| | wondering why women don't answerPage 1 of 1 | | I have messaged alot of women, local to me, and they don't reply, ones that are like 2 hours away do. I read their profile and if we have things incommon, I mention it, I keep them short. bring up some common interest and ask if they would like to chat and see if things are there to to continue. Is it me or are they just here to see if someone answers their ad? Any ideas would be of help to me. Thank you | |
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Posted: 10/30/2011 1:06:12 PM | You might want to cut your opening line: "If you are here, you might as well read the entire thing, maybe there is something you would see on into my profile."
It makes you come across as... desperate. Also, instead of having one big paragraph trying breaking it in half. That, along with a better structure in general, would make your profile much more polished and professional looking. | |
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Posted: 10/30/2011 2:46:21 PM | its true what the other poster said about why women dont answer because they simply get too many emails it would just take too long to keep writing back, and then in my experience, sometimes if you do, it kind of encourages guys you say no to, to write back again.....you cant win
i understand why you like the photo of you and the little baby, and its great that you care about your family, but can i suggest you keep that one for your own family album (cos you just look asleep/dead in it, so its not doing you any favours honestly) and replace it with some more nice pics of you doing fun active things that you say you enjoy like being out on yr boat, fishing, bonfires - this way women can see the sort of life you lead and have fun doing and could maybe visualise themselves being part of that
Id drop the line about "Not looking for someone that plays games, been there. " its a general rule of thumb not to put in negativity about past dates/relationships.
Also i'd remove the 3 questions at the bottom "just wondering why people here can't take a second, and answer msg sent? Have any ideas? how do you break the ice with a reply?" i dont think it will have the effect of making more people answer you, it just points out to people that lots of women dont write back to you and makes you look a bit desperate . I would replace those 3 sentences with more about your boat, what do you do, where do you go etc and make sure you have a pic or 2 of you on it, cos i would want to know more about it if i were reading your profile.
hope this helps some x | |
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Posted: 10/30/2011 2:49:43 PM |
Get rid of the mustache. i didnt want to say it but i was thinking it, but then again maybe there are loads of ladies out there who love them... | |
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Posted: 10/30/2011 5:58:08 PM | moustache is masculine
therefore feminine women usually like moustaches
unisex type of women usually do not like them for the same reason | |
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Posted: 10/30/2011 6:26:38 PM | If I were still single and looking, I would not respond to a profile that has "Tell ya later" as a profession. It suggests to me that either the man is unemployed, or has a menial job he's ashamed of.
I would also not want to date a man in his fifties who has kids under 18, however, that's a personal preference of mine that other women don't necessarily share.
Lastly, I think moustaches look fine if worn with a beard or goatee, but a moustache by itself is an outdated look from the '70s that ages a man. I think you would look better if you either shaved it off, or grew a beard to go along with it. | |
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Posted: 10/30/2011 8:12:08 PM | Life is good if you want it to be. I enjoy the basics ~ fishing, hunting, gardening, home canning and freezing. Being with friends, a bon fire, a little Country music and some friends are good on a nice evening to chill and enjoy. On the weekends, it's great to be out on the boat and spending time on the water.
My daughters are a very important part of my life and I like to spend as much time with them as I can. They are (age) and (age).
I want to enjoy life and be with someone that is past the game playing and wants to be with the one they are with. I enjoy holding hands, and being with that special person. Watching movies, swimming, and just being around each other makes life more enjoyable.
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This removes the negativity, and puts similar ideas together so if flows easier. To avoid annoying your reader, select a generic description for your occupation or she'll expect you're on assistance.
What are your introduction messages like??
ps - I couldn't care less about the mustache. It's probably very much in context to who you are. | |
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Posted: 10/31/2011 2:31:14 PM | Women answer notes, sometimes when they shouldn't. Its not completely a mystery why.
These profiles are ads. They're not as much a forum for discussing likes and dislikes as they are a container to post tidbits about a product that folk may buy. On that line it helps to cover all the main parts of advertising; get good photos covering a variety of situations, show the dings, don't focus on one area. Have good color, fix in the editor, use outdoor light.
The about me is a place to explore what's going on- that way someone can see hints of what may or may not work. Its just as important to state things that may be deal breakers as those that are great- a complete picture of a person helps.
