| | 2011 question about whether guys benefit from serious membership in terms of increased visibilityPage 1 of 1 | I have been searching the forums regarding that big question that a lot of guys are curious about. Is serious membership worth while? Those threads were started in 2009 & early 2010 when things were a bit different.
I want to ask the question from a slightly different angle now. See before serious membership was introduced, I used to notice that my profile was viewed by a small handful of users everytime I logged in. There was a line across the top titled, "these members in your area have recently checked their mail". By logging into your inbox, you put yourself in that line and were visible to the users around you. As a result your profile was seen more, and you got written to occassionally.
Gradually over the last couple of years, I think free members stopped appearing in the top line of users that just checked their mail. Now in 2011, it doesn't matter what you do. Log in, change picture, update profile, move to a different area and change location. Days can go by where you don't get a single new profile view. Basically your profile doesn't appear in places where its likely to get seen and catch the eye of potential matches. At least nothing like it used to a couple of years ago. Whether that's down to the increase in membership, or its a feature that we lost as a free member so that only paid members could benefit from it, I don't know.
Leaving aside the gold star and the yellow background, but talking about your profile appearing in the top lines of searches and users that just logged in recently. Has any guy gone from being a free member to a serious member in 2011, and since the upgrade has there been a noticeable increase in profile views and as a result, new messages being sent to you? | |
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| 2011 question about whether guys benefit from serious membership in terms of increased visibility
Posted: 10/6/2011 11:27:29 PM | | You're kidding me. Most people, much like myself, don't go out in the world actively seeking relationships; to me that implies settling. Most people go out to date, get to know people, with the HOPE of it leading to something serious; the best relationships happen when you're relaxed and there's no pressure. the 'intent' selection has been skewed since day one, and no where near covers all the potential choices people have. If you're going to block people as a result of their choices, I'd suggest you make that clear at the time of choosing. | |
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| 2011 question about whether guys benefit from serious membership in terms of increased visibility
Posted: 10/7/2011 3:18:27 AM | Markus, I changed that yesterday from "Cloud9Cruiser is looking for a relationship". I wasn't having much luck with being noticed the whole time it was set to that either.
I'll change it back as the outlook of my intent is in my profile description anyway, but
as the gentleman says, the intent options are counter productive if they are being used as a filter like that. I am a single guy, and I am open to a less serious relationship but not closed to that becoming serious. One does have to start out as a casual dater in the hope that you meet someone that gets serious.
So if I choose "wants to date but nothing serious", my profile is filtered from those that are wanting to get into a serious relationship without casually dating first. But if you choose want a relationship, then that could stop someone who just wants to causally date from writing to you, because already they think you are after different things. A casual date with that person might not be something that I necessarily want to miss out on while I haven't yet found that person I want to settle down with.
Might I suggest you add another intent to this list, which says "I'm looking to date casually but open to it becoming a serious relationship" and make sure that selecting this as your intent doesn't filter you out from any searches. | |
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| 2011 question about whether guys benefit from serious membership in terms of increased visibility
Posted: 10/7/2011 9:16:41 AM | Markus wrote:
"Cloud9Cruiser wants to date but nothing serious."
That blocks you from 70% of the users because we don't show extremely casual users to people who want to date or find more.
While I appreciate that valuable info, I admit I just don't get why people who want to date would be blocked from people who want to date.
Guess that's why they don't pay me the big bucks, grin. | |
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| 2011 question about whether guys benefit from serious membership in terms of increased visibility
Posted: 11/18/2011 6:56:39 AM | @naked_lunch: Agree with your comment about assumptions. Yet what can we expect from a man who himself has a profile stating that he's looking for LTR yet under Intent, he's answered: "Bigfish isn't seeking a relationship or any kind of commitment." Go figure!
@discordant: Well said!
As for the whole "match" thingy, I don't need a computer to tell me whom I find attractive; if they're male and breathing, I can filter them out for myself, thank you. | |
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| 2011 question about whether guys benefit from serious membership in terms of increased visibility
Posted: 11/26/2012 10:49:12 PM | Thank you for promoting MORE the men who are OPEN to something more than a fling or casual dating to others who are OPEN to the same!! By saying they do not want anything serious, they are saying NO to something more. They are not open.
Thanks again for optimizing my time since I love dating with the POSSIBILITY of more if there is mutual agreement. The players who are playing for bigger stakes get relatively more play time. | |
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