| | He wants a break?Page 1 of 1 | Hi All,
I really would appreciate any male or female help. My boyfriend of 1 year has recently asked to take a break over the phone, cowardly i know but he says if we meet up ull know what will happen.... anyway he is 30 im 23 i asked him at the beginning if age was an issue and he said no. we have spent every week together im finding it hard. I have text him since last week and he is replying but to the minimum says he would lik another while to think about things and if this is what he really wants?? unfair right or wrong? Anyway now im weighing this up i feel very strongly for him but im wondering will i show him the door if this is how hes treating me and if he needs a break?im mad for him but i dunno now how hes thinking??!! we both came from long relationships... now i have been thinking about my ex and he has been there for me since this break up which isnt helping a whole lot. Ive been chatting to guys on this but i dont feel happening meeting up because im still hung up on this guy and now im wondering if i still have a slight feeling for my ex should i try to get him back?
Please advice would greatly be appreciated and has anyone gone through this? its playing on my mind every day since...
thanks :)
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Posted: 10/12/2011 11:00:58 PM | I think you should give your boyfriend time, give him time without any contact and let him contact you when he is ready and then you will find out one way or the other how he really feels. He just needs time to think.
You will probably always hold some feelings for your ex since ye were in a long term relationship, but don't let the confusion with your current boyfriend drive you back to your old one. Its ok to be single for a little while, gives you time to think too
And if your so mad for your current boyfriend why are you considering trying to get your ex back? Looks like you need as much time as your boyfriend to think. | |
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Posted: 10/13/2011 12:26:19 PM | | Thanks so much for your reply makes so much sense i completely agree, maybe i do need to let him think. I will not contact him now until he contacts me i will give him a week or two and hope he decides to go into this full time because i am mad about him.Its so hard being away from him but I will just have to keep myself busy i guess :) Myself and my ex have always been friends but thats it really no point in going back as you say. I think im just feeling insecure because he hasnt made up his mind yet, i just hope all this time and thinking he realises what hes missing out on :) | |
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| He wants a break?
Posted: 10/13/2011 2:43:21 PM | | hey at 23 the world is yours get out with your mates have fun. Make a life for yourself that you want then worry about relationships . He wants a break move on keep the ex as an ex maybe a friend but 2 out of how many million guys narrow options at 23! If you cant enjoy life without a guy waiting you have some insecurities poor self image to examine. too young for such emotional drama. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2011 1:40:43 PM | You might try 'getting a life' of your own, take time to do things you have always wanted to do, but didn't because you had made plans with him. It sounds like you are afraid to get to know yourself ? Take time to get to know yourself. What guy wants a tic sucking the lifeforce outta him, Okay don't shoot the messenger, just pointing out the extreme version. because Suffocating someone you will loose them for sure. Life is a journey, don't be afraid to travel other paths.  | |
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Posted: 10/17/2011 8:53:06 AM | he prob got another/want meet other woman ,keeping his options open.never go back to ex it doesnt work same probs will resurface.it be hard dont contact him, if he doesnt bother theres narrow escape(just lead to sex ) keep you hanging on. | |
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Posted: 10/20/2011 7:02:46 PM | First of all...forget about the ex for the moment. Fixing this problem, doesn't have to do with reconnecting to your past..in order to avoid feeling pain.
When a man loves awoman..he runs through fire to get her...If your guy needs time.., then he is trying to tell you something that he hasn't got the balls own up to. Have you ever met a guy,..that was interested in a girl;..and needed time?
Come on...gather up your self respect.....and move forward.. Let someone fight for you.
