| | First Meet: Will I be seeing him again?Page 1 of 2 (1, 2) | I went on a date with this incredibly attractive guy and I think I messed it up. We went to the carnival for two hours, and then we got high for the rest of the night. The date lasted about 4 hours.
When I smoked weed I became very forgetful and silly, talked too much, repeating myself a lot. He was such a good listener though. I'm not sure if he was bored out of his mind.
He drove me home at the end and said "How would you have gotten home if the date didn't go well?" And I was like, "I don't know!"
And it took me forever to find my house at the end of the night, I was spacing out and not paying attention to the road and he was getting a bit annoyed.
He said we should 'do this again sometime' but it seemed ... I didn't feel like he was burning to see me again or anything.
Also, at the end, I made him an origami tulip. We were talking about origami and I made him one at the end of the date. I think it seemed like I was coming onto him but I really wasn't, I was just hyper..
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Posted: 8/28/2011 9:10:36 AM | UGH. Help
You said it......
Sounds like you both need help...If you'd both been on the weed....& the he drove you home???????
Maybe....you're made for each other... | |
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Posted: 8/28/2011 9:27:49 AM | Absolutely no way to predict the future.
You are young enough, that chances are he wasn't all that analytic about everything, especially if HE was as toasted as you were. In the early twenties and late teens, the primary deciding factor tends to be sexual attraction, and the potential to actually sample it directly.
But it depends on him. If he was hot for your bod before, and you didn't do something to switch that off, chances are he will show up again. But if he's already at the "serious" stage, and you proved that you were an irresponsible teenager, he might not.
Best thing to take away from this: you need to do more to figure out what YOU are all about, and set some limits for yourself. Getting bonged into the stratosphere on a first date should probably join getting plastered and throwing up on a first date in your "discard pile" of behaviors.
Lucky he wasn't a narc, eh? | |
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Posted: 8/28/2011 9:27:50 AM | | Well if he has no other options, you may hear from him again. If you know you act this way when you smoke weed, why would you do it with someone you are trying to leave a positive impression on? Fook you probably could have vomited on him and not made it any worse. | |
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Posted: 8/28/2011 9:28:44 AM | | If he was high too he probably wasn't too bored with your antics. Sounds like you guys may have overdone it if you had issues finding your house at the end. I would suggest not getting high on a first date so you stay in control of your thoughts and actions. You also said "he was getting a bit annoyed"...not a good sign but maybe you were just being paranoid? Have you heard from him since? | |
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Posted: 8/28/2011 9:31:06 AM | Oh shit ... I feel terrible, I really liked this guy. I just felt fat and silly the whole night. Ugh. We even bumped into one of my friends and I SAW him check her our.
whatever, moving on | |
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Posted: 8/28/2011 9:32:13 AM | Why don't you message/text/call him and ask? Elaborate concept, I know, but since you asked.....
Mention brownies a lot, that might help.
Good luck kiddo. | |
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Posted: 8/28/2011 10:18:39 AM | | How could you two even learn a bit about each other? Getting high together was just that. No good relationship could come of this. | |
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Posted: 8/28/2011 10:18:59 AM | I doubt you will see him again and you wouldn't have seen me anymore as soon as you started smoking weed. I would have put your stupid ass out on the side of the road.
JUST SAY NO ! | |
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Posted: 8/28/2011 10:23:54 AM | | Try getting off drugs before you continue to date. That is no way to live your life or find a partner. You are just asking for disappointment. | |
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Posted: 8/28/2011 10:25:08 AM | We are 22 and 24, he had the weed, it seemed casual. The weed aside, does it really seem totally hopeless? What a bummer.
I really want to hear from him again but I better move on. | |
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Posted: 8/28/2011 10:39:38 AM | | Did you even discuss "weed usage" before meeting him as you have no to drugs on your profile? The problem isnt the weed. The problem is you cant seem to handle your indulgences. To me, this would be the same if I went out and had drinks on a first meet and the guy couldnt handle his liquor and made an ass of himself. Seriously, if the tables were turned, would you want to see the other person again? | |
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Posted: 8/28/2011 11:04:56 AM | | Smoking weed and getting high on the first date and you let him drive you home while stoned? talking about immature did you ever see the documentary " Something wrong with Aunt Diane" | |
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Posted: 8/28/2011 11:16:47 AM | OP- you ""had me at origami tulip""
I might have proposed right there if you could have made yourself an origami engagement ring...
too cute...
You don't need this guy- you got me..and I love girls who make origami on a first date.
even if I'm the only man in the world who does...
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Posted: 8/28/2011 11:22:24 AM | you're making fun of me... it hurts....
i'm just a quirky girl, confused about myself and dating.. trying to connect but i'm shy.. i need a patient guy... who wants to figure me out... who cares enough about me to give me the time to blossom, etc
SO WHAT if we smoked weed, everyone smokes weed in canada, it's just not a big deal ... that can't be the deal breaker. everyone drives stoned! who cares! | |
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Posted: 8/28/2011 11:22:56 AM | Off the doobs if ya can't handle em. Simple concept,but one that some can't figure out. Some people can smoke it,some people can't. Just as, some people can sip, and others, well, they just get gooned.
