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 susang909
Joined: 10/2/2011
Msg: 1
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I am not trying to insult anybody here. Please dont take this personal. I find my self wondering why do people have to send naked pictures before meeting? I am often asked to send a full body pic of me , that is not a problem but most of the time I let them know that I have one in my profile. lol no some of them want one without clothes...hmmm well thats when I stop comunication.This morning I got some naked pics of a guy that I am verly comunicating with but thaught of him a decent man. To it felt he was marketing himself. To me it was a turn off. I feel that we should be able to offer more than that. Thats my opinion on this. has this happen to you ? How do you deal with it? To tell you the truth I find it insulting.
 TDH49
Joined: 8/13/2010
Msg: 2
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Posted: 11/3/2011 6:48:17 AM

To tell you the truth I find it insulting.
Think of it as a weeding out process. Block them and move on, nothing to be getting stressed out about.
 femaleconnection
Joined: 8/12/2010
Msg: 3
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Posted: 11/3/2011 7:01:38 AM
If I have never asked someone to send me a nude, and it shows up in my inbox....I send a previous sent nude...(The one I saved is a man with a GIGANTIC pecker) and I send that one back...telling him since he likes pictures of**** so much, he can have this one as well...then I delete the person from all my means of contact and dont talk to them again. Once in awhile in my farewell email I will let them know to make sure to check out the gay/fling sites as I may be tempted to open a profile with thier pic.

If they are stupid enough to email those pics, they deserve what they get.
 AintNoDeal
Joined: 2/3/2010
Msg: 4
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Posted: 11/3/2011 7:25:05 AM

I am not trying to insult anybody here. ... This morning I got some naked pics of a guy ... To me it was a turn off. I feel that we should be able to offer more than that. Thats my opinion on this. ... To tell you the truth I find it insulting.


So....er....you just insult the guy right out. I see. Listen, stop the pretense. If you're insulted, go ahead and tell the guy off. You won't be meeting him any way. But sure to BLOCK/DELETE all his contact info. No need to get into a war of insults. You exchanged bad feelings once, that's enough.

How do I deal with it? BLOCK/DELETE. I'm not interested in starting wars, so when I get nasty email -->> BLOCK/DELETE.

This is precisely how you don't take it personally. Disengage and be done.
 Lint Spotter
Joined: 8/27/2009
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Posted: 11/3/2011 7:31:29 AM
Oh, this is awesome... use it as a weeding out tool OP... and be happy that they sent this to you... imagine if you started dating the guy and then a few months down the road you found out that half the women in your town have oogled his wares?

That would be more than a little disconcerting to me...
 BountyHunterMike
Joined: 10/5/2011
Msg: 6
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Posted: 11/3/2011 7:34:57 AM
I agree ....weeding them out....Just Block them and move on
 HappyDip
Joined: 9/13/2011
Msg: 7
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Posted: 11/3/2011 7:46:09 AM

why do people have to send naked pictures before meeting?

They don't have to, they want to.
Until you meet, you aren't "really" another human being. Just potential to be one. So none of the rules of human interaction apply. Until you actually meet, you are just his computer monitor. Like a game. If he types (or sends) something, he gets a certain response.
Do it enough times, and that's all it ultimately is...an extension of them. They type something, they get a response, some validating attention.

No matter what, they win.
If you don't respond, then they managed to manipulate your response. They are in control. They feel better.
If you get into an argument, you give them attention, therefore they are worth something, they have value.You validated them.
If you get all happy and excited and meet them for sex, they get to have sex with another person.

The only real way for you to win is to start playing games back and then rationalizing and telling yourself you are in control of their responses. Escalating retribution. Basically, you become them. Like putting their pics on gay dating sites. Or going along with it and getting more personal information and then signing them up for the army.

Online is a controlled impersonal environment. It is no different than a video game. Until you meet, you are just a character that responds, and no matter how you respond, they or someone is entertained.
 grizzelda
Joined: 6/25/2006
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Posted: 11/3/2011 7:54:00 AM
Dont take it personally, this isnt about you. I think when a lot of women first come to this site and this type of thing happens, they believe that they some how did something that created the behavior, or it is a reflection on them and their character. The reality is that these men have no class, no dignity and treat every woman with that lack of common courtesy.

It isnt about you, it doesnt matter what your profile says, what you say in your emails, it isnt about you in anyway shape or form. This is all about the dirt bag sending the pictures, rude emails or whatever juvenile behavor a lot of women are the lucky recipients of on these types of sites.
 free4all131220
Joined: 10/28/2011
Msg: 9
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Posted: 11/3/2011 7:58:44 AM
to send a stranger an unsolicited nude photo is rude and should be illegal(same as a flasher in a raincoat on the street).

That being said, if a couple people have been chatting and have an on-line "friendship" and they trust each other(in other words you're confident they're not going to post it all over the 'net), I see no problem with a little "show and tell". I know you're going to say they should just meet, but sometimes distance can make that difficult. I've done it with a few ladies who were interested, it went both ways, it was quite pleasant if not exhilarating(sp?) I guess it's the taboo that makes it so, and none of their pic's were ever seen by anyone else but me. It's more interesting than porn, because you actually have some personal knowledge of the person in the picture. But the friendship needs to come first.

I would say that if you are in a marriage or other committed relationship, that it would be wrong, and it would be cheating IMO.
 U make it entertaining
Joined: 7/17/2009
Msg: 10
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Posted: 11/3/2011 8:10:07 AM
If you meet someone on in real life do you hand him a photo of you nude?

