| | How long should I wait?Page 1 of 1 | | So I recently met this chick and she is best friends with my group of friends and we get along real good and she has recently got dumped by her jerk of an x.How long should I wait to make any sort of move?? | |
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TDH49
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| How long should I wait?
Posted: 9/20/2011 5:40:37 AM | It depends! Do you want to be her rebound guy? If not give the girl some time to get over her last relationship. Whatever you do don't start acting like a vulture circling a dead carcass, that would be just tacky and taking advantage of the situation.
Most people need a little time to come to term with a relationship ending. Especially if it was a LTR. They need to work things out, do a little work on themselves, before they are ready to get back in the saddle and start dating again. If all you are looking for is to get laid and you don't really care about her at all then this would be the perfect time to make your move. When she is feeling bad about herself and her confidence is totally shot. But I don't need to tell you what that type of action would make you.
My vote is to give her a month or two to sort it out. Then ask her out, you have a much better chance of getting something lasting that way. | |
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| How long should I wait?
Posted: 9/20/2011 5:48:21 AM | | hell no man I would never do that I only see her like once a week if that...ive got plenty of time, im in no rush she is also coming away camping at new years with my 2 best mates that are a couple is that weird or what I hope not haha | |
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| How long should I wait?
Posted: 9/20/2011 6:17:34 AM | | Offer to spend more time with her but don't have sex with her. You are risking to getting into friend zone but it's a best way to help her through and gauge where she's at emotionally. | |
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| How long should I wait?
Posted: 9/20/2011 6:21:58 AM | Offer to spend more time with her but don't have sex with her. You are risking to getting into friend zone but it's a best way to help her through and gauge where she's at emotionally.
I think I should stay well clear for awhile ay,def dont want to be in friend zone ....so what do I do about this new years camping its just me and her and our two good friends??should I just make a move then and hope its not too late? | |
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| How long should I wait?
Posted: 9/20/2011 6:36:57 AM |
so what do I do about this new years camping its just me and her and our two good friends??
There are more than three full months until New Years... why don't you not worry about that until the time comes.
If she's a friend with your friends consider how this could play out if it goes sour.
Kind of like dating with coworkers... maybe better to venture out a little further for a lady. | |
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| How long should I wait?
Posted: 9/20/2011 6:59:10 AM |
she has recently got dumped by her jerk of an x
oh my...did you read this yourself OP ??
SHE got DUMPED by a jerk.
that' means the only thing she truly has in her mind at best would be a rebound, which is to show HIM, her JERK boyfriend that she didn't need him in the first place.
but it won't last.
SO...you play your cards right and the ONLY thing you are gonna get from her is rebound sex.
don't push her but be in the right place at the right time and she'll give it up to you sooo sweetly.
do NOT mention relationship with her, nada like that.
let her decide when she will have you. | |
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| How long should I wait?
Posted: 9/20/2011 6:59:59 AM | It depends how long they were together and why they broke up. It also depends the type of person she is.
Some people go from one relationship to the next. Some come out of a relationship have fun for a while then settle down. Some come out of a relationship date a rebound then find a more serious relationship.
You don't want to start dating her unless she is over him. For me when a "friend" becomes single and I have or have had interest in them I start to hang out with them ASAP. Now depending on the person it could be more formal dating or it could be more casual it just depends. It also depends why their last relationship ended if she got dumped and isn't over him I'll keep it really casual because there is a good chance they could get back together. If they mutually walked away from each other or she dumped him I try to get in some way weather it's dating FWB or something a long those lines. | |
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| How long should I wait?
Posted: 9/20/2011 7:15:02 AM | | He used to cheat on her and hang out with oter chicks so on he told her to move out they where only seeing each other for around a year living together for 3 months,he even left her with an std so i kinda have in my mind that she will have a hard time thinking how will she meet a guy or shall i say break the news that she has got something ,but i would not mind as she is hot and a beautiful person and would love to be with her arhh i dont no! | |
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| How long should I wait?
Posted: 9/20/2011 7:32:57 AM | Im just going to chill if it happens it will happen if not ill be right plenty more fish in the sea thanks for your words of wisdoms fellow fish fingers | |
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| How long should I wait?
Posted: 9/20/2011 8:04:42 AM |
he even left her with an std
then WTF are you thinking ???
she continued to stay with him as he cheated on her ?
seriously - this girl might give you a pity pump, but seriously...
she will not be interested in you.
you're too nice.
you don't create enough drama that she needs to feel and think is love. | |
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| How long should I wait?
Posted: 9/20/2011 8:24:44 AM | Personally, I wouldn't make moves on women you have to see all the time in your close circle of friends. I'm not saying it won't work out, but if it doesn't are you going to be OK with it?
Having said that, why don't you try little stuff first and see if there is any indication she might like to see you. Has she ever given you any sign to show she might be interested?
As far as time, I'd wait till she stops talking so much about the other guy. | |
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| How long should I wait?
Posted: 9/20/2011 4:15:28 PM |
you don't create enough drama that she needs to feel and think is love.
Yes, this is again, "The White knight Syndrome"[ aka damsel in distress"], lol but hey, if your own ego needs a little pumping up,go for it.
imo, you can show you care,but first tell her sort out her own personal emotional thingy till
she has shed,heal,moved on her past stuff first.
op u will only be a band-aid till then. jmo | |
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| How long should I wait?
Posted: 9/20/2011 4:21:34 PM | BoonDockSaint73
Bro you are one wise mofo thas all i gota say cheers | |
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| How long should I wait?
Posted: 9/21/2011 11:44:49 PM | | You might want to be a friend. It sounds like she could use a friend right now. Don't sleep with her, just hang out and be a friend if you're both into it. | |
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| How long should I wait?
Posted: 9/22/2011 3:08:52 AM | The longer you wait, the more things will get in the way. She may meet someone etc.
Really your chances aren't good here because of the situation, but it's time to make your move. Ask her on a date.
Now, take it sloooooooooooooooow. Continue to see her once a week until you feel she has healed. It's your only chance. And it's a slim one. But you seem to want to give this a shot so DO IT or you'll regret not trying. | |
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| How long should I wait?
Posted: 9/22/2011 6:46:52 AM |
How long should I wait to make any sort of move??
Until yesterday. | |
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| How long should I wait?
Posted: 9/22/2011 7:03:21 AM | There are no guarantees.
So really, it doesn't matter.
She could find a rebound guy, and that could last on and off for years.
She might not find a rebound guy and be fine in a week, I mean if the guy was "really" a jerk.
Could be she has a complete habit of dating jerks...because she has no desire to "really" be in a relationship so chooses guys knowing it will fail, and she can point to them as the culprits so any relationship with her is doomed to fail.
So
How long should I wait?
IMO you shouldn't.
It's just procrastinating and playing games.
The sooner done, the sooner you can move on. | |
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