. Changes such as you are suggesting are well outside my scope.
That being said, I don't think I would go as far to say that POF is misrepresenting any users intentions. I just think users aren't fully aware of what the consequences of their actions are - ie: clicking yes or maybe will generate an email saying "user wants to meet you". | |
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| FAQ: How do you use the MEET ME feature
Posted: 9/29/2011 11:39:55 AM | Thank you so much for the information. I was SO confused.
I had a long dry spell where I didn't hear from anyone on pof, and then all of a sudden, I got a string of "want to meet you" messages. On the basis of the message text, I think if it is not "misrepresentation", it is a pretty cheesy close second. It made me think there was some interest, when clearly there was not.
Sounds like people are playing the old Internet "hot or not" game. It's a shame, really, but now I know just to ignore these messages and not worry about hurting feelings.
The really unfortunate part is that it would be a truly GREAT feature if it was used more discriminately...if it was ON THE PROFILE...and if the person who clicked it had to add a line or two of text before sending.
pof has been fun sometimes...just the forum offerings alone are worth staying enrolled; but I never met anyone through the site, and have serious doubts that I ever will. I understand that I am not Angelina Jolie...but there are lots of guys on here who are not Brad Pitt, either. It's a great concept in theory, but either I'm doing something wrong, or it's the wrong venue for me. Still, it's free...so there are you are. Nothing to lose but time. | |
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| FAQ: How do you use the MEET ME feature
Posted: 9/30/2011 7:54:36 AM | miss_allison - thanks for being the moderator on the topic. A question I have yet to see is how does one move to the next profile without selecting yes/maybe/no?
I'm new to POF and understand the use of Meet Me from this thread, but, at this time, I'd like to look without the auto-generated email to the person. I think many receiving such would be as confused as myself when I saw my first one.
On second thought, does the Maybe not send the auto-generated email?  | |
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| You need to change Meet Me
Posted: 10/2/2011 6:35:29 AM | I know the site does not allow users to delete entries of users that have indicated they want to meet you. That seems silly and very un-user friendly.
From a user that has used this site for several months, there are a ton of people that may indicated they want to meet you, but you may not have any interest in. In situations where someone indicates they want to meet you, you navigate to meet me either online or on the mobile app, the user has to sort through a plethora of individuals that they have no interest in just to find the one they might be. 
Please consider modifying this policy and this site to accomodate your users. | |
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| You need to change Meet Me
Posted: 10/3/2011 1:18:45 PM | Hello
When a user used to click 'yes' to me on the meet me feature I used to get an automatic email informing me of this and then I could follow the link in the email to that users profile.
I upgraded to paying member yesterday evening. Subsequently I no longer get the notification email when someone has clicked 'yes' to me. This is quite frustrating as since upgrading Ive had a lot of users say yes and I now have to trawl through profiles of 'who wants to meet me' to try and spot new people!
Anybody get any ideas as to how I start getting those notification emails again?
Thanks | |
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| How do u use the meet me app,
Posted: 10/3/2011 9:33:07 PM | | I need help as well. Am I reading the FAQ correctly in that we have no way to opt out of this or not get the (somewhat rude) meet me message. It is extremely frustrating to receive all the emails from people who have not take nthe time to read your profile, and who in no way fit into any category that you are looking for-they just see a picture of you and send the MEET ME demand-like that is going to happen. Can we not cancel it or be removed or avoid it? | |
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| How do u use the meet me app,
Posted: 10/3/2011 9:48:30 PM | and I see that when I am on a rant I should slow down to proof read, and spell check so no need to point those out to me.
This feature is probably the most annoying one there is. I used to like most of POF but from what I can tell the Meet me feature needs to be renamed, redefined, there needs to be better instruction, and users should be able to completely understand what will happen.
Okay now I can sleep! | |
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| How do u use the meet me app,
Posted: 10/20/2011 1:25:00 PM | | I don't understand why the "Maybe" is there. Seems like a waste of two peoples time. Why not just "Yes" or "No"? If they're not sure, they can read the profile and click on the back button once they've made their decision. Then click on the appropriate answer. Or instead of a "Maybe" button, make it a "Skip" button and have the skipped person show up again later. | |
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| How do u use the meet me app,
Posted: 10/25/2011 3:15:14 PM | HATE this feature! Really, WHY send an email notification that "someone wants to meet you" when they've clicked "MAYBE"????? I have YET to have any success with this.
In the spirit of being constructive:
PLEASE, consider moving this "button" to the actual profile. Make it a simple YES/NO. Send the email when the YES is chosen. Otherwise, it serves no useful purpose. Or just delete it altogether.....because it serves no useful purpose. (<<<<<< | |
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