I don't think so.

Why on earth would someone send another person they haven't met a naked shot of them?
Unless of course they only want a sexual relationship.

Not for me.
Delete .... AND block!
 wackadoodledoo
Joined: 4/14/2011
Msg: 11
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Posted: 11/3/2011 9:03:03 AM
Why on earth would send a naked photo to someone they have never met.?? Because.this is the internet and they can!!

Don't even bother responing, delete and block!!
 christyis4real
Joined: 7/6/2011
Msg: 12
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Posted: 11/3/2011 9:55:47 AM
Not a fan of receiving naked pictures unless we both agree to it later on in the talking process. I'm not here to meet a penis. Im here to meet a nice guy with a good personality and morals who happens to have a nice penis. lol
 christyis4real
Joined: 7/6/2011
Msg: 13
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Posted: 11/3/2011 9:57:56 AM
I do echo what eceryone else has already "said". Block them, dont answer them, and move on.
 Wh1te_Rabb1t
Joined: 7/3/2010
Msg: 14
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Posted: 11/3/2011 10:27:22 AM
The ONLY way nudes pics should EVER be sent to someone's phone is if you are in an established (sexual) relationship and have no fear flirting in a naked way like that.
Anyone that does that as a 'starting' move has some disturbing personality issues that probably require heavy medication.
 TraveliciousGuy
Joined: 9/17/2011
Msg: 15
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Posted: 11/3/2011 10:34:13 AM
If you want to see the goods, you have to meet me in person.

That's my philosophy.

Besides, I have no naked pics of myself. (really, I don't)

 RadiantSpirit
Joined: 6/18/2011
Msg: 16
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Posted: 11/3/2011 10:39:42 AM
This hasn't happened to me, but I'd just delete and ignore. I understand why you are posting this though because if it happened to me numerous times I'd probably be wondering if this was normal behaviour on the site!
 carolann0308
Joined: 12/9/2006
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Posted: 11/3/2011 10:46:35 AM
I would block them immediately. No one that is interested in really meeting you and starting a dating relationship will request this. It sounds downright sinister and I have to wonder who the hell you are communicating with, because that is just gross.
If you already have one in your profile then I would assume you are being spammed report them to the mods.
 OyVay...
Joined: 7/15/2011
Msg: 18
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Posted: 11/3/2011 10:53:31 AM
Maybe they just want to be sure you recognize them, when you meet?
 Lint Spotter
Joined: 8/27/2009
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Posted: 11/3/2011 11:09:37 AM
I think we should all start scrapbooking these pictures when we get them...
 _allen_
Joined: 6/14/2009
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Posted: 11/3/2011 2:27:36 PM
If anyone ask you to send in more pics before meeting, this would be the time to sort them out of the bunch and block 'em. Sending strangers more pictures than what you posted on your profile just seems creepy.

I get emails asking for full-body pictures all the time. I usually ask "Why, what are you doing to yourself with my pics?" lol

On a serious note, those who usually ask for more pics (i.e. full-body, naked, revealing, etc.) aren't usually serious about dating. If your pictures are clear and are the most recent pics of yourself, then your fans need to accept what you've posted and if interested in seeing more, the two of you should schedule a proper "meet & greet".
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
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Posted: 11/3/2011 2:39:24 PM
Those guys are amateurs.
If they had any real game they could see you naked in real life.

block em and let the guppies swim off to pester someone else.
They will never make it upstream anyways.
 _shakti_
Joined: 7/5/2011
Msg: 22
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Posted: 11/3/2011 3:58:41 PM
They are going to try.. but that doesn't mean you have to comply ;)

Happydip:
Until you meet, you aren't "really" another human being. Just potential to be one. So none of the rules of human interaction apply. Until you actually meet, you are just his computer monitor. Like a game. If he types (or sends) something, he gets a certain response. Do it enough times, and that's all it ultimately is...an extension of them. They type something, they get a response, some validating attention.

No matter what, they win.
If you don't respond, then they managed to manipulate your response. They are in control. They feel better. If you get into an argument, you give them attention, therefore they are worth something, they have value.You validated them.
Wow.. that's all very sad.
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 23
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Posted: 11/3/2011 4:11:54 PM
What a huge faux pas! I mean, most of us know that you take naked pictures along to the first meeting--one does not send them BEFORE meeting. That just lacks class.

OP, this has happened to a lot of women. Don't take it personally! It cracked me up last week when a 20 year old asked me if I had "more" pictures of myself. I asked him why he needed more pictures when there are several on my profile. He backtracked quickly.

Hmm . . . but come to think of it, I haven't gotten any pictures of penises in a quite a while; guys have offered to send them, but I have declined. I must be getting a higher class of exhibitionists.
 gary1010
Joined: 5/17/2007
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Posted: 11/3/2011 5:33:19 PM
LOl, you said it yourself. Its insulting and if it hasnt come up before about "them" sort of pics then maybe its just double insulting. maybe he got the wrong end of the stick somewhere during your chats. If you liked chatting to him and stuff, just tell him he was out of order and you like to chat to him but, sending them pics put you off any relationship you may have had in the future with him :) if its really a big issue then, just tell him you dont want to chat anymore.
 maxp813
Joined: 12/11/2010
Msg: 25
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Posted: 11/3/2011 5:48:08 PM
I've had women send me naked pics before without asking.I wasnt realy insulted but then again I am a guy.I've had alot of women tell me about guys doing this.I was suprised how common it is.The bad thing it proably works thats why they do it.
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