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 crazygator69
Joined: 8/10/2011
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You know I'm a man who tries to keep my buisness to myself and I don't make a habbit out of lieing or spreading gossip. These are exact words. I don't know what all has been said about me and I don't care but I feel I deserve this one opertunity to show someones true colors, shed a little light if you may. My last say... before I move on to the next phase of my life. Someone who has done so much behind my back. I loved this women dearly, but I have a temper and I am far from perfect, but when I know I'm being decieved by someone who pretends to care about me and not only threaten the fabric of your families financial future but treats you like shit everyday and still always gets her way. I love her son Gabe as if he was my own and always will. I always spoiled him but he is very special. For the 3 months before the store closed, I started working at Autozone and even worked weekends and I was still trieng to get to the store and be kept up on what was going on but Nina wouldn't even bother keeping me informed on what was going on and she was even taking money from my little owe Autozone paycheck. I was trieing to borrow 80,000 to put into the store and open the kitchen, but Nina burned me out with the way she continuly mishandled our money and her constant lies. Always doing whatever she could to make me look bad in front of all the customers and my own friends and family. Every since I hurt my back, I've been trieng to keep up with no surgery, no pain pills, and no physical therapy and I gained weight, alot of wieght. I was in pain 24 hours a day. That store was my childhood dream. I invested well over 100,000 dollars into it. I worked ate and slept it and loved it dearly. I loved my family even more. I hated always argueing and it never really acomplished anything, but niether did lieing and deiciving everyone. I feel that since my buisness has been put out there, it mine as well be accurate. So I spent the last 8 months reflecting on myself and trieing to think of things to better myself, I've just about lost all of the extra weight, I've stayed out of the bars and hoped and prayed that me and Nina could work things out, she left me hanging with all the bills and about 40,000 in debt. I understand that I was depressed when I first got hurt, I lost career 9yrs, my A/B and my Captains License. I was a bit dissapointed, not to mention the pain was more than severe. I was in pain 24/7 and Nina rather than be there for me and suport me she just diagnose me and wanted me to go to the Dr. She was working at the bar while I took care of my 2 year old step son, who was more than I could handle but I loved him. So rather than come home to be with her family and relieve me of taking care of her son, she stayed at the bar late every night partieing, unless our arguements got so bad to detour her. She even had our only vehickle after recking hers while she was drinking and acting stupid, fish taling on a gravel road prposely. I calle my friend to come pick me up one day after argueing pritty bad with her about not coming home. So we show up and pull in and low and behold she's sitting on the back of a car with her legs rapped around the dudes waste and him kissing on her neck, she had big smile on her face until she seen me and her jaw dropped, anyways somebody got punched and it was a big deal. I took the car and left and then tried to find her later becuase I loved her but she wouldn't answer her phone and never came home that night. My best friend picked her up in New Lano at some dudes house but she said she stayed the night at the bar. She come home mad at me becuase I took the car and left her stranded and didn't do any of those things that I seen. We faught, but again I'm stupid. She quit the bar and we tried to move past that. things steadaly got worse, she continued to denie it ever happened. I talk to the owner and she was sitting were the camera's couldn't reach, how conveniant and they were the only two people outside. She said, later on, that if it did happen it wasn't cheating becuase he didn't have his****in her. Her exact words. She borrowed 14000 dollars from my parents on there credit card they were nice enough to let us use for a safe amount of money. So love really does lead the blind. She manage to manipulate our customers, me, and everyone she comes in contact with. She complained about everything and never appreciated anything and everything. Always judgemental of everything and everyone. Always gossiping. Cell phone riang 24/7, hell no telling how many times she cheated on me, or what horrible she's fabricated against me. This is my first and only response and I kept my pease and waited til it was over becuase I never once gave up on trieng to make my marriage work, when I shouldv'e just walked away in the first place and that's what I'm doing. No don't beleive in being respectful to someone who constantly disrespects me. Who starts shit and acts like poor me to her social gatherings. I know the true Nina now. She's loyal to very few, and she loves no one, but that's just my opinion. Well to those this pertains, take how you will and those just curious do the same. I'm good, she struck her last blow 2 days ago. And our divorce was a week ago, she made not one single atempt to work things out since she walked out the door, and 3 months later she concieved a child. She wanted to take everything I worked hard and broke my back for away from me and crushed my dreams and broke my heart in one fell swoop. She broke every promise she ever made me and lied about me every chance she got and never lost a minutes sleep. Well from now on I will never loose a minutes sleep over her and everything is so much clearer now. The news she gave me, give's me the strength to move on and reminds me I've reflected enough and I've excepted this fate. Anyways, there you have it folks. Say what you will but I'm moving on......................................................................
take time to know her ....
Posted: 9/18/2011 4:13:42 PM
Before I start ...

Could you please rewrite this with the proper sentence structure.
Paragraphs would be very helpful.
 UglyFroggieCritter
Joined: 8/21/2010
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Posted: 9/18/2011 4:48:52 PM
OP, it's nice to see that you've accepted your part in this fiasco and have decided to move on with no bitterness.