Must have been some imported stuff from BC that ya had, cause I can't ever remember smoking anything in Ontario that made me all goofy and forgetfull,,,,especially where my own home was. How much is TOO much????? Maybe a question ya should ask yourself.
Edit: NOT everyone smokes and drives!!!!! I don't. So there's one. You couldn't remember where your house was!!!! Think about what would have happened if you were the one behind the wheel????? | |
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Posted: 8/28/2011 11:26:16 AM |
SO WHAT if we smoked weed, everyone smokes weed in canada, it's just not a big deal ... that can't be the deal breaker. everyone drives stoned! who cares! WRONG, I don't know about every one else, and I speak for my self I don't smoke the shit, and I don't want to be involved with someone that does, Ive dated a girlfriend that did it, supposedly occasionally but there was nothing occasionally about it.
Second, yeah it is a deal breaker for some of us, some of us doesn't need to smoke the shit to get through life or even the night, tell that to the cops that stops you next time if the driver is stoned, give that same excuse that every body does it, I will be curious on how he or she reacts.
Hey its your life and Im not here to tell you what to do or not to do, you're a adult now, but If I were you perhaps you should post that on your profile that you do use drugs ( occasionally) and you will see if its a big deal to some?
As in for your original question, the ball is in the other guys court, if he calls you back you have your answer if he doesn't then you know, or better you call him or text him and see if he responds back.
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Posted: 8/28/2011 11:56:13 AM | Divine:
The problem isnt her choice to inhale. The problem is that she cannot handle her drugs. I am willing to bet she in fact knew this but chose to indulge anyways. She has no one to blame but herself as she made her bed. As for your issue with alcohol not being a drug, Marcus is the one who chose to have two seperate distinctions for alcohol and drugs so save the rant. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2011 8:31:49 AM | | I don't think it is ever a good idea to do anything that changes your behaviour or impedes your judgement when you are meeting someone and trying to share with them your personality and intelligence. It's also a red flag for me if someone is encouraging you to overindulge in alcohol or smoke some weed, etc., as it's not hard to figure out their agenda for the evening. If you are yourself during the whole date there is no room for regrets at being an idiot later, not to mention the safety factor involved with being vulnerable with a perfect stranger. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2011 9:11:18 AM | I did feel that a lot of people smoked weed in Canada as well. I had to get rid of a couple of my room mates even after telling them cant live with smokers and i was thinking cigarettes.
But OP dont delude yourself into thinking everyone does it. Some of us like to live life without being inebriated or stupefied.
OP try to get yourself together if you dont want to be taken advantage off by total strangers. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2011 9:19:44 AM | OP...you're very young so I'm gonna lay it out for you like a mom...or maybe I'll be your cool aunt.
DO NOT DO ANYTHING THAT WILL IMPAIR YOUR JUDGEMENT ON A DATE WITH SOMEONE YOU DON'T KNOW
You're fortunate he appears to be a nice enough guy (other than driving stoned). This story could've ended a variety of other ways...none good. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2011 5:54:22 PM | I'd say if you haven't heard from him again by now, then you probably aren't going to. Guys like to nail down a second date pretty soon if they are into you. Just chalk it up to a lesson learned and realize that maybe it just wasn't meant to be.
I agree with the other posters as far as weed usage, even if he did supply it. Probably not the best idea to be unclear headed on a first date for not only safety reasons but also the fact that you want to be clear headed enough to make a good impression AND really be able to decide how YOU feel about him and how you feel being with him. It can be difficult enough deciding how you feel on a date without weed muddying that up.
Plus, Would you really want to be with a guy who was checking out your friend when he was with you? I know it was your first date, but when he's out WITH you, he should at least owe you his attention until the end of the date!lol! | |
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Posted: 8/29/2011 8:56:04 PM | I couldn't help but notice that all of the people who deem weed to be some sort of evil demonic substance that should banish the user from dating --- think drinking alcohol is just swell, as indicated by their profiles. I myself do not smoke weed, mostly because it does nothing for me, but have many friends who do and are also productive members of society. As someone who works in the addiction field, I can tell you that alcohol and nicotine leave cannabis in the dust when it comes to destroying lives. If I had to choose, I'd rather have a stoned person drive me home than a drunk person any day of the week.
In fact, as far as I can tell the only real objection here to smoking weed is its legal status, which is questionable at best. What is illegal here is perfectly legal in other parts of the world for largely cultural and completely arbitrary reasons. Few people seek treatment for an addiction to weed, unless it is court-ordered because they were charged with possession. I know this in part because my mother was a substance abuse counselor and I questioned her extensively about the sort of "substance" problem presented by her clients. I would venture to say that alcohol and nicotine are far more addictive, and alcohol causes far more cognitive impairment, not to mention brain and organ damage. But smoking weed is bad and drinking is okay, because Uncle Sam and the DEA say so.
Remember folks, laws are not always based on logic and hard scientific evidence but on historical precedence, false belief systems instilled by years of indoctrination and sensationalism in the press.
The war on drugs failed. Question everything. | |
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