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came across a blog post recently where the OP says the following,
"Thing is, when a man chases, the girl loses all respect for him. And when a girl doesn’t respect a man, she certainly will never be aroused by him."
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Posted: 10/19/2011 7:53:45 AM | Didn't check the link, going with my reaction to what you said.
What exactly does "chase" mean?
If your talking about first contact, it's wrong. 66% of women won't contact a man first, so if you don't, then nothing's going to happen.
If your talking about after you meet, and she's not interested, and you keep asking, I agree. Once she says "no" give up, move on, don't bother. Who cares what she thinks about you, she's not interested in dating you!
This has little to do with arousal, more to do with they just don't see you as a match, to whatever list or group of things they seek. Yes maybe even that chemical reaction maybe involved, but whatever it is, don't bother, move on. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2011 7:56:59 AM | I don't think that's entirely true ... I kinda like being pursued. As long as it's not on the same level as stalking. I think the point where I'd lose respect for the guy is if he was sitting on my front porch looking like a wounded hound dog ...  | |
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Posted: 10/19/2011 8:20:55 AM |
"Thing is, when a man chases, the girl loses all respect for him. And when a girl doesn’t respect a man, she certainly will never be aroused by him."
I can say in my experience that is not true. IMO if a man chases me I do give him respect for it even if it is not welcomed on my part. It is hard to put yourself out there no matter if you are male or female. I'm of the same opinion as Army Mom though.. if he ends up on my porch looking like a wounded hound dog, then all respect is gone. Either way, there was no arousal on my part. I also have a man that is currently chasing me (we had a long term semi-relationship) that I really have no interest in any longer as I have lost respect for him for this and other reasons but, I would not be caught dead near him as the sexual aspect/attraction of the relationship has been pretty hot through it all.
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Posted: 10/19/2011 9:05:42 AM | I'm with the other women on this.
If I am interested in him...the chase is good!
If I have no interest in him....now, you have become needy and pathetic....no respect.
There is a fine line to walk if you have interest in a woman....she needs to be shown you are interested.
A few months back, I had a first meet with someone...It went well...I would have liked to have met up again.
I sent off an e-mail later that day and expressed that I had a good time and all.
He responded with..."I am leaving the site...here's my number"...that's it.
Well....I said 'K..thanks" and never called.
Must show me more....can not read between the lines....need communication....
Edit...I have to say...He did mention that he was leaving on our date.....don't want to make it sound like.. it was because of me...lol. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2011 9:06:16 AM | Chase and pursue are two different words with two different meanings.
Chase doesn’t sound too good to me, makes me think of a stalker.
Pursue on the other hand I like, because I’m a little old fashion, and it just sounds better! lol..
I still don’t understand why men do this, don’t they “feel” the vibe? It takes two to tangle. If after being straight up with them and telling them the truth they still don’t get it.
When just meeting a man, I like it when he pursues me and after awhile if we connect then great!
If after awhile we don’t connect (on my end, or on his end), and he becomes desperate then starts chasing me, I do lose interest real quick, and it becomes a bother to me. Like a pesky fly.
That’s where I get desperate from. The more they chase with desperation, the more I run.
P.S. In my opinion, this has nothing to do with arousal.
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Posted: 10/19/2011 9:16:32 AM |
"Thing is, when a man chases, the girl loses all respect for him. And when a girl doesn’t respect a man, she certainly will never be aroused by him."
agree...disagree?
Discuss. If a guy is not attractive to you, and he chases you, it's a turn off. If a guy is attractive to you, and he chases you, it's a turn on. Being turned off has nothing to do with his pursuing you, it has to do with whether or not you are attracted to him. When I am attracted to a man, and he 'pursues' and courts me, it is a total turn on. Doesn't make me lose repect for him at all. In fact, I respect the fact he can be honest and up front about how he feels.