And while your "man" is taking his break" you can learn to appreciate the fantastic
life that is waiting for you. It might not be all fireworks right away...but is this the guy
that you want in your corner...when you are in trouble?? He will come crawling back..trust me.....just dont be the fallback girl. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2011 8:18:45 AM | | Well as one poster said your 23 and the world is yours. When a guy wants a break its because he i worried about getting to serious or the relashinship has become to much for him to handle most of the time once the guy gets his "break" he realises what he had and the life by your self is not what he thought it would be and will come crawling back trust me i know :) | |
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Posted: 10/30/2011 8:53:43 PM | | Ken here. I think that he is thinking that their is a age gap and u or him or both of u have separate friends and that causes some space. Its hard cause I'm one that's seeing an older women and I'm fighting that problem to. She is a ways away and I can't move and she wants to keep a sparring relationship going but I want her to move here. Do I wait or do I tell her now or never. 3 years in wait and I told her from the start I can't move. What do u think. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2011 4:41:57 AM | OP, I'm afraid I'm with the poster who said that if he really loved you, he wouldn't need a break......and also that its possible he has met someone else. It is a cowards way because this way, he is keeping you dangling incase his other relationship/sh*g doesnt work out.
With regard to your ex, my theory has always been that whatever was wrong with it the first time round will be wrong with it now.....he's an ex for a reason...look forward not back. Good luck hunx | |
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Posted: 1/15/2012 6:50:42 PM | | Hi, I was in a relationship for 7 yrs and all of a sudden he didn't know if he loved me. Well that my cue to move out. Trust me on this please, you are better telling this guy to hit the road,cause he will do it again. he told me to move twice cause didn't know what he wanted,so i moved. i figured maybe we could save our relationship. then he cheated on me and lied about everything. I loved him so much i would and did try anything to save it. and when i moved out it hurt like hell,but i am doing better and met a new guy. please think about it really hard. hope you make the right decision and find someone who makes youhappy. take care. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2012 2:47:38 PM | | Definitely agree...play it cool ,don't chase him and if he loves you he will come back. In the meantime don't sit around moping, do he things you enjoy and that make you happy, find a new hobby or go running, it always helps me!! Once he sees that you are off enjoying yourself without him it'll dent his ego and he'll come running. And if he doesn't then you'll know it wasn't meant to be and you can walk away with your dignity intact. | |
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Posted: 2/16/2012 5:14:15 PM | This might sound harsh but i think your best of forgetting about both of them for a while and spend your time and energy thinking about whats best for you.Your at a great age in life so go out and have some fun with your mates and find your inner confidence that allows you to be comforable in your own company,regain your independence so that the next time something like this happens again you will be a stronger person and probably be able to deal with situations a little better.
P.S. Set yourself some goals/targets i find it keeps your mind occupied through troubled times.
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Posted: 3/12/2012 7:47:05 PM | breaking up via text, nothing is more consice "its was gr8 2b with U , but h1e were thru, C U L8tr"
easy solution jump on a plane and come see Australia | |
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Posted: 4/18/2012 3:55:58 PM | | trust me but any man who tells you he wants a break 9 times out of ten its over he just doesnt want to have to make it final but i gareentee you wont get bk together,my advice is any man who will take a risk of loosing you is the :he's just not that into you. as hard as it is to accept you must be strong i would advice you to buy that book he's just not that into you its an eye opening read and has got me through sum crappy break ups..i wish u well and let this guy go and slowly get back out there.if he wants you he will find you but even if he does want to come back be cautious xx | |
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Posted: 5/19/2012 6:00:13 AM | | Well if he wants a break, take him at his word. You knothe old saying 'When the plate is cracked --- it cant' be fixed' If he decides otherswise == review it. But don't wait by the phone for 'THAT' text. It may never come. You might find you feelvery different in a while. Enjoy life -- go out on other dates --- it is not a hangable offence. | |
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Posted: 5/27/2012 2:16:54 AM | What the hell r u doing on a dating site when ur not ready to date, no wonder most guys complain about time wasters and women who give them the round around.
U don't need to leave him cos he has already left u...Trust me. | |
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Posted: 6/21/2012 8:54:47 AM | | He is prob screwing someone on the side, sorry but this is what that means. | |
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Posted: 6/21/2012 8:56:06 AM | | By the way after you get over him, if he comes crawling bk kick him to the curb. | |
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