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|I am having a hard time liking this Hello Sexy messages. I don't want to be rude but I just feel that a proper introduction is better than that. I don't reply back to them . Am I being rude? maybe I am still oldfashion. Does anybody feel the same?|
Posted: 9/7/2011 7:26:14 PM
|Don't reply back.|
Those messages are probably cut-n-paste anyways.
Save manners for someone you actually know.
Online it could backfire to reply "No thanks"
and then be cussed out in the next message.
Posted: 9/7/2011 7:28:08 PM
|No, you're not being rude. I hate the "hello sexy" messages. If a man can't take the time to compose an actual introduction, I wouldn't waste my time.|
Posted: 9/7/2011 7:34:08 PM
|I had another one yesterday that said can you come over? lol! What happened to manners ?|
Posted: 9/7/2011 7:55:16 PM
|I had one write "how is your fine ass doing tonite"?|
Another one said, "I think I died and went to Cougartown!" that actually made me laugh!
Posted: 9/7/2011 7:57:21 PM
|OP, if you don't like those types of messages, you can change your mail settings to only allow initial contact messages with 50+ characters or more, to get through.|
It won't screen out all the sexual innuendo, but will stop the short "Hey sexy", or "You're hot" messages.
Posted: 9/7/2011 8:03:09 PM
|cici7777 that made me laugh too! did you reply back to that? Halcyon_Skies|
good idea I will try that.
Posted: 9/7/2011 8:10:52 PM
|If you're letting that stand in the way of talking to someone who, from his profile, appears he might be interesting, you're being silly, especially given that your profile contains almost nothing that would be useful in thinking of anything else to say. You aren't being old fashioned. You're expecting someone to read your mind to figure out what piques your interest.|
Posted: 9/7/2011 8:12:02 PM
|How does one get to cougar town? Is there a bus that goes there? |
Posted: 9/7/2011 8:16:00 PM
|Well... I say post this in your profile : " if you send one ,two or three word messages I wont reply, any hi sexy, hey baby, or sexual innuendos, I'm not replying back FYI, and if you continue I will block your ass and have my Godfather hunt you down and staple your nuts to the Oak tree in the back"...................... okay kidding with the violence but just set your boundaries and if they cross it delete them, because you know they haven't read your profile and they are dumb asses|
Posted: 9/7/2011 8:46:33 PM
|The one and only message that I didn't even reply to was one word long. Couldn't it have been two words instead? "Hello Sexy" would have been SOOO much better. |
Hey OP, wanna trade?
Posted: 9/7/2011 8:53:30 PM
|I got a few of those exact ones today. They're all in the trash and the senders are blocked.|
You won't do well online if you don't stand up for yourself and do what's right for you.
Why is it rude to block someone with rude behavior?
It gets a lot worse than that. Much worse.
I have every restriction I can place on here without running off the decent men.
It's all about choice.
Posted: 9/7/2011 8:54:51 PM
|I absolutely DESPISE those kinds of so-called "greetings." I don't find them flattering or amusing, and they certainly don't "CaptivateMyMind," which is my moniker. Why on earth would anyone approach a person who uses that name as their moniker and basically has a novella as her profile, with an e-mail such as "hey babe r u a good kisser?" Yup. I got one of those. Ugh. I don't bother replying to lower life forms. I find those e-mails to be rude, insulting, and ignorant...and I'm being very nice when I use those particular words. |
Posted: 9/7/2011 9:23:06 PM
|I agree with most of you, if the guy is too lazy to type a real message, I imagine the communication will be lacking.|
This isn't such a terrible thing, but why are all the guys into the "outdoors". Am I missing something??
Posted: 9/7/2011 10:23:38 PM
|Well personally, I wait to answer to see if there is a second message that comes with that, because there usually is.|
I kind of like someone taking notice as long as they have more to say down the road.
Posted: 9/7/2011 10:35:25 PM
Well... I say post this in your profile : " if you send one ,two or three word messages I wont reply, any hi sexy, hey baby, or sexual innuendos, I'm not replying back FYI
OP, if you don't like those types of messages, you can change your mail settings to only allow initial contact messages with 50+ characters or more, to get through.
I disagree with these ideas. Be thankful that they show you who they are on the very first message. Far better that you get a 'Hi sexy' message that you can now ignore, than change your mail setting, have a guy try a hey, sexy' message, not get through then craft a finely wrought message but still be the same douche bag that wil write 'hi, sexy' but now you have to figure it out the hard way.
Is it annoying? yes. is the minor one message annoyance worth it versus spending time before you figure out what they are like? I would guess yes it is.
Look, let people show you who they are. Don't try to stop or guide them into being what you hope to find. Why give the 'players' the extra ammo?
Posted: 9/8/2011 2:59:39 AM
|OP: could it be that you may be inviting that with your profile pic? Maybe they think you're "that" type, because you're showing cleavage?|
I'm not saying that's wrong, but you gotta think that there are a LOT of bottom-feeders on this site that look at cleavage and start behaving like that. (Maybe they think you're "easy" because of it?) Unfortunately, there are still too many men in the world who think and behave that way...
Good luck to you...
Posted: 9/8/2011 3:36:13 AM
How does one get to cougar town? Is there a bus that goes there
huh ? you're 39 right ?
they are not called cougars to you at your age to you.
unless you are trying to date 50 year old women.
Posted: 9/8/2011 4:06:26 AM
I don't show any pics with my cleavage or body, but I get those type of messages too.
There really is nothing you can do. We live in a world of dumbasses. Sure you can put a mail filter on, but then you get "Hey sexy" with like 50 periods to bypass the filter. Wait until you get emails offering money for sex!
Posted: 9/8/2011 5:13:10 AM
How does one get to cougar town?
Its the stop after Funky Town
OP - usually when a guy sends you a message that starts out with "hey sexy" it's because he wants to perv on you.
Posted: 9/8/2011 6:35:36 AM
|Unfortunately the majority of us do get those "hello sexy" "wanna hook up" messages.|
I get them from 20 year olds, which I find really creepy. I can just imagine the emotional/sexual baggage a child that age is carying if he thinks a woman my age is sexy eeeewwww. The thought makes my skin crawl. Delete & block them!
Posted: 9/8/2011 7:24:04 AM
|In my area most people seem to treat POF as nothing more than a free escort service. Consequently, their attitudes and behavior reflect this belief. In those circumstances I suppose an opening line of, "Hi sexy" might be totally appropriate.|
In my time in the online dating world I have learned to have no expectations of politeness or what I consider good manners from others in cyberland. People seem to truly believe those are 'optional' and opt out most of the time.
Therefore, it's always a very pleasant surprise to receive what I consider a polite friendly message which always makes a very good first impression.
As others have so eloquently stated, at least we know first off they are not worth the time or effort and can move on to those who are.
Posted: 9/8/2011 7:38:31 AM
I have every restriction I can place on here without running off the decent men.
I just took a quick look at your profile:
Older than 39
Must not have messaged users looking for intimate encounters or sex.
You must have a picture to contact this user.
Must not be looking for Hang Out
Must not be looking for Other Relationship
Must not be looking for Intimate Encounter
Must not be looking for Activity Partner
Must not do drugs
Must not be married
Must not smoke
I suspect you could very easily be running off some of the decent men, with that laundry list of "Must not's". Your choice, of course, but that does seem a bit excessive to me.
Posted: 9/8/2011 7:58:04 AM
|I feel that this guys would even say Hello sexy if we had a picture with a nun outfit.|
Posted: 9/8/2011 8:14:23 AM
|"Hello Sexy" is a bit of an ignorant approach to meeting someone but does show intent.|