Don't listen to advice that essentially tells you to play games with women. Just be honest and straight forward about how you feel. Playing games is for losers. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2011 9:20:32 AM | I like it when someone whom I find attractive finds me attractive enough to want to put some effort into getting to know me. Like everything there's degrees from apathy to obsession. I'm happiest when things are somewhat in the middle of that scale. Both of my longterm relationships pursued me and both didn't end because of any physical disinterest for sure.
That's just me...I think you'll find everyone has their preferences...pretty unwise to make huge sweeping generalizations about one sex or the other. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2011 10:39:56 AM | I read the blog. It's talking about a man chasing a woman who is not interested in him. The blog is about how the Bruno Mars song "Grenade" gives guys the wrong idea--that if a woman says no, they should pursue harder. And the blog says that is bad advice. The blog says when a woman is not interested, chasing after her just causes her to lose respect for you.
In THAT context, I agree with the blogger. If a girl dumps you (or you dump her) close that book and move on. No amount of begging, pleading, stalking, calling, emailing, etc will cause someone to love you, if they have already said they don't.
And a man who does that, after I've said no, gets no respect from me. IMO, he also does not respect himself. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2011 10:45:49 AM | | If the one chasing was a famous movie star or insanely rich guy, or some fireman (I still get a kick out of the obsession over an occupation), then it's perfectly fine for most women. They'd be able to "complain" to all their girlfriends about it. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2011 10:48:27 AM | ^^
If the one chasing was a famous movie star or insanely rich guy, or some fireman (I still get a kick out of the obsession over an occupation), then it's perfectly fine for most women. They'd be able to "complain" to all their girlfriends about it.
yes but then the guy wouldn't be 'chasing' her, there'd be plenty of women chasing HIM, putting on the knee-pads & dropping to a kneeling position..ready to "protect & SERVE" | |
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Posted: 10/19/2011 11:09:16 AM | LOL bigflick, funny how those things work. The big problem is that undue attention to just a few guys allows them to cheat easily and treat the women as mere tissues- but women still keep making it happen.
As much as women claim they look for the character in a man, their actions don't seem to add up. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2011 11:16:40 AM |
A bit of advice: If you chase them and catch up to them, don't football tackle them or do a wrestling slam dunk. That will kill any arousal right away. LOL.
Not necessarily.....have you read the Dirty Little Secrets thread?!
If a man I am not interested in chases me.......how can I lose "arousal" when it wasn't there to start with? | |
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Posted: 10/19/2011 11:56:42 AM | ^
unspoiled is funny. If he was a chic, i'd ask him out and get rejected.
yes he is funny, so are you justin5502..
why don't you pretend you are both chicks & have a lesbian make-out scene? | |
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Posted: 10/19/2011 12:04:50 PM | | To me I feel complimented when a man is interested enough to make his interest known however when I have made it clear that I am complimented but not interested and he still pursues then I just feel annoyed. What I don't get is when it is clearly stated in my profile that I have found my fish and that I am just here for the forums and I still get messages from guys who want to pursue me (and some are pretty persistant!). Why do men do that? I would think that maybe because they are just looking at my pic and not my catchline or profile..but some comment on bits of my profile soooo...that is when I loose respect for the guy. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2011 2:44:42 PM | I think it's different for every girl...
Personally, I like when I guy I am interested in chases after me.
Why?
It shows that he is willing to keep trying.
If he wants to be with me, he'll run after me.
My mother always told me to never run after a man.
You should let them run after you.
So, I really don't think this applies to all woman.
Plus after all the running is done and over with, things tend to go both ways.
One is always chasing after the other. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2011 4:29:06 PM | | It's called body language. If I up and make my intentions known and she's not interested, don't bother chasing her. However if I see she's approachable and her body language is letting me in to initiate with her. I'm a do just that. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2011 4:40:44 PM | I will NEVER make the first move. So I guess you can say, I don't "chase women" I think some women want to be chased, but not stalked. Heck, I won't even ask a woman to dance. I don't do well with rejection. I know one guy who loves to chase, but doesn't want to catch. But would a woman lose her "arousal"? that's just a dumb statement. She isn't going to aroused till she meets the guy anyway, I think.<----scratches head.
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