/sarcasm

UMIE, trust me, paragraphs and proper spelling and sentence structure would not help this mess one little bit.
 crazygator69
Joined: 8/10/2011
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Posted: 9/18/2011 5:04:28 PM
Sorry unedited version
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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Posted: 9/18/2011 5:21:39 PM
I WILL NOT try to read that mess.

At the end, I see the only important bit in it all, I think, which is that you are done, moving on. So therefore this was all a long-winded rant of some sort, with no need for us to engage our little grey cells at all to respond?

Okay.
 Spider_Woman
Joined: 7/18/2011
Msg: 6
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Posted: 9/18/2011 5:39:56 PM
OK purely to be contrary, I read as much as I could of the OP's post.

Based on what you said about her, I hope you mean it that you're moving on.
And staying firm where you move to.
Rather than feeling an urge to boast about being done, because you fear you might waver if she crooks her cute litte finger at you one more time.
Because.
I've known women such as you describe.
They sometimes come back.
When the next set of friends get disgusted, and they run out of luck, they circle back around to all the old flames.
Practice in your mind, calmly shutting the door in her face without listening to explanations (even if she manufactures some tears too).
Or perhaps you could pay for her to be spayed. She doesn't need to be bringing forth any more pitiful little pups.
 carolann0308
Joined: 12/9/2006
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Posted: 9/18/2011 6:38:34 PM
I tried to weed through this but basically got out of it her kid is only two, which means everything that happened marriage, job, losing 100k, losing your licence, borrowing from parents, and cheating all took place in less than 2 years. Does any blame fall on you?
 MissNoWhere
Joined: 3/29/2008
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Posted: 9/18/2011 6:54:43 PM
My eyes are bleeding...


You know I'm a man who tries to keep my buisness to myself and I don't make a habbit out of lieing or spreading gossip. These are exact words. I don't know what all has been said about me and I don't care but I feel I deserve this one opertunity to show someones true colors, shed a little light if you may.

My last say... before I move on to the next phase of my life. Someone who has done so much behind my back. I loved this women dearly, but I have a temper and I am far from perfect, but when I know I'm being decieved by someone who pretends to care about me and not only threaten the fabric of your families financial future but treats you like shit everyday and still always gets her way. I love her son Gabe as if he was my own and always will. I always spoiled him but he is very special.

For the 3 months before the store closed, I started working at Autozone and even worked weekends and I was still trieng to get to the store and be kept up on what was going on but Nina wouldn't even bother keeping me informed on what was going on and she was even taking money from my little owe Autozone paycheck. I was trieing to borrow 80,000 to put into the store and open the kitchen, but Nina burned me out with the way she continuly mishandled our money and her constant lies. Always doing whatever she could to make me look bad in front of all the customers and my own friends and family.

Every since I hurt my back, I've been trieng to keep up with no surgery, no pain pills, and no physical therapy and I gained weight, alot of wieght. I was in pain 24 hours a day. That store was my childhood dream. I invested well over 100,000 dollars into it. I worked ate and slept it and loved it dearly. I loved my family even more. I hated always argueing and it never really acomplished anything, but niether did lieing and deiciving everyone.

I feel that since my buisness has been put out there, it mine as well be accurate. So I spent the last 8 months reflecting on myself and trieing to think of things to better myself, I've just about lost all of the extra weight, I've stayed out of the bars and hoped and prayed that me and Nina could work things out, she left me hanging with all the bills and about 40,000 in debt.

I understand that I was depressed when I first got hurt, I lost career 9yrs, my A/B and my Captains License. I was a bit dissapointed, not to mention the pain was more than severe. I was in pain 24/7 and Nina rather than be there for me and suport me she just diagnose me and wanted me to go to the Dr. She was working at the bar while I took care of my 2 year old step son, who was more than I could handle but I loved him. So rather than come home to be with her family and relieve me of taking care of her son, she stayed at the bar late every night partieing, unless our arguements got so bad to detour her.

She even had our only vehickle after recking hers while she was drinking and acting stupid, fish taling on a gravel road prposely. I calle my friend to come pick me up one day after argueing pritty bad with her about not coming home. So we show up and pull in and low and behold she's sitting on the back of a car with her legs rapped around the dudes waste and him kissing on her neck, she had big smile on her face until she seen me and her jaw dropped, anyways somebody got punched and it was a big deal.

I took the car and left and then tried to find her later becuase I loved her but she wouldn't answer her phone and never came home that night. My best friend picked her up in New Lano at some dudes house but she said she stayed the night at the bar. She come home mad at me becuase I took the car and left her stranded and didn't do any of those things that I seen.

We faught, but again I'm stupid. She quit the bar and we tried to move past that. things steadaly got worse, she continued to denie it ever happened. I talk to the owner and she was sitting were the camera's couldn't reach, how conveniant and they were the only two people outside. She said, later on, that if it did happen it wasn't cheating becuase he didn't have his****in her. Her exact words. She borrowed 14000 dollars from my parents on there credit card they were nice enough to let us use for a safe amount of money.