Notes, at least from my perspective, are best short and hitting one point. They are only to start contact - real info develops over time and as contact progresses. POF is only for initiating first contact. Its does not produce dates - after people have made contact in POF they can sometimes move on to meeting up, or dating- but that requires further exchanges, phone calls, talking online, some notes or email.
Specifically for your profile you've started off with limiting pics. The American flag shirt is okay- but it is a t-shirt, athletic casual seems to work better. The 2nd photo is just weird - it looks like you're a european leader lying in state. You can easily find photos that show you in more regular well lit situations. Start with the photos. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2011 5:07:36 AM | | thanks to all. the mustach has been part of me for a long time, and I just look out of place without it. I have read all replies and have takken into thought your thoughts. thanks gain for you thoughts | |
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Posted: 11/1/2011 4:04:57 PM | Try:
Life is good! I am looking for a special woman to make it better!
I am looking for someone who loves children. I have two daughters that are very important to me, and I spend as much time as I can with them. I enjoy holding hands, watching movies, swimming and just being with that special person. I would like to find someone who wants a serious long term relationship. I am a one woman man looking for my special one man woman.
I enjoy the simple things in life; fishing, hunting, gardening, canning and freezing. I like to spending time with my friends around bon fires, with a little country music, boating and spending time on the water.
If you like what you see, please feel free to contact me. Looking forward to hearing from you.
About your pictures...leave the mustache...it is a part of you, and a woman should never expect you to change to fit her personal preferences, either accept the person for who they are, or move on if you can't.
The pictures with your children, although cute, and shows devotion, should be removed. It would be a cold day in 'ell before I would put up one picture of my child on a website crawling with who knows what type of person...who's to say there are not pedophiles cruising the ads looking at their pictures? Personally speaking it creeps me out. Visualize in words the love and devotion you have to your children.
Good luck with the
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Posted: 11/1/2011 10:46:00 PM |
I photoshopped your mustache off real quick lol... if you'd like to see it message me.
keep your moustache,
but photoshop out on the pic is best:
1.you prefer to keep your moustache as it is masculine, so you are happier that way,
2.some women that are happier to see a photo without moustache, are also happier.
or just look for a normal woman, that doesnt mind if her man has moustache!
I dont know how it is in America, but normal women in Europe, definitely do not put so much emphasis on this issue | |
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Posted: 11/1/2011 11:10:23 PM | You dont seem to have a car that can be a dealbreaker... You are just like many on here with little response.... It is not that women get unindated necessarily with messages,. they are mostly not serious and very wary of dating site guys as well.
So dont expect much and you wont be disappointed.....I would post a more interesting first meeting though... Women are responding from a distance I suggest because they are not really serious about meeting up. Plenty of players on here of both sexes.
SOme women like facial hair and I am one of them. I like beards in particular. They are masculine....a moustache is not a dealbreaker... | |
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Posted: 11/1/2011 11:46:09 PM | Post better pictures.and wear a decent shirt. You look like you are are a serial killer staring into space. Don't expose your tatto. Don't have pictures of your kids unless you want to arttracr pedophiles. Write something more specific than you don't want game players. What does that mean?
Mention specific good qualities about your self and about the woman you want to attract. | |
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Posted: 11/2/2011 3:22:39 AM | (Halcyon_Skies) "....I would also not want to date a man in his fifties who has kids under 18......"
I'd be interested in some elaboration about this point. For educational purposes only :-) | |
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Posted: 11/2/2011 5:17:10 AM |
bring up some common interest and ask if they would like to chat
This is a closed question only two answers yes or no
Try I see from your profile you are a keen gardener have you any tips on how I can...! | |
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Posted: 11/2/2011 9:27:05 AM | Just a small nitpick, OP.
I would remove the Lake Erie picture, because you aren't in it nor do you explain why it's there.
Best of luck. | |
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Posted: 11/2/2011 10:41:34 PM | | lake pic: I agree with the other guy its not clear why its there so how about just adding view of lake erie from my boat? x | |
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Posted: 11/3/2011 1:03:22 AM | The pic with the little kid might come as way creepy. who is it? You should let people know if they're related to you. With the caption it gives the feeling you take little kids out on your boat...
Also, the Lake Erie pic is eire.
I think you might be giving off a creeper vibe. Sorry, only my opinion, and I'm just trying to help out.
Why the pic of a lake? Why are little kids on your boat?
Those are the firs two things that cross my mind. | |
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