So love really does lead the blind. She manage to manipulate our customers, me, and everyone she comes in contact with. She complained about everything and never appreciated anything and everything. Always judgemental of everything and everyone. Always gossiping. Cell phone riang 24/7, hell no telling how many times she cheated on me, or what horrible she's fabricated against me.

This is my first and only response and I kept my pease and waited til it was over becuase I never once gave up on trieng to make my marriage work, when I shouldv'e just walked away in the first place and that's what I'm doing. No don't beleive in being respectful to someone who constantly disrespects me. Who starts shit and acts like poor me to her social gatherings. I know the true Nina now. She's loyal to very few, and she loves no one, but that's just my opinion. Well to those this pertains, take how you will and those just curious do the same.

I'm good, she struck her last blow 2 days ago. And our divorce was a week ago, she made not one single atempt to work things out since she walked out the door, and 3 months later she concieved a child. She wanted to take everything I worked hard and broke my back for away from me and crushed my dreams and broke my heart in one fell swoop. She broke every promise she ever made me and lied about me every chance she got and never lost a minutes sleep. Well from now on I will never loose a minutes sleep over her and everything is so much clearer now. The news she gave me, give's me the strength to move on and reminds me I've reflected enough and I've excepted this fate. Anyways, there you have it folks. Say what you will but I'm moving on......................................................................
 SunDevil_in_SC
Joined: 8/13/2011
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Posted: 9/18/2011 7:14:27 PM
Ok dude, just because you were getting picked on here ... I read the entire thing. (even without the formatting ... didn't notice the last post until I was posting this one ...)

With all due respect, it sound like you and your parents like to practice piss poor judgment. Yeah, we can get on Nina's case ... but you picked her. And for heaven's sake, I have no idea why your parents shared their credit card information with her and not only just to you.

Does she sound like a woman that just walked away from the relationship. Yep, but she had good reason ... she just wasn't into you any longer. What is she supposed to do ... feign her love for you for the rest of her life? Wouldn't that just be some form of mental servitude.

I'm glad you're ready to move on ... so just do it. You, and more importantly, your kind deserve it. (Oh, and I'm really not buying the whole, "She abandoned the kid," story ... something tells me that she was trying to help the family put food on the table after all of this business went bust, and she can't be two places at once ...)

Ok, she cheated on you ... and it sounds like you beat the crap out of the guy that she was cheating with. In theory it sounds just ... however, not that many women want to be with a guy with a hairline trigger - it just comes across as unstable.

And I caught the part of the business failing. Guess what? Most do. Blame her all you want, but it is just a fact that most small businesses that start are not successful.

(And just consider the bright side - at least with the divorce you're out of that drama any more. It sounds like she ruined you with your friends - now you can make new ones without her berating you. Find a woman that is going to treat you with the respect that you're willing to treat her)

Anyways, I think I covered it. At the end of the day, I wish for you the best in the future.
 jan1025
Joined: 3/23/2009
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Posted: 9/19/2011 7:13:22 AM
There are women like that and I have only known one myself. I’ve watched this woman go through men like kids go through candy.

I’ve seen her cry with tears rolling down her face, and turn when he wasn’t looking with a grin on her face.

I’ve seen her say, I love him so much and heard her say “he’s my everything, the love of my life” to whoever was standing next to her.

And she’d get them to marry her, and she would go out at night and do the same thing your wife was doing.

She told me once, no matter how bad the situation looks, lie, lie and lie.

She was also a thief, couldn’t trust her in your house , she would steal candle holders, shoes, things that you would never think of…. And she would lie about it.

So, yes, you meet one of those and you married one of those. Your wife like this other woman mentioned above are gold diggers and use men to take care of them. They will drive you into the ground, kick you in the chest, and not think twice about leaving you for the next sucker!

You see this woman I know, she doesn’t care about marriage, these kind of woman know for them to get what they want they will have to marry to get it. Marriage to her is part of her plan, because most men think that if she marries me, she loves me. Not so, that’s part of the game plan.

I’m sorry OP, you didn’t do anything wrong but love the wrong woman, and you where at the wrong place, at the right time when you meet her.

Don’t believe all woman are like this, because not all woman are, and there was nothing you could of done right other than not fall in love with her and not want to spend the rest of your life with her by marrying her.

This is a sickness, it really is. You have to understand that your wife is mentally ill, she was when you meet her, and she will do to the next guy, the same thing she did to you! Don't blame yourself for not being a professional to see the signs of her sickness.

Above all, forgive yourself and know that good people have bad things happen to them. Life is hard, people aren’t honest and it’s a hard living in this world!

Take Care and I hope someday you stop hurting.
Peace
 ProcolHarem
Joined: 8/29/2008
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Posted: 9/19/2011 7:37:32 AM
Let it go dude...this is the second post regarding this sort of thing.
You're divorced now...LET IT GO.
But in the future, please...I have one word for you..

PARAGRAPHS!!
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